Can discouraging be more affective then giving Guidance? to make things work

Hi..!!!In your situation its alright,but when it comes in giving a advice or guidance on good thing.I prefer giving guidance rather than discouraging the person.Suppose I have a target to achieve then I feel great when some one is trying to help me out i reaching it,But if any one tries to discourage me,then it really frustrates me.It may effect our relations also...It give an impression that the other person cannot understand us etc.,So always guide some one, rather than discouraging him.

I think you should let him know what kind of person he is. I guess that I like to know if you would want to know yourself you should find out that the person needs to know and tell them. I just think it is important that you be honest with someone. You would probably want to know yourself. It is very important to be truthful.

well of course i think it is okay for you to give them guidance... some people don't even get discouraged even if you say some things that might discourage them too...

It definitely can be!!! There are lots of times that guidance is ignored by others. Every situation and person being dealt with are going to be different though. Trial and error are the only ways to find out how people will respond to your actions. Glad that you got her to stay away from him! Props to you for that!

personally i dont think that discouragement is more effective than encouragment i always try to focus on the positive and i think this helps a lot more than focusing on negatives aspects. This is something i do with my children and i find it works a lot better than the other option

It depends on how you discourage. Giving guidance could be in a way discouraging but in the proper way by pointing out the pros and the cons and giving sufficient information to the person by which he may be guided or decide on what to do. But sometimes discouraging noit done properly might have the opposite effect as it may act as a challenge instead of good advice or it may make the person instead try to prove you are wrong. it can even have long lasting negative effect. All i'm saying is its better to give advice so as to discourage. The difference between advising and directly discouraging is that when you advice you are still letting the person make the decision on his own while when you discourage you made the decision yourself and imposing it upon the other person. You decided it is not good AND SO you are telling the other person to accept your judgment and follow what you tell him.

I think it helps to give guidance. I think discouraging can work sometimes if it saves someone from being harmed though.

no it depends on person to person, at times both guidance and discouraging both can prove effectless as the person might do whatever he or she wishes to do and would listen to anybody else.may be the way you use these tools can fall effective. generally i dont prefer taking advice or guidance but a suggesstion.

honestly, it depends on how a person will take it but if you ask me, for certain things that you are not sure of, guidance would be okay but for the things that you KNOW is bad or dangerous, discouraging is advised.

I don't agree to this statement totally. Discouragement may work out at some point of time but may not at others. This all depends upon the context or topic we are referring to and also more importantly it depends upon the way the person perceives your thoughts. Some people are very sentimental, for then discouragement may take a different turn in their decision which may or may not be good, however can be good for others. Precisely i think it depends more or less on the severity of the matter and the perception of the concerned person...

I totally agree. Discouragement sometimes is more effective than giving advice or guidance. I also use this strategy in teaching, especially to those students who don't participate positively in class. I encounter students who seem to come to class just to attend, and doesn't mind about the school work or the things that they as students should do. At first I give guidance to these students, and try to observe their reaction after several session. I give words of encouragement to motivate them to study. But if their attitude towards class doesn't change then I try to use discouragement; and at times it work.