What Will Your Child Be...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
October 1, 2008 7:43am CST
Most times when parents have a baby their deepest hope is that they grow up strong, healthy and happy. They don’t worry about what they will be when they grow up. Some families expect their child to follow in their footsteps as farmers, truckers, bankers, doctors or whatever career the parents have…often times the father. Sometimes the parents may be famous ballet dancers and expect their child to join them. Whether the child does or not, most parents are happy as long as their child is.
Although I don’t have children, I’ve sometimes wondered what I would have liked my child to do when they grew up if I had a choice in it. I think it's important that it be something that they were happy doing…there’s no point pushing someone to do something they don’t want to do. I don’t think I’d care if my child were a famous doctor or an accountant as long as they are happy. Maybe a carpenter would be good since I’m always trying to build things LOL A chef would be great too but I’d be fighting the calories all the time.
If you could pick your child’s career, what would it be? What do you think is important factors in picking a career? Is there any career you wouldn’t want your child to do, other than illegal ones of course?
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
25 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
1 Oct 08
an astronaut when he was a baby, but when he started to grow and hated school I was just happy if he would finish school, it was such a fight just to get him to go.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Oct 08
alway happiness first and I knew my son would be a machanic.
For he worked on cars from age 9 very thing about cars just seemed to come natural to him.
Now he works on 18 wheelers.
My daughter didnt know what she wanted still dont she has had schooling for a welder which she worked at till the company no longer did that work.
then she went to bar tending schol worked a little while at that.
But never got into a big casino like they said she would lol.
Then she went into massage therapy grauated clost to top of classes but they waiting 6 month to test her for the nationals as she didnt keep studing she had forgot alot so didnt pass.
any way she got the notion that giving her dad feet massages made cancer progress but it didnt so she hasnt done anything with that.
Now she does data entry but cant seem to find a job has her name in all kind of places for it but no takers.
She had also worked in the casinos with the money part.
BUt as so many people here are now out of work adn over 500 got let go frfom Bill HEards car lots here we have about 7500 people out of work in the city.
So dont know when she wil get back to work! one can only hope they call her soon she has had name in places for a year and a half.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
1 Oct 08
It's great that your son found his calling so early in life. I wouldn't worry too much about your daughter perhaps this is her way of finding her spot in life. With so many jobs and careers sometimes it's hard to find the right one.
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I have 5 children all grown up now.I always wanted my children to be happy but i also wished for them to be happy in a good paying job so that they could live a happy life & have money..I think they have done well for themselves ,however none of them were doctors or lawyers but they are ok..I have one son who owns a large Plumbing Co and he & his wife have plenty..I have one son that started out young & he and his wife are now very wealthy ...I have a daughter which her and her husband both work ,but they also own their own business & several rental properties and they have money as well...My youngest daughter makes ok money & her and her husband work hard but they struggle at times but they do have a nice home & they do ok,wish they did better,but maybe one day...My middle son has spent most of his life in jail so thats not too good & even though he is capable he has not used his talents and has messed up a lot..Totally though i love everyone of my children & want the best for them of course,and my wish is just for them to be happy in their life.As long as they are happy i feel i have done my job as a Mom...
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
1 Oct 08
It sounds like your kids have done well in their lives...and the middle son may still straighten out. Sometimes they have to get a little bit lost to find the right path and appreciate it. If it were me, I'd do what you can to encourage him to still use those talents...I don't know what they are but perhaps he can work on them and still develop them.
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
1 Oct 08
[i]Hi twoey,
I have no kids but for me I will give them the freedom to do and pursue any career that they love...I agree with you, it's hard to force them to like and follow us if their heart is not into it!
ANyway, I will love my kids to be in a medical field..It's a promising profession and very helpful too!
Great factors for me to consider a particular career is income as well as way of extending our hands to be an instrument to help other people![/i]
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
1 Oct 08
There are dozens of ways to help other ppl, everything from the medical field to firefighters, policemen, military, teachers, you name it. I hope your kids find a good career and are happy and content with what they choose.
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@JanetBRudman (158)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I don't have children since I married late in life. But I will tell you about my parents. Their desires for me that I turned down: go to summer camp, learn Hebrew, go to college (to be a teacher or librarian). Their desires for me that I accepted: dancing (ballet) school and modeling school. My desires that they refused to let me do and I obeyed: join the military. My desires that they relented and let me do: attend secretarial school and get a City gov't. clerical career, work for the City's District Attorney's Office and Office of Mental Health (they didn't mind the Water Dept. or the Dept. of Human Services), take up writing and actually publish 1 book. If I had children, it would be their choice!
@JanetBRudman (158)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I forgot to mention that mom was a seamstress and dad was a cook.
@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Well, ultimately I would like for my daughters to become doctors. I know I cant force them to do this, but I do encourage it. I encourage profossionallism in several different careers though. We talk about them, watch shows about them, read books, etc. I try to explain in a six year old way about the money, the benefits, and the importance of the career itself. I hope I am doing the right things, I get alot of flack from it from my "friends" that my child may decide to be a circus clown or something and theres nothing I can do about it. While this is somewhat true, I think that the knowledge and encouragement could ultimately benefit them them in the end.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Be careful you don't go over the line into pushing. Parents always have the best intentions, but children often feel pushed, and eventually rebel. Especially if the child feels that can't stand up to your expectations. I have this problem with my oldest right now who is 11. He gets awful grades and I constantly harp on him that his future will not be so bright if he doesn't get his grades up. An 11 year old cares very little about their future, so he doesn't understand although I prove to him over and over how important it is.
I'm now realizing all my "encouragement" isn't motivating him, it's only showing him he can't live up to my expectations, and sometimes he stops even bothering to try.
We have to accept our children for who they are and let them decide what they want to do, and support them regardless of their choices.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I think the encouragement is great and they do need to be aware of all the choices they have. Don't forget though to let them be children and explore...alot of times that's when they find the path they might follow. As they get older they'll probably look to you for direction and advice when it comes to choosing since they know you've been helping them along for a long time.
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
5 Oct 08
I would never want to choose my kid's careers. I want them to choose for themselves what they want to do. My oldest daughter wants to be an author and I stand behind her and support her. My other children have not made up their minds yet, but they still have time to think about it. I will support them no matter what they decide.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I just hope my daughter will find her way in life and find something she loves to do. She is so undecieded right now. she has mentioned going into cosmetology, but she really hasn't talked a whole lot about it. I just hope she does not choose something that would put her life in danger.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
1 Oct 08
To me is whatever makes them happy ,on the other hand my older child is an artist and it would be nice if he could exibit his Art in an museum. Also, my younger child is an excellent baseball player ,and it would be nice if he could at least play for college.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
1 Oct 08
My younger brother was an excellent artist and actually won an award from a big New York artist when he was in school. Sadly, his first wife thought it was childish and wasteful and pushed him to quit. Now he rarely does it. I try to encourage him whenever I can but he has kind of lost the drive to do it.
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Happy! Definitely.
That's my first criteria for anything she does.
If she's happy, then I'm happy.
I think she would do well as a rocket scientist
working with NASA or JPL.
She's really smart.
But she might prefer to be a surrealist artist.
And that's fine with me.
She loves making her own fashion.
She doesn't sew, but she likes pretending by
putting things together.
So maybe a fashion designer.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
21 Dec 08
I ended up having a career thats not really on my interest because my parents could not afford to support me what i really want.As a mother, i always want the best for my daughter.I wish her happiness and success.I never control her from doing anything as long as it doesn't harm her.The only thing that i ask from her is that i hope to see having a career of her own one day.It doesn't matter what it is as long as she is happy.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
2 Oct 08
I think if I had to choose my childre's careers in life, I would want my daughter to be a doctor. She has always told me that she wants to be a doctor, and even though she is only 6, I can see her doing that. My 7 year old son, I am not sure. I thonk I would want him to be an inventor. I think it would be fitting for him because he is always trying to make new things. My 11 year old, I would have to say either a lawyer or a teacher. He is always helping the younger kids with homework and finds great joy in teaching them how to do things, but he is also very good at trying to defend himself and others around him.
All in all, I would not want to have to choose my children's careers. i feel that in the end, they will all choose the path in life that is best for them individually.
@nannacroc (4049)
•
1 Oct 08
My girls are all grown up now and as long as they are happy I don't worry what job or career they follow.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
1 Oct 08
well kids say they will be a lot of things growing up however they change back and farther what they want to be.however there are some kids know what they want to be.some are encouraged by there parents what they want to be and they whine up unhappy because it,s not what they want to be.it has to be something they,re happy doing.there are many choices out there.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I always thought that my oldest son would go into computer work and once he graduated from school, he got a great job as a welder ~ and he loves it. My other boys are still in high school. I really have no preference what they do, but I would love for them both to go to college. They seem to think since their brother didn't go to college and has a great job with good pay and benefits, that they won't need college. I'd like to see them get a job where they can make alot more money than my husband and I make, so they can live comfortably without having to struggle at times. My next to oldest said he wants to own a hotel. I told him that is a great idea as long as it is on the beach and has a room reserved for his mom:) My younger son says he wants to open a restaruant~ he works in one now and loves it. My daughter is only 8, but she wants to be an artist. I wouldn't be surprised if she is...she is very talented.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Oct 08
hi twoey If I could have picked mysons career it would have beencomputer programming as that was all he ever wanted to bee
and that is what he has become. the important factors in
picking a career are does the person like this,is it what he really loves to do, and would it pay a decentliving for my child?I would not like to have seen my child be a bar tender or cook or waitperson as he is too bright for that, he must follow his talents with computers.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
1 Oct 08
i think children have to find their own way. i didn't believe in pushing my boys for a career. they both have good jobs, good marriages,sweet children so don't think i could ask anymore for them
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
1 Oct 08
Hi twoey68,
I haven't any children as well but if I had a child I would never push him/her into anything that I wanted to be or my husband's proffesions, it will have to be want what the child wants and what talent he or she has.
Tamara
