Does God answer prayers depending on the emotions presented

I always thought the ones who made a big show were the ones who got their prayers answered. Now I have a husband who is an unbeliever, and no matter how much I pray, my husband has not wanted to go to church. On top of that, my husband had a stroke but he still does not want to go to church. Now I just learned that I more likely have br*st cancer on top of being borderline diabetic, the latter I suspected I was for some time. So is God doing this to get my husband to repent? My life is difficult already. So what is next me getting a heart attack and what if that does not work? I had a difficult life, was always struggling with money, went through not being able to get pregnant and carry a baby to term since I got married, I mean unless they make it illegal to go to church and arrest all the Christians and execute them what else can happen?

I totally agree. In addition, God already knows the choices you will make in your life. Sometimes he doesn't answer your prayer because he knows that you cannot handle it or it's not what you need at that time. Everything God does is right on time and works for the good. So relax and continue to pray and know that God will ALWAYS show up when he needs to. He LOVES you and wants the best for you. Our judgement sometimes isn't always the best. Remember - we only know the past and present. But God knows the past, present and future. Trust him.

I am trying to get through this. I am still praying for my husband. Right now things are on hold as I am waiting to go to the hospital for the biopsy and I am doing what I can to reduce the tumor, if that is that, by natural means, eating the proper food, and having more faith in God that HE will heal me without the surgeon's knife. I am trying to be less complacent as that was my trouble and also to worry less. It seemed I never could reach a happy medium.

I believe in God and that HE can heal us and answer our prayers if we do believe. So that is what I am doing praying and believing.

I am not emotional but I do hold grudges and I have a good memory and could put things and incidents together. I can remember those who helped me in the past, but I also can remember those who hurt me and started the ball rolling towards the decisions that they made that caused me to feel I had to make the wrong decisions. That is why I am very careful to not to do anything that would cause another person to sin as it were. So I always pray to God for wisdom, but sometimes it does not seem to come like last Sunday, it was just a little cool, so I decided to put on my nylons, but most of the ladies around were still in their bare legs and sandals and the trouble was that my nylons were black and the other ladies except two were either bare legged or the nylons were natural and looked barelegged. So I guess I have to pray extra hard to not make booboos.

I do not believe in god and feel that prayer does nothing but help you manage the task ahead, much like meditation i think its just a focal point.. But so what, we all need one right? I just try to believe in myself.

It all depends on what you consider want or need. Surely healing is considered a need if that also means that you will be able to help someone else. If I were to die or get worse, what will happen to my husband? And of course, I do not want to have the tumor grow, but rather to shrink because the consequent cost in clothes and supported garments would mean that things that we need to do around the house could not be done. I do not pray for things that I can do myself, except for making the right decisions, and to manage my budget and not waste my money as if I wasted my money, I would not get what I wanted but there are somethings like health and unforseen circumstances I cannot do myself. I need God's intervention.

I just want to share my personal experience in prayer. Faith is important thing that I asked in prayer and give thanks for it for it is God's gift. I do not focus my mind to myself and my own want, but rather what I see in other's needs. I always ask for forgiveness and ask for strength in doing good to others.

I do that. I ask God to answer my prayer and I am willing to wait, but sometimes I wonder if I wait until it is impossible with man whether HE will take a failure of mine a reason for not answering it with a yes. It is frustrating though since I do not know how long to wait.

That sounds good. I have to get more trust in God and not rely on my emotions.

It all depends on what you classify as a want. I mean if a majority of women get pregnant at the right time, I am not asking for something like a toy doll or a cadillac or a large six story house or a cruise to the Bahamas, or my husband to die so I can marry Prince Charming. And if one classifies getting pregnant after married, which I prayed for years, as a want instead of a need, then the only need we can pray for is to have just enough food to feed us for the day with no hope for any tomorrow and for just enough clothes for that day and also shelter for that day and that is what the poor people in AFrica and Asia have to live for. They have nothing and they have to work the next day just to live. I mean is not God better than that? Also is not with God all things are possible? Should we limit God by our own opinions?

It is just that some women and men do not have to pray for things that they need and sometimes what one does not get, gives one the wrong impression of them. For instance I started a discussion on the difference between being childless and being childfree. The suffix on the ends of the word child gives a different meaning and since there has been so much emphasis on the latter, it is assumed that if you cannot have children you do not want them. Now I am an adopted mother and I found there was another assumption that women who adopt do not know as much as about when a baby cries out of hunger or how to hold an infant in the correct way. Also before we adopted, there was the assumption that we who do not have children are only interested in the material things. And I was a bad girl when in my late teens, had a boyfriend, got pregnant out of wedlock, gave the baby up for adoption and there is an assumption that we have to prove that we are good enough for marriage. So a women who kept herself pure can be a sloppy housekeeper, can marry right after high school and does not have to proof that she has a talent but with us, we have to be neat housekeepers, wonderful cooks, or whatever (like I have a gift of bonding to children and knowing when a baby's cry means hunger or tired even though my friend who has had children and is now a grandmother does not). And I do not ask for material things. Look I want a piano, it would be good for my singing, I want a larger house, I want a better computer that will not run slow in the evening, but I do not pray for them. What i prayed for was for me to get pregnant after marriage and have the baby born healthy and raise him or her in the LORD. I did not want to prove that I was worthy of such a gift. And there are women who are sloppy housekeepers, lazy, give their husbands burnt offerings every day and they still get pregnant.

Thats why I dont pray for me!

I pray for babies not to be afraid of me. I have no conception if they make strange with women who have children or if they just make strange with women who cannot have children, so I do not want to take any chances. I also started to pray for my not being blamed anymore for not bearing children after marriage. I am beginning to suspect that the husband does have something to do with it. If the husband is bossy and treats the wife as a child sometime, that God will not grant them children because HE wants the children to respect their mother. I practically told my husband that he had better not get mad at me. I have not asked my friends, but some day I will to see if the few that finally got pregnant found it was when their husband started to treat them as an adult and not bug them all the time.

That does sound confusing. I have to believe that God will answer my prayer in a positive way. HE knows that I love children but HE also knows that I may not handle having to care for a severely handicapped child (afraid of the child dying while in my care and if he does, I will get so depressed and be catonic) I do know HE is unwilling to test us more than we can take. And I know that HE will never turn me into a child hater. So if God does not answer your prayers the way I want, well the thought of that would be horrible if the answer turns one the wrong way.

As I tried to convey in my response my God does not need a show of emotion to show my sincerity He can see what is in my heart.

That is a good idea. God does know that I am not that much into emotions. Oh I do flare up but that does not last long. And even though I am intense, i do not show it.

But they are men and men are not expected to cry. I am a woman and I am not into crying that much and when I finish praying, I feel calm. Does that calmness after wards show a "I really don't care if this prayer is answered or not," and God takes it as indifference?

I always thought that the more emotion and crying you made in your prayer, the more God would hear it. It is so confusing.

I am sincere. I just want God to know it.

That makes me feel better. I have heard of people really getting into crying and screaming and they felt that God answered their prayers, while me I do not go into that much crying. But at least, God hears me. I hope I just do not start to act as if it is just making a statement instead of really praying. That is the danger of not being emotional. You have to get over the temptation of praying by rote.

Other people may question your heart because they are human, and you are human. But God is the King of all. He does not have to question anything because He knows everything. He knows your heart.

Well unless the doctor told me "I am sorry A- but you will not survive a pregnancy, you will die in the first or second month because your womb is too small" or something like that. I could not believe it was a physical thing that kept me from getting pregnant after marriage. And there is help. Now if the doctor had said first "you have too many cysts in your ovaries that are smothering the eggs," so that even though my fallopian tubes were gone, they could not even transport them into my uterus = but no doctor told me that, so I wonder if it was because I was a bad girl, if it was because my husband assumed that I did not have the intelligence of a flee and was bossy, if it was because I did not clean the dish properly. Sort of hate having to prove I was worthy ofgetting pregnant and of course, it is like being on a diet, sometimes I cheat and it goes back to the same thing again. How can no getting pregnant benefit me when we are not wealthy, would have never made enough money to go on a world wide cruise, or get a mansion, etc. unless there was a 100 percent chance that I would not survive a pregnancy but I never heard it from the doctor and I am not a child hater.

We were the third choice in the bunch and I would have loved biological as well as adopted children. The reason I could have my own was that I got vd and I did want to get checked out at a clinic way before I got married - I was in my mid 20s at the tme - but the lady I was staying with told me not to go because that would mean I would be branded as a bad woman. In fact it was hard for me to go to a doctor even for an annual checkup then and by the time, I had to go because of pains, it was too late. It was not the case of God deciding that I would make a better adoptive parent, it was the case of man deciding that I should not get pregnant. So part was my fault but I am sure that whomever decided for me will get it at the end and I will be justified.

I think that perhaps the children that you adopted had need of you, specifically, and that's why you did not have biological children. God does not punish like that, He teaches. Remember He is a loving father and lets things happen or not happen for a good reason. Don't continue to blame yourself because God is not punishing you. You were needed by others and gave them two wonderful parents that love them.

I am not that emotional. It is just that I am afraid that because I am not moved to tears that often, that perhaps HE does not believe that depressed attitude that I have means that I am not sincere. I do not want to think that God will always say no, because I have seem the result of that in the stance of women who have just given up and say "oh well, what I want or need will never happen." And I am fighting like crazy not to turn into one of those women.

That sounds like a good idea. I just pray naturally. I do get upset sometimes, and when I get upset, sometimes I feel afterwards that God is saying from heaven, "say A= really meant it this time. She is really crying," when I said that prayer hundreds of times and felt that there was no answer. But I cannot turn my tears off on and on when I feel like it. It does not work.

We don't have to cry often when we pray. It actually depends on our emotion while we are praying. There are people who are so emotional at times of problems. You know yourself and you are not an emotional person. It doesn't mean that if you don't cry your prayers aren't sincere. If you are feeling afraid, that's a sign that you are somewhat lacking faith. Just believe in your prayers and don't think about whether God will answer your prayers or not. Just pray. Ciao!

Thank you. I was getting rather desperate and felt that God did not answer my prayer because I did not do anything crazy to get it answered. So I guess trust is enough, but I still wonder why one prayer has not been answered. It makes me rather upset sometimes and now with this other thing coming on.

Thank you. I welcome your prayers. I cannot fight this on my own, and I am hoping that the prognosis is favorable and that my prayers are answered positively and that no one hinders my prayers.

I guess I just have to have more patience. That is one thing that I am sadly lacking as well as a lack of trust or believing that I am not good enough for God to answer them. It does seem I lack these things. Also I wonder if God will answer my prayer if I pray when the television is on. I can hear it even when I go to bed. My husband watches it later on.

I do believe that God answers my prayers. It may be that HE has not answered it yet and maybe is waiting until I know that man cannot answer it. It is a prayer of desperation, but maybe I should act desperate but go into a decline, refuse to leave the house, or something like that.

I am honest and I asked God for help. It is just with my wanting to get pregnant, I felt that when we adopted and the boys were grown enough, my husband got rid of the baby things, and I felt that the only way was for me to spend all the money I had to get more stuff if a baby comes and that my husband would not help me and I only made about $100 a month. So I felt that God was going to help, but it would have to be all HIS doing and I could not do even a bit to help myself. Now I am still praying for to get pregnant and have a baby but it would have to be a complete miracle that some how the parts inside me would have to be restored and I am not like Sarah and Elizabeth where everything was there already, etc. And now with this worry about br*st cancer, I can now do a little to help myself, but it came on so quickly that I can only do so little to help. So I am stuck and I hurts.

I figured that much, that had I really did something desperate that God would answer me. The trouble is I did something desperate because I believed that God did not believe that I really wanted to get married, so I went to look for love in the wrong places. I decided when I got married, I could also do an act of desperation and kidnap someone else's baby, kill the mother, rob a bank to get the money to go to a fertility clinic (I am a writer and I watch Tv and these illegal acts may be ways that women have gotten pregnant,) but I decided that those were wrong and I was going to pray, but we could not afford to go to the States and get the treatment anyway. So should I have taken out a knife, found a pregnant woman and just before slitting her throat or gone to the hospital and taken a baby, and then suddenly I would have discovered I was pregnant? Giving an example about desperation can lead to. I made one mistake in my life, no two, and I do not want to make another to get God to notice my desperation.