My "ex" friend wants to me to accompany him during travel

@ronaldinu (12440)
Malta
November 11, 2008 2:57pm CST
I had fallen out with a friend of mine who spread false rumours about me after that we did not frequent each other anymore. We were so close that we used to eat at each other's house, going out together etc. Anyway I felt bad that he spread bad rumours about me. Some people did believe him at that time but soon discovered that he is a trouble maker and did question whatever he says. Now he has invited me to travel together. Anyway it is that type of guy that one should better avoid. Have you ever met such people? © ronaldinu 2008
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39 responses
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
11 Nov 08
The only way I'd travel is a thousand miles AWAY from him! I would never even consider him as an acquaintance let alone a friend! I hope you think long and hard about this one, if I was in that position I would say NO! I think he has a cheek to ask you to be honest but that's just my opinion. As the saying goes I'd rather be alone than in bad company. I nearly always travel alone and prefer it that way, so I can use the time to put my head in a book or do my crosswords you can't do that if you travel with someone.
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
11 Nov 08
I would never dream of being close to him once again after all the trouble he has created for me.
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
11 Nov 08
well how many knives are you willing to take out of your back? Why would you even consider this arrangement. What can it do for you? Ask yourself these questions and then go with your gut. Good Luck
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
13 Nov 08
if someone ever spread bad rumours about me, i don't even want to talk to him, ever! it's really unbelievable that he actually has the guts to invite you to travel together. i mean doesn't he know that what he did was horrible? if i were you, i'd never go anywhere with him. who knows what he is going to say about you when you come back from the trip?
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
11 Nov 08
I think you are being very sensible not travelling with your ex-friend. He sounds like a troublemaker, and is probably only using you because he doesn't want to travel alone. If you can't trust him not to spread lies about you, he's not worth cluttering up your life with! There are always people like this in the world, so it's best for us to avoid them.
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@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
11 Nov 08
I have met friends such as the one you describe and those are the ones to be avoid. Tell him thanks for the offer but you will be busy. A leopard cannot change his spot so please my friend keep him at a arms length.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
11 Nov 08
Well if you do just beware okay. Never know what kind of rumors he might spread now. I have known people like this and tried to not associate with them at all. Which is what I htink is best. They can only drag you down in the mud which makes them fell better about themselves. Which is why they do it or to be center of attention because they are jealous.
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11 Nov 08
Hi ronaldinu, I think he has a bare cheek to ask you to travel with him after what he has been saying about you, I wouldn't bothere with him if I was you. I haven't any friends like that and who needs enemies when you have a friend like that eh? Tamara
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
11 Nov 08
yes, i have & i stay just as far away from them as i can. if they'll do it once they'll do it again. i hope u aren't considering going w/him. with friends like that u don't need enemies. take care.
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
16 Nov 08
I have met that kind of person, unfortunately. They are so dense, they think that bygones should be bygones and don't think that spreading rumors like that are a big deal. But if you do the same to them, watch out! I would tell this person exactly how you feel and ask him never to contact you again. That's the only way he'll get the message. He probably has no other friends due to his abhorrent behavior so he's fishing around for anyone who will go with him. What a sad person.
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
[i]Hello ronaldinu, You don't need a friend like this and it is better to avoid such. Fortunately, I have not such a type of friend but you never know. Someone might be saying some bad rumour about me and I haven't heard it yet. Anyway, it is better you avoid such friend, I don't think they are going to change. Regards. [/i]
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
12 Nov 08
[i]Hi ronald, I have met a friend once but after she fool me, I never trusted her again and never allow us to have communication! [/i]
• India
12 Nov 08
Try to be far from him.
@rvangeld (334)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I think that everyone has met this type of person, because they are all over the place in high school. My boyfriend is still trying to deal with the issue because one of his ex-friends will talk to him every once in a while.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Nov 08
Well there's my cousin who lies to cover things up when she gets caught doing something that she shouldn't!
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
12 Nov 08
I guess he's a back stabber, and he is the type whereby u will be his fren when he needs your help in things.. ANd once he got what he wanted, he will try to cast u aside, so that he can claim credit for himself.. SO this kind of ple, it's best to stay away from him, and what's more, it's travelling, who knows he might just leave u there alone with alot of troubles and problems while he return on his own??
@eds28b (126)
• United States
12 Nov 08
hhhmmm! had a friend that way too. I still say hi or hello but as long as i can avoid it i would never went any places with her. i am better of away from her and i guess you are too...
@riyasam (16578)
• India
12 Nov 08
you once had a bad experience with this guy.tread with caution.do not again fall into his trap.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
12 Nov 08
I think I might still talk to him now and then but keep it really casual and I certainly would not travel with him.
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Sure I have, and I'm sure I will continue to meet those type of people. I am the type of person that does not let people get too close to me anyway, so that I can keep myself safe guarded from being talked about/ridiculed/gossipped upon or simply lied about. I maintain a usual tone and keep myself on an even keel of how to handle myself and others. This has proven very effective for me over the years. I'm the type of person that someone kinda loves to hate. All of my co-workers and friends know the "real" me and they don't seem to mind the fact that I don't allow others to get too close to me. The closest person that knows every thing about is God, and he will probably be the being that knows every inch and detail about me. Regarding your friend, I would of course proceed with extreme caution. This may be some sort of tactic to get back in your good graces only for him to end up back stabbing you all over again.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I would probably keep this 'friend' at arms length for a while. Why set yourself up to go through the same heart ache again? Have you talked to your friend about what happened before? How did he explain his actions? If he brushed them off, getting close is asking for trouble. Also, where has he been all this time. Is he only seeking youout because he is 'on the outs' with whoever he's been hanging out with? Some people crave attention more than they crave friendships. Nothing gathers attention more than that juicy bit of gossip...but at who's expense?