Are you a 'SMART' player in mylot?

@zandi458 (27952)
Malaysia
February 8, 2009 1:39pm CST
I have been responding to many discussions here but more often I do not get a reply to my responses from the person who started the discussion. Now I come to realize that some mylotters are playing a smart game here by deliberately leaving the responses unanswered or acknowledged and just leave them to fate. Not even considering the fact that the responder took great effort to come up with a good and well written response. They are saving time but your time is also my time and giving me no reply means I have wasted my time in responding to your discussion. Sometimes I spend hours replying to my responders as a token of goodwill and appreciation which deprive me of my time in posting fresh discussions. Do you think this is a smart move and benefit the people who keep posting discussions without giving their replies to the responses they get?
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75 responses
• United States
8 Feb 09
I try to respond to my responders, but sometimes I do not always. I do not make many discussions to worry about anyway, I prefer to just respond. You make money by just doing responses to those who responded in your discussions as well, I think just about as much as if you were doing it in another persons discussion. I have found myself just responding for a long time when I would have big hit discussions, not responding in any other ones, and I made about the same amount of money as if I was in any other discussion. So no matter how you play the "game" you get the same benefits.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Thank you for this informative response. Even though I have been here longer then you I am not aware that mylot pays for replying to responders. This is an eye opener for those who think that they don't get paid for replying . At least we know that our efforts is taken care of.
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• United States
12 Feb 09
I will always respond to my responders - irregardless of their opinion. I firmly feel that it is rude not to interact with someone that leaves you a response to a discussion. If you are a writer, you can learn so much from these invaluable forums, and even though mylot does not pay much - I enjoy the social interaction between the site users, everyone has something to say, even if you do not agree with them. Excellent post.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
12 Feb 09
Hi powermanxx, This is expected of every mylotters to comment on responses and you have done the right thing. I don't know how it benefit writers to be in mylot but they are few seasoned writers here who are in my friends list. I feel they enjoyed being here as the they get to see many views from others and they might even get some ideas to write.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
8 Feb 09
Don't quick to judge dear Zandi458. Some may be smart but not all are leaving the responses to fate. You may not know it but the poster might have read your response and instead of adding comment, they decided to just give you a rating (+ or perhaps -, depending on your response). I have done many responding but never get acknowledged but it doesn't matter to me. I sometimes goes back to the discussion I responded to see how many people have responded. I did notice that some were replied while some were not. So, I just assume that the poster has rated me instead of reply. Try and check back the discussions you have responded, and you will be surprised that some do get replies minus yours.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Okay you have the points there but that doesn't have any excitement there as this is suppose to be a debatable discussion which should have some exciting interaction between the starter and the responder to be effective. Well, if they don't reply but instead give me a negative rating then all my efforts are in vain. How sad!
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@mysdianait (64064)
• Italy
8 Feb 09
Hi zandi! Absolutely not! They will seem to be doing fine at the beginning but after how many times will those who responded to them go back to other discussions started by them? Once, twice, maybe three times at the most. Then they will start seeing fewer responses and next we will hear them complaining. I have noticed this very same thing all this week, not by all of the users obviously but by many. They are always the same too. They churn out discussions which are interesting, thought provoking too but have no respect for those who respond because they don't go back and discuss or even acknoweldge those who have taken time to respond. I will put up with it three times and that's all. If a user does not acknowledge me on any of three discussions then that will be the last time they will see me there. They are not worthy of receiving responses. MyLot is after all for discussions which means they should acknowledge the responses. Maybe not all if some are duplicates but at least most of them
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Hi Mysdianait, It is very frustrating indeed when our responses are not acknowledged and it is made worse when that person keep posting new discussions but not taking care of his/her responses. I still can excuse if I fail to get one or two of my responses ignored from the same person but it is too much for me to bear when my efforts were not recognize repeatedly. I think it is time for me to follow your style to avoid replying to people who doesn't appreciate my efforts. It may take longer time to get to every responses if we get big hit on our discussions but if it below hundred there shouldn't be any problem as I have done it on few occasions though at the end of all these replies I am at the brink of collapse going through huge number of responses. But it is worth all the efforts as I meet many different characters in the responses.
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@cornyman (1128)
• Germany
9 Feb 09
Hello zandi and diana, That's true what both of you have written here. Just some days ago i read a discussion from a "new" member with around 100 points "which time is the best time to post discussion for getting a lot of responses". The next day i visited the discussion again if this person commented on one of these responses or what this person itself had experienced with our suggestions. But there was nothing, so it seems like this person looks more for the own advantage than for a social attitude for sharing experiences/knowledge. The next day, the person started again four or five discussions but no comment on any of the responses to the discussion. This was for me the last discussion i have responded too. I guess, this will happen to many of these "i don't comment on my discussion". They really should know that i earned more than 50% of my earnings just by commenting on my own discussions rather than responding to other discussions. Discussion means more than Question and answering the question otherwise it feels like in school and that's what i don't like. Enjoy your time in myLot and keep on commenting!
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Hi cornyman, Then she must be a 'smart' player of mylot, don't you think so. That is the very reason I don't load mylot with many discussions in a day. I cannot leave my responders in the cold and sure will get back to them no matter how long it takes to finish my 'assignment'. I reach out to individual responders and want to make them happy so that there will not feel neglected. I don't want to waste others time and neither do I want them to waste my time. The best solution is to complete where you have started that is to comment on all responders. Be fair.
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
9 Feb 09
I think you get more repeat readers if you read and respond to them. I think it's also a good financial move if I'm understanding MyLot correctly. I may take a minute to respond because life gets busy (or like last week and I get ill) but I always try to check back and keep things up to date. Turn about is fair play... if I do this, maybe others will do it for me.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Yes that is true, it is something like karma, what you give you receive.
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
9 Feb 09
Very much like Karma... Karma runs through much of my life, why not here too?
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@singlemommy (2953)
• United States
9 Feb 09
Personally, I don't always respond back the everyone that leaves me a reply to my discussions. It's not that I'm not appreciative of them, but sometimes, I just read, rate, and I don't really have anything else to say back to them. Others, it seems like I think of something as soon as I start reading their reply. If I reply to a discussion, I don't get upset with the user who started the discussion because they don't reply back to me. I always figure they did the same as I do when reading my responses. Personally, I wouldn't take it personal or let it offend me. If you left a quality response and you know you did, then let it be. I'm sure someone who read it did get something from it.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Maybe some friends should by now understand your style. I try not to take it too personal but since I am here most of the time I hope my responses do get some acknowledgement like a short thank you will do if you have nothing much to say.
@salonga (27998)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
My own experiences prove I am also earning by giving substantial comments to my respondents. So aside from my intention of showing my respondents that I am giving value to their responses, I am also commenting back because I am getting benefited. Some just post and leave their posts just like that. They don't even mind to comment back obviously because they were thinking they are not getting paid for that anyway. Well, they are wrong. I've seeing so many users posting even more than 10 discussions in a day and not minding to respond back at all. Well I can't blame them because they obviously want to generate more income from posting. However, I believe it is not actually being wise but rather depriving themselves of a chance to get even more earnings from the post they started. And also depriving themselves of the chance to give acknowledgment to the people who took time to respond.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Putting up this post infact has given me some much needed information here as I never know that we are also being paid for commenting to our responses.
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• United States
9 Feb 09
I give detailed responses but keep it short and sweet. I do also get angry when no one responds back to you afterwards. I do think its smart on their part but it is very rude.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
That defines their characters well, smart but rude.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
9 Feb 09
I certainly don't expect replies to all of my responses. However, there are some people who NEVER reply, which I think is rude. If people have taken the time and effort to respond, it's only courtesy to reply sometimes. The handfull that I never get replies from, I've shut off the 'notify' feature, so I don't get emails when they start new discussions. So they stop getting responses from me.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Then that is a fair game. You are outsmart those who don't reply to responses but expect others to only response to them. I think it is a wise move.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
If I am not mistaken, the comment you make on every response you get from the discussion you have started gives you money too. . . . I am more of a discussion igniter or starter than a responder and I notice that I am still paid even I just give comments to the responses that I get.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Then I believe you as you have gone through that experience.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
8 Feb 09
as long as i have time zandi i will reply.yes some of here in mylot has no response to the reply of their discussions and somehow i am used to it.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Oh great you have taken immunity tablets so you are not affected. I wish to share that too. Cheers!
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@dpk262006 (56109)
• Delhi, India
9 Feb 09
Zandi! I support your views two hundred percent.........!! Long back one of the senior mylotter wrote in a post that she does not post her comments, because she is more interested in 'earning' rather than sharing and convesing.I was taken a back after reading her comment and consequently, afer few weeks, I 'deleted' her from my list. I do not think it can be termed as a 'smart' move, by those, who do not post their comments. Like you, when I post a considered and lenthy response, I also wish that it should be commented upon and acknlweged by the host of the discussion, if he/she does not I feel bad, however, if she/he does, I feel elated and do not forget to post my counter-comments.....I wish to be the last one to end the 'conversation'....LOL! I do not mind, if someone does not make any comment on my very brief response. Like-wise I try my level best to post my comments on the replies received, in response to my own discussions. Sometimes, I miss to post my comments, due to paucity of time or the answer being too brief. I love posting comments and counter-comments and I do believe that wihotu comments a discussions is incomplete as a cooked vegetable is incomplete with a pinch of salt and spices in it. Good Post!
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
For goodness sake I don't think you would delete me if I don't response to your discussion. Am not always around. But if I am here I will make sure to response to as many of my friends discussions as possible. Well, it is always interesting to interact with you as I will always get more from my bait. cheers.
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@dpk262006 (56109)
• Delhi, India
9 Feb 09
NO, never................there cannot a question of ever 'deleting' you from the list. Even a silly thought of this kind won't come in mind, I am very sure about it. If you do not respond to my discussion, I won't mind, however, when I post a reply in response to your discussion, I would expect a word or two by you (even if you comment very briefly, that will do, because then I'll come to know that atleast you have read my response). And if you do not comment on my response, due to some genuine reasons, I won't mind, because I have come to know about you and I've started to understand that how 'nice' you are. If you do not post comments on my response(s), I'll assume that my response is not worthy of comments or else you are too busy to comment...........LOL! I would like you to [b]please elaborate your last sentence, when you say - "Well, it is always interesting to interact with you as I will always get more from my bait."
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Oh..you didn't get my meaning huh. Well it is like fishing where you put a small fish (bait) at the end of the rod and throw it back to the sea. Soon a bigger fish will snap the smaller fish and you end up catching a big fish. Now what I mean here is I put little words here that is my bait and you reply to me with a lengthy one and that is like the big fish. Now you understand by that phrase ,don't you?
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
9 Feb 09
Am just 10-12 days old here in Mylot.Now am coming to the grips of mylotting.I have replied for the responses but not for all.But again what I thought till now was if I repond to a discussion started from the other user , I would get the response from that user for the discussion I start or viceversa.But I am not here for money but as long as it comes my way I dont mind.I love to be a part of this site as I get to see great discussions going on.Neverthless from now on I make it a point to reply to all my responses to the discussions I start. HAPPY LOTTING !
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• Philippines
9 Feb 09
time might come when you will find some difficulty making comments to the responses that you have earned, krupesh. at this time, i am experiencing this. whenever i get to my unresolved discussions, that page which says cannot be displayed, just simply pops up. i can't understand why this is happening. what i do is, i shy away from posting discussions of my own. i keep on posting plenty of responses. this may be unhealthy for my earnings. my earnings is so slow in going up if i cannot post discussions by at least two in a week. i would like to make your stay in mylot healthy and comfortable, krupesh. happy mylotting and may you keep on enjoying your stay in the community.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Being a very new member here you have made your presence felt quite fast and hope that you are able to maintain it for long time to come. Yes, try to reply to all responses received and you will be happy to get the result at the end of the day.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
9 Feb 09
Thanks for both of you for your help & support.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
8 Feb 09
it would seem to me they are just being selfish as people are nowadays. i try to respond to everyone but they are just after the money & recogntion.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
That maybe their motives. Time saving quick bucks!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
9 Feb 09
have a good week.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Sure am looking forward to a great week ahead of me.
• India
8 Feb 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, I am fully acknowledging these outbursts and feel that natural 'Give and take' policy has not been metaculasously followed, thereby voilation of natural laws. I have also spotted and once even I conveyed in my response directly. But, there is one ground, if starter gets more than a number, which is not possible to response, then I have a solution that at least starter may opt to summerise all responses in nut shell and post common comments for all responses, but for this all responses have to be read. But, I do acknowledge your cry-out and feel absolutely in order. There could be some admin restriction , till certain % has not been made comments, it may be treated NIL- startings. May god bless you and have great time.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
No not really an outbusts of heavyweight but only a reminder for mylotters to perform their duties well so we all live in the best interest of each others presence.
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• India
11 Feb 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, I do undersatnd your feelings with sincerity, but all can not be like you. God will give us strength to withstand. may god bless you and have a great time.
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@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I think you've responded to one of my discussions and my apologies to you and the rest who i didn't reply yet. I'm just using my phone here on myLot and it's pretty difficult to keep track of discussions. I'm away from home so i have no choice but to use my phone. Sometimes if i can't stay long, i do rate responses. Just my own version of token of appreciation. My earnings dropped drastically since i used my phone to myLot because i can't multitask.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Modstar, I understand your style so you need not be disturbed by this post.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I only respond when I have something to say and sometimes I leave a discussion on for a time while I figure out how to answer it. I only comment on responses when, again, I have something to say,which is not very often.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Thank you savypat being a regular to my discussions. I don't really mind if the responses are not align with the topic of the day but more or less near to it. After all we are all not walking dictionary who knows everything laid in front of our eyes.
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@prasanta (1947)
• India
9 Feb 09
I do not think it is always true. I have always tried to respond to all the responses that I got. I have a dedicated email to receive the myLot responses. Also I reply to many people from the myLot digest, irrespective of friendship. Please take subjects which are interesting. I am sure you will get responses. It is one of the best platforms. See, I am responding to your topic.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
Please read the topic before responding as I think you really haven't grasp what I want to convey in my discussion. If you think this is not good enough I have many interesting topics which I have started earlier on. However I thank you for responding and you can check my past discussions and evaluate whether I have uninteresting discussions. They are all big hits my dear!
@prasanta (1947)
• India
9 Feb 09
I did not like the way you are replying. It is always better to be good than attacking others to be good. Bye.
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• United States
9 Feb 09
You know Zandi, There are just times that a troll should be left to troll... You found one here... This person has a flawed sense of positive and negative when it comes to your response... Ouch! That hurt to read the exchange and you are so sweet, I understand what you are trying to convey, they twisted your message... Totally...
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@amjadmacs (467)
• France
9 Feb 09
Well, if you ask me then I would say I like to response to a discussion rather than starting my own whole discussion but If I don't replies than I feel some how bad, lolz !!! Yeah I do. So I prefer responding to discussion especially with the ones whom are not responded so I replied them By the way, its a very nice discussion you have started it. I like it. I mean you should have different topics, like you have one here...
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 09
I think you are the first one who appreciate this topic. I have responders here who say that this topic is stupid. Either I am stupid or they do not know how to appreciate varieties in thoughts. Yes, I have posted more serious discussions in the past and this one though it is not challenging but it is something to liven our day in mylot. We do not always want to read life problems and other sensitive issues. I should say that you responded to this discussion because it touches you in some ways. It is an everyday occurrence which need to be addressed.
• France
10 Feb 09
I definitely can bet that this discussion is awesome and look at my response you got from this topic? Its it great. You are a such sweet person also. The way you replied to my comments, wow !!! I mean polite and sweet !!!
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 09
Oh thanks amjadmacs, you have been touched again. You can be a good motivator. Your words make me feel good deep inside.
@savak03 (6681)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I don't know how smart it is but it sure isn't very polite. It's like another friend said "I scratch your back and you scratch mine" Check out this discussion. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1900142.aspx You will see that there are a lot of us that are really interested in the discussion where some are only interested in collecting responses. Like you I am getting annoyed with the collectors.
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@savak03 (6681)
• United States
9 Feb 09
You have been a good role model ever since I started here. I guess that we can only do what we know is right and let the others go on their own way.
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@savak03 (6681)
• United States
9 Feb 09
You have been a good role model ever since I started here. I guess that we can only do what we know is right and let the others go on their own way.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
I hope so savak. Only common sense tell us what we are suppose to do as a loyal citizen of mylot.
@derek_a (10902)
9 Feb 09
I think it is polite to respond to people who have taken the trouble to post to a discussion. I endeavour to respond to every single person who respond to my discussions. We do get paid for our responses though. Even if nobody acknowledges us - but I couldn't swear to that. I believe you always get back what you dole out - it's the law of karma. If you are rude in any way or negligent with people, people will notice and not respond any more. :-) Derek
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 09
I do believe in karma too. When we reply to our responses they will definitely feel happy that they are appreciated and if possible I will comment further on their replies. This makes the topic of the discussions more lively and there is active interaction there.
• United States
9 Feb 09
Sometimes those discussions can get quite involved. One of the keys is to read all of the respondents responses to a discussion before we make a response of our own, you know I only hit the first page and this page, now to remember that I'm on page 7 this is a whole book... Nice going Zandi, I'm not sure how you managed to keep up but I applaud you for posting such a popular discussion. Derek, I might not get to your discussions as I am not always on when you post your discussion and that means it doesn't show up, but I do appreciate seeing you here and there, and I will post a response to your responses in other peoples discussion to show appreciation of your participation, I know where you are coming from and I know the good that you are doing. How else can I say keep up the good work to two at one time? *Looking at Zandi in Awe, "what a goddess..." 7 pages in 23 hours... I tip my hat and fly away...
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@derek_a (10902)
10 Feb 09
Thank you both very much for your responses. It is good to hear that people can get some value from what I post and I recognize that there is no always time to get around everybody who respond to your posts - I only respond if I feel I can add some sort of value to the subject matter. It is very good to know that we have friends on here, and that we have never met these friends to sit and have coffee and a chat with, and are unlikely to do so. It's a remarkable experience.. :-) Derek
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