Father - daughter case of incest

Australia
February 25, 2009 11:25pm CST
There is a case here in Australia about a father and a daughter that have an adult relathionship. They had 2 kids 1 of them died of heart defects. This makes me sick. Yes they are adults, yes they can make choices but this is just plain wrong. And plus having kids on top of that. Poor things. Anyway what do you think of incest???? Should it be punishable by law? This is the latest on the pair in question. http://news.ninemsn.com.au/national/757176/deaves-and-incest-dad-stayed-secret-lovers
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
26 Feb 09
Incest could really be very shameful and disgusting. Sometimes circumstances become such that it accidently happens. However, we should educate our children about it, when they are younger. Incest can lead to many complications and can ruin family lives of many. I am against it.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
26 Feb 09
I can understand your position and it is good on your part that you could cross check with the guys, before committing anything to them. Yes, one needs to be careful even if it is a distant relative.
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• Australia
26 Feb 09
My mother has a big extended family so I could not know everyone. Growing up I learned to ask boys I was interested in where they come from as soon as they mentioned the area I saw red and had to check if I was related :)))) and we are talking about 3rd, 4th and so on cousin
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@Savvynlady (3684)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Well, It's not right period. No matter how you look at it. I had a discussion where a minister was going with his daughter locally here and the wife caught them, he killed her(the wife) and had her in a fridge for like over four years. When folks asked about her, he came up with excuses and finally after the daughter got pregnant and tired of it and went to three different families asking for help in stepping forward, did she go through with disclosing it to authorities. I don't know what the deal is with these situations, but it don't sound right to me. I am like this: we all deserve love and someone who love us for who we are but sometimes there is boundaries too in such things.
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• Australia
26 Feb 09
0h dear that is bad and sad. I am just lost for words honestly
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• Philippines
26 Feb 09
Incest is a big NO NO! for me. The parent should be the one to be blame because they can always say No or keep the relationship in its proper place. But consenting and worst, initiating this illicit relationship is just BAD BAD BAD.
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• Australia
26 Feb 09
well I dont know who started and who did what but as adults they are both wrong
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• Philippines
26 Feb 09
Yes of course they are both wrong. I did not mean that only the parent is to be blamed. I just meant that since in this case, since he or she is the parent, the weight of the sin bears more on him or her as they are supposedly the one who would lead their child to what is right and not to condone this sinful act.
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@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
26 Feb 09
I am feeling yuck after reading your post.I just cannot understand the mentality of such people.I think these people are shame on the face of the society and need to be punished severely for such heinous acts.
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• Australia
27 Feb 09
well the whole story is just sick and they keep defending it and lying I just feel sorry for their child
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@jshekhar (1562)
• India
26 Feb 09
YES. It should be punishable by law. First of all, it is the question of morality. How can two people of the same family lose their moral values for lust??? Here in India, given the value system that the kids grow up with, I don't think such a thing will ever be tolerated by the society. Whether law punishes them or not, Society should be the first one to take a stand and punish both of them so that in future no one even thinks about it!
• Australia
1 Mar 09
most people wont tolerate this
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@thungster (156)
• United States
26 Feb 09
This is rather troublesome. What is probably even more troubling is that a relationship like this most likely started before the child was of a legal age. In the US, all the states have some sort of law prohibiting incest.
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• Australia
26 Feb 09
There was a lot of info on this case but I am just too tired to look for it but I belive they had little contact before she turned 18 but I might be wrong.
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@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
26 Feb 09
This is a really sick story because you know what they say about cases like this & incest... it probably started while she was not of legal age. Disturbing. I do believe that incest relationships in the states is a no, no & that we do have laws on that... It shouldn't be allowed at all...
• Australia
1 Mar 09
in this case no it didnt start when she was under age as they only met when she was an adult. But yes most cases like that would have a begining much earlier.
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I pretty much agree with laglen. If there must be a law, I don't think it should be punishing two consenting adults for their choices...I do think that there should be a law prohibitting people of incestuous relationships to have children...call it a kind of I don't know, it's just really irresponsible for the child. It's likely to have lots of health problems...and I don't care if you're happy in your relationship, but you shouldn't be making that choice for your kid. On the OTHER hand, I agree that that could potentially be a slippery slope. An opening for angry and hateful people to try to introduce other laws punishing adults for choosing to have children they know will have a defect or genetic disease, or sommat...which I'd firmly disagree with....because children produced by incest and children born with hereditary diseases are not the same, it's not so blatantly irresponsible. ...and that's mostly why I said "IF there HAD to be a law"...it seems best to just stay out of it and not make laws for it. Incest doesn't happen as often as it used to, it's not considered "normal" anymore...so we might as well, I guess. But like I aid, I agree with laglen...I just wish they wouldn't try to have kids.
@msmell (1378)
• Australia
1 Mar 09
Yes I have seen this story too in the news and I too also think that this is wrong, and I truly don't understand how they think it is alright to have children together which can result in so many disorders in the children! To me this is just plain selfish and only thinking of themselves and not what that poor child is going to have to go through for the rest of his/her lives!!!!! I just don't understand it....
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
26 Feb 09
I DID not go to the link....I think seeing it would make me sick for the rest of the day! The Father (adult) in this situation, I cannot think of punishment that would be cruel enough for him! The child is truly a misguided misanthropic, who is more likely suffering from the same syndrome, that is sometimes created by kidnapper & kidnappee! She probably has mentally developed beyond that of a child, and therefore cannot make good choices, and of course, he would not allow her any other choice anyway! This is SICK..SICK..SICK!
• Canada
1 Mar 09
There is NOTHING....absolutely NOTHING that can make this acceptable/tolerable in my mind, and it truly would be hard to convince me that the Father is not a seriously SICK monster! How can this man show his face to the world! Yikes!
• Canada
24 Mar 09
I truly thank you for the best response...and I re-visited this topic again, and it still makes me ill! Have you heard anymore about it? Thanks & cheers!
• Australia
1 Mar 09
No they are both perfecly fine mentaly as far as that goes but to think that its ok to do it you must have something wrong with you right. They only met when she was an adult so its not like this started when she didnt know any better.
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@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
This is definitely not good. I just wonder how people can go for such thing when this is definitely not tolerable. Though personally, I am not in the position to say that it should be punishable. But there are other states that punishes such things.
@Keola12 (799)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I agree with everything you state. Incest is wrong, morally and ethically. I'm not sure what the laws are for a parent and child having incestual relationship if the child is an adult, but both this father and daughter you mention here should be taken to a psychiatric hospital where they can be treated for this insanity. Clearly, there is something psychologically wrong with the both of them. If they were sane, they wouldn't have involved themselves in this incest relationship, let alone conceive children through incest. Obviously they have something wrong with their minds.
• Australia
1 Mar 09
They keep saying oh we are not together like it makes any difference, and then they say they are in love and cant help it. Maybe it would help if they stop living togeter and sleeping together.
• Portugal
26 Feb 09
it is very wrong. its the other guy in belgium that had is daughter trapped in a basement for 30 years. and already had 4 sons... its just sick
• Australia
1 Mar 09
thats a bit different as the girl in that case did nothing wrong she was forced to live there this idiot (women) is in this relationship by choice
@roc080 (56)
• India
27 Feb 09
Yah thats as bad as it gets. I don't even want to comment on the situation. It feels like people like these would take us back to the days of paganism, and whether we like it or not, thats a story that probably came in the highlight, how many such stories are burried in the four walls of God knows how many houses.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
Yes, the father should be punished for doing this to his own daughter. I would rather rehabilitate the daughter since I think she was just brainwashed by his father into this kind of relationship. The father on the other hand is rather very sick for really influencing his daughter into this and he should be put in prison for that or at least rehabilitated.
@dalyme3 (88)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
It is actually very wrong. However, it is still their choice. They are consenting adults though in the eyes of everyone it is 100% wrong. It is punishable through God's Laws but I think it should be also included into Man's Law's as well.
@dodo19 (47095)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
26 Feb 09
This is really disturbing. I must admit that adults can make their own decision. But incest is just wrong, and somewhat disturbing, in my opinion. It's normal for father and daughter, or parent and child, to love each other, in the way that parents should love their children, or vice versa. But not to the extent of incest. There is a limit.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I think that incest is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!! Yes, I think it should be punishable by law, and I know that in at least some places it is! How could anyone ever feel romantic about their own child or parent, or any relative for that matter. I hate to state the obvious, but this has probably been going on a lot longer than anyone knows, besides them and God. I hate to think of how long though. The thought of it all saddens and sickens me at the same time.
• United States
26 Feb 09
I believe that people have the freedom to choose right from wrong, I also believe that it should be punishable by the law, but I don't know if the law of Australia prohibits. It is wrong in many senses. Father and daughter love, shouldn't be that way. I feel sorry for the children of this couple. The concept is that they see it right, humans always do what the do, thinking that what they are doing is right. For them it is right, for us is a different story. But I reach the conclusion that it should be punished by the law.