what in your opinion causes unhappiness ?

The Buddha discovered on his enlightenment that the source of all suffering was desire. In other words, if you could get rid of desire, you would get rid of suffering. He spent his life teaching this and I can quite understand it. When I don't get something that I have been working for, I can feel quite miserable and let down. However, if I don't desire anything in particular, I feel quite content. This doesn't mean that I have mastered the art of non-desiring though. It just means that I can understand it. As a Zen practitioner, I can understand that to seek happiness, is never really to find it. But to just be content living in the hear and now, I will feel very calm and content. - Derek

Happiness is a choice. We get to choose how we wake up each day, we can wake up happy to greet the day, or we can be unhappy about the negative aspects of our life. I can be happy one minute, and then sad the next. I went to the store today, had a negative experience, but the unhappiness was short lasting. I am generally a happy person, and usually pretty optimistic, and I better be if I am ever going to get my life to be the one that I want it to be. Many people can not be happy because of all the negativity that has happened in their life, and that is sad. What is even sadder is the people that drive that unhappiness in that particular individual. Sometimes, I don't think they realize the consequence of their behavior. I have had a lot of negativity in my life, but like I said, I am generally a happy person. There is not a day that goes by that I haven't smiled or a giggle hasn't escaped my from my mouth. I don't think I am unhappy 95% of the time, but there are moments where I have unhappy moments.

unhappiness is the part of our body. Sounds crap but it is ture. Mind is the part of body and this is the source of unhappiness. If our minds and brains are happy and healthy we feel happiness. Happiness lies within us, nut we run after the illusionary happiness outside the body. Meditate and have a sound sleep, it will help you feel happy.

Unhappiness comes from many major setbacks and disappointments. It comes from thing that we have failed to do. Or something that others have failed on us. It is a failure that makes you sad that you did not yet finish.. Happiness comes from not being able to get our ways or what we want out of life. It is a hurting feeling. I go through it all of the time. That is why I try to put all things in my life that is positive to keep from being unhappy..

Hi krajibg! I believe happiness is an attitude of mind.We are born to be happy and in a blissful state.A baby cries only when it is hungry.But then we get conditioned.We learn to become unhappy for small reasons.Do the animals in the jungle feel sad?They never suffer from psychological problems too.I think the main reason for unhappiness is that we do not love ourself enough.Once we learn that we will always be secure and happy.

For me if my expectations aren't met, then that is really unhappy. Most of the people i know will be just happy in their life ones they get their desire. This is the nature of every human being. Whatever we do in life, there is no such as contentment, we do strive to get more, and more and ones we set a high to reach limit, we will get frustrated and will lead to sadness and unhappy situation. At times, when i don't get the things i want from my hubby, i do feel sad, i guess this is normal for us people. Nobody gets smiling and happy when their expectations aren't met. A child for instance, wanted a doll, would you think that by giving her a toy car make her happy the most, i think not, because she expects a doll, even if you give her something, she will still beg for a doll no matter what.

Hi krajibg, I feel that the cause of unhappiness is a misunderstand of the concept of happiness. Happiness is not something that depends on outward conditions or possessions and is not something that we may have in the future when such and such happens. If we want happiness, we have to be happy now, no matter what our circumstances. I have known people who were unhappy most of the time, although they seem to have everything that they could need, and I have also none those who were happy with the bare necessities of life. Most people are unhappy because they think that certain things have to happen before they can be happy. Such people will never be happy until they learn to live in the moment. Blessings.

I like this quote by Gandhi, "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony" and the vice versa would lead to unhappiness

Negative situations cause unhappiness. Disappointments for one, we really feel sad everytime we fail to get what we are expecting or to fulfill what we'd been longing for. These failures however when we take as challenges, work on it instead of getting into frustration turns positive eventually to success. Every success then is happiness. Coping up with negative situations turning it to positive would eliminate unhappiness.

Many things cause unhappiness in our lives..But generally speaking, I think unhappiness is generally the difference between what we want or expect to happen in life, and what actually does happen. When what we want to have or happen just doesnt, or the end result is not what we expected, then we are unhappy. Are you totally confused yet?

I think a lot of being happy comes from within, too. I think we can try to place blame on financial difficulties, crappy jobs, bad friends, boyfriends, unfortunate circumstances, and whatever else for our unhappiness, but in the end, I think it's our job to be happy and thankful for what we have. It's all in the attitude, and a lot of times we trick ourselves into thinking that if we do a certain thing, get a certain product, have a certain job - we'll be happy, but it's really not the case (at least from my experience). I think to be happy, we need to stay positive, find some kind of balance in our lives, and enjoy what we do.

There are some things that cause me unhappiness . But I don't want to list it . And Krajibg why do you care it ? why not live at the moment with happy?I never think what make me unhappy .It doesn't mean I escape it .I try my best to make me happy.I will list something I want todo which will make me happy and moved.^^

There are so many things that cause unhappiness. In children it is anything that causes discomfort or disatisfaction. Of course these are conditions that are very temporary as children move on quickly. With adults I believe it is a question of a number of cumulative experiences which the person in question cannot overcome for wahtever reason, resulting in an ongoing state of perpetual negativity and depression.

sometimes disatifaction, insecurities and not being contented on what we have makes us unhappy. this is not healthy for us.. :D

The main things that cause unhappiness are non-fulfillment of the things that make us Happy! It varies from person to person. We make some goals or have idea of happiness in achieving something. when we are denied these we feel unhappy. Then there are illness, financial problems. relationship problems etc make us unhappy.

We cannot change the world but we can change our reaction to it. There are many things that if a person allows can cause unhappiness, but it is our choice it we allow it to be that way. When something bad happens we have to remember that there is always a rainbow after the storm and it could be the beginning of a life change that could be better than what is was before. Good come from bad, our minds cause the unhappiness because it is our choice how we react to any situation. Peace and smiles

Hi, Ya, happiness or unhappiness may be caused by internal or external factors. When matters are going the opposite way of what we expected, we would feel unhappy as we cannot attain our goals. Character and personality would also cause oneself to be happy or unhappy as some individuals are more optimistic than others.It seems that we can control our happiness or unhappiness but it is difficult to control our inner feelings.

hello...yes you indicated it very correct that most of our dalilife and most of us are not happy . we were messed up by lots of things like tension in every sorts ariseing, irregualr and drunk night watchman, most of time it seems we work of the unhappy and always be, oh...what a terrible fact to realize, so why not be more happy and enjoy oursleives everyday. happy here.

inner happiness or true happiness is much different from the happiness we all talk of. good results or material gains or fun brings only material happiness. think of all the sacrifices you have made till now... even if you were sad while you were sacrificing but today you would feel a sort of satisfaction that you came to someone's help. this brings inner happiness. bring a smile on some one else's face then feel your own heart cheer up. to seek happiness we become selfish and this is the basic reason for unhappiness. dissatisfaction and jealousy are also the reasons of unhappiness. i know i cannot become a doctor, i don't have the capbility but still if i am jealous of a doctor's profession then i am creating my unhappiness. to seek real happiness we must first know ourselves and then love to be what we are.

A big thing in my mind, not know who YOU are. For a person to be "happy" they need to know what that means for themselves. In my opinion a persons "unhappiness" is more a mind set then anything. I understand that there can also be reasons, maybe family or there life standing, but a person needs to build bridges over the bad parts and work to be happy once again.