Does it bother you when other people wear strong perfume or after shave?

United States
June 24, 2009 2:37pm CST
Since I have asthma and allergies, it bothers me greatly and is actually a danger when people in closed places like elevators, or public places like theaters wear strongly scented perfumes and after shave, as though they had bathed in them! I noticed that even in my drs. office there is a sign not asking that people not wear strong scents due to the problems they can cause certain other patients. Does it bother you when other people wear strong perfumes, cologne, or after shave? If so, why? Thank you. Karen
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@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
27 Jun 09
In some cases, yes, it does bother me, when they are really strong. It doesn't really matter because I can always move away a bit and we're all fine. I don't think it is my place to tell people what they can or not wear or what they should or not like. What I can do when something bothers me is just to move away even if just a bit.
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• United States
27 Jun 09
You've got the perfect solution, and I do the same in public places, but since my problem with scents is asthma related and actually a danger, I do request that my daughters or other regular visitors not wear it when they visit me in my own home :) Since they know the effects, they have no problem with that at all. Karen
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@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
27 Jun 09
karen in your situation it is perfectly natural to request that people don't wear anything strong when visiting you, there is an extremely good reason for that request. Actually in our own home we really can and should request people to abide by our requests.
• United States
28 Jun 09
Yes, we should, but I still feel bad when I have to make such requests. I know to some they seem trivial or invasive to their own rights and preferences, but it is necessary anyway. Thank you for your understanding comment. Karen
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@jdyrj777 (6563)
• United States
27 Jun 09
The smell of others perfume does not bother me. What does is when they were that cheap stuff that smells more like RAID that anything good. Ewwwee, for all i know maybe they just fumigated their house.
• United States
27 Jun 09
LOL, another person made a comment about Raid, and oddly enough, I have thought the same of some of the cheaper scents. They DO smell just like bug spray. Those are the most offensive of all :D Thank you for responding. Karen
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@jdyrj777 (6563)
• United States
28 Jun 09
I usually by the oils. Which never smell like RAID. Since i started selling avon i have bought a couple perfumes but they dont smell like RAID either. I dont know what is up with thoses people that have the RAID smell. I mean do they not understand what they smell like? Do they think they are smelling good or what? One day i was riding the city bus. There were 3 of us sitting in the back. This one RAID smelling woman came and sat near the back. She had alot on too. Everyone that way near her got up and moved to far away seats. One of the guys in the back started coughing then got up and opened the windows. This RAID woman had to of been deaf dumb and blind to not know what was going on around her.
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• United States
28 Jun 09
LOL, perhaps she had no sense of smell at all! I have wondered the same things, though...do they not know at least how very strong their scent is? I know we have varying degress of sensitivity, so I can only assume that such people have a weaker sense of smell. :) Karen
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
24 Jun 09
Hi, even i like a lot a good perfume, i hate when somebody use to much perfume, cologne or after shave. Is not elegant, and a class woman or man never use to much perfume. Just a drop, is enaugh, what is to much just annoyed me. Of course cheap perfume make me annoyed too, if we like to use a perfume, we must use a expensive one, good quality...
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• United States
24 Jun 09
Hello Ice...I used to wear subtle perfumes but cannot do that any longer. Too much scent is uncouth on anyone. I have wondered how the one wearing it can stand so much if it even bothers others. I would think their own eyes would be watering! Thank you for your input :) Karen
• United States
25 Jun 09
Hello Mimi...yes, I know many who get headaches, or worse, from strong scents. Consideration, like you said, is the key word. :) Karen
@ryzach (1546)
• United States
28 Jun 09
If it is really strong it bothers me and I don't have asthma or allergies. I used to work with this girl a long time ago and she wore so much of this scent called patchouli oil or something like that I have to work in another station because it was so strong and was giving me a really bad headache. And besides that I really did not like the scent at all. I thought it was very unpleasant. I am really surprised the customers did not complain or I never did hear of them complaining. Another time it can be really bad is when you are in a closed place with someone who over-used their perfume is in places like elevators, restrooms etc.
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• United States
28 Jun 09
Pachulli, not sure of spelling, is one of the worst for me. And my youngest daughter loves it! To me, it smells a lot like insect spray. And yes, small closed-in places are the worst, as you get the full impact of a strong scent! Karen
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@derek_a (10905)
26 Jun 09
Sometimes I wonder why some people wear such strong perfume and it makes me cough if I breath it in. But we all have different tastes, or should I say smells - and it would be a poor world if we all like the same things! - Derek
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• United States
26 Jun 09
Hello Derek...I agree, we all have different preferences. I don't expect everyone never to use scent, just not close up around me when they know it triggers an asthma attack, which can be dangerous or even deadly. When I go out among others or to visit someone else, then it is my own responsibility to stay far away from those wearing scents. Thank you for your response. Karen
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@bagumbayan (2707)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Its good none in may family members or in the office who uses strong perfume or cologne. If at times I smell that kind of thing, I just distance myself from that person. One time I smell that kind of perfume at home, I looke for it and I throw it away. After a few days I smell the same smell and it so happen that one of my family member like the smell so she literally picked it up from the waste can. I really throw it outside.
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• United States
26 Jun 09
LOL, so someone picked it out of the trash? They must have really loved the perfume. It does horrid things to me. I don't feel like it is right to expect others not to wear it ever, but in closed places or when around many others, there are bound to be those with serious allergies to it. Too bad they wouldn't just go a bit easy with it! Thank you for responding :) Karen
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@applefreak (3135)
• Singapore
26 Jun 09
yes i certainly does bother me, especially when i'm in the same lift as them. not only does my nose hurt, i'll sneeze uncontrollably. it's embarassing for the other person as well. they know that it's their overwhelming fragrance that is causing my discomfort. most times i try to stop breathing throughout the short ride to not suffer.
• United States
26 Jun 09
This has always surprised me...why do those wearing the scents seem not to be bothered by them? And yes, a small place like an elevator really makes that sort of thing worse. Thank you for sharing your experiences :) Karen
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@spalladino (17929)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I don't have asthama or allergies but I hate it when someone is wearing so much perfume or after shave that I can practically taste it. When I worked at a community college there were a few times when we had to ask a student to relocate in the open lab due to the complaints of other students about perfume and other times when I had to have my techs wipe down a workstation because it reeked long after the offending student had left.
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• United States
25 Jun 09
Ooo, that is just too much scent if it even lingers on lab surfaces. I have noticed that not as many magazines carry those "sample scent" folded pages any more, for which I'm grateful. I'd always tear them out, but the scent would still be on some of the pages. Thank for your sharing your input. Karen
@lulu1220 (1010)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Since I have a strong sense of smell, it bothers me quite a bit. It will give me a headache, sometimes it make me feel sick to my stomach and then I can even taste it in my mouth! There is a reason perfume comes in a little bottle. A little goes a long way. You only need a drop or two. Same thing with after shave. There are times when someone walks by wearing too much and then the smell lingers. I wonder if these people bathe in it.
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• United States
24 Jun 09
Ack! That is the worst, when you can actually taste it. You make a great point about why scents come in small bottles, as well. I appreciate your input :) Karen
@mermaidivy (15422)
• United States
24 Jun 09
It doesn't bother me very very much as long as the perfume is not strong like it makes my nose itchy. I like to smell the after shave smelling because my hubby smells very good after shave :-p
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• United States
24 Jun 09
You are fortunate :) I used to wear a little perfume, but never a lot and never the strong pungent kind. When dating in school, I enjoyed the smell of after shave on the young men. Now it triggers allergy and asthma attacks, so is out! Thank you for your sharing your own preferences. Karen
@ds6413 (2072)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Hello PeacefulWmn9 , I greatly dislike having to smell strong perfume or after shave. I also suffer from allergies and asthma. I try not to hide my disgust when someone is wearing too much by either covering my mouth and nose. It runs in the family. My mother has it so bad we had to rush her to the hospital beause she could hardly breath at all.Even soaps I have to use one that has no strong odor.So I know how you feel about too much perfume or aftershave. I find it disgusting
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• United States
24 Jun 09
Hi Ds...yes, it poses a true danger for some of us. People can die from asthma attacks. Like you, everything I use has to be either unscented or very mild smelling, or it triggers asthma attacks, which are very frightening. Best wishes, Karen
@mimpi1911 (25467)
• India
24 Jun 09
My mom gets allergies and asthmatic attacks on smelling strong perfumes. She doesn't wear any for this reason alone. I do not get allergies but I do not like strong permues. I use mild spray of English Lavender and that's it.
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• United States
24 Jun 09
Hi Mim...I cannot wear perfume, either, for the same reasons your mom cannot. I do love gentle smelling hair products and mild lotions. I think many people are bothered by strong scents. They sting the nose of even those without allergies or asthma! Your lavender scent sounds wonderful, though. Karen
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
yes it does bother me when one wears strong perfume, because i get dizzy and sometimes it makes me want to throw up. there was this one time where i was riding a jeep, and another passenger sat beside me, even though there was wind blowing on my face, i can still smell his perfume and it got me really dizzy, i thought i was gonna puke in the jeep.
• United States
25 Jun 09
Dizziness and nausea, two side effects of someone elses taste in perfumes. Maybe you should have puked in the jeep LOL. Thank you for your input :)) Karen
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
... eeewwwwww...
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
26 Jun 09
Oh, I hate those people that are wearing so heavy strong perfumes. Those are not friendly to the people like me who are allergic to the strong arom it has. I alwasy get headaces with strong perfumes. So I would like to tell them to show some decensy to other people around them.
• United States
24 Jun 09
I suffer from both as you do it is very bad. I have to get me a new pump friday thanks for reminding me.
• United States
24 Jun 09
I use so many meds for asthma to keep it well controlled that it is easy to lose track of what I need to refill. My doctor was kind enough to sell me a nebulizer at a reduced price, since I no longer have health insurance. And yes, remember to get your pump : ))
• United States
25 Jun 09
I have asthma as well, generally a lot of dust and strong scents bother me. I drink a lot of hot non-caffinated tea or even just hot water and that helps. In regards to people wearing strong perfumes/colognes it is just plain disrespectful to others. I once had to leave a restraunt because our waitress had such strong perfume (Jordache)on and would keep coming back to my table. Jasmine or scented candles is another trigger. Anyway try the tea and see if it helps any.
• United States
25 Jun 09
Elite, thank you so much for the suggestions. I will start drinking the tea and hot water instead of so much cold water. I feel for you! The only scented candles that seem not to bother me are "food" scents like vanilla or strawberry. Public sevice people should be advised not to wear perfume. My daughter is a nurse, and they are not allowed to wear any because so many people are sensitive to it. Thank you again for the good suggestions! Karen
@dpk262006 (41760)
• Delhi, India
25 Jun 09
Hi Karen! I think 'excess of everything is bad'. Like-wise wearing strong permufes, deodorants, after-shave lotions and other such things could cause irritation to others. I also feel bad if someone wears heavy perfumes and deodrants. Instead of getting attracted towards such persons, one feels distracted and becomes judgemental about such persons. I donot think if someone is wearing perfume, more people would like to talk to him/her. People use such beauty products in moderation so that others may not feel unnecessarily irritated. Good Post!
• United States
25 Jun 09
Hi Dpk :) Thank you for your wise response. Some people do try to hard to attract attention and it has the opposite effect. As my mom has always said: all things in moderation.
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@dpk262006 (41760)
• Delhi, India
29 Jun 09
Hi Karen! Many thanks Karen for appreciating my response. Your Mom is wise like you or should I say you are wise like you Mom, things if used in moderation make more affect on others.
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
yes, I don't have allergies like you, but due to me smelling someone who have strong perfume made me allergic. It is very irritated from my nostril. I usually separate myself quickly to them before I sneeze louder.
• United States
26 Jun 09
Hi Grecy...I think even when one isn't allergic outright, terribly strong scents offend them, or like burn the nose and cause a lot of sneezing or even headaches. That seem to be very widespread. Thank you for your input :) Karen
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
it bothers me. i get headache and sneeze a lot because of allergy from too strong scented perfumes. thanks for the discussion karen
• United States
26 Jun 09
Hi Ann...this seems to be quite a wide-spread problem, strong scents bothering many. I do know some medical places now have signs warning against it due to the allergic allergies many have to perfumes and such. Karen
@tjburcham (690)
• United States
25 Jun 09
Most of the time it does bother me. Some scents like finger nail polish gives me a headache, others just cause me to sneeze. I don't mind that if my nose has been stuffy for a couple days. But then, stepping out and looking at the sun will cause me to sneeze. It would be nice if people would think about strong oders being offensive to others esp. in closed up places.
• United States
26 Jun 09
Yes, polish and especially polish remover can be very strong. I wish people would be more considerate in closed up places, too, where the scents are even more pungent. Thank you for sharing your input :D Karen
@metschica25 (5411)
• United States
25 Jun 09
Hello, I was guilty of this when I was in High school . Little is so much better than overkill LOL. I just love a light smell that you can only smell if the person is by you. I use waterblossom Ivy and it is a light clean smell kind of like aloe . Moonlight path is another light smell that everyone seems to like , and they never complain of the strong smell. Now yep strong smells do bother the heck of me , because most times it smells bad
• United States
25 Jun 09
Hi Met :) Your perfumes sound lovely and delicate. I think most of us become sensitive to the really strong scents as we grow into adults. It is considerate of you to keep yours subtle and beautiful. Thank you for responding. Karen
@mzj033y (185)
• United States
25 Jun 09
Yes it does bother me. Especially when i'm on the train and when there's no AC. I'll be suffocating with all the mix of perfumes people wear. My sister always puts on perfume, and it's strong too. I always need to cover up my nose. I don't wear perfume because it bothers me too much.
• United States
25 Jun 09
Like you, I cannot wear perfume any more. Closed in places where so many do wear them can feel quite over-powering. My youngest daughter has finally realized that I am serious when I ask her not to wear her pachoulie scent around me. It triggers an asthma attack! Thank you for sharing your views :) Karen