calling a rude child out if it is not yours

United States
July 10, 2009 10:11pm CST
Oh boy today has been one heck of a day.....there is a rude 12 year old girl who lives in our neighborhood, she is snotty and mean to the little kids....well today one of the little kids accidently got kicked in the face, my mother rushes to see if the kid is okay, the 12 year old little girl turns to her and says in a shrill and disrespectful tone "shes fine! shes crying and she is going home!" while having her arms extended like "god! what is your problem?" This just made me angry and I had to call this little brat out, and I said "you do not need to talk to her like that, she is an adult and you do NOT have any right to act that way towards her when she is only concerned about the kid who got kicked in the face". Well of course the little brat ran home to mommy and cried that I had yelled at her, and of course mommy came out and said that if I had any problem with her child, to go to her first. I said that I'm sorry but when I see somebody acting so disrespectfully towards my mother, I'm going to call them out on it, even if they are a child How would you have reacted to a well know brat talking to an adult the way that the 12 year old girl spoke to my mother?
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@dreamr802 (987)
• United States
11 Jul 09
Honestly I probably would've reacted the same way that you did. I would've called the girl out. She is old enough to know that it is rude to speak that way to an adult. Now if she was younger say like 4 or 5 or something like that I would've then talked to the mother.
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• United States
11 Jul 09
I know exactly what you mean, there are a few younger children that come onto our porch, and usually they are as sweet as can be, but if they do something wrong, I tell them in a very kind tone like a teacher that they shouldn't do that and why not, the reason that I don't go to the mother is because the mother doesn't speak English , but in the case of this little girl I got angry and very firm because she is such a brat and there is never any consequence to her, and you are very right that she should know better by now.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
11 Jul 09
Hi In whatsoever condition you should not ill treat a child - might be she is 12 years but she is still a child and the more your are rude with her the more she would go out of hand. they should be rather counseled and should be shown your love and care. You know love conquers all. Hope next time both the child and you would have a nice day.
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• United States
11 Jul 09
What you do not know is that my mother has been very kind and nice to this girl, given her ice cream, listened to her stories, and this girl still proceeded to be disrespectful and rude to someone that had been kind. Do you really think that you should coddle a child after they are disrespectful when they are 12 years old, when they act in a manner that a 7 year old would not act? I thank you for your opinion but don't understand why you think she should be shown love when she is old enough to know better?
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
11 Jul 09
Hmmmmn , I think I have to put a rethought on what I have said. She is 12 and about to be a teen. Might be she has had a bad past or her family tree has something wrong somewhere. If this is her deportment I feel she needs to be shown to a psychiatrist for this is actually not normal for a girl of 12 to to behave like this. I did not think she was this extreme.
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• United States
11 Jul 09
Ok I get what you are saying now, and you could be right, the unfortunate thing is I highly doubt that her mother will ever get her help in that sort of way
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• United States
11 Jul 09
I agree. Some many kids aren't taught respect. And they know that adults are limited to disciplinary action. Obviously, Mom has allowed this little girl to not get awas with being disrespectful. My neighbors know they can call my children out if they are doing anything that is right or that could be of danger to them. Don't let this deter you from future "call outs".
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• United States
11 Jul 09
You are very right, this girl has been rude to my mother more than once, one time she came onto our porch and my mother was right in the middle of doing something and asked the girl to leave and the girl said "no", 12 years old and acted like a 5 year old . I understand and agree with your thinking, especially the fact that the mother lets the girl wander around and doesn't keep an eye on her, so the only adults that could have the situation dealt with was me and my mother, and I wish that her mother could at least appreciate that at least someone was watching her child and what she did.
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@mzz663 (2776)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I would have probably done the same thing and then asked the brat and her mother if they got kicked in the face, how would they feel and what would they do? .....and then I would probably have offered to kick them both in the face if they didn't have an answer. The mother needs to do something to teach her daughter to have a little compassion for the rest of the world and not worry only about herself.
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@peedielyn (1211)
• United States
16 Jul 09
This one hit a bit close to home. My future step-daughter is just like this and she is 10. About 2 weeks ago, my 6 year old hit her face on the metal banister and got a fat lip and bloody nose. Oh Wait, at that moment the mouth was bleeding too. I had all 6 kids outside and the 10 year old came over after she did it and started yelling that she was fine. She then proceeded to throw her 5'6" frame(yes, she is that tall) down on the ground and flailing her arms like a mad woman and screaming "You just love the little ones more than me!! You don't even care that I stepped on a rock at my moms house and hurt my little toe!! I hate you! Biskit is just faking! Biskit is a stupid name for a brat!" Ok, mind you, 1. she's my daughter, 2. she was gushing blood everywhere--and since she's a bleeder--I think that takes precedence over dipsh*t anyday, and 3. GIVE ME A BREAK! Well, I timed her out and then called her dad to tell him what had happened. He said that she was grounded until he got home. She went home that same day and told her mom a big fat story and her mom had the nerve to call and tell me that I was a bad parent because I didn't stop "babying" my 6 year old to see what was wrong with "HER" daughter. Oh, and she got an elbow scrape for "falling" on the ground. Needless to say, I tore into her. I told her that her child was a spoiled brat, with no respect for herself or others and if "mom" was stupid enough to think that I wouldn't put my bleeding child first before the stupid ones who just want attention, then she had another thing coming! To be honest, I think what you did was honest and to the point. If that woman would have respect for herself, her daughter would have more respect for the other children. YOu have that right to protect all the kids in the world if you want it and that is what you did. She had no respect for the elder's in that situation and you told her so. KUDOS love! Great Job! (back in the day, (i am 31), I would have gotten a quick backhand from even the neighbors if I had sassed someone like that. She's lucky this wasn't 20 years ago.
• United States
16 Jul 09
I would have reacted the same way and when her mother came out I would have explained the situation to her. I think that we are to worried about being friends with our kids now days and we dont parent as much as we should. Maybe if enough people tell the mom how here kid is acting then it will open her eyes and she will deal with her child.
@meyows (438)
• India
16 Jul 09
Nowadays children don't show respect to their elders, I can not understand why they be so careless.
@dmrone (751)
• United States
14 Jul 09
Hi! I would have gotten very upset, and i would have called the child out on the way she was being very disrespectful to an adult. The childs parents should teach their child to be respectful of adults. Respect from alot of children seems to be a thing of the past. I try to teach my children to respect their elders, and to treat them with respect. It reflects on the parent how a child behaves, and whether or not the have respect for others.
@suzzy3 (8370)
13 Jul 09
Good for you It is about time we adults stopped putting up with these rude kids,at 12 she should have known better anyway,her mother was secretly pleased you stood up to the girl as she has the same problems indoors and you get in the street.I would not have allowed anyone to talk to my mum like that when she was alive there are lines you just don't cross but this one the girl did.
• United States
11 Jul 09
I would have reacted the same way you did and said the exact same thing. She is 12 she should know right from wrong. Its a wonder to me how I see more n more younger kids with less and less respect for older people. And tend to know more and more at a younger age. It actualy worrys me now and days.
• United States
11 Jul 09
For me I probably would have confronted the little girl then taken her to her mother then told both of them that her behavior is unacceptable. Kids who are brats usually lack discipline. I would have told the mother that she need to tell her daughter that is unacceptable then if she would have told me off or something along the lines of dont tell me how to raise my kid I would be like fine. Then i would tell my kid not to be around her and probably tell the other kids to stop being around that kid until she can get her act straight. I dont mean for them to completely avoid her just maybe show the little girl by taking time away from her that if she doesnt change she wont have any friends.
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I never know what to do about these sort of children. Lots of them live in my apartment complex. If they are rude to me personally, I've called them on it. If they are mean or dangerous to other people especially children, I'll say something depending on the degree of danger I feel is going on.
• India
11 Jul 09
I would have added a smack on the butt. :) As for the stupid mother, I would have told her to go to hell. ;) Frankly, I despise brats and their parents. We have a few in our locality too. They think they have purchased the world for cash. Cheers and happy Mylotting
@Shellyann36 (8558)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I probably would have marched the little brat to her home and given her and her "mother" the whats for right then and there. Honestly children these days can be so obnoxious and their parents are even worse!
• United States
11 Jul 09
Oh yes, I would have done the same thing as well. I remember being 12 and knowing not to treat an adult that way. Yes, there is something wrong somewhere in her life for her to act that way...some of that may have to do with lack of discipline at home or something else going on in the home that probably shouldn't. However, she's almost a teenager and should more than know better. So yeah, I would've called her out on it as well. A 12 year old is a big kid and has to have someone telling them. If she is being allowed to get away with these things at home and such, someone has to tell her. Maybe if enough people call her out on her behavior, that might do her some good. Ahhh...hope I'm making sense there. It's super late and this just happened to catch my eye. lol
• Canada
11 Jul 09
I would have done the exact same thing as you did. I also would have reminded offending brat`s mother that it was not personal, that you would have reacted the same way regardless of who was disrespectful. It seems you already covered that in your explanation, but with people like that, it never hurts to make the same point in two or three different ways, to make sure it all sinks in.