She's going to have a child at age 11..how sad..

@Azaerus (820)
Philippines
July 25, 2009 9:48am CST
My aunt used to work for this family as a house keeper..recently they contacted her and asked if she could work for them again..so my aunt said yes and went to their house the next day..the family asked her to watch after their house and their only daughter..after that,my aunt was in shock of what she had found out..their daughter aged eleven is currently 6 months old pregnant..when my aunt found out about this she asked the parents how could they let this happen to her..and all the parents said was they cannot watch after their daughter every now and then because of their family business that's why it happened..they said that the father of the baby is just a fourteen year old boy..both their daughter and the boy is studying in the school.. After my aunt told me about this ofcourse I felt sad for the baby..I"m thinking what would the future of the baby be??her mother and father to be are both too young to take the responsibility of being parents..it's really sad..:(
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@tcup345 (358)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Those parents are putting business before their child. That poor child, I dread to think of her trying to deliver a baby, I can't imagine that she will be able to have it naturally, her birth canal would be too small to deliver. I feel sorry for a child who has to turn to getting "love" from someone other than her parents and lose her innocence in the process. Eleven is far too young to lose a childhood. This is so sad, those parents need to get their heads out of their *sses and be parents, they've ruined their daughter's life.
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@tcup345 (358)
• United States
27 Jul 09
You're right, the blame game is counter productive, but it is time for the parents to step up and BE parents. A child needs responsible parents and an 11 year old child and a 14 year old boyfriend are not equipped, in any way, to be parents. The girl's parents dropped the ball with her, I can't help but be concerned for the grandchild, and the girl.
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
They should've given their daughter more attention but I think the daughter had also made a mistake in someway..I think that everybody is at all but for now blaming is not the answer,instead they should face the reality and make sure that what happened to their daughter won't happen to their grandchild anymore..
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@lin62l (5)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Why aren't they putting the baby up for adoption?
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I guess adoption is one option that they have..the parents of the girl can adopt the child in that way can provide the needs of the baby and start over again in acting like a real responsible parents..
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@bnaufal (31)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 09
oh my..., is this real. i cant imagine that. 11 year and 14 years old. take care a baby. they still study. where they will get money for their baby. i'm sure it's not too long until they separated. and the girl will be depressed
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
It seems that money isn't a problem here because the girl belongs to a wealthy family I'm sure her parents will provide everything that the baby needs..and about the boy I don't really know that much about the boy..
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• Brunei Darussalam
26 Jul 09
I guess the little lady had just her one or twice menses since she was only like 11. Oh my GOD. Touch wood...Its really frightening me. I have two princess 10 and 11 Years. I know its not easy to raise them with responsible knowing the economic crisis right now seems to be obstacle for a sharp relationship between mom and daugther. How come the parent of that 11 years old can handle such situation with relaxss..I know its unfair to judge them without analysing the reality. I am hoping that young girl will deliver her baby safely. So now, bottom line. We as a parent is necessary to be strict to our child no matter what and reason. We should not allows them to party, hang out at the shopping complex, sleeping at their friend house. I would chose these rather than sportive. How would you ?
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I still don't know how to handle things with children...maybe because I don't have kids yet and that would be ages before that happens..I'm still not that stable with my income and I'm not yet ready to have a child.. But when the time comes that I am going to have kids,I'll make sure that I taught them right..Oh I won't be strict but I will educate them about the realities going on and about life..I won't take it if anything like this happens to them..
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• Philippines
26 Jul 09
This is indeed sad news since the mother of the baby is too young to understand what will be her responsibilities. I think parents should be at fault since they were not able to attend to their young daughter due to their family business. They were not able to give quality time to their daughter, maybe that was the reason why she made that mistake.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
They were the ones who brought this situation in their daughters life,but I guess both parties are at fault..
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@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
It is really worrying . This couple is really to young to have the first baby. So do they get married? Maybe the parents of the two young children need a lot to care and help them up. Raising and take care a baby is not easy. More over the baby's parents are still teenage. Hope the family and your aunt give full support the the couples.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I'm pretty sure that they'll get my aunt to help the because they trust my aunt and have known her for ages..about the marriage,they're too young for that but they have an option of having an arrange marriage when they're in their right age already..
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• India
25 Jul 09
This really is very sad indeed…a child of 11 is too young to understand the implications of various changes in her body. Maybe by the time the parents found out, it was too late for abortion or maybe they are too religious minded…in any case, I would have gone for abortion if possible, rather than risk the future of the baby and the parents. I would not be surprised if the parents separate in a few years and then who would take care of the baby when the parents are still in school!
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Oh boy an abortion...that's another problem to face I guess..if they have gone for abortion,don't you think it will affect the child's way of thinking,her emotions??maybe it would even cause her trauma..I guess abortion is not a very good option in that case..
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
The childs cannot go to an abortion because she is simply too young and her body is to weak for that...I'm pretty sure she'll be facing a bigger problem if she has undergone an abortion..
• United States
26 Jul 09
Abortion is not the answer, she is so young and it causes problems in adults let alone a child.
• United States
25 Jul 09
That is very sad. I just hope childbirth doesn't kill the girl. At age 11 her body is most likely not developed enough to pull it off. I realize that parents cannot watch their children every minute of the day, but man, that is some sad reality for the child.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Aww..I sure do hope her body can manage everything..she's too young and she shouldn't be pregnant her life really have gone to waste..:(
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Maybe I should read the article myself to better understand what it says..:)
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
I am having that problem now. My daughter is 14 years old and is now 7 months pregnant. I have put her in a boarding school which is under the strict supervision of the nuns and it so happen that she came home during the school holidays when I was not at home. According to her she was raped by the neighbor's kid but did not inform me of the incident until her pregnancy was detected by the matron of the hostel and send back home. This came as a real shock to me but I have no choice but to accept it. Now I am just waiting for the delivery date and decide to give the baby for adoption as I am in no position to be a mother again at this age. She needs to go back to school. I have found a childless couple who is really eager to have the baby.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Hi Sid, I am doubtful of what she claimed. My daughter has a weird character that is totally different from any of my family members (she is adopted). That is the reason I put her in the convent so she can learn some religious matters. I am more worried about her condition than she is. She is unperturbed by her growing tummy and still play with kids in the neighborhood. Compared to sons, we need to double our control over daughters. I just can't take things for granted now and I have another younger daughter, also adopted and I sometimes have many sleepless nights thinking of how to avoid history repeating.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Hi Zandi, so sorry to hear you are dealing with this. I have a 15 yr old and I'm telling you, it is a fear. Do you believe she was raped? Does she know who the kid was? That is so sad. My heart goes out to all of you.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Hi zandi,sorry to hear about your daughter..if she said so that she's been raped..haven't you thought of suing that person who raped her?I mean you can't just let that guy go with the crime he did,right??I'm really sorry for what happened to her...
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
26 Jul 09
It is very sad and young girls are being forced to grow up at a very early age. It is so easy for young people to get caught up in the moment and not think about what the future will be like. Grown people do the same thing, but at least they have the resources to take care of the consequences of their behaviors, where young people affect other people around them and the "grandparents" are often the ones who are affected as much or sometimes even more, if they let it happen that way. My grand daughter and I watched a program just the other day called "Sixteen and Pregnant". She is thirteen. I asked her what she thought. And she said that she is not even thinking about having any babies before she is grown. She was born when her mother was 17 and is now caring for her younger sisters who are 1 and 2 and a half and many times when she is out, it is thought that they are her babies. She has also said that she is not having any children, so maybe her mother's lesson has been taught to her.
• United States
27 Jul 09
Thank you, yes. She is very bright, and wants to make something of her life. Part of her goal is to be a model. She has done some but stopped for her schooling and athletics. I love that she and I are so close and I've gotten so I call myself her "driver"!!
• United States
27 Jul 09
Thanks so much for the best response!! It is appreciated!
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I think that you're garnd daughter don't want to end up like her mother who beared a child at an early age..she has realized whats wrong from right and I salute her for that..it's good to know that you and your grand daughter have such a close relationship..
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@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
i guess the parents both deserve the humiliation and being tagged as forever failures because of stupidity. family business over watching over their daughter? come on! everything we get in this world has 90% of it happening because we have a hand on it.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
The parents acted irresponsible and the kids acted way out of hand..and the outcome is this..
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• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I just can't imagine the little girl pregnant, she's just a kid, and only daughter at that. I will not blame the parents if the girl is 16 years old or more, because that's the rebellious age where they do what they want to do, but 11 years old? that's irresponsibility for the parents.
@jinyan69 (124)
• China
26 Jul 09
i feel it is very terrible?i think her parents must be responsible for her?although their business is important ,but their child is most important in their life ,they must cherish her?
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• India
26 Jul 09
i am really very about the child ( yet to arrive ) the small mother and the small father , they are too young and not an adult too to take any sort of decissions..but what will happen god knows ...
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Who knows the parents of the girl finally decided to take part on their daughters life and take the responsibiity that lies ahead..
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
28 Jul 09
This reminded me of when I was pregnant with my first child at the age of 17. I was packed off to a home for unmarried mothers. There was a young girl there...she was 13 but very immature and tiny. Her home situation was terrible...it was not known if the father of her child was her brother or her father. She had no idea what was happening to her. This little girl and her baby were both made state wards following the birth I believe.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
28 Jul 09
Unfortunately while ever we have such low standards and values in this world we are not going to stop these sort of things occurring any time soon.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Oh my that is so sad..I feel very bad for that girlas I feel bad for the girl I mentioned in the situation..I can't help but wonder why this kind of things happen in our lives..ofcourse,we shouldn't blame anybody because what's done is done..and the only thing we can do is to prevent the same thing to happen with the baby in the future..
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• United States
26 Jul 09
That is sad. I just met a 12 year old, that is not even as responsible as someone half her age, and expects everything to be done for her. She is in a bad family home, and i just can't imagine an 11 year old, having a baby.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I guess it's not that bad family home that she's in,I guess the parents are just not that responsible enough to be there and to be open to their daughter..
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
Really! 11 year old girl got pregnant?! Shock!!! How could that be man! My first time to hear that. I mean the youngest I ever heard. It is really sad my friend. Got me worried about the future of the mother and the child... No. I could not hardly imagine that. I could not comment it as of this time. I would have to think it yet what might be the best way to suggest...
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
From what I know the girl had an early puberty and already had her first period in her early age of eleven..pretty sad though that with this early puberty also comes the early pregnancy..
@happy6162 (3001)
• United States
26 Jul 09
it is sad to hear that an eleven year old is pregnant and all her parents could say was that they could not watch her because of their business. i hope everything works out for this young girl and they have someone old enough to take care of the baby after it is born. the eleven year old girl is just a child herself and will need lots of help after the baby is born. the father is only fourteen and will not know what to do without help from someone older. are the boys parents or the girls parents going to take care of the baby?
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
I think that the girls parents will take the responsibility of taking care of the baby..or who knows they'll still do the same and just find someone to take care of the baby..my aunt probably..
@jaizhi (260)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Your right it is sad. This current generations of children right now are just totally extreme. They get pregnant as soon as they can, they do *ual stuff without knowing the consequences. I feel sad not only for the baby but also for the young girl. The parents should just adopt the baby becuase it is impossible for an 11yr old kid to perform duties of a mom at her age nor would be her 14 year old boyfriend. It would be best that way atleast the baby would be free from being talk of the town and also the baby will be able to have a parents figure to really look up to. As for the parents they should not just wash their hands like that, mom should always be the right person to **x with the girls and dad for the young boys. Who do they expect to teach that to their kids? teacher... worse it was taught by her boyfriend and now here is the outcome.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
That is one option that I think is the best for the parents to do..their daughter won't manage being a mother because she is still young..others mentioned having the baby aborted but I think that won't be a good move to do in this situation..
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Wow, I was twice the girls age when my daughter was born, and having her was quite a shock to me and to the way that I was living. I couldn't begin to imagine what it would have been like to have had a baby when I was still playing with Barbie Dolls and playing in youth league sports. Those children are not even old enough to begin to embrace the role of parenting in this society. Is the mother honestly going to keep the baby and raise it herself. Honestly. . . If the family doesn't want the child to go through a formal adoption, then the grandparents of the baby need to step up and raise the new baby with more care and attention than they've raised the babies mother.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
It is sad reality that teenagers is into early pregnancies. It is also the common problem here I think the parents also needs to guide and look after what there children doing. My mother used to tells us not to confused and tried prohibited things because in the end we going to suffer and we going to regret the consequences of it in the end. Parents duty is to guide and reprimand their children if they are commited a mistake it should not be tolerated. They need to find time to watch their children because some of them fall into the wrong direction.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
You're mother is an example of a good mother..she knows her duties to her children..she makes sure she spends time with her kids..to talk to them about stuff..I sure do hope all parents are like that but unfortunately we have to accept that not all parents are responsible enough..
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@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
That would be a good advice for them if only I personally knew the family..but the way I see it,the parents of the girl will do their best to raise her and take of her while their daughter continues with her study..they better do that,because they're also the ones to blame why this situation happened to their daughter..