Should us oldies really just disappear and die?

@Hatley (157433)
Garden Grove, California
August 11, 2009 12:23pm CST
I am angry and teed off and an oldie,and well I am just not going to take it anymore. my question Is it a bad thing to be an oldie here in mylot and should we just disappear and die as one,I suppose, young lady,I use that term loosely, said in her response. What is wrong with a society that thinks if you are old you need to disappear and die? I am I admit really really teed off.NOwhere in mylot rules does it say that older people are not wanted here nor does it say this is only for people of a certain age . Why then this kind of thinking?
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@babyangie27 (5178)
• United States
11 Aug 09
For me I love the company of someone older. Especially here on mylot. You posses a wisdom us younger folks don't have. I don't know why anyone would say something like that to you or even think it. I was raised to respect and learn from my elders and I have passed that onto my children.
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
I was also raised to respect my elders and my parents as they respected me.I guess times do change and now a lot of kids dont even respect their parents and sadly their parents dont respect them either.
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@ajithlal (14564)
• India
6 May 12
I also love the company of old people. The good thing is the old people are very mature and they able to understand people very much and they have more love and care. I think most people do like and respect elders in their life.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
7 May 12
hi ajithlal we meet again,lolThank you for the kind words., this is really an old discussion., but its good to see it come to life again and m ybe someone else will like to read it too. Most people in other countries like and respect their elders but her in the Us a lot of people act like our old age will rub off on them. lol.
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@fwidman (11519)
• United States
11 Aug 09
I've gotten that kind of thinking on other sites besides mylot. I have no idea what these young folks are thinking. Perhaps they think they own the internet Too bad, sometimes, that we do not know these people in real life. We could call their parents and tell them their child thinks they should not be allowed on the computer because they are old and should just fade away and die somewhere. Wonder how long the youngster would be on a computer? Don't let them get to you. Just remember, one day they will be our age and someone will be telling them the same thing
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi fwidman still love those legs and shoes he he guess these kids think they will be forever young and boy do I have news for them. one day arthritis will hit and theyll be the first to whine about it.
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@fwidman (11519)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Yes, they certainly will whine! They think they are invincible. Boy oh boy are they in for some surprises down the road
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
someone said that to you? NO ONE and NOBODY has the right to say that to anybody here in mylot. if she or he does not want to response on any of your discussion then just DONT. i hate people who give their views in a sarcastic way. some youngster think they are cool of they do that. stay here hatley there are a lot of people who loves you and dont mind those arrogant people who just think they are cool.
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• Philippines
12 Aug 09
Hey, you're in my mylot promotion video. you should at least check it.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi it was said to all oldies and I think now she really regrets it which shows her ignorance as 'there are a lotof older people here.she apologized and said she had a right to be here too, well' sugar plum so do we oldies have a right to be here also and we will claim that right.
@p1kef1sh (45647)
11 Aug 09
Hopefully we will all be old one day. We ought to be preparing ourselves for it by ensuring that the elderly now live in a way that we would like to live in the future. Anyone that writes off the elderly demonstrates a naivety and lack of foresight that just beggars belief. I am afraid that for many younger people they are unable to associate with being older. They will one day though!
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@mysdianait (63977)
• Italy
12 Aug 09
If they make it that far they will. I begin to have my doubts as they all seem to need a 'push'
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
I hear you all .yep a lot of youngsters think they will be forever young. but wait until the first time they get that knife like twinge in a knee and are told they have arthritis.they will whine hey Im not that old.
@thea09 (18329)
• Greece
11 Aug 09
Hello again Hatley, now there's no point at all in getting yourself angry about some obviously ignorant youngster who would be probably better off going and joining a forum for other teen agers. If you don't mind talking with us younger ones then why on earth should we have a problem talking to you. In my area the youngsters are brought up to have respect for their elders and there is nothing unusual in seeing two non family members, young and old, sitting conversing over a coffee togther, teenager and wiser older man not excepted from this.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi thea you know I just realized a lot of times I dont' check the ages of people I respond to. some of their discussions seem so mature, then just for fun I check the name and it turns out to be a boy of 19,but we visited back and forth and seemed to enjoy each others comments. you just never know and again I have responded to others much closer my age. I never have worried about ages in here, just enjoyed all our diversities.
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
11 Aug 09
Hi Hatley, Please don't be upset! That disgusting comment was made by a very nasty and rude young girl who is totally disrespectful to everyone! She has no respect for anyone of any age, especially for herself and was dealt with accordingly on two separate discussions and probably still hasn't learned to keep her big stupid mouth shut yet! If she is stupid enough to stick around here, she will continue to get what she deserves! There are people of all ages here and mylot does not discrimate as to age limit except I believe that you must be over the age of 16, but even that I'm not sure about! It is very unfortunate that in this day and age that younger people do not have respect for us older folks! I deal with it all the time when I take the bus or am in a store. They don't think twice about trying to knock me down to get on the bus ahead of me! Children today have no respect, no like we were brought up, that's for sure! I have bad knees and a bad ankle and would still give up my seat for someone less able or older than I am and I am no youngster myself!
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi opal I have had similar things happen to me whie riding the bus. I stood up as there weren't any sits left and hung onto the overhead strap. an old negro man looked up at me, and got to his crippled legs and said softly,here maam. take my seat,you shouldnt have to stand. the younger ones just stared at us and smirked to each other. yuck that guy was older than me.
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@silvercoin (2102)
• Lithuania
11 Aug 09
Who said that?I'm going to spank these kids.This time I'll do it in public.Mylot community is the richest and the largest internet community which has no age limits and it never will.Someone has to grow up.Don't take anything personally.Remember that even Mother Theresa had to hear offensive words in her life.You can be saint and someone can come along and say something bad about your age,race,nationality,weight,job,habits.Relax,enjoy the life.And don't look back.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi silver and muscles you have given me the first laugh of the day. and made me remember back in' college I was taking building pyramids as my physical ed, and was asked to do the forward roll okay so I clumsily roll forward then the world goes roung and round and I am sick to my tummy,at age 20,and cannot do another forward roll or even a somersault.the gym'teacher was teed off but I went to the university doctor and told him. he said some people cannot do that gym set up as rolling forward and doing somersaults paralyzes their diaphram, and stops them from breathing properly. he wrote a medical note excusing me from that gym class for medical reasons.the big reason why I love mylot is all our diversity in ages races and everything.
@malpoa (1218)
• India
11 Aug 09
It is sad to hear that. i was instantly reminded of my grandmother who might have something similar to say if she ever opens up...but ma'm i think it is very rude of anyone to say anyhting to someone who happens to b a little older than he/she is.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
she made a big error of putting down oldies as there are'a lot of us here and if we started after her with our canes oh heaven help her. respect is something we all here should'have for each other no matter what our ages.
@malpoa (1218)
• India
18 Aug 09
That is true about respecting others irrespective of their age. Give respect and take respect, that is what I was taught by my parents and elders. We were even taught that when an elder enters room and the youngsters are sitting it is expected of them to stand up as respect. I wonder how she could expect respect from anyone else when she isn't giving any to others.
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Aug 09
hi malpoa I guessits all in the way we were'' raised. I know my parents stressed being respectful' to older people and I had my dear grandpa to Act as' a real role model for me too. I was very close' to him and he was so special to me.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
12 Aug 09
Hi Hatley. As an oldie myself, I've not run into this yet, but if/when I do, I will simply chalk it up to someone else's ignorance and intolerance. I have a great time here and have learned so much and met many wonderful people of all ages. If possible, just "blow it off," and continue to do what YOU enjoy :)) Karen
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi peaceful this has just made me more determined 'to stay right here and enjoy mylotting just as much as ever. I love all the variety of people, the different cultures, the different jobs and religious points of view.
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• United States
18 Aug 09
Good for you, Hatley. That makes me so happy to hear. You have a wonderful spirit! Karen
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Aug 09
yes I am now stubborn,I will not leave or dry up'and do not intend to die just to please this p erson at all.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
11 Aug 09
No Hatley, we should not disappear and die. Many of us here are older. You were so very missed by so many when you were gone. I can't believe that someone would have the nerve to say that. Did she say it to you? It takes a certain level of ignorance to say something that disrespectful and shallow to anyone. I think it is great that we have people of all ages on here and from all over.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
no not to me personally but to all oldies,she thought I guess that we were just nusiances.she was teed off about something later she apologized but said I have a right to be here too, well cookie so do we oldies have a right to be here too.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
19 Aug 09
we were here before her and we will continue to be here....we do have a right to be here. I would not be run off by some little girl that doesn't know anything.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Aug 09
hisid nope not running off because of a young one.just makes'me want to do more and mylot a lot more. sort of a challenge'as 'like she said,I too have a right to be here. my computer was'just making weird noises but it quit so no more weird noise but as'long as its working I will not worry. sorry bout that. no I like the'idea that we are from all over as we can learn and enjoy our differences
@neildc (17268)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
12 Aug 09
Kids are a lot more different nowadays. In real life, not only in the internet, they become more disrespectful to elders. When I was new here, I thought I would become more knowledgeable than others. But until now, I found out that I still have to learn alot. And I found it from the vets.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi neildc we can aLways leaRn more as my physical therapist said you can always do more than you think you can. and I found out I could as far as physical therapy was concerned/ I learn something new here almost every day and I do 'enjoy mylotting so much.
@mysdianait (63977)
• Italy
12 Aug 09
Sadly a lot of the youngsters who join here are astonished to find a lot of 'older' users. Just like offline there is no respect for them nowadays Then there are many who after a while get to know us and realise that we can have as much, if not more, fun than they do and they join in. One bad apple doesn't spoil the crop and if we allow for the fact that she just might have got out of bed on the wrong foot before she said it then I'll give the benefit of the doubt. Never again though as it is definately lacking in any form of respect whatsoever. I am not going anywhere so like it or lump it!
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi mysdianait me too, I wou ld not give her the pleasure of leaving or of dying as I intend to mylot and to have'fun for as long as possible. mylot is so diverse it is' really a learning experience to be on here. I do think she might possibly have been having some serious mental issues. anyway I am not going anywhere so dearheart take it or leave it 'I dont really care.
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
12 Aug 09
That is a very rude, insensitive remark from an obviously ignorant mind. I cannot for the life of me imagine someone saying that, it's the height of disrespect, I wonder how her parents would have felt if those very same words were directed to them? I've been at myLOt for not very long and I'm amazed at the age range this site caters to. I am even more amazed that people older than my mother knows myLot and actively participates here (I had a discussion about my mother being a technophobic and has not touched a computer because as she says, she's too old for that, she's in her late 60s). You Hatley, are an inspiration to those who think they have no place here. The wide wide web is so vast it has a place for everyone, and no one has the right to say that this is only for the young. You and the likes of you represent your generation which has contributed to the rich information myLot has amassed that members have benefited from. I hope this girl realizes her mistake and take back what she said. That's the least she can do.
@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
yes it was rude and very insensitive and much like some others I heard once in a doctors office, 'shes so old why does she bother coming in here just for a cold, at her age shell likely die before' the cold is over. I heard then this old lady was all of 65, of course the office girl looked to be about 19 so I guess in her biased mind , if she has one, 65' was o o oll d d . old.We are all ages here,all races,all sorts of careers and that is what makes mylot so great.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
12 Aug 09
I love this site because of the older person who may have a better insight to certain things. I did't have grandparents while growing up and I missed that in my life. I also love that it consist of all different types of people from all walks of life from the States to different countries. Its for all people of all ages, sizes, races, religions. This is what makes its the best site ever. Please don't be angry just ignore the comment. Take care!
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
I am cooled off and just considered the source. yes mylot is great just because we are all ages, all races and each of us brings something unique to my lot so we can all learn from each other. that make mylot' really great.
• United States
11 Aug 09
I am a newbie here at mylot but having attained 57 this past 8/2 I understand. For me its a simple solution..If the young 'lady' doesn't care for the company she keeps here then she needs seek other company elsewhere. I haven't gotten to this point in life by backing off every time someone shakes a fist at me..be it literally or figuratively. I'd not do it now..and as it is that when I was invited to join mylot my age was not an issue, I assume that 2 weeks later it remains so. As for why this kind of thinking please keep in mind that is so much easier for a coward to throw stones in a venue such as this than to do so face to face. Don't let her get you down. Instead, show her why you're here... ENJOY!
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@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
11 Aug 09
Hi hatley... hey hey.. dont' say that please... My grammy is like this too, always talk about she is going to leave or soon or she doesn't feel like anything anymore... but remember you are still surviving, having a good time with stuff, why don't you just live happily, enjoying what you are having until anytime...
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi mermaidivy i really love your discussions and yep I am going to stay right here and keep mylotting I am still very much alive and kicking as my grandpa used to say and intend to keep right on doing what I like mylotting.
@AmbiePam (45698)
• United States
11 Aug 09
Whomever the nut job is that said that cannot be classified as relevant or human. So whatever she said is void.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
ambie right null And void, along with whatever else she may have said. One was I have a right to be here and my remark to her once is and so do all us old farts, we have a right to be here to sister.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 09
Hi Hatley, you are not only a senior member here but also one of my most respected senior citizen that has so much life experience to share with us. I know how hurt you are when you read such unkind remarks that is so belittling particularly to senior citizens. I am happy to have you as my friend. You have proven yourself that age is no barrier to actively participate in mylot and mylot is such a nice place to interact with people of all ages. Nobody has the right to condemn anyone to disappear and die as this is a site for all ages. Let us continue to be active here and forget what has been said. There are people with no right thinking mind and no respect for the oldies. They are liken to an alien from outer space who do not know how to behave well and do no know how to act like a real human being. So forget about this person and this is an isolated case.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi zandi nope I am not going to be driven away by a kid with a sharp tongue. I like mylot just to much for that. a lot of us oldies are just as alert and lively as much younger people and we live healthier and longer now days too. We just need to respect each other
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
11 Aug 09
i think we have a right to be here as much as anyone else. i am not the youngest but i dont really care what others think of me really. but society seems to be focused on the young and since people are living longer than ever before, there are a lot of older people around and in here.
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 09
hi cher yes indeed we do have aright to be here and a right to be proud of our ages too. OUr society needs to see past youth and good looks and recognize whats inside all of us. after all even our president is not gorgeous,he has big ears and so what.
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
No, it's just a very sensitive remark by one of my friends that she made last night. I went to her house today because i couldn't call her, that made me worried. She's still sleeping but i saw tears on her eyes, i think she cried all night, because probably what happened to her. This is what really happened to her before she started this cranky sparky thing. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2100899.aspx and I was almost worried too.when she made this discussion that i went to her house.. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2100902.aspx I actually hug and kissed her before i left the house...she smiled a bitwhile her eyes are still closed.. she didn't to say it, so there's need to bang it against her. I think the trolls and other truly misguided should be the ones to fade a way
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• Philippines
12 Aug 09
"she didn't to say it" I mean she really didn't mean to say it personally.... hope you understand what she'd gone through....
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• Philippines
18 Aug 09
nah, she just didn't know know what she was really saying at that time. just poking something and doesn't care where it leads to, even though she pointing on a group. just forget it and move on, she learned her lesson already..
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@Hatley (157433)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Aug 09
hi letranknight yesits time to forget and move on.'just're remembered something Ihad heard a song Let it be, I didnt'know it was an old beatles song but the words speaking words of' wisdom , let it be ,let it be ,and this is one case of wisdom of letting it be.