Intimacy in Public

@Qaeyious (2362)
United States
August 27, 2009 10:43pm CST
This past week I saw a few couples with each others tongues in their mouths. A couple were probably in their twenties; I just looked away since most likely they just didn't learn self-restraint by now. Then I saw on separate occasions, one in their thirties, and another that had to be at least forty. Surely by then one would know how to behave in public. Holding hands, a light peck, even on the lips, that is acceptable. But slurping each others' saliva for minutes on end? Or have the rules been changed now? What is acceptable in your own country?
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18 responses
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
Hi and smile. Holding hands, looking at each other, smiling, hugging, and just smack kiss is nice especially when the two have already legal papers to do such things like that, what i mean is if they are already married. I have nothing against about sweet people like that but its better if they find a private room. But for me i always want to be sweet to my hubby no matter how many people are there in one place. Just kiss and hug and holding hands though. Its good. Happy mylotting and smile always!
@taztheone (1726)
• India
28 Aug 09
I agree that holding hands or even a slight touch of lips can be acceptable, however a long french kiss, even when they are aware that people are watching, cannot be acceptable. If its a lovers zone or an isolated area & if we happen to walk by, then we can Ignore for the time being. I am really against high affections in Public
@gary1125 (174)
• Australia
28 Aug 09
I think you've used the exactly correct words to describe those lovers who dont act their age. Or, even a teenager should know what should do and not do in public. It's surely not acceptable, or they just want to share their romance with us, I don't understand
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@Hatley (164484)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Aug 09
all I can say is yuck.go home or get a hotel room,we dont need to watch you. I hAte it when people do that or even grab each other and hold together so tight you dont need'a whole lot of imagination to figure out what is going on. his hands down'inside her jeans, and so on.yuck again. some things should be done'in private in your own home.
@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
10 Sep 09
I think it depends on the circumstances. If the couple is in the grocery store.. chill out! If they're at an airport or bus station, I'd be really willing to forgive them. After all I don't know their circumstances -- perhaps they're parting for an extended period of time or are in a long distance relationship? My ex boyfriend has been spotted out with his new girlfriend doing those sorts of things -- liplocks standing in line at the movie theatre, hands in each other's pockets, basically acting like a couple of teenagers. I'm not really a PDA person myself, but when I saw a guy I really liked last weekend, I couldn't help but to give him a great big kiss on the streetcorner as we said goodbye. After all, we're seperated by 600 kms, and who knows when we'll see each other again?
@Qaeyious (2362)
• United States
10 Sep 09
Good point. I think I have been getting too judgmental in my old age anyway. You have my permission.
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• United States
28 Aug 09
In our country, public display of affection is not practiced by many. People are conservative especially the old folks. If we see a couple who'd be kissing in public, they can be the talk of the town.
• United States
28 Aug 09
I looked at your profile. What part of the US are you in? I ask only because it sounds like a very conservative area, I may want to move there.
@prinzcy (5057)
• Malaysia
28 Aug 09
I agree, they should have more self-restraint. I know they're in their own world and there's too much of their love in the air but they should realized, they're not the only two persons in the world. There's other people and the people saw them. Even if they don't care, they should learn to behave. Like you said, holding hands, a light peck is fine but not french kiss.
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
Yes I agree here in the Philippines we are still conservative when in comes in public displaying of affection. They should not do that in the public they need to learn to have a self control. It is not good to look at, smack kissing or holding hands or hugging are acceptable but showing intimacy in the public is unappropriate. We also encountered a couple kissing in the middle of the street my classmates saw it and they told it to us. It seems that they don't mind other people watching them.
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
29 Aug 09
Hi Queyious, I actually saw a very similar "display" when I visited some relatives in Los Angeles, CA. I was at Downtown LA and I saw two couples doing it right there on the sidewalk, in broad daylight and within sight of everyone waiting for the next bus. I was a bit shocked because that was definitely NOT a regular sight in my country. My friend who was with me told me that it's normal there, and my reaction was the one that was abnormal. But I was quite sure that some of those who were from there frown at the sight as well. Reading the responses here, it's good to know that even those in the younger generation (in their 20s) agree that these acts are unacceptable in public. It just proves that the rules haven't changed, but maybe over time some have become more open or tolerant of some deviations from what is perceived as "acceptable". The view on whether this is okay or definitely a No-No varies from region to region, country to country or even city to city.
@roberten (3131)
• United States
29 Aug 09
We are in the days of anything goes. It is not pleasant to watch as couples get busy in front of you in a very public place. The rules of behavior have not changed but the mindset of the people has. Couples come in at night to get a room at our hotel and they are doing everything you can imagine right in front of us...Ooo, nasty! I just don't want to see this because it is a lot too much information for me. I miss the days when people were more modest. Guys, you look desperate; women, you look easy, ooooOO-nasty!
• United States
28 Aug 09
It depends on the couple and the city. In New York , you could see a boy -girl couple necking and in some parts of the city boy-boy or girl-girl holding hands .Where I live,Northern Virginia,I only see hugs and holding hands . I haven't seen a gay couple yet but I would love to.I think the rule that you only hold hands in public has gone in some places.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
28 Aug 09
Well, its not what we might like to see but people do this kind of thing in the emotional fever of the moment and we must respect their feelings. After all, when some of us break down in public and give out a flood of tears or grab each other and give a bear hug exactly how different is that ? Kissing is not obscene and a heavy kiss might just mean a heavy momnent.
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
I was born and grew up in a country that being conservative is part of our culture. But due to Western part's influence, there have been changes adopted. But as a personal point of view, being intimate to your partner publicly is acceptable (e.g. holding hands, smacking, kiss on the cheeks), but with limitation and that is not much revealing. Doing french kisses or kissing with exchanging of saliva, plus petting is a very big NO, NO. The people doing this just isn't just losing their decency but as well as their dignity and respect for themselves. On the other hand, I understand that being inlove sometimes because of much love, we forget things even how old are we. But we must also remember that when you love someone, respect should always be there. Just a piece of advise, before going on date, be sure to pray that temptations will be driven away. Remember, our bodies is the temple of God. Godbless!
@marctiu (830)
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
Well, here in my country the Philippines. I'm proud to say that you can't see people like that. People here are not that intimate....Its really nice to see people so decent and not doing anything in public place. It's not moral or right to do those things in public places. I really don't have the ideas on the rule but all I can say is that it is a trend nowadays. For me its really unacceptable, and I think my country won't accept that kind of behavior...
• China
28 Aug 09
Holding hands,I think.
@bziebarth (228)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I would completely agree with you. The rules have not changed. This should still be unacceptable behavior. However, our society has changed and is still changing. Words like modesty, self restraint, etc. are no longer placed in high regard. They are being replaced by the politically correct version of tolerance. Tolerance of anything and anyone, no matter what they do. This type of tolerance is creating a society without any morality. Sorry, I got slightly on my soapbox.
@sreeka (2)
• Netherlands
28 Aug 09
The country from where i am coming from, such people can get beaten up for being so "passionate" in public. (By ofcourse some jobless jealous idiots). I strongly oppose such acts of vilonce against so called 'love birds' and personally i feel it is a matter that should be left to people themselves. If they are comfortable who can stop them? How can a third person say how someone should behave with their partner in public? Its a matter of personal comfort and the culture in which someone is brought up...
• United Kingdom
28 Aug 09
I tend to notice a lot of that from time to time and I must admit it's quite embarrassing to watch! I guess they couldn't care less about what others think, a good attitude in the right context but this is definitely not the right context! I guess this is a part of life now but I sure wish that there were stronger rules regarding this. Andrew
@Puneet097 (121)
• India
28 Aug 09
it is not allowed in our country as i live in india and it is ragarded vulgarism and severe punishment can be enforced upon so there are no such scenes created. ya people often do in parks or some private places