Ever being scolded by another adult? Confronting!

How dare she scold you like that Paula! You are no mind reader and you do not know astrology to predict what another person would do.This is horrible! I normally react like this later, fret, fume and seethe and allow such boorishness to spoil my day.But I have learnt one thing---this is a recent development-only if we allow people to talk like that they go on and on[moreso when we get tonguetied and are too polite to give them a piece of our mind].I was and am still a bit of a meek person and that is why I don't like confrontations.But this does not pay us Paula, and it only brings us hurt in the process. No one dare talk like that to my husband. Change today--about what you have written in the last sentence--there is no need for guilt because as I said initially you were not aware.Secondly, it serves that rude woman right that you had by mistake taken her intended spot.Give back aggressive people the moment they start by using a louder voice than what they do.THere is a statement in our language that a barking dog chases the person who runs but the moment the person stands and stares at the dog it stops barking. I try doing this but aggression does not come naturally to me.THe watchman in my compund spoke very rudely to me twice because I could understand understand his blessed language and the third time he started saying something aggressive I just gave him a piece of my mind [with a stern face] in my broken Hindi. I am very happpy thta thta woman was put to at least thta sort of trouble.Serves rude people right!

Ya...I've had it happen and I hate it....just hate it. I worked for a women that always scolded me as if I were a child and about the most ridiculous things. I really needed the job and so I stuck it out and dealt with it. After a while it didn't bother me much at all. There is no need to talk to another person in such a degrading way. It says so much about the person. I'm sorry this person ruined your day. She was just being a jerk. I've had people cut off my parking spot many times and sure it is frustrating but that's life. They got there first. I don't assume that they saw me and did it deliberate. For all I know they could have been driving around looking much longer than I was. It's just a parking spot.

hi paula wow that woman was something else. I would have'hated that as we seldom get scolded like that by another adult. I'bet she'had a very short fuse, and a whole lot of gall. I had an incident that upset me here at the retirement center.a white haired elderly woman pushing her wheel chair came up to me and said her usual have a good day, then a few minutes later when we were standing'in line waiting our turn for evening snacks, I turned A bit to let a care taker go into the office.in doing so I bumped my cane into her'wheel chair but it was just a gentle bump.she rounded on me and screamed, dont you look where you are going,you could hurt somebody blah blah blah. screaming and in my face.so I said softly, maan you should learn to control that temper.that could cause you to have a stroke. she kept right on screaming at me. I think that woman is a mental case for sure.

Made me feel bad, of course. What's so annoying about this is that she just wrongly assumed you had bad intentions and then didn't even give you a chance to explain or make it right. It's probably the unjustness of the accusation more than anything that feels bad about it.

I remember once I was talking with my mother and she was insisting that I finally take the dress I was looking at instead of choosing every time so I told her to please go if she cannot wait for me and then came an older man who said he was watching me for some time and started to scold at me because I was talking to my mother like this, he is such a stranger and did not know the whole matter and started to scold me in front of others too. When my mother told him that we were joking he did not stopped talking loudly, It was so embarrassing and me and my mother were angry too.

Well, I'm now legally an adult so I think I can partake in this conversation. :P As a university student, I'm part of the university choral society...now, it's weird because they allow non-students to take part in the choral society, and I have no problems with this, but they're all...for lack of a better term, old. Some are "ancient" and really should find a more age-appropriate choir I think, and others are just middle-aged. Suffice it to say that university students (ironically enough) are the minority in the choir. Now, I understand that they have just as much of a right to be there as us, but it really gets on my nerves when they look down at us and are like "Oh they're so disorganised" blah blah blah. Which, has a grain of truth...but it's like they're on about how they should never let students have leadership positions in the (get this) UNIVERSITY choral society because we don't know how to run things and all that. Now I understand that they perhaps have more experience in those sort of matters, but it's no reason to totally be against any uni student getting a leadership position. I mean, we may be younger and true enough, maybe a little less organised, but it doesn't mean that we don't have ideas and abilities that can be used! But what REALLY gets my goat is when they think it's appropriate for them to tell us off when we're perhaps getting just a little boisterous in rehearsals. I mean, I understand the conductor, when he does it and he has the right because he's in charge of the whole affair. But other choir members seriously shouldn't have the right to totally be snarky at us when we're, y'know, enjoying ourselves. I mean, choir's meant to be fun and we like to have a giggle sometimes about the music and all that. We're all perfectly serious when it comes to rehearsing and performing, but every so often we need to cut just a little loose because the rehearsals are so rigid!! Anyway...I think I just ranted there...so sorry to vent in your discussion. P.S. I noticed you're from Perth! I'm originally from there, currently studying in Canberra! High-five! P.P.S. Also, Perth's Western Suburbs can be a little up themselves a lot of the time. :P

Being a victim of another adult scolding sometimes leaves us powerless. I have never met such kind of incident where I am being scolded by another adult. But should it happen to me I will analyse the whole situation and if I am in the wrong I would ask for apology but if it is not my fault and that person scolds me I will fight back until she apologize to me. But small incident like that is not worth going overboard, just let it be like passing wind and leave immediately.

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Paula- I'm afraid I've not had that occur to me as directly as you have. I had a woman when I had my very first child (she's now 18 as of next March) come up to me and wrap her blanket around her again because her foot was showing. She was little Russian woman and to be honest I wasn't offended because I knew the culture. It's the babuska thing to do. I have actually lectured people when they've done things that were completely out of line like almost hit my family! I feel you have a right to stand up for that. I also lecture those who park in handicap spots without a proper park decal! It annoys me to no end. I think all we can do is listen to people, and keep in mind generation gaps. We were all raised with different values, and we have different cultural ideologies. Now, I have been lectured by friends but that I take with the friendship. If I am doing something that is not healthy for me, I expect my friends to tell me something. My biggest flaw is that I am too nice, don't stand up for what I believe, and apologize the moment someone yells at me and tells me I'm wrong for having my opinion! I'm working on that but I've a good friend who "lectures" me all of the time. I've never deleted her or walked away from our friendship just because she had a difference of opinion or even felt strongly about something. I've been deleted from many friends lists recently for having opinions, and all I can say is that they are not ready for what comes with friendship. I'm sorry this woman was upset, but it is a valuable lesson on being completely aware of one's surroundings. Cheer up and know that we've all had this occur. Namaste-Anora

Not much of my life as i am a quite student for now my lecturers dont scold me that much before when i was in school my teachers use to punish me often and even in my high school i got it many times.but recently i am nnot being scolded by anyone many times..

That was sux! I hate it if that happen to me! That woman probably had a rough day (or she always like that~~~) but it's not appropriate to talk like that to others. If she thought you're guilty of taking the parking lot, she can say it nicely. People can understand. Doesn't need to rant. You already apologize, if she couldn't take it let her be. She doesn't deserve to lecture you, she's not being polite either. We have a way to communicate, not by being rude.

Dear paula27661, There are certain humans exactly like that. I could sometimes accept it when I am wrong and if he/she is rude rather than accepting, I'll go little further and I will start my reaction to them saying 'can't you be soft in saying that'. I really hate those kind of people who never understands the feelings of other people. They often think that they only have problems and all are living happily. There are people who are jealous of other people living happily. Cheers... Have a nice day always..

i haven't experienced such ranting and raving. once, though, a similar incident happened to me. i didn't notice someone was queuing at the cashier's area to pay items that she bought. i didn't notice she was lining up because she was out of the line and was looking into something in a nearby display area. when she turned around, i was already there and she was angry and was telling me that that was her place i was taking in a manner and in a voice for everyone to hear. i apologized to her pointing out that she was out of the line and i thought she was not lining up. she still continued to utter angrily and that was when i told her, ma'am, i can also understand if u speak to me in a nicer way and in a soft voice rather than as u are doing now. i still can fully understand if u would rather speak that way. that silenced her. had she have continued, i would surely lose my patience and gone out of the way.

Adult's can on ly effect you if you let them. I'm only 22 and I've had a few different people try to bring me down. I had a woman one time in a parking lot call me little girl and try to give me all the crap about how I was parked. Let me say I dont always park perfect BUT I'm ALWAYS completely in my white lines. It might not always be striahgt but I'm in my gosh darn lines!! (lol ignore that) So she tried to tell me I needed to get back in my car and park correctly. I was like I'm in my lines thats the only parking requirement I'm aware of. Then she tried following me in the store yelling at me and she said "Little girl get back in your car and fix it" (she was maybe 40 but she made me mad) I turned to her and said "Old woman you need to just walk away get in your car and maybe go to the therapist because you can some control issuses" She looked like she was going to poop a brick. I laughed the whole way through the store.

Sweetheart, it takes all kinds to make our world and this "B" makes no exception. At least you offered her the parking spot and since she didn't take it, it's her problem, not yours so don't make it yours. Gee, do you have eyes on the back of your head? I hope you say not! lol If someone were to approach me like that, they wouldn't be the only one yelling and if they don't leave me be, they just might hit the asphalt!

Hi Paula, I am sorry to know about your hurts. I can understand your hurt feelings. Some people are like and that kind of people are everywhere in the world. They think about them only. Don’t worry about a selfish lady because it is not your fault and you can guess it any way (what is in her mind). She won’t a good lady otherwise she will be cool for listening your apology. Just forget about the incident like a nasty dream. Hope you must be alright now sharing the same with your friends. Be happy.

There is nothing like a situation like that to make you feel 10 years old again. It happens to all of us no matter how old we are. Chin up, you have lot's of friends here.

That stinks paula! People are so silly sometimes. I have not been confronted like that before but I used to be a cna in a nursing home and those little people didn't care to tell you what was what..lol. You didn't even have to do anything and a couple of them would cuss you right out. I just let it go. Don't be guilty. You weren't trying to pinch her parking place or be mean to her. She may have been stressed about other things and you just happened to be the one she took it out on.