new person in yoga class

@savypat (20246)
United States
October 26, 2009 3:56pm CST
Have you ever sat back and just watched a new person come in to an established group? Do you introduce yourself and try to be welcoming? Or are you one to just sit on the side lines and waits to see if they are going to fit in? I am both, if I get good vibes I'll step right up and be friendly but if not I will wait to see what happens in the group. Today we got a new one in exercise class, we are about 20 people 3 times a week and most of us have been here awhile. This person was friendly and not afraid to ask questions so she fit in easily. She had never done Yoga before and it takes courage to enter a group and also have to learn from the start. Can you do something like this, would you?
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@maezee (34568)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I would feel more comfortable in that situation if I was with a friend. I've never been to any of those group classes (with the exception of one short stint in kickboxing..), although I REALLY want to (I can't ever find any that can work around my school/work hectic schedules) - I would LOVE to take beginners yoga or get back into the swing of kickboxing, but time is my main constraint. And money, I s'pose (those classes can get to be pretty expensive, am I right?). I don't know if I would be super-friendly, but I am always eager to learn new things, so why not?
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
27 Oct 09
Check with your local YMCA they generally have classes which don't cost as much as private gym ones do. Thanks
@stee09 (102)
• Ireland
27 Oct 09
Hey Pat, Yeah I would class my self as like you I would tend to wait and see how the cope with the new surroundings and if they seem nice enough i'll go over and introduce myself. If your talking about have I or would I try yoga then the answer is yes although I'm not particularly flexible I would enjoy trying something like that for sure. there are not very many place here that practice yoga I will be keeping an eye open for any new place that does :)
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I didn't have a place to go to so I brought a CD and just did my own thing until we had a gym open near here. Thanks
@bucketkid (239)
• Australia
27 Oct 09
i think if i was the new kid, id find a niche someone. im a fairly open and outgoing person but greatly try not to offend people so i usually get on ok. if i was already in an established group - say, at school, for instance. i'd probably be the one running around and yelling. the new kid would be sure to ask somebody who i was (because of my odd behaviour) and then i would introduce myself and try and make the newbie feel as comfortable as possible in their new environemnt. i would never sit back and wait to see if someone would fit in. i would find it painful cause i know what is like to be the awkward one at the back or the one that doesnt fit in. its just not nice to a try to be as open and as welcoming as possible.
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
27 Oct 09
You are the kid I always wanted to be but never was. Now I'm old and I still have to make an effort to overcome being shy. Being shy is really a form of self involvement, once you realize that no one really cares about you, you can overcome it.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
27 Oct 09
Yes, I would introduce myself, but not in a pushy tell me your life story way. Even though I am shy, I've made myself do many things that for me, were brave: eating dinner out alone, beginning a whole new life alone in my early 50s, flying on a plane for the 1st time, and taking adult ed classes or beginning a new job where I was a new-comer and did not know anyone. I think it's good for experience and confidance to just bite the bullet and force past shyness or fear sometimes. I find it necessary if one wants to keep growing and not become stuck or stunted or overly dependent on others. Karen
@savypat (20246)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I fight the shyness issue all the time but it has gotten easier, I use to throw up when I had to face a new situation.
@GardenGerty (105498)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I need to do something like that. I do not know if I would fit in, but the exercise would be good for me.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
27 Oct 09
It took me many months to feel like I fit, but for that time I was so busy learning how to do the Yoga that I didn't miss the people contact, but because of that feeling I now try to be one of the first ones to be friendly especially if I think they are going to need to be encouraged to stay.
@riyasam (16571)
• India
27 Oct 09
it did happen to me too,i think when i used to go for extra classes,a new girl joined but she was very haughty and wouldnt get along with me,so i left her alone.
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@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
27 Oct 09
because I am including shy person, I can not do like your new friends. Better, I wait and do just what do my trainer. If anyone asked me to talk, I will just talk and try to friendly with her/him
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 09
I am quite a friendly person and if I am a newbie I will try to mingle around freely and get others to chat with me so that I will be accepted to their group without feeling out of place. It might take me a day or two to get adjusted to a new environment and new people but I don't see much problem with that as I will apply the techniques I learned from my meditation course to view everyone as peaceful soul and this will ease myself in getting others to help me in my maiden approach to yoga or any other classes that I attend.
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• India
27 Oct 09
Well, I’m an introvert by nature and take time in opening up so if somebody new has just walked in with another person who’s already in the group, then I’d wait for the introductions. Otherwise, I see how the others are interacting and how the new person is…I really want to run a mile from curt people, neither can I answer them back nor can I swallow the attitude and it leaves a bad taste in my mouth…so well, I’ll wait and watch and then walk up or avoid.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
27 Oct 09
I like to make new people welcome because I would appreciate it if was made to feel at home in a new place. Years ago when I was in my twenties I joined two bush walking clubs by myself. I drove to their meeting points, parked my car and marched up to a friendly looking person and said, “Hi, I’m Paula…” I was very brave in those days and I am not so sure how I would go in the same situation these days but I am so glad I did it then! I was made welcome at both places and that is something I am grateful for and I would do the same to anyone else in that position.
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• China
27 Oct 09
I don't think I will have the courage to introduce myself immediately.But I will find a way to approach them instead of isolating myself.To be alone in a big group makes me fell embarrassed. And yoga is good,I wanna have a try if I have a chance
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Oct 09
Well, my children and I are in a playgroup and we are coming up on being members for three years. In that time there have been several people to come and go through the group and I always try to be accomodating to the new people because I want to make friends with them. Yes, there are some families that come into the group that I take an immediate dislike to, but the majority of the people turn out to be just fine and I am happy that I am able to make a new friend. I do also have to admit that I also really miss some of the people that used to be in our group that have moved away as well.
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• United States
26 Oct 09
Hi, Pat! I don't think I'd have the nerve to be the "new kid" but if I were in the group, I'd certainly be welcoming.
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