My Parents Are Better Than Any Detectives
By sexyposh
@sexyposh (575)
Philippines
October 26, 2009 10:07pm CST
I'd say, those detective should go under apprenticeship with my parents. They are the best meddlers ever when it comes to nosing on my relationship. I remember when I was younger, back in high school, when boys starting to notice me, they are the first to know their background without me telling them. They are the worst critic ever, every suitors that I introduce to them didn't pass. So most of my early relationships, we date in secrets. Yet they're still able to find out. Amazing!
Now that I'm on my prime, they somehow learn to mellow down on me. Either they trust me that much or they just grew tired of doing it.. lols! Really, I appreciate and glad of them being strict and meddlers. If they're not, I might mold into something different character.
I wonder, I too will soon have my own kids will I do the same thing?? Well, we'll see.. hehe...
Do you have meddling parents too?
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11 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
27 Oct 09
That's so funny. My kids thought that of me too. One of my girls actually seriously thought I had hired spys to keep an eye out on her. 
That's because she was forever doing things to get herself in trouble and I was forever catching her. She usually left a trail of clues all over the house. It wasn't hard to catch her at all. I didn't need spys or even to pry in her room or anything. I also did a bit of a background check on boyfriends that they brought home. I didn't look at it as meddling....I just cared so much about them and wanted them to be treated right. I never pushed them to break up with any guy just because I didn't like him but I did let them know what I knew if anything about the guy & then the decision would be theirs. Truthfully, I liked most of them. 
That's because she was forever doing things to get herself in trouble and I was forever catching her. She usually left a trail of clues all over the house. It wasn't hard to catch her at all. I didn't need spys or even to pry in her room or anything. I also did a bit of a background check on boyfriends that they brought home. I didn't look at it as meddling....I just cared so much about them and wanted them to be treated right. I never pushed them to break up with any guy just because I didn't like him but I did let them know what I knew if anything about the guy & then the decision would be theirs. Truthfully, I liked most of them. 
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
My parents are not strict with me. Maybe because I am the third daughter and they have been very strict with my two eldest sister and are too tired to act as detective during my time. lol. I always decide for myself. I just make sure that I will be at home on time. I am also confident that I have the values they have taught me. Since I do it on my own, I always make sure that I acted smartly and will not do things impulsively. I got married at age 33. lol.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
27 Oct 09
That's because they know you better than any detective. Plus, they probably did the same thing themselves when they were young. My parents always tried to impress us with their knowledge. Its just that they did the same things and they know you better than anybody. Besides, you live with them. That makes spying easy.
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Yeah, I think so too.. Meddling is so easy if their prying on is nearby. I'd like to add also, maybe its easy for my folks to know things because we live in a very small community. Our family friends probably saw me somewhere and relay it immediately to my parents. lols!
@zhouxi (1752)
• China
27 Oct 09
hehe, i think if you have a daughter,may be you will.your parents love you so much ,so they they spend nearly all their time and effort on you.how could an ordinary parents could do better than skilled detecter?they must try hard than detecter.LOL! so love them!
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Yeah! I'm glad they're like that. Really, when I was a youngster I hate it when they do that. I felt like I was invaded way beyond my privacy. lols! ( if there's such a thing!). Again, I'm happy they're meddlers. Atleast they've seen all my experiences and how I react on them. hehe:)
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@davethegreat (40)
• Portugal
27 Oct 09
Lol, i guess your parents are "crafted" from the same "mold" as mines. It is impossible to hide a secret from them. It can be hidden for one, two or three days, but soon enough i know they will know. They seem to act as they should know every step i take on my life, from school to relationships, passing through pc games and anything else. Its kind of weird how i cant really hide anything from them. It is a bit frustrating but somehow i understand that they only do that because they care, and i would be really sad if they didn´t. Anyway, i think your parents didnt get tired of doing that. They must have realized that u ve grown up, so, it is time to give so more space. I guess all parents are like mine: first they are very stric, but throughout our life they tend to be less strict. Am i wrong?
Best Wishes
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Not really strict per se, they're just too caring and assume that you're too fragile to take care of yourself.. If they were linient on us, there is a tendency that we might abuse it, then we'll probably grow into different person from what we are now. For me personally, if things go my way without listening to my parents, I'd probably never finish college.
Its not appropriate also when we're on our 30's and then they're still strict on us as when we're kids. I believe, they'll just let go of you when they know that you have grown accordingly.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Oct 09
hi sexyposh as you mature you will find that your parents all of a sudden seem smarter than you knew before. so be glad they got
on your case when they did as it made you the great person you
are now, good to be strict when young. you will be doing the same
when you become parents too and your kids will thank you for it too. wait and see.
on your case when they did as it made you the great person you
are now, good to be strict when young. you will be doing the same
when you become parents too and your kids will thank you for it too. wait and see.
@nooveggies (607)
• Indonesia
27 Oct 09
LOL! Your discussion title is very funny. Are they really that good?
To answer your question, no. My parents are not meddlers. Maybe it's because I always tell them what's been going on everyday in my life. I feel like there's nothing I can't tell them since everything they say is to support and protect me. They rspect what I like and what I decide. They just go to an extend of warning me instead of forbidding me. Of course, they explain the reasons of their actions.
I can't help but imagining an exact same discussion that will be posted here 20 years from now by your kids! LOL!
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Yeah! I think they're that good or maybe I'm just a bad liar. haha! or I'm too careless to leave evidences everywhere. haha! Anyway, I think they're just being protective. Just like any parents. Good that your folks treat you in a mature way. You were able to be responsible with your self.
About my kids,haha! I'm probably be the first one who will leave a comment.. haha! Then we'll talk about it in the dinner table...
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
27 Oct 09
Parents of teenagers, especially moms often make the same mistake. Out of love or worry for their children, they think grey of their beloved, and follow their activities, dates, diaries, etc., which causes ill feeling of their children.
For children of this age, trust is best love. And parents may speak clearly ahead of time what they expect of their children. Then leave it to the children to handle. Most are clever enough to go through the period, and get over in case of any incidents.
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
27 Oct 09
In the eyes of our parents, all kids need tender loving care.
Yes, no matter what you want to do, your parents are the best meddlers, especially being involved in our relationship. You see, they have made the best of to pamer their children and protect their children from all dangers poaaible. If I have met such a situation too, I will follow their tips and make them happy.
In fact, if you have a daughter in the future, may be you will too.
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Yes most likely, I'm going to be like my Mom. I have traits that are from her.. So most probably, I'll be strict too... and a good meddler.. lols!! Maybe because I already know the tricks, because I've been there done that. hehe:)
Now I know, why they are soooooo good! Because they have done it already... sheeshhh!
@bluray (408)
• Singapore
27 Oct 09
hi!very nice point!!i think in the same lines too.my parents were strict too and taught us discipline and mold us in a fine character.They are really kind of detective and keep an watchful eye on each and everything we do!!
but after all the are parents and I am happy on my brought up.
@sexyposh (575)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I remember what my Pop told us... We are like gold, we have to go through alot of heat and fire in order to be mold into beautiful jewelry. Same as to our character, we have to go through alot of corrections from our folks for us to have beautiful character... I'm glad your parents are strict on you, and I'm glad you're mature enough to understand their teachings.
