How Important is It to Have the Support of Your love's Parents?

parents are your best buddies parents help always in your crunch time you should never lie to them in any situation but certain things are needed to kept away from them still dont do this as if you will ditch your parents it's like ditching god as parents are like god i love my parents and never hide anything from them they have helped me anny circumstances in whatever problem i have been

That's always a sad situation when parents don't like some one that their child is dating. Sometimes there are real concerns, but a lot of the time it really has nothing to do with the person himself (or herself). You haven't said whether or not your parents like your friend. If they do, then perhaps they can invite the girl's parents over for dinner or something, and ease their fears. Parents talking amongst themselves (you should not be there for this meeting) address each other as peers, and sometimes can have great influence. It's worth a try. If nothing else, perhaps they can find out exactly what the concern or fear is, so that your friend can work on addressing it. Good luck!

Your friend could sit down with his girlfriend and her parents and talk to them face to face. ell them he loves her and wants to take care of her,protect her. He can ask why they dont like him or see him as a real man like you stated. That part confused me. But I hink sittin down and talking to them would help things.

At one time I would say it was importnat. But after what I have been through with in laws. I really could care less if they love me or not. I married my husband to please and love him, not my in laws.

I think it is important because if they are not in good terms it will only lead to much bigger problems in the future. Parents will not be followed by their son and daughter about their advice when their child was blinded by love. But in the future whenever the couple will have misunderstanding , you will always hear the parents complaining about the lover. And also both parents of the lover will not be in good relationships. It is much peaceful if they are in good terms. Parents might divulge in personal problems of their child if they are not approved the lover.

There is no such perfect methods dealing with that problem, my friend. Because as parents is varied from to time and the best that your friend to do is to be a good person. Don't show up any irritating deeds. Just show up to them that he is a reliable man for their daughter...If he have many vices I don't think he can impress them..have a nice day!

I think your friend can improve the situation by being honest, reliable and most important very caring for their daughter. If your friend tries too hard to "sell" himself, that is a turn off also. I do feel sorry for your friend. It's a tough situation. I had the opposite situation. I was a different religion than my husband and it caused all kinds of havoc with my future in-laws. I converted, followed the religion and eventually we were married. 2 1/2 years later we had our first child which did help mend some of those ill feelings by my in-laws. They are excited to have a grandbaby. It took several years to really work my way into the family and prove myself. When my mother-in-law passed away two years ago, I was totally devistated. She and I became friends and really loved and admired each other. So it took time and patience on my part to become part of a very loving and caring family. I wish your friend the best of luck and hope things work out, carolbee

I have been through a similar experience except it was me that was not accepted by the guy’s family. It was due to cultural differences and they were extremely rude to me and he did not do a great deal to help me. We ended up breaking up because he could not live without his parents approving of me; had to make a choice in the end and he chose them. Every circumstance is different and aside from approaching the girl’s parents and talking things through with them which is easier said than done in a lot of cases, it all depends on whether the girl can live with her parents’ disapproval of her partner and the fact that it may come down to her having to make a choice.

Tell your friend he fell in love with her not her family and if their love is real, love will out weigh the bad.

It's must even if you are asking with regard to today's nuclear family norms. I am a newly married girl and in India love marriages face opposition from both families. Every thing was somehow okay, till the time I conceived. Now I ahd no one to take advice regarding maternity except my doctor an I felt so lonely. Luckily I met his parents now and found them very supportive. It's like oasis in a desert now. Ask a girl who experiences the same condition, when she has no one to look after at this time. They will tell you how much we need to have relation with your lover's parents.

Why she's parents dislike ur friend?? why they said "he is not a real man'? anyway, hope everthing gone be alright..

I'm sorry to hear about your friend's situation. My cousin faced the same thing before but not with the parents, but the grandmother of the girl. She thought he has no real job, but that was when he first met the girl where he was still trying to find some decent job after he came back from other country. So, when he finally has a stable job, the grandmother still looks down on him. They went through a lot and fortunately, the mother of this girl approved of their marriage. I am not clear why they thought your friend is not a 'real man'? Is his girlfriend is the only daughter?? If yes, it is understandable that the parents being over protective towards her and always want the best for her. It's important to have the parents' blessings, but we should look into the reasons of why it is so hard for them to accept your friend? Is your friend working??

Well i think that parents have more experience in life and always want the best for there children, thats why sometimes they say or do something that we don't like, because even if they tell you that thats a bad thing or that guy or girl its no good for you well we go for it even if they tell you thats bad,we as sons and daughters like to discover everything on our own, so if they told the girlfriend of your friend that they don't like her boyfriend thats no problem, i think that the person that should decide that its her not her parents, its not the parents that are dating the boy its her. But thats my opinion it doesn't mean that im right.

for me its so important to have a support of your love;s parents since they are your parents so that there will be no worries when your with your someone else. I have a bf right now and my parents don't want him, but i love him so much so I am also confused, so for now I'm doing everything just to convince them that he is good for me.

My boy friend's parents are long gone, but he has a daughter. His daughter decided that she didn't like me and she will pitch a fit every time my name is mentioned in her home. (She is 48 years old mind you) She told her father that he had to chose between her and me about 7 years ago...he chose me. But, unfortunately, I feel guilty that I came between him and his daughter. The one saving grace about the whole situation is that his grandson loves to come down to visit and then go home and tell his mom how happy that my BF is with me and how much we love each other. She does a slow burn for many many months. I decided a long time ago that parents of my bfs are not essential to my "make happy" list and their support isn't that important to me. You can spend your life trying to get the support of love's parents and never make it. It can either cause the relationship to break up, or sever ties between parents and children. The important thing is that your friend isn't in love with the parents, he isn't dating the parents, and if he marries he isn't marring the parents. He needs to do as I did to my ex husband's parents (especially his mother) and tell them to go out and suck a hot rock! It isn't their life, and they should but out of the friend and his GF. When parents have a set viewpoint, there is little or no chance of changing their impression. The best thing you can do for your friend is to stand by him and be as good a friend as you have shown you are here. Realize too that no matter what he does to try to impress the parents it will never be good enough. He will kill himself trying to impress these people. Instead, he should concentrate on being a good boy friend for the girl...she is the one who really matters.

hey ,guy.good sharing.as i know ,the parents (girl's and boy's) in my country also have the equal importance for the lovers ,and can u image that how can u get the love happy if the parents dont support u.and as the kids of parents ,they are always want to their kids get the really happiness.but facing the truth you want to help ur firend is very kind of u.and ur buddy will pround of owning the firends like u .but i gotta say that that thing you had better make ur firend deal with it by himself .and i think ur firned have a good conversation with his girls's father would be the best way .and you can give ur firend more and more confidence and brave to slove all the bad situation as u told ,if else,i think girls father's warr will become not any

It is very important to have the support of parents. Your friend need to prove to her parents that he can stand with his girlfriend. If they love each other why they need to supper for that situation although he can manage well. Let them be love each other but respect their parents. It is in the proper way of communications. Tell to your friend that if he really love his girlfriend show and stand firm.

You remind me of my experience when I went to my girl's home to call on her parents for the first time.Before I went for this visit,I worried a lot though I had prepared for a really long time,will they like me?what if they dont like me?how should I answer if they ask me how to support a family when their baby girl marry me?Oh,God,these questions killed me.Fortunately,it turned out to be all right,everything went well as my girl had descriped,their parents are nice people.So what I want to say is that a man standing in the world should stand like a really man,if you love her,why do you care others' opinnin so much?People like you or people hate you ,that happens always,nobody can satisfy everybody.If the girl cares you,that's so enough.

this is so sad getbrowser, maybe the parents didn't like her for some reason. i believe parents should be supportive of their kids affair most specially if it's official, though. let your friend faced the problem and not escape from it, or it might get worse. well, if they loved each other, they can managed even with out the support of the parents.

I have always trusted my parents and their judgement and they also trust my judgement and respect the people I'm with. What I'm trying to point out is that our parents know what's best for us, but there are certain points in time when we come across people and we know they're right for us and we just have to stand by that instinct and fight for it.