When you want to talk to someone on their own,

@jugsjugs (13045)
December 1, 2009 6:26pm CST
when noone else is around how do you do it when everyone just keeps turning up or the children are at home how do you get to speak to the person on their own.
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@rosepedal64 (4192)
• United States
2 Dec 09
When I have to talk with the husband it becomes a big job to do so. When he gets home and the tv is his best friend. I usually have to turn the tv off. In your case maybe you just need to take that person to the bathroom and shut the door...LOL..You might get to talk then.. Keep smiling
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
I have tried all of that and that do not work with him,lol.I have told people not to come round as well and yet they still turn up which really makes me mad or they will ring me and keep me on the phone.I have learnt to see people when the children are in school and then tell the others i am out at an appointment that works,sometimes it works should i say.
• United States
19 Dec 09
I hope that things are better now. I know that it has been a little bit since you started this discussion. Is things any better now.? Have a great day and keep smiling. Oh yeah did you noticed that I changed my avatar.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
18 Dec 09
I just have to make the time for it. I go outside or send the child to their room so I can talk to that person. I know it is hard when people do not give you the time or respect to do it though.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
I have now found an easy way to talk to a friend that i want to talk to without any interuptions.If i can not get to see the person when the children are in school then i will ring them after the children are asleep if i know the person is up and knows that i will be calling.If i know when the person is coming to see me then i will say to other people i have an appointment and that someone is taking me or i have someone coming to see me from my sons school,i have found they both work.
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@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
3 Dec 09
Interruptions are always tough especially when you are trying to have a serious discussion. I guess that is why many of us text, email or IM so hopefully we can talk without others around. I hate to try to talk to people who are distracted by others.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
I hate to text as i find that somethings are easier being said then doing a text.I just find it soo hard as i try to fit everyone in and still do not get that chance as other people are here or the children tend to want me for something instead.
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
2 Dec 09
lock bedroom door and talk!
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
I have tried that and the children which one of my children are demanding because of a problem they have so that tends not to work either.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
20 Dec 09
oh dear! then I dont know what to tell ya
• Canada
26 Jan 10
My husband and I are fortunate enough to live on our own. We don't have children, just a cat. LOL If we are sick and tired of people, all we need to do is go home.
@jugsjugs (13045)
26 Jan 10
Even when the children are in their beds they always seem to go up and down the stairs all the time and we never get to start to talk and if we do get the time to start talking there will always be a child interupt up and then we tend to give up or even forget what we were talking about.It is a shame they do not stay in their rooms at bed time as that way we would at least get time for a quick chat.
• United States
2 Dec 09
My kids are getting older and with that I noticed that they are listening to every word that their dad and I say so it has become really hard to find the time to talk. There are a ton of things sometimes that we want to tell one another about our day and sometimes it takes days before we can tell one another or remember to tell one another. We usually have to wait untilthe kids are in bed or our own bed time and sometimes are up way too late because we are trying to catch up on the things that we want to tell one another
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
I know what you mean there are lots of things that i have to chat to my husband about yet the children interupt us or the company is here so we can not talk and then of an evening we are still having a problem with getting as well as keeping the children in bed then before you know it it is time for bed.
• United States
2 Dec 09
That is a hard question kind of I usually just say I need to speak to you in private in the other room.
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
I have tried that before and either the children will still come in as one of the children is very demanding as he has adhd or other people turn up at mine.
@doormouse (4619)
2 Dec 09
i send the kids out the room and make it clear i want to speak to this person in private,so can everyone else go away
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
Do it always work and if so how long for before one of the children wants to get your attention?
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
2 Dec 09
once again we all go through this, you need to speak up and say i need to talk to you
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
I tried that but the people who also come round seem to hang around.
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I've never had a problem with this because I've been single all of my life and have never had any kids. I do have a 6 year old black American Shorthair by the name of Mija, though. Judging from your other posts it sounds to me like you really need to put your food down and demand that you need some ME time. That is extremely important. Even if it's time alone with another person! I hope something works out for you very soon, hon. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
Thanks hun,thanks for your response.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Dec 09
jugsjugs you just say so and so, I need to talk to you, and to anyone else trying to butt in, say please excuse us, we need to talk.and mean it. do not be a wuss. get that person alone and in a private room even if you have to lock the darned door. do not let people walk on you.
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
I have now found an easy way to talk to a friend that i want to talk to without any interuptions.If i can not get to see the person when the children are in school then i will ring them after the children are asleep if i know the person is up and knows that i will be calling.If i know when the person is coming to see me then i will say to other people i have an appointment and that someone is taking me or i have someone coming to see me from my sons school,i have found they both work.
@GardenGerty (102534)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Make a date or an appointment with them. Agree with them that you need to set that time for private, personal interaction and then just basically tell people that the conversation is your chief priority at this time.
@jugsjugs (13045)
19 Dec 09
I think some people have the same problem as me as in they have alot of people go to theirs as well as a lot of children tend to turn up as well which then you still can not chat so i think from now on i will try to sort out about having abit more me time as to catch up on a few things during the day so that maybe i can get to talk to them of a night time even if it is on the phone as i think that is a best quiet time.