Update on dad

Dad - Being his usual lazy self
@webeishere (36377)
United States
December 22, 2009 10:19am CST
This is a shot of my dad recently being his usual lazy self. Anyhow, he had a few ingrown toenails and also one gnarly looking big toe nail that had to be sanded off. They filed them down really well and billed medicaid for an office visit. So he does not have to pay anything for this through his home health care aid. He is doing well physically except for shortness of breath etc. This is due to his inactivity daily. No walkiing or exercise etc. He walks to eat, to sleep, and to use the bathroom. That's his only exercise. Do you have an elderly parent that is inactive physically? HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
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• United States
22 Dec 09
oh yea.they have tried to get mom to do at least arm exercises but she refuses. and being disabled now seems to lessen her activity even further. so she's been gaining weight with no exercise with a history of heart attacks in her family.i keep telling her she should at least work with me a bit,but she's really really stubborn.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
22 Dec 09
That is the same road my dad is on. He has heart problems as well and has gained a lot of weight. His winter coat barely fits him now due to weight gain. But he's still alive. HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
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• United States
23 Dec 09
that is true. i wish i could at least get her to eat more things like fruit. hmm..maybe i can find some kind of incentive..you want this,eat some of this..
@dragon54u (30579)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I'm glad to hear your dad is well! Too bad you can't get him up and around more, maybe he just needs some good motivation? My dad isn't as active as he would like to be, nor is my stepmother. They get around as much as they can and try to do whatever they can manage. My mom has my sister living with her now and my sister makes her go to her community's gym/swimming pool--mom feels much better now that my sister won't let her put off exercising!
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I've had him in physical therapy before. A couple times actually. They'd viit and do the exercises with him then after 4 weeks I did it. After awhile he refused to do them any more. So I quit as I am not the type to mnake him do them if he doesn't want to. It's his life not mine. Less stress on me as well doing it this way. I am going to try more to make him walk some anyhow. HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@BarBaraPrz (15346)
• Hamilton, Ontario
22 Dec 09
When my mom was still mobile, I'd make her take the "long" way around from the kitchen to room when she wanted to rest after lunch. Instead of going straight down the hall, I'd make her go across the hall into the dining room, then the living room, then cross the hall again to her room. It wasn't much, and she'd complain, but at least she'd get a few more steps in.
@BarBaraPrz (15346)
• Hamilton, Ontario
22 Dec 09
How old is your dad now? My mother spent her last six months in bed. Before that, she was about as active as your dad.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
22 Dec 09
85 I keep dreading the day he becomes bedridden. That's when my job slow downs a lot. He will have a nurse coming in for changing his clothes, bathing him, feeding him etc. I can't do all that with my bad back and bad legs. HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@BarBaraPrz (15346)
• Hamilton, Ontario
22 Dec 09
Luckily, my mother already had a caregiver and visiting nurse coming in long before she came to live with me. After she became bedridden, the nurse visits became daily. We had a hospital bed for her, so it was easy enough to feed her. As for making sure she didn't get bedsores, I'd turn her every few hours by means of having a sheet under her (sort of like a diaper change sheet) and pulling it across. If I wanted to turn her on her left side, I'd stand on the left side of the bed, reach across her and grab the right side of the sheet and pull it toward me. (One of the nurses showed me how to do it.)
@gabs8513 (48805)
• United Kingdom
22 Dec 09
No Grandpa Bob I haven't and I wish your Dad would exercise more, but I know you have been through this with him It is good to hear though that he is doing well I was wondering how your Dad was getting on
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
22 Dec 09
He is more stubborn than I am so he wins out and doeswn't have to exercise it seems as I won't push it too far most times. But it is getting to the point I may ask his Dr for a PT recomendation. HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@Chevee (5915)
• United States
22 Dec 09
No GB I don't have any elderly parents that I have to take care of. But this does remind me of my neighbor who has to take care of her mother and her father. My heart goes out to her too because she (my neighbor) is in her sixties and her parents are keeping her pretty busy. She told me sometime she has to take her mom to the doctor in the morning and then she would have to take her dad to the doctor in the afternoon when they have appointments on the same day. Sometime she would leave home early in the morning and get back home late in the evenings. I can see that your dad is well care for. Keep up the good work you will be rewarded for your faithfulness.
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@Hatley (143295)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Dec 09
hi Grandpa Bob stillyour first responder wow again. I am so lazy as I sit here at my computer most all day every day except to go down for meals and for any activity that is still going. Our programs here are done by the Garden Grove school district and since they are cutting back because of the bad economy the first programs that are cut out are those that benefit us old senior citizens seems unfair to me but that is the thinking I guess. You would think that anything that benefits us mentally and physically would be worth keeping but I guess they just lump us off as old has-beens.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
22 Dec 09
Being dads caregiver I am home all day almost every day as well. So I spend a LOT of time online as well. Just not as much here as I used to. I can't even get dad to go to Bingo which he loved anymore. He won't get out of his chair except to eat and use the bathroom etc. Oh well. HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@GardenGerty (84323)
• Marion, Kansas
28 Dec 09
No, I have me, who is less active than I should be, and I have one client who is diabetic who would do like your dad, if she could get away with it. Her idea of a really good day is to sit cross legged on her bed and watch wrestling, write lists and do word find puzzles. She goes to a podiatrist for nail and foot care.
@cream97 (29176)
• United States
25 Dec 09
Hi, Grandpa Bob/webeishere. I don't have an elderly patient in my home. I know many people that are of the elderly and can't do for themselves. My great grandmother was like this. She had Alzheimer's Disease and she could not think for herself. She was very forgetful and she would misplace things a lot. I hope that your father will feel better very soon. It is rough when someone can't do for themselves like they would desire. I don't like being on bed rest either. Merry Christmas, Grandpa Bob!
@ElicBxn (59688)
• United States
24 Dec 09
My mom is no longer able to walk and is in a wheelchair, but it wasn't because she wanted to be in one, she's suffered from strokes.
@winterose (39913)
• Canada
23 Dec 09
I have only myself which is that inactive, my mother is more active than I have and she is 74. But she is in wonderful health, not like me. It is strange how things turn out isn't it.
@sid556 (31019)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Well, I went to comment on your dad's pic and could not because apparently we are not "friends"....even tho i feel as tho we are and I've followed and enjoyed your stories for it seems like since I joined up here. I could of sworn we were officially friends but we are not. Anyway...your dad actually looks pretty good for his age and way better than my mom did at that age. My mom...well, I kind of made her walk way more than she wanted to. I pushed her to exercise and tried to keep her mind sharp. I did crossword puzzles with her and played word games etc. I made her bathe and keep up on her hygene and she balked every bit of the way. It wasn't easy but she did live far longer than predicted and the nurses did tell my brothers and i that it was because of our constant care and encouragement. She was a strong lady and there reached a point where we had to tell her that it was ok to go. She was hanging on for us...or mainly my brother.
• China
23 Dec 09
our partents also do not active physically and my father even shy if we see he is doing some morning exercise outside . and most of the time my father just sit in the sofa and watching TV after back from his office and do not do any other things at home except eating.
@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
23 Dec 09
Almost. My mother is not that good, but not as bad as your Dad yet. She is disabled due to a variety of conditions. She also has a lung disease that leads to emphysema, and will be on oxygen bottles in a year of two. She doesnt get around that much. I know she tries to walk more than your Dad. Is your father capable of walking more, and just doesnt want to? Or is he really not able to walk more than a few steps? My late mother inlaw, a few months ago, stopped walking. Then she stopped eating.