Cleaning house

@ElicBxn (60895)
United States
February 21, 2010 12:48am CST
Now, as many of my friends know, I have fibromyalgia... for those who don't know what that is, it means I hurt - a lot - all the time, or nearly so. Also, my roomie is, like I am, over weight, very, and she is less than 3 months pass gastric bypass surgery, so, while she's better, she's still not... BETTER - if you know what I mean... So, doing projects tend to be in small steps. So, after shopping for food this morning, we came home and the roomie said "We need to organize the pantry." So we did. First, we took nearly everything out of it - some went in the trash, some went in recycling but most went into the cart to be put back in after organizing it. We moved the plastics, we found 3 piles of paper plates in separate places, we put them together, same for the plastic cups - we don't need to buy papers for any possible party we might want to hold... Then we put the foods back, in an organized way and WOW! there's still SPACE in there! later I finished loading the dishwasher and ran it Earlier this week we cleaned off one area in the kitchen - my gosh! we might actually find the kitchen again in a year or so (joking) You have a productive day like we did? I even got a couple of loads of clothes washed!
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@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
21 Feb 10
Few people realize how hard it is for people who live with chronic pain to get up and do chores around the house. A LOT of people think that we are just lazy and don't care about our homes. It isn't true!!! We care just as much as people without the kind of pain we live with, it's just that we have to adjust to trying to work around the pain. I have been fighting with myself trying to get off my fanny and get things done. I have a ton of weeds to deal with in the yard, and I pulled a few today, but that is a drop in the bucket in comparison to what I need to do. I have good days and bad days for getting things done. The best thing for motivation for me is to have someone pi$$ me off...I work like a maniac! Today was just one of those days where it was hard to get up and move. I was put on a different pain medication which is like taking sugar pills. Combined with a medication that my GP prescribed for my abdominal pain (he prescribed a medication that is for coating the stomach and take care of ulcers. He forgot that when I drank soda and took tums I nearly ended up in the ER! Taking the second dose of this stuff had me projectile vomiting and then I passed out on the bed and slept for another 8 hours! BAD REACTION!) I wish I were closer where I could help you out! I do well helping others, my house could fall down around my ears, but I'm there for others. My productive day today? I got dishes washed, started working on the drapes for the family room (Yep I also can sew drapes. It saves hundreds of dollars!) and I have been working on my school work too. Oh, and Bill and I cut up some fire wood for me. There wasn't a lot, but there is enough for a couple of days. Of course that is in between stopping and resting.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Mar 10
Ohh, I may not care as much as some people and I am also lazy, but I do drag myself to do things when I need to... I've had docs want to have me take tylonol - that's what the doc wanted me to take when I was in the hospital for the gall bladder - I told him that he might as well put me on sugar pills, because the ONLY times I ever took tylonol, if they did ANYTHING, they made the problem worse - so they escalated right up to major shots! - get a shot, go to sleep - I don't think I turned on the TV ONCE the entire 3 days I was in the hospital
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@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
2 Mar 10
I have to say, YOU ARE NOT LAZY!! People with chronic pain feel they are because the pain takes so much energy out of them that they figure that the fatigue is simple laziness. I speak from experience. I understand where the doctors are coming from with the major pain medications, but I also know what having horrible pain is like too. There has to be a happy medium met between patient and doctor, first with the doctor understanding the patient's pain. I have reached the point with doctors that I don't care what I have to do to get through to them. I had one who delivered my daughter that I HATED big time. I knew I was close to delivery and ate beans for about three days before I had her...the results were hilarious...right down to the fight for the oxygen. Of course the doctor got the worst as he had his head right close to the action... And I laid there looking like the little angel that I really aint! Just remember that you aren't lazy, you may be lacking in sufficient energy to do household chores, but you aren't lazy.
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
21 Feb 10
Hi Elic. You sure sounded busy! I have fibromyalgia, too, and also had a productive day, for me, anyway. I started off by doing laundry while my lazy "roommate" slept. Once he woke up, we had to head out 30 miles from here so he could pick up a loaner car since his truck is in the shop AGAIN because they can't seem to fix the problem he has with his transmission, even after installing a brand new transmission. I wanted my SUV back, so I went with him to pick up the loaner so I could drive my SUV back home. But, we didn't go straight home. I had made appointments for both of us to have our eyes examined. I knew I needed new glasses and thought he might, too, because he just officially became ancient. He turned 50 last week. LOL Anyway, after the eye exams, we had to pick out frames for our new glasses (yep, I needed stronger prescriptions, both far and near vision), then do a bit of shopping for food, then come home and organize my DVD collection, after which I was hurting bad and so exhausted all I could do was take a nap. I wish we had a pantry! The house I grew up in had a really nice, large pantry. I loved that room, because I was the 'official' food organizer whenever my mother went grocery shopping. (She conned me into doing that by telling me that I did it better than anyone else she knew... didn't dawn on me that she was pulling my leg to get me to do it so she wouldn't have to until years later. lol) Our kitchen isn't very small but it's not large, either. I could definitely use a bit more room for canned and dry goods! I'll be canning and drying a lot of fruits and vegetables this year and it looks like I'll have to store them in the basement... the garage most likely. I sure would love to have a room just off the kitchen instead. I think you did an excellent job getting all that accomplished! I'm sure it was hard on both of you but it sure does feel good to accomplish so much, doesn't it?
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Mar 10
it does The fact is that when we moved into the house, this little closet had already been converted to a pantry, so when I decided to do a better job on it, I went to the Container Store and did it with better shelves. I kid you not, we can now hold about twice what it could before and we still manage to make a big mess of it! its at one end of the kitchen, not really close to the food prep area, but still in the area - others might've made it a place for towels and the like, but this kitchen didn't have a LOT of storage, all be it a good size, so it was a logical use to put it too.
• India
21 Feb 10
Yes i do lots sometimes.. washing vessels clothes and then cooking all other stuffs like cleaning the entire house.. tiresome one but fun..
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• United States
21 Feb 10
Well, thanks to the ants that have been visiting my house everyday, my mother and I have been cleaning overtime and using a lot Windex to kill those suckers and they still won't die. We even got Corky's Exterminators to my house to kill those abominations of the earth, and they still come back. Why won't they die?!
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
21 Feb 10
boric acid and I've also heard corn meal...
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• United States
21 Feb 10
I don't know about those. The boric acid, maybe, but not corn meal.
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@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
23 Feb 10
Mix the acid with the corn meal...they will take the poisoned food back to the colony and share it with the queen and other workers... What is right about having ants in the world? I am sure they are here for a reason. I appreciate you.
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• United States
21 Feb 10
Hi Elic: I didn't know or "remember" you also suffer with Fibromylgia...IT SUCKS!! I too have suffered with it now for the last 4-5 years or longer can't remember when I was diagnosed but its HORRIBLE!! Do you take Lyrica for yours? I do! I also didn't realize your roommate had the gastric bypass, AWESOME! how is she doing? I am preparing to do the lap band, that is if I ever get my stupid BMI down a bit more...CRAP! its so hard! I lose weight I gain weight I lose weight I gain weight...Since my last doctor's visit from Dec 2009 I gained a stinkin pound..."gimme a break" scale will ya?? I've no idea when I will be scheduled for lap band... Please let your room mate know I wish her much success on her journey ok?? good luck on your all's cleaning endeavor one I hate doing myself...(G)!
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Mar 10
Lyrica has corn starch and I'm DEATHLY allergic to corn - so no, not taking it. The roomie's lost almost 30 lbs since the bypass - 80 in all I'm down almost 50 (tho after dinner tonight I probably gained 5 lbs!) I'll let the roomie know
• Canada
21 Feb 10
My hubby and I are both fairly disorganized people. Because of a couple of physical challenges, I am unable to do a lot of physical labour, so he does it. Recently the wonderful man cleaned the entire kitchen, and the entire bathroom. The apt. is still cluttered, but atleast it's sanityary. LOL
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Mar 10
the roommate J cleans the other bathroom, but its like she doesn't remember mine exists And honestly, I'm not the one who put a litter box in there and why is it still in there after the cat is out???? once in a great while she'll mop in there
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
22 Feb 10
the cleanliness of your surroundings, even your abode, is your own responsibility. while disabilities make the job a lot more difficult, it can be done with a lot of determination. unless, of course, when the disability is total. then cleaning house or even tidying small things, becomes impossible. like what you did, you may be slower and will take extra effort to do things around your abode, but you can do it. it's not a matter of speed or level of cleanness, it's the effort and the determination that counts...
@patgalca (14557)
• Orangeville, Ontario
23 Feb 10
With fibro it's not always a matter of whether you have the ability to do it, it is the pain as a result of what you do that is the problem.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Pat is right, it hurts while you are doing it, and it hurts more later so you have to be careful to not over do it or you could be laid up for days - its not determination, its gauging how much is not too much...
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
you are both correct, only the afflicted body can determine how far he or she can go. and it's not good to follow the no pain, no gain thing here...
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I'm glad you guys had a productive day.I didn't ! My printer went on a rampage of its own and wouldn't quit copying some articles I'd written over a week ago. It took me hours to figure it out--------not that I actually did mind you, but turns out apparently its memory was stuck LOL Like mine-----but finally it paid attention when I rebooted twice and turned the printer off and on several times. But talk a waste of a good day. You guys just be glad you accomplished all that you did !
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I had something like that happen to me, the printer seemed to remember a printing project from several days before and it was spitting out pages that I had tried to print several times before giving up
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I finally did get it stopped but was beginning to feel like I was in the twilight zone! nothing I did stopped it and even unplugging it for a while helped but plugged it back in and back to printing---------- But I finally figured out the problem, well? most of it. I guess the memory had to finish what it knew and then I read on the printer page that the printer was off line------I jiggled the line and it would print like crazy again ! But lo and behold it stopped after I pullled most of my hair out LOL Ihope you have a productive day today.
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• Boston, Massachusetts
22 Feb 10
Hi Elic, One of the my favorite house chores during the weekend is a general cleaning. we do this every saturday morning. it's fun to clean the house. everyone has a role to play and place to clean and maintain. after this is a food trip that i myself prepare. we do the laundry every other day to avoid bulks of it.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
22 Feb 10
I'm not a fan of cleaning, but it has to be done... with only 3 of us (none younger than 49 yrs old and that one blind!) and all of us with some other problems as well, and all of us on different schedules too, its hard to find a time when we could all get together and do something
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• Boston, Massachusetts
22 Feb 10
oh my...sorry for that. i understand your concern and your situation. i am just blessed enough to have a helper at home. it makes it easier for us. but it's a conserted effort. we all participate in cleaning--me and my hubby plus our two teen kids. take care always!
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 Feb 10
We try to do cupboard every 6 month for they get so out of sorts with every one looking for sometihng or just placing what we bought into them yup funny how much room ya find after the throwing out oput dated things.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Mar 10
we seldom have out of date stuff, tho we found a stash of food that some was out of date last summer - we do check them more often than that!
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
2 Mar 10
we try too but some how thaqt chore gets pushed aside and really shouldnt!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 May 10
For me these last few days have been especially productive in the means of getting my house cleaned up. I decided that I wanted to get my living room and my office cleaned up once and for all. If I am able to get everything picked up then I know that the upkeep of it isn't going to be as bad as getting started on the project in the first place. I feel like now that I have all the junk picked up and organized it is only going to take me maybe 30 minutes a day to be able to maintain and improve on what I've gotten done.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
5 May 10
That is SO energetic of you! When you are done there, you'll come help me?
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
1 Apr 10
I often stress, in cleaning the house, because all I do own. house cleaning job was never completed, after cleaning there is always a dirty again. although I have made a schedule to clean the house, still always accumulate.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
1 Apr 10
I'm not going to stress over it, if its not perfectly clean, well, that is my problem. If the other people have a problem with it not being perfectly clean, they can clean it.
31 Mar 10
A productive day for me would be completing my homework before the due date or working out how to use the washing machine. these days rarely occur.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
1 Apr 10
how to use the washing machine? isn't there an instruction book? or at least on the lid? of course, my mom taught me how to do it...
• China
9 Mar 10
It is my BF who is cleaning all the time. Since i am not good at cleaning the house or cooking, so he does the housework most of the time, therefore is like a houseman to me. I do more the washing work, because i like to do it more. Therefore most of the time we are sharing the family chores, which seems working quite well to us two.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
9 Mar 10
that's nice, wish I had one... I do low stuff, the roomie does high stuff, but I have to spot after her because she can't see more than a foot from her nose - on a good day
• Philippines
8 Mar 10
I done it before, that was when my mother went to her province to process some land papers. No one will able to clean the house but me, all alone. So I woke up early that morning and I planned it all in my mind what should I do first. I finished cleaning every part of the house about a couple of hours and I was really happy of the result. I did that for a week until my mother went back home. I even do the dishes, feeding the pets, washed the clothes and prepare meals. I did not cook since that is not my line, my father is. And it’s a good feeling when your house is clean. And when you do it the first time you want to get better as the days goes by. After being able to do that, my body aches since I am not used to doing it but charge to experience I was really proud of myself.
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
9 Mar 10
I can just bet I have to do some things around here - like tonight we changed out the shower heads, the one because it broke and the other because it didn't have good pressure - we'll see if it improves...
@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
24 Feb 10
This is my son cooking. - I took this picture the 4th of July.
They say I have fibromyalia too. I have good days and bad days. I have to be careful and not over do it on my good days, or I will not be able to much the next day. I do let things go at times. It is not always easy to do things, I get my children to help when I can.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Mar 10
must be nice to have a kiddo who actually HELPS - so many of the people here are complaining about family that just make it worse!
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I really need to get busy and clean my house. The other day I tried to put away a soup ladle and I could not fit it in the drawer--I need to get that drawer organized! One of my sons is coming for a brief visit this coming weekend, part of a job he is doing, and I don't want him to see how disorganized I've become! Good for you for having a very productive day!
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
9 Mar 10
I need to organize that drawer too, and take out some stuff we never use!
@Tallygirl09 (1385)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Wow, that was a super productive day for house organization! You should be very proud of yourself! I live with Chronic Back pain that is very severe some days. So I can well relate to breaking down projects into smaller steps. But I have also found that there is something very powerful about taking control and sometimes our minds can give us the strength, will and drive to accomplish a given task with little or less than usual pain. And like you, I have found that once my mind is in more control that I have the ability to get alot done, ie the laundry! I make lists of projects that I want to get done and often will group them so that I can try and get more done. The sense of accomplishment may seem trivial to some, but those of us who have the pain, know it's not!
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
23 Feb 10
that is so true, we wanted to make veggie soup also, but after all the pantry work, it was too much for me so we did it on Sunday - tho it was a warm day and soup would've been tastier on the cooler, drearier Saturday - it was still tasty the next day and tomorrow it's going to be nice to not have to make it when its in the 30's!
@bunnybon7 (37156)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Feb 10
good for you and her. you know i have a problem with getting things done, even when im breathing ok. because i always feel tired and have pains in alternate places. its been suggested to me, i could have it and should talk with my new doctor about it. but i just really hate going to doctor, im wondering if fibro might be similar to RA? arthritis. if i do more (force myself) i feel a little better then. today i had to cook, wash dishes, some clothes, and vacuum a little at a time. also, its disgusting the way i put off takeing a shower. its something that takes my breath and seems like a chore, but i did that to.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
23 Feb 10
well, you have to eliminate RA and Lupus before you can get a Fibro diagnosis, on one hand, it isn't fatal (you just wish it were) on the other, there aren't a lot of treatments yet (the one I can't take because it has corn in it)... you want a laugh - before I remodeled and had the shower made with a bench in it, I had a seat that I sat to shower with - the roomie thinks showering sitting down is giving up, I think dressing sitting down is... (she does that) after all, it takes less time, but requires better balance to dress - I'm even able to put on socks again standing now that I'm down to around 200 lbs!!!
@DCMerkle (1281)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Hi, My disability keeps me from having what I use to be use to as a productive day. My legs don't work all that well, so when I have housework to do I do it in stages. What at one time took me maybe a couple of hours in the morning now takes me all week. It use to frustrate me that I couldn't get it all done, but it's better than spending time in the hospital not getting anything done.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
23 Feb 10
I know what you mean, I have to take things in small stages to get things done - and I just don't expect the whole house to be clean at one time... but if I could get just myself going a bit a week, besides the massive litter change/trash out on Weds we could probably do a bit better - oh, we did some work in the roomie's bedroom on Sunday too, so its not like we didn't do anything I do spend time every day cleaning off the plastic I have over range where the cats pee - at least they are hitting the plastic now instead of the range!