Are you good at forgetting bad experiences you like to forget?

i just saw people die yesterday then i slept this day i dont remember anything

Bad experiences? I was abused in all four ways until I was 22 years old. I do not have even one happy memory from childhood. Do I remember them? Of course I do. Do I want to erase them? No! A bad memory that is erased is only erased to a certain level and can emerge again at any time. A bad memory that is faced and dealt with is defeated. It can be remembered without bad feelings, without harshness, grudges or ill will. Even though my abuse was very severe, I can now remember it all with thankfulness, because it helped to make me what I am today. Trying to forget bad experiences will not work. It might work for a short time, but will rise again in an even worse form. Take the sting out of the bad experience and it will no longer have the power to hurt.

At first, it really is hard for me to forget bad memories, but as I grew up, I learned to just forget about it. I always think that life is too short to waste my time thinking about the bad happenings.

I am very poor at forgetting bad incidents, which really hurt me. I forgive quick, but forgetting takes many years for me. People have a tendancy to think about hurting incidents happened in life compared to the happy incidents. If you have 98 nice incidents and 2 hurting incidents, you will think about the hurting incidents more. I have a friend who decided not to go for any trips in her life becuase she had a horrible time in a trip. People take decisions like this, when they have a hurting incident.

my mind has elaborate defenses! it is easy for me to block out negative experiences my mind only lets me hold on to the good could be why I can never truly carry a grudge

It's not easy to forget something that you don't like. Sometimes, It could be an advantage for you or a hindrance for you to move on and make something beautiful. I think that every thing that we had gone through should not be forgotten because it molds us of who we are right now. Learning from our past experiences and make it right. As what they say.. EXPERIENCE is the BEST TEACHER

In psychology classes we were thought that bad experiences and bad memories had the nasty tendency to stick around longer than good memories. I am not sure why, perhaps because sometimes these bad experiences can teach you a life saving lesson and therefore nature doesn't want us to forget? However, fear can also paralize us which isn't good either. I am not so good to forget personal affairs that bother me, but I can seperate work and private so if you call that good I guess I am getting quite good at it .

I wish I was but a lot of bad experiences are ingrained on my memory like a broken gramophone record, they play over and over and over again, it's more about the regrets I have and the stupid decisions I made and the repurcussions. I still have a very bad experience of being with my ex and giving up my beautiful flat. I wish I could snap my fingers and my past is deleted, I can't help letting the past control my future, I am ashamed to say that I am fully of suppressed anger and hatred and I am the shadow of my former self. If I am not careful I am going to end up a sad, bitter, lonely old man if I am not that already. Ho hum....

Yes, I am. Of course, I brood over the bad experience for a few months or so and then get it out of my system...forget it even happened. I'm so good at it that sometimes I'm surprised when someone reminds me about it years later. I don't associate anything that happens to me in the present to something that happened in the past...could be because I've forgotten about it.

Hi balasri, when younger it was quite difficult for me to forget all those unhappy and bad experience especially those related to intimate relationship. The more I tried to shake it away the more firmly it stick in my mind Therefore most of the time I fell into the bottomless pit of agony easily unconsciously after encountering undesirable experience Might be during that younger period I tended to look thing on the dark side instead the bright. When age becoming more senior I always try to look thing on the bright. Yeah, I realize that we would be very philosophical about bad experience coming across if having positive thinking all the time. We won't be happy if indulging all those bad experience lingering in our mind ever now and then. Have a nice day

I think that is how our mind works We tend to block bad experiences from our memory lane so that we can survive and continue living. It our spirit of survival. If we don't do that we are doomed to live our past. It continues to haunt us for all the days to come. So it is better if we but bad experiences on our shoulders and never look at them. It is a good thing to learn from them and not to repeat the same mistake.

When there is an unfinished business is hard to try to put memories behind. The best thing to do is to confront and tell people how you feel about them even if is negative and this way you can forget and move on with your life.

I wish I was! I am one of these people who tend to hang on to past events especially painful ones like broken hearts and embarrassing experiences. When it comes to matter of the heart, for example, I usually get over the person in reasonable time but tend to hang on to the pain and the negative effect it had on my self esteem. My counsellor is helping deal with those events and see them for what they were, put them behind me with the knowledge that I am worthy person just because I exist. I have a way to go...

Hi, is very curious, people easily forget the happy moments, good moments, but they can never forget the unhappy moments that mark our all lives , it's easy to say, "you have to forgrt and move on". Is very difficult, it seems that memory affective, detained more difficult moments of our lives easier, but it may thirst better, because you do not repeat what was wrong in the past.

Bad memories seemed to be glued permanently in my memory. Like a case of a broken heart with my first love. Until this day I still think of him and eversince that day of our breakup there is no longer any contact with him but memory of him still lingers on. Good memories seem to fade easily with the passage of time as if it has never happened in life. Maybe the pain inflicted was too much to bear that it left a permanent scare in the heart.

I have tried to forget about some bad experiences. I haven't been successful, but I don't dwell on them. Last November I ran over a child on a bicycle. I never saw him. Weeks afterward I could still hear his screams and the crunch of metal under my car. The accident was not my fault. A witness told the police that he had been traveling the same way I was, then suddenly changed his direction -- right in front of me. Thank goodness I had just started going after a stop sign or it could've been much worse. My insurance covered it. Anyway, the facilitator of a support group I'm in was tremendously helpful to me. She treated my haunting memories of the accident by using EMDR. It's a little like hypnosis but different. After one session I was cured of constantly hearing the accident replayed in my mind. I still think about it, and constantly have to drive at the location since it's only a couple blocks from where I live. So...I'll probably never forget it, yet I do have peace, and have become super-vigilent when I stop, looking up the sidewalks as well as other cars.

Nope, Im quite the opposite of forgetting. The thing with me is: I want to remember them. Im good with remembering details especially those events that I am a part of. I just have this knack for details and I also do want to remember them. It's my way of preserving the memories good and bad. Even though the event is a negative one, I would still want to remember them because I surely wouldnt want that to happen again, right? I would often wish to move on or get past a negative experience rather than forget them so what happens in my case is that with all the remembering and moving on from it, I would just gradually put it behind me. I may seem to forget it but I dont think so, I just need a bit of reminder and everything that came from that experience will also be remembered.

It takes time for some and while others cant get past it...

Like the guy above me said, bad memories stick to your mind and come at the most inoportune times. The thing is that you have to accept and live with these memories, cherishing the bad moments not as failures but as learning experiences.