Why do people assume things and never ask?

well jugs for a change i don't know what to say,that's got to be a first,anyway,everyone gets things wrong sometimes,i know i do,could you talk to your friend and just explain how you feel and how next time just ask what you're up to and not assume

not that would be a lame excuse to say, assuming that you are busy. its either they dont like you to go there or they forgot to invite you. but to say that you might be busy is a lame excuse. how did they know you are busy? are they with you 24/7. if i am in your situation i would cross out some appointment as well for i will assume i am busy har har har

jugsjugs I have wondered that all my life. for one thing I was so looking forward to a fellow mylotter who was cooming to my area to look me up and come see me, but on the d ay she said she would c all, I never heard from her, and to this day I dont know if she had family problems or what as she never notified me at all. I feel maybe she c ame by here and did not like the looks of the place so gave it up. I felt hurt and yet I did not know why. At least you are going ahead on all your appointments. this allergy has put a stop to my two medical things I was going to do. for one thing that medication shoves my blood sugar so high that blood work now would not read right. so must wait awhile. anyway I need to get more money first.

To me it sounds like they didn't feel like bothering to ask so instead they just said they assumed you'd be busy. I am not really sure. I hate when people assume things too, but really I'm very bad at assuming things.

Hehehe. well, I think it's already a human nature for us to assume things. Though I attended a team building just last month, and our speaker made a really good point about this. Never Never assume, in our line of work (audit), you cannot assume, cause jobs and businesses are on the line if you do. And he gave us this line with regards to assumptions Assuming = you're making an A$$ of U and ME And I thought, that really is true.

I hate when people assume that others do not have plans when you do or when you od not have plans and someone assumes that you do not have plans when you do. If it were me I would ask a friend before assuming. What also bugs me is when you make plans to go out with someone and the person flakes out on me. I know that I make a list of things that need to be done, but I will sometimes rearrange my schedule so I can go out.

lets hope you do assume right lolololol

What a topic ! Wonderful.This is what many people say on many occasions.In my house itself my husband says frquently"Never assume.Ask" THere is a proverb in or regional language thta says"what you see is not true.What you hear is not true.Ask and find out -this is hte real truth".Many people tend to say "Oh! I htought you would be able ot do this;Oh! I thought you would be unable to do this!" I thought you would not come ;thta is why I did not invite you" Now my view is thta this person did not think it fit to find out.If it were a case of real interst in having one's company or if it were a case of genuine friendship or relationship they would ask.THese are excuses.

Never assume. It makes an a$$out Of u and me! I hate it when people assume too. To look at me some would assume I would be the perfect babysitter or teacher well... they are wrong. I wouln't know what to do with a child and I never want to learn and as for teaching, I don't have the desire nor the patience!

There are those assume because they already asked question but the answer is just a mere estimation too. When the friendship is involve I do not assume though. I really ask a friend. If she is busy then it comes from here I do not assume. When it comes to medicine we do not need to be assume because it is dangerous if we drink more and the effectivity is less when the we drink less. I believe we are hurt when a friend done it to us. It irritates me when they assumed too, meaning they are the ones who decide for me when asking question is free. What if they assume it and they are wrong, it will only lead to misunderstanding I know. Moreover, there are many people who assume anyway. But I as much as possible I don’t want to do that.

Hi jugsjugs, I was told a long time ago that when we assume something, we make an a.. out of u and me. It's always best to check rather than assume. Blessings.

well sometimes they don't assume and that is only an excuse for when they don't want to include you in those plans.

I have some friends that go out to breakfast sometimes to discuss a trip they take together every year. They don't invite the one girl that goes on the trip. When I asked why they said she was usually busy with her husband. She said she wasn't and they never mentioned it to her. This confused me, she goes on the trip, so it can't mean they don't like her or don't want her around. I think sometimes people just don't want to bother to invite someone and then they say they thought the person was busy or wouldn't want to go.

Thats one thing that really pisses me off big time too. When someone tells me that they did not asked me anymore because they thought i dont like to join or to be somewhere they will be going.This is also about giving respect to a person or a friend, to at least ask before you assume something specially if you really dont know what will be his answer,now if his answer is not then good but what if its a yes? You'll never know unless you try, if you keep on doing such a thing you might not be aware of it but your hurting the feeling of the person involved. People should be much more sensitive to the feelings of others to avoid such conflicts

It is very annoying when People do that t the end of the Day even if you are Busy it is still nice to be asked and have the chance to yes ok or no I am sorry but I am busy that Day

Those people saying that are just indirectly saying that we don't want you to be with us this time and or this time we need you so you must be free

Those people saying that are just indirectly saying that we don't want you to be with us this time and or this time we need you so you must be free

For me, assumptions after the fact is just a cop out. I think it is just a convenient excuse for forgetting something, or for thinking that it wasn't that important that you were included. If I did the same thing, I may say the same excuse. Because if you really think of it, it's the only thing that comes to mind. For me, at least. Anyway, I hope you have had the talk with your friend. If she's a real friend, then she would appreciate the honesty.

Well jugsjugs my friend know how busy i keep and my tours enjoying seminars, workshops and lectures following my retirement, it is okey, but why they should presume, they can just call me and know Thanks for this post Prof

most of the time thats what we did we assume not knowing a=that at the end part of it e are wrong ..