If you were me, what would you do?

Philippines
May 3, 2010 12:29am CST
I recently quit my job hoping to try out freelancing for a change. The problem is I've already depleted my savings and now I'm living off my parents' money. I really hate being dependent, and asking for their help while I'm trying to establish myself is really chafing on me. Now, a company I've worked before (not the most recent one I left) has called up asking if I'd like to work with them again. I recall that the reason why I left that said company was because I wanted to try out new things while I was still young and able. Should I accept their offer and work with them again or keep trying freelancing? This is really stressing me out, please give me some advice!
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30 responses
• Canada
4 May 10
It depends on the agreement you made when your parents started helping you financially. Did you agree that you have to pay them back? If so, then the decision is up to you, as you are only incurring more debt that will take longer to pay back if you don't accept the job. If not, then to stop them from spending more of their money, you should take the job until a Freelancing opportunity arises. Don't stop looking, just earn a paycheque while you do. It is a tough economy right now and I wouldn't say no to a job if someone offered it to you.
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
5 May 10
First of all i havent a clue what is ment by freelancing. Are you not making money at it??? Earning something is better than earning nothing. Especially when you were once self supporting and now your not. Cant you take the old job and still freelance? Yes, you will be working a lot (i guess) but sometimes you do have to sacrifice to get a dream going. You just need to be on your own and stop depending on your parents. As a parent i know it can be ruff on them too having a child return home again. We love you but look forward to when our dependents leave home. Even thought we dont mind helping our children. Once my sister told me in confidence her biggest fear was that when her children tuned 18 they would not move away.
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• Philippines
5 May 10
Thanks for your advice, especially for your point of view as a parent. To freelance is to be self-employed or not to be committed to a longterm employment. My parents said they don't mind helping me out, since they know I'm really trying to do something and not just slacking off. But I know it's still kinda hard for them. I also don't like asking for financial help. I guess I really do need to get a steady job for now so I don't need to rely on my parents' help and just do some freelancing on the side.
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@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
5 May 10
Your welcome. That is true we parents dont mind helping our children anytime but its better when we are relieved of that too. In the future when you have your own children you will fully understand. I do also undrestand how it is and you need to go back home too. That happen to me before too. So i can can fully understand from both sides now.
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@rushmee (605)
• India
4 May 10
hi i'm a web content developer and have a team of young and aspiring writers and copywriters who work for me. i dont know your location and what type of freelance work you do. but i can offer you home based writing work, for which i can pay you either per assignment or on monthly basis, depending on 1) your work quality 2) your work capability so, if you what to try some writing work, send me your resume at rashmiwaliawaiting@gmail.com anyway, best of luck
• Philippines
5 May 10
Hi rushmee, Thanks for your offer! I'm a graphic designer, although I think I have a very good handle with the English language. I've never done any writing jobs though. Maybe you'd have any freelance design jobs?
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• United States
5 May 10
I don't mean to intrude but I was looking into to doing gd..here's a website to help you: tjobs.com It's telecommuting and there were several gd jobs as of yesterday! good luck
• China
5 May 10
If I were you,I will accept the offer and work with them again. I think the first thing for you is supporting yourself.you can accept the job and try out freelancing at your spare time. Most people like to be freelancer just like me.But we have to work for others for living first.
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@manbir84 (135)
• India
5 May 10
I know what this feeling is because I experience this same situation till now after 1 and half year because I don't want to join the previous company that I left.So I waste my 1 and half year.So it is on to you that what you do.I tell you my experience.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
4 May 10
I say tke the Job and you can still work on your Freelancing, at least you have money coming in and if your Freelancing works out you can always leave the job and make your Living on the Freelancing I know that is what I would do
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
4 May 10
dear cool, i have never tried freelancing. that would entail a lot of talent and skill, i guess, which i am not equipped. but if i am in the same situation as yours, i would hit two birds with one stone. keep my job and do freelancing too. you may be loyal to only one.. but surely your earning will stay with your regular job and maybe improve with the additional job. cheers, ann
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• Philippines
3 May 10
Know what? We're sort of going through the same thing. I badly want to quit my job now because I really feel that there's no fulfillment and happiness in my part. It's like my learning has been stagnant and that there's no improvement at all. Plus the pay is not that good. I would love to look for a job that is the opposite of what I have now. But my mom would not let me resign because I still don't have any job to replace what I have now. I'm still in the process of job hunting and she does not want me to just stay at home and jobless again after I resign. She has a point and I consider that. In your case, I think you should accept the offer again. It's such a privileged to be offered a job because you won't bother searching anymore. Even if it's not what we want, God knows that it's what we need. I always put that in mind whenever I really want to quit my job immediately. I think you can still try freelancing or looking for a sideline job while carrying out a full time one.
• Philippines
3 May 10
Thanks for the advice! I'm not crazy to work in an office again but it looks like I really don't have a choice. I'm not ready yet. I guess it's really God's plan since the company called again just when I was wondering if what I'm doing with my life is right.
• Philippines
4 May 10
Hi @akiong. Thank you so much for the suggestion and for giving me the links. Thank you so much.
@spalladino (17924)
• United States
3 May 10
I don't know what field you are trying to freelance in but this doesn't seem to me to be a very good time economically to try it. Since you're not having much luck it would be a good idea, in my opinion, to return to a paid position for awhile. Save as much money as you can so that you will have a decent financial cushion...at least six month's...before you try again. Keep in mind that it's never too late to follow your dreams.
• Philippines
3 May 10
Thanks for the great advice. Looks like the freelancing option is really not a good idea for me right now. I just need to postpone my plans until I have the means to back it up I guess. And I'll plan my moves more carefully next time! Thanks again!
6 May 10
I disagree- the recession is always a great time to go freelance or set up your own business (if you know what you are doing). I am sure things will work out for you whatever you decide. Perhaps a job is better for you at the moment- only you know which one is right!
@celticeagle (120516)
• Boise, Idaho
3 May 10
I would never of just quit a good paying job to try freelancing. I would freelance and work and see if the freelancing gets very good and then quit. Very few people can make on freelancing and only after getting a good running start at it. Take the job! Get well instated in freelancing before you quit another job. Unless ofcourse you enjoy not eating and not paying the bills and living off your parents.
• Philippines
3 May 10
Hi celticeagle! Thanks for the advice. I actually quit my job because I started to really hate it. The company modified my job position and I was stuck doing something I didn't sign up for in the first place,and I really didn't want to do. The only way (as I saw it) was to resign. I thought I should have a go with freelancing now, but I guess I'm not ready yet. Next time, I'll make sure I'm prepared!
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@celticeagle (120516)
• Boise, Idaho
3 May 10
Yes, prepared! I just find it hard to believe that someone would just quit their job for any reason. I have had jobs I didn't like or that changed but I never just quit. That was all.
• Philippines
3 May 10
Hi, I think you should accept the job. You're lucky enough to have been invited to go back to your old company. You can always try working online on your own free time, but a regular job is much lucrative for now. While you were just starting out to establish your online career, take the opportunity that is knocking right now and managed your time to build an online reputation. So that, when you're ready, you'll be able to earn more online and can leave the office job.
• Philippines
3 May 10
hi dvirtualist, I realized that yes, I'm lucky my previous company offered me a job again. I think I really need to get a regular job as of now as you all advised. I don't want to live off my parents anymore even though they're not saying anything. Thank you very much!
@dhysanne (451)
• Philippines
3 May 10
I think you're lucky because you're still receiving job offers. Since you don't have enough savings now, it will be a great help for you if you will accept the job. Then if you really want freelancing job, continue with what you do online. With your job you will have your monthly income, plus income from your freelance jobs.
• Philippines
3 May 10
Hi dhysanne! I've come to believe that I must have been overcome with a temporary case of insanity. Thanks for the advice! Thank God for you myLotters for knocking some sense into me. I realized I'm really lucky to get the job offer. I'll make sure to save up and really make sure I'm prepared to do Full time freelancing before attempting it again!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
8 Dec 10
Considering you didn't have a plan in place to be able to make your living freelancing before you gave up your job, I would say that the best thing that you can do is to go back to work for the company that you've worked for in the past. The reason for this is that you shouldn't be dependent on your parents and if you really want to work for yourself, you need to have a plan in place and already be working on it before you give up your employment.
@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
13 May 10
In the present situation, I think that you can re-joint with the earlier company. Your savings have exhausted, do don't like to dependent and the company is calling back, ie you didn't ask, they called you. While considering all these in this order, you can have a discussion. As long as the company called up, you can go for it and make up the things more better. In the company where I am working, has a tendency of this attitude. Atlest 20% of the people are here joined back with a very good bargain. So why don't try and hope you will get a warm welcome. For reasons, use your tongue appropriately. Best of luck and regards, Thank-s
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
7 May 10
The issue you don't seem to have grasped is that you need to plan a bit more carefully so you can support yourself and not rely on your folks. Of course the other side is that the sort of maturity, resourcefulness and a clear work ethic that are required to be self employed are just not your strong point. I'd take the job on offer and work out some sort of plan. It's best to have an income while you are looking for work, jobs can be hard to get and you're being offered a gift.
• United States
7 May 10
I would definately take the job offer and try to work on freelance projects on the side. This will allow you to build your resume up more in order to open new doors for yourself.
6 May 10
Perhaps you could ask this company if they'll hire you part-time so you still have a regular income and can freelance on your days off? I would sit down and work out why the freelancing isn't working out, or look at what you are spending your money on. Basically if you minimise your outgoings then you should be able to quickly regain your independence. Good luck!
@RachelleNH (1408)
• United States
5 May 10
I hope I'm not double posting..refresh errors..but what I'd do is take the job for stability and build up your freelancing in your free time. The best of both worlds if you can do it.
• India
5 May 10
In first place I could have not quit the job unless I get stability of my own doing. If you have already tried your idea and that did not work better yoy move on and grab the job offer. May be you are thinking that you failed and the people in that company may point taht why you came back instead of trying your own thing but I would say that you should grab the earlier company job offer instead of spending parents money. Just a suggestion.
@derek_a (10902)
4 May 10
Yes, if I was depending on others for hand-outs I would go back and work for the company I left before because in this economic climate I would not know when or if I would be able to get a better job. But each of us is different and I guess it depends on how much a person needs financial independence and what that person is willing to do in order to get it. Being too ambitious can sometimes cause situations to get worse instead of better... Good luck.. As a therapist, I am sure once you have made a firm decision your stress will ease considerably. Stress is caused by being pulled in to many directions by feeling uncertain.. _Derek