Good Fortune Has Smiled Upon Us...So Why am I Sad?

I know you will adjust and if you are able to go and see him at work then that is not so bad I know it is hard but you will soon get used to it and like you say hopefully he will soon be able to go on the first Shift I am happy though that he has managed to get a better Job, at least that is a Bonus Hugs to you

It is tough to work different shifts. You would like this alright if you were both on the same shift. You make the most of days off, and you look at the big picture, which is good pay and a better working environment in an area close to where you live. He may have opportunity to change shifts. Some people actually prefer second shift. If the good pay involves shift differential, try to pretend like it is not there. Try to bank the differential so that if he takes a cut when he goes to first it will not be a hardship.

Thats great news about the new job. Its too bad about the hours but you will adjust. My hubby was a truck driver, his hours were never the same, crazy hours. But you adjust and the time that you do have together is just nore precious. Take care and enjoy your happiness, you so deserve it.

I would be a little upset, but then I would adjust. One has to as jobs are hard to come nowadays, even though he does not have daytime shift, there is an advantage of the afternoon shift - I suppose that is what you meant. At least you will be with him for dinner and maybe the boss of his new job will promote him to daytime. By the way, the new ones on the jobs usually get the worst shifts anyway. That is nothing new.

That's a tough one. You love one another so...for the moment...it sounds like you are being very wise. Changing your schedule for a while is ok. No one likes change and it can be hard to adjust but you love each other and that makes a huge difference. You might find you like the evening hours.

I would not adjust if I were you, knowing that my love will be home at the day after fills me with greater love and more passion over him. I wouldn't like being with my love 24/7, it's too much. Sometimes these work brakes and the distance is needed to enhance the love line.

Well I am so happy for you folks and for all of it. I think if my husband and I had more space apart in small doses we may still be together. I do believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Good luck all the way.

that's GREAT he's got a job waiting for him, and while its not "ideal" its good, and he's got it and you can support him by being there for him until he can get first shift. is he getting a pay differential for working the 2nd shift?

I have been in the situation....and you adjust so that your times together are special.....good for you for figuring it out!

hi elusivebutterfly I am so glad your love has a new job. and you will be living in the area. oh shift times are so hard on everyone. I used to work nights as a nurses aide and that was hard on my husband as he had to drive me to the various 'hosp;itgals I was sent to then pick me up in the mornings.At least we always had breakfast together but it played havoc on our love life.We all had to adjust to my schedules. Later he started up a lawn and gardening service and that let us have a more stable home life too. Of course we all have to adjust at times and just be glad he or she has a job. lol lol.

It is good news that your man has a better job with improved pay; that in itself is life changing. I relate to how you feel because my husband took on a job with a much better salary two years ago which makes it possible for me to stay at home and write while my little girl is at school and for that I am so very grateful, the down side for us is that he has to go away on regular business trips; they are not too bad, only three or four days at a time every couple of months. I hated it at first because I missed him but I used to live on my own and I do enjoy my own company when my daughter is asleep. I adjusted well and I make the most of the time he is away and look forward to his return. If I was in your position I would have dinner with him once or twice a week, I would enjoy the rest of the evenings to do what I wanted to do and relish in the peace. Absence definitely does make the heart grow fonder! Hope all works out well for you both...

I guess these are just the sacrifices you have to do to fit love and a means of living. If the money is good, and there is a possibility to move into the first shift in the future, then like you said, you just have to adjust. I admire your resolve for deciding to make the necessary steps to be with your love. I'm sure it'll be bette down the road. Goodluck!

I'm not sure how I would react if this would happen to me. I am so used to having my fiancé by my side every single day and night and I'm not sure that I could adjust easily. My neighbor's husband is away for 2-3weeks a month working in another country and I don't understand how she can manage being without him for so long, and they have kids as well :S

It really won't be so bad butterfly, believe me. Save things that you can do alone for when he's not there, watch what you want on TV, and use the time for "me" time. Remember, it's not how much time you spend together, it's how you spend your time together...quality, not quantity.

I guess I would make the most of the time when he IS around. Good luck and I hope he gets first shift soon!

I think u should be counting your blessings for having him & be thankful he has a job no matter what shift he has to work. I have been by myself a long, long time. I think u can handle this little change. Good luck. Have a happy weekend.