People that you can not be dealing with

@jugsjugs (13045)
August 23, 2010 3:33pm CST
There are all types of people out there.You have people that are really nice and would go out of their way to help people,there are people that you hardly see,but when you do you can really have a great chat with and relax with,then there are the others that you hear about who have been discussing you and other people that are your friends,people who live in the same area thinking that the person would never hear as they do not see many people.Face book is a great way to hear from other friends, that we can not get out and see, they keep us informed of all what is being said aswell as what is going on.I can not be dealing with all the back stabbing that has gone on,aswell as hearing who is being soo two faced.
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@aurorastorm (1136)
• United States
23 Aug 10
I think the more friend you have and also in different places the more this happens. I did not realize the extent that people do this until I recently had to take a look in the mirror at myself. I have some friends in my neighborhood that I realized I was talking behind their backs. Not in a mean way but talking about stuff that was not my right to talk about. I woke up today and said I will make a conscientious effort to step back and stop doing this.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
23 Aug 10
If a friend was in trouble and i knew a person that could help,then that is the time i would go to someone else about that persons pr oblem,but only to get that person help.There are people out there that do as much as they can to get another persons attention no matter what they have said or done to another person behind their back.
@GardenGerty (99481)
• United States
24 Aug 10
@aurora, I know that is a failing I have. Even spreading information in a kind way can be wrong. I applaud you for knowing that.
@cream97 (29168)
• United States
23 Aug 10
Hi, jugsjugs. I know what you mean. In this world, we will meet up with many different types of people. Some are nice and some are shady and others are just plain trifling! It is a shame that people are this way, but that is how they are. Sad, but true.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
23 Aug 10
There are alot of people out there that are really nice people,people that are genuine people,where as there are alot of people that are totally false.I am 39 years old now with a family of my own and there are other people out there that should spend time with their family rather than back stabbing other people.I am soo fed up of one of my friends getting stabbed in the back and then other people saying that they are not getting involved,but they are involving themselves by telling everyone every one elses life stories and adding their bits aswell as their versions to all of the things they are saying.These people are just so sad that they can not sort their own lives out that they should take a look closer to home.You are right that it is sad and true.
• Malaysia
23 Aug 10
That's so called as friends and the world of friendship. Sometimes we heard bad reputation on them, but at the end they're the helpers. Similarly, on the other way round. Whatever, every relationship or friendship needs to be tested; especially, when it comes to a private life property of "A Secrecy A Legacy".
@jugsjugs (13045)
23 Aug 10
I have had a friends that i use to drink with, that knows who i am on about,as they were the ones that warned me what the main person was like.I wish i had listened as that way perhaps things would be alot different,as knowing what i know now i would have not even bothered with the person,or their friend.Strange there are people out there that try to get involved and then they say that they do not want to get involved.
• United States
23 Aug 10
I cannot deal with high strung drama queens. Women who swear that they know everything, and then they have to start arguments and fights with everyone. I have to go toe-to-toe with two women this last year who were in their 40s because they just had to be right and they just had cause trouble. Now, I know that not all 40-year-old women are like this, but these two women really took the cake.
@jugsjugs (13045)
23 Aug 10
I am 39 years old and i have 6 children,so the only things that matter in my life are those people.If other people were to concerntrate on their family life,then perhaps they would be as happy as me.I think that there are alot of people out there that like to make other peoples lives a misery and them they deny they said what ever and then say that they do not want to get involved,even though they have already involved themselves.
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• United States
24 Aug 10
That's just it though, so many people don't concentrate on their family life because they are very selfish, and then they wonder why things all go to pot in the end?
@akn1961 (1035)
• India
25 Aug 10
i am 49 years old. i have two daughters. so i am happy in my family. yes facebook is a great site. thanks for your opinion.
• India
25 Aug 10
Hello mylot people i like the facebook site . its throu you touch new friends & know the new views. facebook is good site.
• Canada
23 Aug 10
Ive had people talk in my back for as long as I can remember lol. It doesnt bother me anymore, let them talk, to me its the nicest flattery now.
@jugsjugs (13045)
23 Aug 10
I think that while they are talking about me then they are leaving someone else alone,lol.They can all get on with chatting behind peoples backs as i am not really interested in what they are doing or saying as i have my life.Shame they did not look at the way their life is rather than chatting about other peoples lives.
@tammytwo (4304)
• United States
8 Sep 10
I live in a small town where people are always being two faced. Many of these people are afraid to say what they mean or to stand up for what is right because they are afraid of making people mad. I hate that. I am one who tries to stand up for what is right and for what I believe in. I can do it in a respectful manner and believe others should do the same. If I don't like someone I just simply stay away from them. I don't care to act as though they are my friends.
@Memnon (2173)
27 Aug 10
I have a lot of contacts on the web, on this and several other sites. I've met a few in person too. Facebook does not appeal to me. I feel that there is plenty about me on the internet already, without something that, to me, could be quite intrusive. In the physical world, I have a number of acquaintances, but few are close enough to be counted as friends. Working permanent nights is also restrictive! There are far too many real people quite happy to get the knife out to earn their brownie points, so I am tempted to keep them at a distance. But close enough that I can keep an eye on those I know to be dangerous.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Aug 10
We had a lot of restructuring in our playgroup last week because of this exact same kind of situation. There was a girl in our group that was doing all kinds of back stabbing and it was bringing down the morale of the group in general. That said, it was only after I learned of the backstabbing that one group of girls was doing that I realized that they weren't meant to be my friends at all. I wish that there weren't people that acted the way that these girls acted.
• China
26 Aug 10
I have the same feelings with you. In dealing with relationships with different people, I seemed like tactless. Some people can deal with various relations,therefore being slick. Then spoke a lot of beautiful word and please people. I'm not admiring that kind of person and even feel sick of them.I don't even know how to treat them. So I choose to not to contact with them. Some others bully the weak and fear the strong.Usually I cannot bear this behavior. They are too selfish to consider about other's feeling. I despise them. But what makes me confused was those people are popular in society. Anyway, I'm genuine and proud of being true of myself.
@doormouse (4619)
25 Aug 10
i can't answer the bit about facebook as i'm not on it,but the bit about people talking about other people i do know about,i hear friends talking about other people all the time,i think they tell me things because they know that i won't pass on what has been said,as for backstabbing,i have plenty of that done to me in the past,i just take most of what people say with a pinch of salt nowadays
@GemmaR (8526)
25 Aug 10
I hate people who make fun of others just to get a laugh from people around them. They often have no idea how bad they're making people feel when they do that, and they're very selfish people. I hate people who can't keep secrets, too. I often feel as though I need to talk to people about things when things seem to get too much for me, and I hate it when the person I choose to talk to then goes and tells other people what I told them. People who lie to their friends to make themselves seem better are horrible too, and I cannot stand to be around them.
• United States
24 Aug 10
Back stabbers are people I just cannot in my heart of hearts have any time and or room for. I try really hard daily to be cautious and measure any form of hurtful acts. I believe in karma and well I do not have any energy for any bad situations in my life right now. Every night in my prayers I always ask for any unintentional hurtful acts and it gives me a chance to subconsciously recognize which areas in my life I need to tweak and improve on. Well now that I am unemployed for the first time in my life I have recognized some supposedly true friends who in a split second go all out of their way to stab me in an instant. So that I do not feed into this type of activity I choose to ignore and ex them out of my life. Do not get me wrong I can be cordial I just do not have to like them.
@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
24 Aug 10
The people I know who might be called back stabbers might not stab you in the front, but you know from their demeanor that they would at least think about it. It doesn't do any good to try to get them to change their ways, they're going to; so I let them be what they are and wonder what they're saying about me behind my back. I don't lose any sleep over it, though.
@syankee525 (6295)
• United States
24 Aug 10
i am very picky about who i hang out with. and who i allow to come to my house. i just stay away from those i cant or dont want to deal with at all
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
you are quite right jugjugs! you know what, i had exactly the same lamentations as you have here a week before. A friend was backstabbed by the very people who acted as if they are her real friends and she has has done nothing wrong against them, except maybe that she is a bit prettier, sexier, happier with her married life, more successful in her business venture and she always smiles even when she knows the person has done her something wrong. I got fed up with their backstabbing and so i confronted them to mind their own lives. They have enough problems on their own to last a lifetime than take care of somebody else' life. You see these backstabbers, as i have observed, are really either envious of the person they backstab, or they crave the drama and limelight that goes with the life of the people they backstabbed. either way, it was something i could not take. and so i told them outright. Now, they consider me as another target of their delectable topics. I have long ago resigned to the fact that you cannot please everyone. And so i decided to live my life the way i want to, with due respect to the people around me. I mean, i have my own ideals and standards but i make sure that i would not harm or put someone in pain by the way i live. however, if they talk about me just for the sake of filling their insatiable hunger for gossips, i let them be. But they would just have to be careful that i wouldn't personally hear of it, or else they would have to deal with me.
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
24 Aug 10
I also like face book and it is a great way to keep in touch. Some people I know even family this is how we keep in touch for the most part, except for phone calls every month. I will not deal with someone that lies, stabs people in the back or starts a bunch of drama. I don't have nor will I make time for this dribble and childishness.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
24 Aug 10
Dear friend, I hope all humans like to be with others those who are really well adjustable or going comfortably each other, otherwise it would be some sort of tolerance. Tolerating others is really a mental harrassment or mental torture. Hope to be with those people who are well comfortable with us. Still at times we have to adjust for others. There are also people whom are better to keep a distance forever.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 10
Hi jugs, I'm glad that most of the people around in real life are really nice, friendly and helpful. It's rather sad that there are still a few who dislike to mix with others who living around them. Of course they have the right to live their own style of life and we do have to respect them. But there is one lady in her 50s who live alone in the same village. She ignores others when a friendly greeting giving to her. After knowing her peculiar habit which is rather rude there is none of people would like to talk to her anymore. She even lets her 5 fierce dogs to keep on chasing passerby every now and then and never stops the pets doing so Yeah, facebook is a great site for people to meet others with common interest. Nowadays lots of people enjoy the online fun to have pleasant communication with friends in real life as well as people made online. I like to keep in touch with online and offline friends who are sincere and have lots to share. As time is precious so I won't waste any valuable time on the wrong persons Happy posting
@celticeagle (118286)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Aug 10
Yes, Facebook is a great place to find people, hear from people, and about people. It always fascinates me when people know what is going on with others and all and I am totally in the dark. All these types of people that you describe do make the world go round. I think it is interesting how different people are so different.