I was RAPE and get PREGNANT,that's why I left my BABY

@elleb0418 (1107)
Philippines
September 16, 2010 7:06pm CST
This was the statement of the Filipina mother who left her baby in the garbage bag on the flight from the Middle East.She told the lawyer that she has been rape by her employer and get pregnant and was send force back home by her employer.The mother is from Apayao province.She said that she throw her baby because she is afraid that her family,specially her husband and 2 kids will forsake her. The police authority locate her when they find out a blood stain in on of the sit of the said flight,but the police did not gave the baby immediately,they said the mother and the baby will go DNA test so that the baby will be turn over to a wrong person. Again a call to Philippine government that they must pass a bill protecting our workers abroad,it's so sad to know that they are being treat as animals and slaves by their employer.
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@kharlav (1672)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
It was wrong for her to place her baby in the garbage, but I dont blame her fully for that though because people do crazy things when panic. So I couldn't really judge her. People may even jump off a building. If she is raped then i pity her, I may not know exactly how she felt but I know t has damaged her heart.
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@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Yes,we cannot judge anyone,but the case that she throw her baby in a garbage bag is a wrong deeds.She is a brave woman,she even go home in the Philippines eventhough she was rape there.I do hope that she can recover to this.
@TheAdvocate (2395)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
IMHO, there is no reason in the world to throw a child in the waste can. To me that meant that she intended to kill the baby. Whatever happened to her in the Middle East, there is no reason to kill an innocent baby. She could have reported the rape and give up the baby for adoption. She cannot just pretend that the baby never existed. I also do not believe that she had post-partum depression. The whole thing was just too cold for me.
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@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Yes,that was a criminal act throwing the baby with the intentions of killing.She should not do that,if ever she is not wanted the baby she should gave it for adoption so that the baby will be safe and will be taken cared off.
@JasperTore (1314)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
An innocent baby should not be treated like a garbage even though it was a product of bad experience. The mother has been unfair to the baby. Though it was not her fault, she should have at least left the baby in a safe place where it wouldn't be harmed and somebody may take care of it. The government should really strengthen its policies and rules about the workers abroad since they suffered unfair treatment. Action speaks louder than word.
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@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Maybe because of shattered mind,she done that wrong deeds to her baby by throwing it in the garbage bag,that was really wrong.You are right she must left it on the safe place or seek help to authorities and left her child there. I do hope that the elected people who are now in the position specially the lawmakers will take a move against this unfair treatment of our OFWs.
• United States
17 Sep 10
No reason is good enough to potentially harm a innocent infant. There are plenty of places she could have left the child safely such as a hospital a police dept. or anywhere with another person for that matter. You do not put your child in a garbage bag REGARDLESS of how scared you are!!!
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@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Yes, that was the wrong deeds she has done to her baby.Maybe the greatest mistakes she made by throwing him in the garbage bag.She should gave it to some agencies who can take care of it.
@fry_guy (110)
• India
17 Sep 10
ok a baby was thrown to garbage, then why didn't took those contraceptive pills to avoid hat baby and lodge a complaint against those culprits. it's the socity that making human as animals. and movies that show how to behave with women. maybe her dressing at ofice may also be a reason, she may have been betrayrd be her employer after satisfying that he will take care of him after that episode, or maybe make her rich. whatever be the reason this was wrong and she did not wanted to had one baby then she should have avoided it. I think she was out of her mind, while doing it as she was hiding something behind. she must have gone and had with him with her willingness, and was dismissed and made out of visa when it was over. HOW SAD!!!! This Socity, where are the old days?
• Malaysia
17 Sep 10
Wow, way to go. By blaming the victim, you merely reinforce the idea that the woman is to be blamed and the guy gets away scot-free. Awesome. /sarcasm
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Umm...ya really. Rape isn't planned. If in fact she was raped, then I agree that she should have handled it all differently. Throwing a baby in the trash is another crime in itself added to this story of which is all assumption and hearsay at this point. Since she is claiming rape then I don't see where or how even the mention of birth control factors in. At this point there is no proof that it was rape or if it was with consent so it does no good to imagine all those scenarios that you have listed which seem to point to that you assume that she is lying. She may be lying and that is a possibility but we don't know that.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
fri-guy(12) You can't judge that way.Did you know that in the middle east you cannot wear sexy dress specially on those strict Muslim cities? So how can you say that the girl has the courage to tempt her employer?Please be fair with us woman.
@ruperto (1552)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
"It's a desperate cry for help" - what we heard in the news as a mother who threw away new-borne on plane ... It seems to suggest the various types of violence that OFWs encounter to earn a living abroad ... some will have the nature to protest and quickly seek legal help immediately ... some for their own reasons will "leave it all to the One who makes all things possible" ... both of them can be right ... What do you think ?
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Maybe by asking strength to the ones who make it possible and seeking a legal help we do the best.There are lots of violence that our OFWs suffering when earning and working abroad,their cry was not being heard.I do hope that this will open the eyes of the Philippine government.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Are you talking about the US? Because if you are...you are wrong and need to stop saying these things. I am in the US and I see how the people from other countries are treated here. Good lord, you guys get treated like roalty compared to us!! You guys even get paid better wages than what our people get. Some of our people can't even find jobs and we are all struggling because we have to hire a certain amount of you people over here!!!!
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Never mind...I read this too quickly and I see now that you are talking about the middle east. I'm blonde....sorry.
@salonga (27955)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
I believe sending domestic helpers to the middle east is really a very risky thing. Arabs though not all have raped many Pinays. Many of them just kept quiet actually. I think the middle east is not the place of Pinays. There are other good market. Hongkong and Taiwan for example are treating the Pinays in their household well. Why go to Saudi Arabia when they only give meager salary.
@jennbart (1332)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Well, I also cannot understand why Pinays wants to work there even if there are news of such in the middle east, still they love going there! jeeez!!!
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
most of pinays work there coz there is no job in the philippnes... They just took the risk of going to any countries for them to be financially stable and to help their family.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Yes.most of the Pinays have no choice.They have that mentality to work hard just for the sake of their family eventhough it takes risk for them.We cannot blame them also for doing that.
@o0jopak0o (6406)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
until i know the whole truth ill not believe anyone.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Well that's your point of view.We are respecting that.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
I have thought of that scenario too. I saw it over the news last night. The mother was being maltreated. I cannot blame her for doing such thing. If you are actually out of your mind, you can think stupid things. I pity her actually. I believe that she is not the only one who has been being maltreated overseas.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
There are many maltreated OFWs overseas,but they are just afraid to sued their employer.There are who have courage to do but there cry for justice is not being heard.
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
She panicked maybe as she's not expecting to deliver her child on that moment. That's the thing that came to her mind thinking that she can be saved from humiliation to her family and other people. Sometimes a person can really do unforgivable act, she may not feel like doing as a result of the abuse done by others.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Yes,maybe she felt that way also that's why she do that act to her baby.But that's not an excused so she had to face the charges against her by the authority.
@jennbart (1332)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
I guess the government should also have a bill to protect innocent babies from mother's like that!Whatever the woman had, its not the baby's fault that he or she was born. The baby did not asked to be born.Being raped does not give the mother a right to just throw away a baby like a chewed up gum that does not have any juice anymore in a piece of paper and throw it just like that. I hope the kid wont be given anymore to the mom. Other families should take her home.. A family who will really take good care of her.The mother should not get the baby anymore, and should not see the baby anymore.To h3ll with that mom! If she was raped, why didn't she report it? It took her 9 months till the time she gave birth? that's way too long!
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
When you are rape like in the Middle East you cannot just ride a taxi or a bus to go to the authority to sued your employer.There are workers who have been grounded to go out,maybe she was being warned by her employer.There are those who reported it but they escape from their employer and go to the embassy.But there are lots of cases reported but was not taken any actions by our government. She was rape,got pregnant,was send home and give birth to the plane,the sad is she has that intentions to kill her baby by throwing in the garbage bag.She had to face charges for doing it.
• United States
17 Sep 10
Just because you were raped is no excuse to leave your child in a garbage bag. She could have given it up for adoption.
@Jlowe110 (313)
• United States
17 Sep 10
It seems employeers don't really care about there employees in different countries. They are just a complete source of cheap labor, working for so much less than they would in the US. If this is true, and DNA does match, then the employeer should be to blame, and should be sued for all he's worth. Something has to come of this!
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
17 Sep 10
So she couldn't just leave the baby in the airport somewhere? Someone would have found it and would have taken care of it somehow. I also have an interest in why this woman's family would disown her in a situation like this. It was not her fault that she was raped, and it would a pretty shallow person to blame the woman for what happened to her. It takes a pretty shallow-minded culture to advocate these types of beliefs. I could never blame my wife if something like this happened to her. I WOULD, however, want her to put the baby up for adoption. I don't want any kids of my own, and I would certainly not want to spend the next twenty years or more providing for a kid that wasn't mine.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
She's really in a tight spot, but I couldn't really blame her entirely. I mean, when you panic, you just sometimes throw your senses and morality out the window. Further, could her husband and family really accept that reason if they knew that she's carrying some other man's child? I don't think they would give her the chance to explain. Though, she could have just given the child for adoption before going back to her hometown, at least the innocent life would be respected enough to be given a good home if she doesn't want it. I mean, she carried it for several months. If she wanted it off she could have just aborted it easily. Well, we all have reasons and she has hers. It's just sad that there's an innocent baby at stake because of wrong decisions and actions. As for the government, we can't always give the government the responsibility of taking care of us all. We all know the risks of working outside the country. Particularly those types of countries.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
17 Sep 10
This is so sad and it was an act of desperation. However, there is no excuse to stuff a baby into a garbage bag and leave it to die. Furthermore it is not the Philipine Government that must pass laws, that Government is powerless if Philipine nationals are treated like slaves and are exploited in certain countries. I think your Government should educate people as to what might await them in certain countries and not to take jobs in those countries. Here in Canada we have strict laws as to the treatment of foreign workers. That is not to say no abuse would ever happen but at least there is recourse for the foreign workers if they are abused. Someone close to me is in the process of hiring a Philipino nanny. There are many steps to it. Working conditions, hours of work, days off, room and board and salary have to be agreed upon and signed into a contract before she starts. If she then feels ill treated or the conditions are not met she has the right to complain and ask the agency that supplied the job to take her off this job and get her other employment. It really makes me sad that these ladies have to leave their own kids at home and go far away and look after other people's children. But at least they can send back money.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Oh, okay why the guilt when you were raped. i think the natural reaction would have been to broadcast that you were raped and to ask for assistance to help you prove that they have done you wrong. I';d say the response was that she was raped so she left the baby out of fear - was fear that his husband will not believe her himself- so something going on in here that is more than what we can know.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 10
Sad to heard that, when someone who are rich and with power to hurt the poor and weak. This always happen in certain country where the authority are not serious and did not carry our their duty. Where as the high bribery country will happen the similar thing that the actual culprit will escape but the poor will be punish. In this case, who will be punish? I believe at the end the woman will be punish due to she dump her baby in the garbage bag. So what will happen to her employer that tape her, I believe he will definitely save, just because he is rich...Money can settle a lot of thing...
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Its not a reason for her to decide to just throw her baby in the trash can.. The baby is innocent.. Although some of our fellows think that way, we can't blame them.. They have their own reasons. Reason that might be bad or good. But above all, she shouldn't left her baby in the trash can. Instead why not call for help? She is also in danger at that moment.. But ofcourse once you are in that situation, you don't know what to do.. I pity the mother.. Our government doesn't really care about our fellow Pinoys abroad.. maybe they do but not that deep.. and sometimes some of our OFW can also be blame.. both sides have flaws..
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
17 Sep 10
Indonesia is one of the third countries that export maids overseas. Rape is the biggest issue with employers from Saudi Arabia and Middle East. Abuse is the biggest issue with Malaysian employer. I hope they realized that to work overseas they need to equip themselves with knowledge and skills, so they can earn respect from employers.