reality hits again
By savypat
@savypat (20216)
United States
September 27, 2010 11:56am CST
Hubby talked our oldest daughter into a all day trip to go to a family wedding. This is so hard on him because he hates the fact that he can no longer drive all day. In fact I don't like him to drive at all but he still does. He has lost the sight in one eye and has back trouble, it's just old age but I think this hits men worse then women. What do you think?
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
30 Sep 10
Well, neither my husband or myself has hit older age yet. However, I've had people in my life that have hit old age and I can draw my conclusions from what I observed in their lives. I would say that I do think that it hits men harder because of the fact that women don't tend to have as much invested in their careers and that is the reason that men are typically hit harder. I could be wrong, but that is what I've observed in my life.
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
dear pat,
i just wish that your daughter would send a car to fetch both you and your husband so that you will no longer be thinking of driving. guess it is safer that way too.
ann
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
28 Sep 10
I'm glad your daughter is going with him!
I see more bad old women drivers than men so I don't think it hits men worse. My dad is 89 and drives like a teenager--only not quite as fast! He drives better than I do. I'm 56 and beginning to fall prey to the dreaded "cautious syndrome", hesitating and second-guessing myself when I drive. I hate that! I remember wanting to yell "If you're so afraid, stay home!!" at old folks but I never did. I was so impatient with them and now I am them.
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
27 Sep 10
Yes, it's seems that women handle things like that much better.I believe that men hate being old, but your hubby does well for his age, to my mind.Still driving!My uncle gave up driving in his early fifties.He suffered from back pain.He felt so depressed without his four wheeled friend and he hated himself for being weak.But that's just life.I remember climbing trees with an incredible ease, now I can hardly reach the lowest branch.If I tried to reach the top of the tree, I would probably fall and break my back.Have to accept the body the way it is now.
For men it's a bit complicated.It's a question of self-esteem.