would you be with a guy/girl that you know they never want to marry you?^^

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Portugal
September 27, 2010 2:59pm CST
hi guys^^ would you be with a guy/girl that tells you he/she will never want to marry you?^^ not bcs of you but bcs doesnt like to marry only. would you be with him/her?^^ about me i would even it hurt me a bit. bcs marry is also important if you love someone but as long as we live together and happy and he really loves me would be ok to me^^ as long as he really cares marry doesnt matter^^ what about you guys?^^ please share your opinions^^
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@shaggin (71672)
• United States
28 Sep 10
I think it really depends on the situation. When I was a teenager I couldnt be with someone if their view was to never have children and nver get married. Although it wouldnt have any effect right then it would have in later years. I would want to fall in love with someone and then know I want children and know they dont and have the relationship end. I know a lot of times peoples opinions change but if they knew straight up they didnt want kids I couldnt have dated them. NOW that I have been married and am getting divorced and I have 2 kids.... I NEVER want to get married again. Since I a not with the father of my kids I do not want any more children. I dont want a bunch of kids by a bunch of different fathers.
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• Portugal
29 Sep 10
aw i see^^ now that you have kids and will get divorced is normal that you dont want more kids. bcs two already give a lot of work even more being in a divorce also wouldnt be easy if you found other guy right now ^^ anyway sure later i wish you find a good guy that loves you and love your kids^^ what matters is you be happy and you dont need a lot of kids for that^^ as long as you have love and happiness thats all that matters^^ sorry for your situation^^ wish all be ok soon^^
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 10
i think it`s unfair..we must marry with a people which want marry us too..
• Portugal
29 Sep 10
yes sure^^ im not saying marry with someone that doesnt want to. im saying be with someone that says he/she doesnt want to marry you never. if you would still be with him/her. thats what i meant. bcs many people wouldnt want to be in a relationship if the boy or the girl didnt want to marry never^^ thats what i meant^^ but yes sure not fair to marry someone if the person doesnt want to^^ if doesnt want not marry is the best thing to do^^ thanks for your answer^^
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 10
whats for love but never married with her oh him?? so whats the function love him or her??
• Portugal
29 Sep 10
you can just live with the person without marry :) is not a paper that will say you are in love with each other. sure marry is important but if i love a guy and he just want to live with me forever without marry i would accept. what matters is that he loves me so if he does nothing else matters^^ besides he could change his mind with time^^ is not marriage that says that person loves you truly. many people marry for other reasons. what says that someone loves us is how they show it and how they feel when they are with us. thats what matters^^
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
28 Sep 10
I can understand a person never wanting to marry. In fact, even though I have been with my husband for 22 years of my life I still don't believe people should marry. I feel marriage has made things less fun for us. Most men have this misconception that their wives can't be their best friend. They think if they are married they just have to presume the woman will gripe and complain. So when a woman does ask them about anything they assume it is nagging. If the person loves you then the two of you should be able to discuss this matter and as long as it has nothing to do with you personally it shouldn't be an issue unless your religion stops you from having a relationship with this person whom won't marry.
• Portugal
29 Sep 10
yes i understand you^^ and im sorry that you are not that happy being married. i see that your hubby doesnt let you discuss much when you disagree with him but you should insist.you have the right to give your opinion too and not just accept things as he wants. both have to make decisions. and yes sure we can be with someone even if he wont marry us never^^ what matters is if he loves us or not^^ anyway please say what you feel to your hubby^^ maybe he doesnt see what he is doing. thanks for your answer^^ have a happy day^^ if need talk im here to listen^^
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
28 Sep 10
i wouldn't have no problem with that at this point and time in my life as i'm not interested in getting married currently.
• Portugal
29 Sep 10
aw i see^^ so would be ok for you if you dated someone that never wanted to marry^^ i understand^^ maybe you are young yet like me and is normal we wont marry for now but someday^^ we must enjoy life and see how things go slowly^^ is good that it wouldnt be a problem^^ we must not let things like marry put us apart from those we love^^ thanks for your answer^^
• United States
27 Sep 10
Oh I was married once before with the church and reception, the whole bit. Although divorced after several years now I live with my boyfriend and I have to say that both of us were married at one point and both ended in divorce. We have been living together for 4 years now and well neither one of us discuss marriage. Maybe it will be an option someday I think that what we share now specifically does not require us to rock the boat in any way..
• United States
28 Sep 10
It took a great many disappointments in life to finally be Blessed with this wonderful man, so I suppose if he asks me to marry him the answer would be YES!!!!
• Portugal
29 Sep 10
aww many disappointments? sorry for it. so you had many bfs in the past right?^^ or at least liked many guys that were not great for you. sorry for it. im happy that you found the right one now^^ and dont worry if you are with him since 4 years already is bcs he loves you much and will ask you to marry soon^^ ahah dont worry^^ and is great that you will say yes^^ so wish he does that very fast ahah^^ so you be happy ^^ you deserve already^^ have a happy dayy^^
• Portugal
28 Sep 10
aw i see^^ but marriage didnt go well well it happens sometimes^^ but is ok bcs you found a good guy now and who knows maybe you marry^^ is 4 years you are together now so thats great^^ maybe one of these days he surprises you and ask you to marry him^^ ahah would be cute and romantic^^ the way you talked you would accept right?^^ wish you the best for you and for him^^ you are sweet and im sure he is also^^ thanks for your answer^^
• India
28 Sep 10
hi guys'''^would you be with a guy/girl that known to us he/she will neverwant to marry you??^^not for that he/she love you,bcs of the guy dont want to marry anybody.wht do u think will u be with him/her?about me it is nothing bcs if somebody realy love someone he/she always have to marry each other its not mean.some times love means attrection.the mater is that wtethr you enjoing the moment or not?^if i enjoy it i wil continue my relasion.guys this is my thinking^^what about you?
• Portugal
29 Sep 10
aw i see^^ well depends some people dont marry but just live together^^ well its almost the same thing^^ but yes we must continue the relationship if we think the person loves us and we love too^^ also the person can change his mind later right?^^ anyway what really matters is the feelings and not if marry or not^^ thanks for your answer^^ have a happy day^^
@snowy22315 (172010)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I dont know. I think marriage is important, and it is something I want to do again, but I dont think that one needs to rush it,as long as you enjoy being in the relationship and feel OK in it that should be the most important thing.
• Portugal
27 Sep 10
yes^^ you are right^^ we must never rush things and let things happen^^ but yes is normal that most part of people want to marry^^ but if your gf didnt want to marry never maybe you would feel a bit upset right? is like we feel they love us but not enough to marry. i know is a bit silly but many people think like this for sure. at least i would feel this if my bf said i will never want to marry you. thanks for your answer^^
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
1 Oct 10
It is possible for people to be perfectly happy together, and to be committed to each other, without being married to each other. I really don't see why people, especially women, make such a big deal out of it. I got married young, and I don't really have any regrets, but I have friends who are single, and they are happy as well. If I were single, I wouldn't have a problem dating a woman who did not want to get married. I have had some really good relationships in the past with women who were not interested in marriage.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 10
i think it`s unfair..we must marry with a people which want marry us too..
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 10
i think it`s unfair..we must marry with a people which want marry us too..
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
27 Sep 10
I have to be honest and say that I don't think I would. I have always known that I wanted to get married at some point, it is important for me, so if I was with someone who would never want to do it, both him and me would be wasting our time, to be honest.
• Portugal
27 Sep 10
aw i understand you^^ yes you wanted different things so yes maybe you are right. maybe you would be wasting time bcs you wanted marry and he didnt. anyway wish it doesnt happen to you^^ would be sad to you to just let go of a guy you loved just bcs he didnt want to marry never^^ even maybe if you stayed together for longer time he could change his mind^^ but who knows^^ if was true love he would^^ thanks for your answer and have a happy day^^
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• Philippines
7 Oct 10
I will not marry. .Its just a waste of time.
• Bulgaria
28 Sep 10
No never,always belive that this is the right person.But strange is that always something happened in life which separate us.But i stronglly belive that i still have a chance to met the right person.
• Portugal
29 Sep 10
aw i see^^ for you marry is very important^^ so you would find someone that wanted to^^ bcs in true love people want to marry^^ well i agree that marriage is important but just live together is ok too^^ as long as both are in love and both are happy^^ love is about feelings mostly so thats what really matters^^ anyway wish you can find a good guy that loves you and marry you^^ and you are right we always have the chance to meet the right person^^ thanks for your answer^^