Is it necessary to warn others?

@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
October 15, 2010 9:31am CST
I spend my time reading your post but at the end of the discussion you wrote 'Respond at your own risk, this post might be deleted'. This is something that is perplexing me cos if you know it is going to be deleted, why do you need to entrap others to go down with you? They are innocent people who respond to your discussion because they have something to say and giving out such warnings is only frightening them. Don't you think so? Don't waste your time in posting discussion if you think the post is likely to be deleted. Bear in mind admin has the last say. I have read many such warnings but some I do still respond. Who cares if I am penalized for responding after being warned. It isn't a big deal if it is deleted together with my earnings. I believe in democracy and voicing out my opinions is worth more than the one cent that is deducted from my earnings. Do you ignore such warnings and proceed to respond discussions?
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@GardenGerty (157671)
• United States
15 Oct 10
If I want to respond, I do so. I appreciate the warnings. Sometimes I have to warn myself because people are not aware that their discussions may be deleted. Sometimes I like the topic so well, or the person, that I will respond, regardless of the consequences.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
We do appreciate warnings but it can momentarily stunt the inquisitive mind wondering why the discussion is likely be deleted when it sound quite innocent.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
15 Oct 10
only say a couple but like you I respond to give my opinion lol
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
16 Oct 10
thanks hugs
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
Your opinions are always a welcome anytime.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Oct 10
hi zandi I think in the 1MeanMother's case he was just being sarcastic as the post was not deleted but when I see one that openly breaks the rules and even knows he is doing it I wll no longer risk my earnings as I need all of my earnings badly..If I really feel that my response will help despite the warning I might proceed but now I mainly advoid these.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
hi Hatley, it is 1MeanMother habitual way of ending his posts. We know him too well and his warnings only fell on deaf ears.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
16 Oct 10
I have never put that on but one of my discussions but it wasn't deleted. U just never know when something u think u are discussing is alright & it's deleted. I don't even remember wht the discussion was about now because it's been a long time ago but i got more responses to it than any other discussion i had ever made & it got deleted & i still do not understand why. I think people who tell u that are just trying to be nice. I will respond if i have something i want to say even if it does get deleted.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 10
Actually I have seen many discussions that came with such warnings but admin see it fit to remain so were not deleted.
• United States
15 Oct 10
Zandi- You've been around long enough to know that many older posters will give warning for the simple fact that newer members may not know that the discussion is in violation or (even if not in violation offends administration) and be deleted. It's in part a courtesy. In some regards it is done as a thumb to the nose. For example, we are not supposed to according to the powers that be discuss anything relating to the workings of this site, etc. Yet, how many times do we see these types of discussions? Yes, people should read first, but many do not. If an older member is griping about something that occurred most will simply say "Y'all know the drill" or sometimes perhaps something more cryptic about the powers that be. It's a way of learning to talk about the issue without actually speaking directly to the issue. However, just today I responded to three issues regarding Mylot that offered no warning, just the rant. I know full well that it is possible those posts will be deleted, but is that fair to new users who may not be familiar with the rules? And yes, some of us do care about our post deletions because we took a great deal of time to say what we were going to share. When I was new to Mylot I used to hate the fact that I would responded to 25 posts per day only to find more than half of them deleted. It took me a long time to realize what we didn't need to answer and which posts may be deleted, etc. Now I know which types of threads may be deleted and post at my own risk. I think it's something we learn with time, but I'm not going to chastise someone for the warning. Namaste-Anora
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
Often the fault lies with the OP,knowing very well that there are guidelines to follow but purposely post something that challenges the law of this site. They feel guilty so warn others of the repercussion of responding to the discussion. They won't want others to go down with them in case the discussion gets deleted. They set the landmines but fearful of others getting injured. But as veterans, we are immuned seeing our posts and responses ending up in mylot bins. The bitter sweet experiences in mylot is what makes this site interesting.
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• Philippines
16 Oct 10
In my opinion I dont care i just response to the discussion we dont know the persons who write it.I dont waste my time in some discussion also if the topics is insulting or rude.Where people we have the right to exprees our opinions that why they create this website.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 10
Thanks for your views. You have valid points.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
16 Oct 10
It depends on who did the discussion and what it's about in whether I'll respond to it or not. I appreciate the warning for it gives me the opportunity to not respond if I so choose. The warning gives me that choice and I appreciate that.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 10
I do that too. I will scrutinize what the discussion is about and from there I decide whether to respond or not but most of the time I go against the tide. Respond at my own risk.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Oct 10
I put it occasionally on a discussion that I think is borderline, but where I want to say what I want to say regardless. And I respond to discussions like that too. I don't really care about the money anyway.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 10
Like you I spend a lot of time in mylot and enjoy the interaction here. Money is a secondary matter but still I am curious to know how much I got at the end of the day .
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
16 Oct 10
Hi zandi! And of course I most definitely agree with you 100%! We are supposed be able to say what we want, at least within reason (albeit at least according to the TOS set by mylot), but that doesn't stop me from responding to a discussion that I feel should warrant a response whether it gets deleted or not! I've never been really good at follow directions as it is, in fact if you tell me not to do something I will probably do it anyway!
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 10
As seasoned mylotter, there is nothing to fear as we are immune to deletion. No big deal.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
15 Oct 10
I will read such discussions and respond only if it's worth my time for me to offer my input. Most of the time when I read a rule being broken I just delete and don't waste my time.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
Commonsense comes to play when we come across such warnings in discussions. They might not be deleted in the end.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
16 Oct 10
I decide whether to respond or not based on whether I feel strongly about the topic and need to have my voice heard in regards to it otherwise I don’t bother if I know it will be deleted anyway. I usually appreciate the warning although I often see many without warnings which I know will probably go...
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 10
I see many discussions with such warnings still remain intact and some discussions that look innocent are deleted. We can't judge which discussions are unfavorable to admin. They have the final say.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
16 Oct 10
Once there is something important, I will respond to it//TO EACH HIS/HER own///Who are we to decide if admin decides to keep it or remove it...
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 10
The admin has the upper-hand. Respond without fear.
@quita88 (3715)
• United States
17 Oct 10
Thank you for telling like it is. I am glad someone came along and told these people to not jeopardize us who respond to their possible posts that admin might just delete.. I like my money and I don't like getting messages from admin, "your response has been eliminated because the discussion was deleted.... No, I have quit responding if there is a warning, now that I've learned... thanks!
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
28 Oct 10
That might save us a lot of time since the OP is skeptical about his/her own posts so it is better to move on to the next one.
15 Oct 10
ya zandi i agree with you but i think if there ate warnings we should not proceed further...
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
Hi winkantipur, warnings can sometimes be confusing to the responder.
@much2say (53944)
• Los Angeles, California
15 Oct 10
I will jump into a discussion if I have something to say - whether or not there is a warning - in hopes that at least the person who started the discussion will be able to read it before it gets (possibly) deleted! The ones who know how myLot works pretty much know if a discussion will be deleted . . . so really it's a game and all for fun. But there may be others who are so darn serious about their time, effort and money on myLot - they are the ones who care about deductions. Well, this way they can't say they weren't warned!
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
As seasoned mylotters there is nothing that can stop them from responding to discussions that come with warnings. Our participation is what matters most.
@Memnon (2170)
15 Oct 10
I usually respond to discussions irrespective. It is unfortunate when you lose a response if the discussion is removed, but all part and parcel of the site.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
16 Oct 10
Even without warnings the risk is always there. Mylot is a mystery as admin can delete any discussions as and when they like leaving us with our mouth wide open when what we thought is a safe topic gets deleted.