How far will you go to help

@savypat (20246)
United States
October 17, 2010 12:20pm CST
To help not a stranger but someone you know casually, how far would you go. Would you give money, share your house, share your ride? Just how far would you go. Would you help by researching for a job or legal help? Would you adopt a child or foster one whoe's parent was someone you knew? These are just some of the situations which trouble us and others we know. Would you be there or turn away?
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@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
17 Oct 10
I have taken in casual acquaintances when they are in trouble and helped them find jobs, loaned them money and other things. If I know someone at all, they can turn to me. Hopefully, if I ever need help, it will be there. I can't imagine turning someone away when they are in need.
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@GardenGerty (99477)
• United States
18 Oct 10
I was very impressed by a family friend when I was young. She was a single mom, with four or five kids of her own. She also had custody of some of her sister's kids, and from time to time some of her brother's kids. She helped her dad and mom. She had a two bedroom house. She did have a good job. She volunteered in Cub Scouting. She once told me that as long as she had something she could give to someone else, she would never be poor. I like to think I learned that lesson.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Oct 10
I will help where I can I would never turn away Even if I can just be there to lend a Shoulder I will do my best
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@iamjesca (187)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
I am always ready to help a friend or someone I know casually. But if it is money matters I only loan money to those people i trust like my close friends. Because I have been to a situation where I was not payed by the money he owes me. It was a big sum of money. And he was my boyfriend of all people. He loaned me that money and did not even pay back. I felt really back-stabbed. I have contacted him to pay his debts but he and her new girlfriend are hard as a stone. He owed me for 2 years now and havent even payed a single cent for it. They always argue with me when I ask my money back. I just wish them Karma. So I have learned my lesson.
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• Philippines
18 Oct 10
The homeless, especially children lurking on the streets always bring pain to my chest, thinking that there is nothing I can do for them. I had been in some situations in the past where I got into trouble because I just couldn't say no to anybody who would approach me and asked for any help I could extend. I am the type who would casually give away even my last penny, who wouldn't hesitate to offer my home to anybody who needs shelter, even to strangers for that matter, to the point that I sometimes get abused and also get misunderstood by people around me. I always feel so damn rotten when somebody needs me and I couldn't be there for him. I feel good with my self everytime I have helped someone. I believe that one can really never say he has fully lived unless he has done something especially for someone who can never repay him.
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
18 Oct 10
To be helping someone you just know casually, i got to be honest with you here. I can never go to the extent of handing him money on a silver platter. Maybe i will try to help him with the procedures of getting to his destination, but to help someone casual like that, you just can't help but to be cautious of things right? You have to consider that you barely know this guy, so how much can you trust this guy that you wren't being taken advantage of? For the matter of adopting that child, this is a tough one. I am not sure myself until i am in that situation but if something happened to that parent and i am in a position where i can extend some extra help to charity and stuff like that, maybe i would consider adopting this poor child. I mean it depends. After all, we are all here living for our own survival, aren't we? We can't help it, but to put ourselves and our families in front of everyone else's needs. You protect your own kind first. Just my point of view. :)
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@Strovek (870)
• Malaysia
18 Oct 10
There are just too many scams and ungrateful people out there it is difficult to judge what is genuine. I prefer to give to a respect organization to distribute any charity.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
18 Oct 10
It is difficult to answer in regards to how far I would go to help someone I knew casually. Would I lend money? Probably not because I don’t have very much and I could not afford to wait to be paid back. I would help the person find a job; I would mind their children and depending on who the individual was I would even allow him or her to stay at my house if needed. You could say I would do almost anything except give money. Fostering a child I would consider and give some thought to...
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
18 Oct 10
The more famiiar someone is to me the more i would be willing to give help. Wwith strangers, you take more caution in the help you will give only because you don't know them.
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@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
18 Oct 10
It would really depend on the condition I am in at that moment. If I am in the acceptable shape that i think is acceptable in where I can give a hand to other, I will do it to my best. Sometimes, I am in the position that I need help so in that case I cannot help another, unless, what I'm helping them will help me too (those are the best).
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@GardenGerty (99477)
• United States
18 Oct 10
I have shared my house, with relatives and non relatives. Not really something I would do again, except with relatives. I will share a ride, help with money when I have it, donate food, and I am a good researcher. I would not be approved for foster or adoption due to some family issues. I have considered being a CASA volunteer, though. I would be a literacy tutor if it was available around here.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
17 Oct 10
We were just about to leave a rest-stop on an Interstate in the USA, with a Truck and Travel-trailer. My seatbelt was buckled, when a decently dressed young man leaned into the truck window, and began to tell me his troubles. He had run out of gas 30 miles from home, and "Would I Please give him a few dollars to buy enough gas to get home." I was about to roll up the window when a young girl came along, her face red with tears. She sobbed, and pleaded, and I relented. Not long after, I heard that this couple made their living begging at different stops, along the freeway. I don't often tell this story! Its embarrassing, to be taken in, by a sobbing beggar!
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• United States
17 Oct 10
I have outstretched my giving nature, what I mean is that I am in no absolute position to help any one at the present time monetarily that is. I will help with food and or clothing if I can. Depending on the person I can help with a place to stay until they get back on their feet. Funny, thinking as I am typing.. I lost my job and this is the first time in my entire life that I have been unemployed, not a single person has even checked to see if I am still breathing in the last 10 months. Lost my home, my credit and pretty much everything..hmm... funny how I am still willing to help other though.
@fiazio (736)
• India
17 Oct 10
I would go 89% to be accurate the rest is not possible as it isn't in most of the things in life. I would go help through money, time, communication and everything else, but when things can not be controlled, i will be frank and let the person know.
• United States
17 Oct 10
I loaned a friend $700 to move in her new place. she stopped answering her phone calls after that. I loaned $300 to another to help fix a broke own car. When it was fixed the money was not mentioned or payed back. So,no I will never loan cash again. I just moved in my new place so,no I have no where for anyone to stay. I will let someone use my computer to find a job though.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Oct 10
I guess I don't know until the situation comes up. I've given money, shared my house and shared my ride. Never been put in the position of possibly having to take in somebody else's child, but there are some people I would do it for.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
20 Oct 10
I would go a long way to help a friend of mine and I am actually doing that right now for one of my friends. However, for someone that I only know casually, I don't think that I would be able to go nearly as far. I would help someone that was hungry to have a good meal or if they needed a ride to get somewhere, I would try to do that as well. Any further than that, however, I really don't know what I would be able to do.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
19 Oct 10
I am terrible about going the extra mile..I say that because I have often been hurt due to my extensions and efforts. If the situation was close enough to me..I would do most any of that. I have actually done most all of them except foster a child...at least on the legal level. I have taken children in until mom got on her feet before.