Tired of Feeling this way

United States
December 16, 2010 4:58pm CST
I know many people are on here to make some extra money, me too. The following is not about making a few extra cents on here, this post is for much needed advice. I feel like I am going crazy. I never feel well but when I go to the doctor or the hospital, they never wind up finding anything major wrong with me. I get really bad pains in the back of my head, pain in my neck for a week now, my arm goes numb and pain in my leg. When I read about my symptoms it says some of these are signs of a stroke but when I go to the doctor, he never finds anything wrong. I really am worried and don't know what to do anymore. I turned forty this year, so not so young, but not so old either to always feel sick everyday. My doctor is a very good doctor so please no advice on getting a new one. Please give me your advice or opinion I am sitting here in tears and don't know where to turn....
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10 responses
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
hi! cheer up. aside from the pains, are you emotionally stressed in some way? work or family related stress? have you checked your blood pressure yet? pains at the back of the head up to the neck area often comes from stress, either thinking too hard or working long hours or not sleeping fairly well. my home remedies include half a glass of water every hour. no distilled water please. alkaline is so much better. make sure also that your neck is comfortable in your sleeping position, no pillows that are too high or too solid. how long does the numbing feeling on your arm lasts and how often? what have you been eating and drinking the entire week? a healthy intake of water helps a lot and if you can manage... minimize the legumes, red meat and oily foods. cleansing and detox with herbal tea would be nice. as for the leg pain, which part and which side? try to massage a bit and feel any mass or sore or hardening muscles. do you have varicose veins? do you have goiter? i'm sorry for asking so many questions. but that's how i'd be doing if you are here with me now, since i can't check you all over. by the way, i'm not in the medical profession, i have only assisted in medical missions. just trying to help if i could.
• United States
17 Dec 10
Thank you so much for answering me so quickly and specifically. I will try to answer everything. I do feel stressed a lot but no more than normal. The past two weeks I have been really busy with my small chocolate business, that started exploding which is a good thing. For over a week, I have been painting crevices on Christmas chocolates and working late hours, so sometimes the neck pain is better and sometimes it is worse. The numbness in the arm is this same time frame, comes and goes also. The leg pain feels more like a tightness, I had a charley horse a month ago and it feel like it is in the same area. This is the back of my calf, all of my pain is on my right side of my body. I am a pretty good water drinker, do not drink soda, do not eat greasy or oily food. Interesting about the legumes though, don't normally eat them but did the past two days with dinner. I do have high blood pressure that I take daily medication for. I just make myself nuts because if you look at my symptoms it says could be prime for a stroke, so that makes me really worry. I am wondering if I could have a pinched nerve. I see your are not in the medical field but it seems like you know a lot so please respond with anything else you can advise. I drink green tea everyday.
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
perhaps it's the long hours of continuous work that's putting a strain on your right side. please have short breaks several times during work hours. again, half a glass of water every hour. it releases tensions, strains and rehydrates our body. it may also prevent some forms of leg cramps (is that what a charley horse is?). also, when drinking tea, since it's diuretic, please follow it up with water, maybe half a cup. it helps flush out toxins. and pee as often. hehe it doesn't help if you just contain it. toxins will just roam free in our body if you keep it. that sometimes causes the pains and the cramps. some breathing exercises are also advised when you take short rests or breaks. a simple breathing thru the mouth and exhaling thru it for a couple of minutes can sometimes do nice tricks with tensed muscles. relaxed breathing, some expert says are like the breathing of a child when asleep (inhale is stomach out). i know how the excitement of the booming business feels. hehe my little business is on distribution of herbal supplements, beverages and personal care. learning the business, i also learned about health and the body... how things are connected. i try to shy away from medicines and do the alernative instead. i love chocolates! how wonderful your business is. hehe okay, hope you'll feel better soon. i'm sorry this is my last post for the day as i'm traveling in a few minutes. be back tomorrow. catch up with you soon. tc
• United States
17 Dec 10
Thank you so much again for all of your suggestions, I am going to take them all and do what I can naturally. I never thought my business was going to take off and then all of a sudden a month ago, it really caught fire, much to my surprise and when money was really needed so it is definitely a blessing.
@Memnon (2173)
17 Dec 10
I am no doctor so I would be at a bit of a loss to explain this. As first aid trained I can see why you might think of stroke symptoms, although a pain in the back of the head is not usually one of those. A couple of ideas do come to mind- however bizarre they might seem. The first is what could be politely termed as 'ladies change': obviously you will know more on some aspects of that than you would like ti=o discuss here. You are a little young for that, but it does have strange side effects. The other is an allergy. My partner discovered gluten intolerance at just over 40. The symptoms were different (though she was constantly tired) in that she often had an upset stomach, and suffered under skin rashes- so scratching was no relief. I mention this because every time she consulted her doctor nothing could be found- and she only picked this up from a nurse who had a friend with a similar condition. We cut gluten from her diet and most symptoms vanish. If she eats wheat based products now they flare up almost immediately. It may not be gluten, but allergic conditions are fast becoming more common. It might be worth talking to a dietitian or having a browse of such web sites. Hope this helps!
• United States
17 Dec 10
Memnon- Thank you for sharing this with me, that is the one doctor I have not gone to yet, I have lots of allergies and would not be a bit surprised if I have something similar to what you described. I am going to make an appointment and see what happens. I just want to feel better. Thank you for you quick response I was really in the dumps last night.
@Memnon (2173)
18 Dec 10
You are always welcome. Good luck on getting it sorted!
@djbtol (5498)
• United States
17 Dec 10
Well, obviously I am no doctor but I'll throw out a couple of thoughts. Forty is not that old, but for many it is a time when they start to feel changes in their body. The numbness you feel could be related to a pinched nerve. I'm not sure if that would take a doctor or physical therapist or what. When you have a general sense of not feeling well, don't forget to check obvious things like sleep, diet and exercise. Any unusual stress? Maybe stretching exercises would help neck and back. I know you don't want to hear this, but here it is anyways. No matter how good your doctor is, there is absolutely no harm in getting a second opinion. Sometimes, for a given set of facts, one doctor will just approach it from a different perspective than another. Sometimes, also, we need to be persistent with our doctors to reach the goal line. I know it is a pain to keep going to the doctor, but you want to feel better, right? Wishing you the best.
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• United States
17 Dec 10
I am glad you said this and you really are right. I took your suggestion and called my doctor today, I am going in on Monday and if I can't get more results as much as I don't want to, if needed I will have to get another opinion. This is my health we are talking about so I definitely need to be a pain to feel better. I appreciate you responding, I was really feeling so low last night.
@djbtol (5498)
• United States
18 Dec 10
And I am glad that you are feeling a little energy to move forward and figure out what is wrong. Your doctor will lead you through the process, as long as you help him see that you have the initiative and drive to make this happen.
@Lore2009 (7388)
• United States
16 Dec 10
How bad are the pains? Can you be suffering from an anxiety attack? Sometimes those feel like an heart attack.
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• United States
17 Dec 10
Thank you for answering me so quickly. I have had panic attacks in the past, that did make me go to the ER because I thought I was having a heart attack. What I am feeling with this is really bad head and neck pain. I am wondering if it could be a pinched nerve.
@Lore2009 (7388)
• United States
17 Dec 10
That sounds possible. Maybe you can massage it or have it massaged?
@2EarnMoney2 (1163)
• United States
17 Dec 10
What you sleep on, the bed and sheets. Along with the air with inhale in the rooms you spend the most time, also including where you sleep. Solid sleep patterns and many hours of deep sleep can really help alleviate things. Everyone's body requirements change over time, including your sleep patterns. Air purifiers, bedroom materials(bed,sheet,pillow type) and things like reducing ambient noise in your sleeping room can all add up to a refreshing nights sleep. Along with anything you use to wash your clothing, any extra smells stick around along with other chemicals. Changing this simple thing can really help sometimes it's just a minor allergy that's literally right under your nose. Obvious there is a possibility something much larger is the problem here. But never underestimate a good nights rest, and our dependence on it.
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• United States
17 Dec 10
This is very true and I know lack of sleep can really be a big problem with a lot of ailments. It could not hurt for me to go to see an allergist, the one doctor I have not tried yet.
• United States
17 Dec 10
aurora, my dear I do not know what to say outside of asking you to try somehow and relax a bit. Lord knows that I have been through a great deal, having lost every single thing I worked so hard to achieve on my own. I am in no way out of the woods, but all I can say is to try as hard as you can to have some faith and hope. If my words do not somehow do not uplift you honey, it is understandable as I do have my moments and yet upcoming issues..I am dealing with anxiety and panic attacks, something I did not think could ever be possible for this so strong girl that I once was. So in summary, I am sorry that you are not feeling well and I do wish you well and hope that someday we both can look forward and never have to look back at these trying times.
• United States
17 Dec 10
Thank you as always hardworkinggurl-I want so much for both of us to be on an upswing and I pray next year will be the year. Maybe we will both be doing so much better we can meet each other one day in person.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
For em it is stress so take Vitamin C of non acidic so that you would be strong and about the nick in your head maybe your blood pressure is going to high.
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@dawnald (84142)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Dec 10
Your doctor may be good, but surely he doesn't know everything. Is there a specialist that he can refer you to?
• United States
17 Dec 10
dawnald- you are so right and I really do like him, I am going to go to him on Monday and if he can't give me some real answers/advice I am going to be "a dog with a bone" until I can get some answers. Thank you for reminding me that not one person holds the key to everything.
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@bird123 (10528)
• United States
17 Dec 10
Listen to all this advice but you should have the doctors figure it all out. If you are having stroke symptoms, aspirin will help. Try it when you have a problem, it should help pretty quickly. Something else to considerafter forty is when the body starts to go through major changes due to aging. The forties are the most noticable. Somebody opened the trap door. Don't fall through. Relax, by the time you hit 50 it won't hurt as bad.I hope you are eating healthy with plenty of exercise. The older you get: the more important this will become.
• United States
17 Dec 10
Thank you so much for responding I was feeling really low last night. I called my doctor and I am going in on Monday, in the meantime he prescribed some medication to give me some relief over the weekend, not sure if I will take it or not yet. I have really been eating so healthy now I need to give myself the kick in the pants when it comes to exercising consistently.
@1hopefulman (38544)
• Canada
16 Dec 10
I know what it is to have continuous excruciating pain day and night for a couple of years and medications didn't help. I went to many doctors and naturopaths, etc. looking for answers and help to the point that they all gave up on me. I did a lot of research and eventually I found a chiropractor and a nutritionist who helped me. His advise was: remove what is causing the problem and the pain will stop. Pain is a signal that something is not right in the body. It may your diet? Lack of exercise? Not getting enough sleep? Stress? Accumulated toxins? Etc. We are not doctors and cannot know what possibly might be wrong. Jesus said "keep on searching" and that is good advice. I hope you find the help you need!
• United States
17 Dec 10
Thank you so much for replying to me I felt so desperate. I went to a chiropractor just last week in fact. I was suppose to go back today but it snowed where I live so I could not get to the appointment. I just feel so frustrated but like you said I need to keep searching what other choice do I have.