Do you come across selfish/selfless people?

@dpk262006 (41601)
Delhi, India
January 5, 2011 4:40am CST
Hello friends! The world is getting materialistic day by day. Many of the people who prosper and become ‘something’ in their life tend to get selfish and some are ‘selfish’ by nature. They tend to start ignoring those, who do not fit into their frame for any gain. What is your view on this issue - do you also feel that there is dearth of selfless people, who will do you a favor without any selfish motive? Do you feel that most of the people you come across in your life are selfish or will entertain you because of any selfish motive? And how do you distinguish between a ‘selfless’ and ‘selfish’ person applying your own yardsticks? And finally how do you cope up with pressure of dealing with selfish people either in general or at your workplace? May like to share any of your experience where you found that someone helped you without any selfish motive. Many thanks for taking time to respond to my discussion.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
5 Jan 11
hi Dpk....first of al let me wish you a HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR 2011... And coming to your discussion,yes I quite agree with you and I feel that today more and more people are getting selfish and self centered and selfless people are becoming "rare/extinct" species these days.Its understandable that some people are selfish by nature.But today I feel the fast pace of life is making the majority of people busy and focused in beating time and in their eagernes/desperation to achieve things within the given time limit,they hardly find time to help fellow beings,and feel frustrated and jealous when other people achieve something which they could not.... Its not often that we come across selfless people who are willing to help you without any ulterior motive,and I fortunately have a few friends who belong to this prestigious category......Ans life is a good teacher,and its easy to identify the two category of people if you are alert and is receptive to learning from each of your experiences in life....
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
5 Jan 11
wow.Dpk...just noticed...congrats on crossing the 10000 mark........So you have been busy while I was away from mylot.....
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 11
I also wish a very very Happy New Year to you. Hope it will bring more cheers for you and your family. You mean to say that ambitious (read over ambitious) people just focus on their goals/careers and forget everything else, they forget that there are people around, who would have helped them in the past or come to their rescue in their hour of need. I am happy to learn that you have some very good friends, whom you consider as selfless and hopefully they help others (including you)without expecting any return. Many thanks for joining us and making it a lively discussion. Deepak PS - I crossed the 10000 mark, long ago (I was busy and was not much active here, once I completed 10000 mark).
@Sreekala (12525)
• India
6 Jan 11
Happy New Year to you
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
6 Jan 11
Hi dear, Your topic has too much relevance in these days. I used to always think of such nature of people around us. Whenever I get time, like while travelling in the train for 2-3 hrs., being alone, while walking, etc. I always get disturbed with these kind of issues. I can find so many examples directly and indirectly. As you said, from family, work place, friend circle – everywhere, this selfishness become one of the curse to the humanity. All are attached to wealth and property. 2 hrs. before also I just had a discussion with the similar topic. No wonder, why people become so selfish. The population around us and the competition among us pave the way for it. For the same thing, there are so many people are in demand. So, all want to get the same with whatever reasons. Possessiveness and lack of knowledge is another reason. In fact, people are not ready to think or ready to accept other’s view or not even show the respect to what others has to say or to do. All goes with ‘my’, ‘mine’. If this is the way our world moves, what could be the result after 100 years. All will die here just for a silly thing, to keep for their possession. Thank-s
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi thanks! Nice to meet you! Many thanks for appreciating my topic. I also think like you, when am alone and ponder over about others who are connected to me, how they conduct themselves with me. Yes, people are getting more and more materialistic and they want to accumulate 'wealth and other material things' as much as they can and as many as they can, without wasting their precious time. They people do not feel like counting those, who are of no use to them, on their way to achieve their 'targets'. You are right - many are not ready to pay head to others views and they think only they are trudging the 'right' path. If all become 'selfish', as you said, the world will end one day. Very Good thoughts/response.
• India
6 Jan 11
Hi Deepak, Thanks for you comments. Yes, I used to feel bad on these things and some time even we also become part of this. It is not we exactly wanted to be, but due to several associated reasons, even we also tempted to become selfish. Few days before, my daughter I promised my daughter some chocolates and in the evening I forget. Again, for the next 2 days more I forget and she started crying and become so angry too. Just for fun and make her more furious, I told her that I have bought one today, but given it to my sister’s daughter. Then she become violent and showed double the anger. Even though I told her not be so selfish and we can go and get now more for you, she was ok to it, but she become more nervous that I given the chocolate to my sister’s daughter. Even the children are also thinking the way. I never given any instructions or motivated differently. But still, the environment they grow is more dangerous and they easily pick up the unwanted and immoral behavior from the society. We cannot blame anyone because our social set up is prepared or tuned in such a way. We our self should be more bothered and can be cautious on such things and can improve at least on an individual basis, finally it may contribute to the common growth. We can pray for it, what else can do? Thanks
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 11
I can understand your point that even children are not untouched by this syndorme called 'selfishness' and they are getting more 'possessive' about their things. I agree with you that it is not a good tendency and we should teach them to be open hearted and liberal. Many thanks for elaborating the points through your counter-comments.
@Sreekala (12525)
• India
6 Jan 11
Hello deepak, I have come across both types of people. I have born and brought up in village and selfless people are more seen in village. They are ready to help each other when others need a help. But in cities people are more selfish, may be they don’t have time for others because they don’t have time for their own works. I think, ‘Selfishness’ exists in each and every individual but the volume may vary in each individual. A person who hundred percent selfless is equal to ‘GOD’ and hundred percent selfish person can’t live in a society.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi Sree! Your comparison of urban and village people seems appropriate to me. City life is entirely different and there is no community feeling and people tend to get selfish seeing attitude of others. It hurts sometimes that people in Metros are self centred and they least bother about others. We all are 'selfish' and we should be, regardless of degree of selfishness and we become selfless, we will become saints. Excellent response! Full marks!
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@Sreekala (12525)
• India
7 Jan 11
I felt the selfishness is inborn. An infant is selfish on its mother, even though he/she can’t utter words he/she will try to show the discomfort through their actions when the mother hold another baby.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 11
Sree! Many traits are inborn for that matter and they are found in everyone.
@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
5 Jan 11
I have seen both selfish and selfless people in my life time. But there is one more category amongst people who are partially this side and partially that side. These people will also accept things, services help etc. from others; at the same time, they do offer benefits from their side too. When I take any help, material from others, I always wait for a chance to reciprocate the same to them if not in the correct coins but little more or less. This will give me satisfaction that I too have contributed from my side. But there are some selfish people, selfish to the core, who go on accepting things from others, even expect things from others but never ever think that there is a word called 'giving'. I just doubt whether they do not have any conscience which will alert them that their hand should sometimes turn downwards. What to do? Helping people will not help anticipating something from the other. They get satisfaction in giving. If the other type feels happy in only getting things, let them have it. That is their nature. They are incorrigible.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 11
Hi Buchi! I think those who are partially selfish are better than those who are fully selfish persons, atleast they show heart to return the favor even in less measure. There are some, who do not believe in returning the favor, they just want to grab and grab and accumulate and tend to be arrogant thinking they are the best and all are inferior to them. I know you are a kind hearted person and always support others selflessly and persons like you are like diamonds in this materialistic world. Many thanks for taking time and joining us with your views.
• India
6 Jan 11
Your discussions are always thoughtful and I had this bitter truth hidden inside for a long time and now I brought it out. Thanks for the discussion. My father and after him my husband always say 'for those who are not giving or doing things for others, you give and show them and they will learn.' But I have seen in my life, till today that you go on giving and people will go on receiving, not one or two times, even 11 times, I really mean 11 times, but they have still only expectation and no realisation. For this my husband says, 'you feel happy that God has kept you in giving position.' But the others are also very much in giving position, but no mind to give or part with. I am not God but a human being. I too feel bad sometimes, when I come across these sort of natures. Certainly I never expect anything back but feel disgusted sometimes. Am I wrong Dpk?
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 11
Thanks Buchi for appreciating my post! You are absolutely right Buchi. You are a normal human being (so am I) and we are not 'saints'. It is OK to favour others, as it gives us a kind of inner pleasure. However, there is a limit to everything when you 'give' umpteen number of times, in hearts of your heart, it is quite natural to expect something in return, once or twice but when no one reverts to you even once, it hurts and you feel disgusted. I think your husband is also very open hearted person and he encourages you with some positive words so that you should not feel frusted due to others' attitude.
@chaitra001 (3245)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jan 11
Hi deepak.. I dont think we can find any selfless people in todays world.. its really hard to find any such people.. Every one are selfish in one or the other way.. The only selfless person I saw (I dont know who he is and dont even remember his face) was some 7-8 years back.. Me and my father had a deadly car accident that time and an unknown person came to our help and admitted us in the hospital that time my father was unconcious and I was injured badly and was able to do nothing.. That person took us to hospital along with our personal things which are valuable.. Usually people take advantage of victims and take away money and gold when they are not concious but this person given all our belongings to my mother when she came to hospital to see us after we are admitted.. My father was carrying nearly 50000 cash in his pockets and purse.. I was wearing little gold.. Nothing was missed even my father's 5 rs pen.. So I think he was the real selfless person helped us when we are in need and others just seeing us as victims..
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 11
Hi Chaitra! Please do not get get disheartened that it is difficult to find selfless people in this world. There are some, but you need to find them and their group is decreasing day by day. You yourself have given a very good example of a selfless fellow who helped you in your hour of need and without expecting anything in return. I believe that she would have received your countless wishes and blessings for coming to your rescue, when you did not expect and you will never forget that person. Thanks for joining and sharing your experience.
• Bangalore, India
5 Jan 11
Yes deepak I am always thankful to him.. since I was injured badly and could not talk to him as I was admitted to hospital and put to ICU.. when I got up he had already left from the place after talking to my mom and doctors about myine and dad's health.. So i always pray whoever he was let god bless him..
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
S/he was like an angel who was God sent at that point of time. His/her noble deeds will not go waste, s/he will be rewarded by the great God through any other person/mode.
@zandi458 (27879)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 11
I am mesmerized by the teachings of Buddha though I am not a follower. One is Humility is the wise man's measure for knowing the difference between what is and what is yet to be. In order to have peace and harmony, we have to learn to respect others and adjust ourselves with them to co-exist. We have to also to learn to forget and forgive some lapses and shortcomings of others in the spirit of friendliness or brotherhood. In this life that I went through I seen many good people and no less selfish, opportunist people. I have to accept that this world is a mixture of good and bad, victory and defeat and therefore we should practice give and take.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 11
Hi Zandi! Thanks for quoting Lord Buddha's quotes. Whatever he said ages ago still holds true. Only wise man can make the difference. It is correct that we get to meet both types of people in this world and life is like it and we need to get along with selfish and selfless people, as part of the game. PS - you are nearing 10000 mark.
@zandi458 (27879)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 11
Hi dpk, That is my target for now to reach that illusive 10000 mark. I am sweating to reach there.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
My very best wishes are with you Zandi, you will touch the magic mark, sooner than later.
• United States
10 Jan 11
I don't associate with selfish people . I think Most are self centered but there is a difference.My family are nice people and so are my co workers and my boss . But there is one truly selfless person in my life. It is my guy. He Wants to help others and goes out of his way to try to make Everyone feel good. And I am the lucky one. He Loves me! So he puts me first!
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
11 Jan 11
Hi Sarah! Nice to see you in my discussion. It sounds great to hear that your guy puts you first and this he does selflessly. I wish you should always be given first perference by your guy. All the best.. Thanks for enriching the post.
@Hatley (112721)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Jan 11
hi dpk no not really as here in this retirement center I see examples of people who have a lot of physical problems themselves help others who are having a little problem. my tablemate Sandra did that for me today as I was having an attack of shortness of breathe and had three heavy bags of suff I had bought at K mart she was going to use her walker to help me get my stuff to my room. half way there she got a cramp in her back and had to sit down in the walker. now there were three residents all male and one of them pushed her halfway to my room then the other one helped her the rest of the way. I had her and two others who were guys all helping me in a sense because I was having some physical problems too. None of these people are selfish,not a one.Maybe its because we all are retired from the damnable ratrace, and are now trying to just be good people.I have truly seen one man here Jesse help others and even give them stamps and when I tried to pay him for the stamps he was irritated. God Love him He said I do not take money. I said I am sorry and thanks so much. now I can mail these two letters., when I passed out at lunch from low blood sugar he was the one who brought me a soda that was not sugar free and a few sips and the world started to come back where it belonged.its really scary to a diabetic when he or she goes low as it makes you dizzy and can actually knock you out and at times kill you. now I keep hard candy on hand for emergencies.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi Hatley! I am deeply touched to hear your experiences of 'selflessness' and how you people help each other in the retirement centre, despite all odd. I think spirit of 'helping' each other makes us feel proud of humanity and our belief gets firmer that there are really some kind hearted and noble souls in the world. Many thanks for sharing.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
hi, dear Deepak. Selfish ans selfless, huh. I can be both and I am dealing with both selfless and selfish people.. So, needless to say that these two do exist in my life and probably in everyone's life ,too, including yours.:) When we say selfless, for me, it is giving yourself to someone or something (like of a cause) without expecting something in return, others even remain anonymous. And who are those selfless people? Parents, good parents to be precise. Doing their best for their children in order to give the latter a better future, breaking their backs and even skimping just to give their children what they need. Living for having less to nothing so that they children can have everything. Some few good samaritans. Just recently, I read in Reader's Digest Magazine, that a vegetable vendor is giving what she's earning from her store to a cause she has been supporting for years. She isn't rich but she is doing it with love. She did not even wish to be recognized. For the selfish ones, I have enough of this already.People who only cares for themselves and their interests and vow to get it at all cost even if it means hurting other people along the way. Didn't I share enough of this issue here, dear? As for me being both. I am selfless because I am too stubborn to think of my own happiness for the sake of the ones I love despite of the fact that I'll be at the losing end. I am also selfish because when I need someone, I tend to not think of the consequence as long as i'm getting what I want. I did that once to a friend. He was a very good one that even if he wanted to go I pleaded him not to because it hurts me to think of losing his friendship. He stayed but he became miserable because he knew that I can never be his...
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 11
Hi eureka! You summed up the difference between 'selfish' and 'selfless' and I agree with you that of all relationships 'parent - children' relationship is such where parents sacrifice their comforts for the sake of their children. I believe majority of parents will not bother about their own selfish interest when it comes to children, they will fulfill their children's demand first. There are some, who do charity and wish to remain anonymous, they are the real 'selfless' people. To me, you are more a selfless person rather than 'selfish', or should I say a mixture of both. Or is it, as we grow older, we tend to become less selfish? I think we as a human being acquire both the tendencies, however, its degree varies. Whatever you did with your friend is past now and it can never come back, so do not think too much about that.............lol! Very well written response. Many thanks for enriching this discussion. Deepak
@derek_a (10905)
6 Jan 11
I think this question can be a bit of a paradox really. When you think of the man/woman who gives a lot to charity, you may ask yourself, what is their motivation for giving so much to charity? Would they still give to charity it it caused them a lot of pain? Do they give to charity because it makes them feel good? Because they want to improve their soul? It can go very deeply, and I feel that the bottom line is that they are giving, and that's all there is to it. Is it impossible to be entirely selfless? Are we all selfish really? If we do unto others as we would do unto ourselves, then there is self and other of equal importance, and here I believe, lies the secret. Self and other is the same, and that is what the great spiritual teachers have always taught.. _Derek
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi Derek! I more or less agree with you that this question is a bit of paradox. To be a selfish or selfless person are two sides of the same coin. You are right those give or donate something for charity, may or may not be doing it with a selfish motive. Self and 'others' is same provided we have the open heartedness to 'understand' it. Very well crafted response.
• India
6 Jan 11
I have come across till now a lot of selfish ppl. And many of them I have encountered in my office...and regularly encountering. They never bother to help others. Just finish their work and end of day go to home. Lot of time, We had fight in meetings for this kind of behaviour. And you bet...this ppl never ever participate in cultural programs. Because they think its a waste of time. Just used to watch others doing the things and gossip.. Its very hard to work with such ppl.
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@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 11
Hi love4kolkata! Welcome to mylot and nice to meet you. It really feels bad that you come across many selfish people in office, who least bothered about others. But in office enviornment, you do not have much choice, have you? Some are over-ambitious and just ignore, exploit and crush others, on their way to gain promotions etc. Keep your cool in offie.
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
there are lots of different kinds of people we meet everyday but its up to use how to deal with them. i think its just a balance of nature.
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@vandana7 (39929)
• India
5 Jan 11
Hai Babyface - Happy New Year... I become selfish when I see your post...
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 11
Hi Vandana! I was wondering, whether you have gone into hibernation? Thank God, you are very much here in this material world and my discussion brought you on the board. As far as you are concerned, I can state that you are a selfless person and not selfish and I will always remember your favours done to me. HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU TOO!!
@vandana7 (39929)
• India
5 Jan 11
I have become ghost who stalks.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 11
A ghost who stalks other ghosts?
@kiran8 (12877)
• Mangalore, India
5 Jan 11
Hi deepak, long time ....Wish you and your family a Happy New Year Deepak, I have come across utter selfishness where it was totally unexpected and selflessness again where not expected. I have seen that those who hardly have any money are ready to share whatever they have without a second thought, whereas those who have would never do it! I had a colleague while I was working for a publishing house, who would perpetually offer me lift , so that I could close a deal for him.He would disappear after that and go after someone else, again come back and be after me to again close another deal for books etc; I did help him out because I knew that he needed the money. But what was disheartening was that he never reciprocated even when it was possible and never came in the way of his earning! Another contrasting example was a relative who is lower middle class, but never fails to make me feel at home and offer me a meal even when I casually visit her. I visit her often , sharing pot luck meals with her because of her very nature which is so endearing...She is ready to help out even if means going out of her way ! As I said earlier there are some people who really make this life worthwhile !
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi Kiran! Happy New Year to you and your family! (I was busy, therefore, I was absent from the scene). Yours is the best response so far, which I was expecting, when I started this post. Two experiences which you shared sum up the discussion beautifully. In the first case, knowing fully well that he was offering you lift for doing some favour to him, you did oblige him, this shows how much kindess you can shower on others. In the second case, I feel that that relative of yours who entertains you with open arms will always remain high on your list because we are touched deeply by such simple acts of generousity. Many thanks for sharing all your experience. Deepak
@kiran8 (12877)
• Mangalore, India
6 Jan 11
Thanks a lot deepak, from my own experiences , world is not a bad place at all! There are good and bad people in equal measures and they also have a reason for being so, at least thats what I feel - every action has a reaction lol...all the best and enjoy your evening
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
7 Jan 11
You are right the world is full of good and bad people, it is our luck, whether we come across selfish persons more or otherwise.
• India
5 Jan 11
Every human being is bound to have a bundle of motivations. But most of us are myopic about it. We can't see beyond what's immediate. We work at our near future and slowly loose all our foresight. Merely having a strong motivation doesn't make you selfish. You also need to be myopic in order to be called a truly selfish person. There are only a few who can be called entirely altruistic. The word 'altruistic' is an ideology in itself. It's a theory that seldom has a realization. Even if you are not altruistic that's okay. We all help each other with underlying motives, which is perfectly normal. But a truly wise and well-informed person is also expected to be sensitive to his surroundings. He is expected to be aware of his social position. He doesn't live for himself or his family. But he also has a higher aim, or, a higher motivation. So he helps others almost spontaneously. He helps because the kindness he feels inside is too strong to suppress.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
5 Jan 11
Do you wish to say - one needs to be selfish and myopic to succeed?
• India
5 Jan 11
That depends on what one means by 'success'. In a way, both the myopic and the foreseer get success in their lives. But the foreseer takes more time and when he reaches the height he hardly falls.
@caecal07 (197)
• United States
6 Jan 11
I totally agree. Most people cannot look at the big picture and I also believe that most people are all about helping themselves or all about helping each other. Rarely do you find a common ground.
• Philippines
6 Jan 11
yes.. a lot actually.. these selfish people with an ulterior motive for their own gain would actually use people and yes.. i have encountered lots of these people but not all people are selfish.. there are also selfless people who would help you without asking anything in return.. i have met a couple of selfless people.. it is unbelievable but yes they are existing.. and i really adore and appreciate selfless people because these people are people with pure hearts to really reach out and help.. well for the selfish people.. we can never avoid them in this lifetime.. maybe
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi jac! Welcome to mylot family. This world is surviving because of those noble selfless souls who make this world a better place to live, if these kinds of souls are not there, things will get difficult. You are right that you cannot avoid selfish people in our life, we have to face them somehow, they are part of the game.
@LittleMel (14061)
• Canada
5 Jan 11
dpk it's been some time I'm glad to see your thread here I have to say I met more selfish people than the selfless ones this goes in any area of life, workplace, friendship, online, you name it! if I put it in ratio it would be 2 selfless in 10 people is a close one these selfless people are putting selfish faces so to speak but when we are alone, they show me their true nature this is done because most people do not stand up against selfish people and so selfish people get to bully more and more people every day the selfless people have to wear masks in order to be safe otherwise they can not save anyone else either how I deal with it, well I ignored or left selfish people it took me many years to realize that if I 'wear masks' like selfless people do I can actually take advantage of selfish people little by little kind of getting even, but slowly and unknowingly but as much as I tried to, I just can't do it I guess I am not one that can 'bend but not break'
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi Littlemel! I have been keeping busy, therefore, I was absent from the scene. I am impressed with your analysis that the ratio of selfless and selfish is around 2:10. It is also true that we come across many selfish people who come with a mast on their faces. It is right to ignore such people because if they succeed in bullying you or making fool of you, they win. Many thanks for sharing your wonderful views.
@JenInTN (27571)
• United States
5 Jan 11
Heyya deepak! How in the world have you been? I think that there are more selfishness than not in the world today, but there are still good people that are willing to do things for others without hidden agendas. They are just a bit hard to find. I think that sometimes people believe it is the only way to make something out of themselves but the truth is, it can hurt them more in the longrun. I like to think if I were to describe myself..both words would be a little extreme. I work for the money to take care of me and my family, but my motives when dealing with people within the company never come with hidden agendas. I am very open and people always know where they stand with me. I feel like that being in management is only a title. I am really only as good as my team and they deserve to be treated equally and with the same amount of respect and dignity that I expect for myself. I really don't try to determine the two. I feel like if I am true to them all and true to myself then it is not my concern as to if they are selfish or not. It is within them to decide who they will be but if their actions affect the team..I address it.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi Jen! I have been keeping busy, therefore, I was absent from the scene. You are very right that there appears a dearth of 'selfless' people and majority are 'selfish' and they go for achiving their goals without thinking about others, whom they meet on their ways to their goals. I know Jen that you are one of the kindest and noblest souls who love to work and favour others, without any hidden motive. You are a generous person and you will help even a stranger, in his/her hour of need, regardless of his/her status. Many thanks for sharing such a touching thoughts.
@saphrina (31744)
• South Africa
5 Jan 11
Hello Deepak. Long time no see. Yip, seen them and know them. Strange when people were ordinary they change when they have a better life. I despise selfish people. You have to think of all around you, not just about yourself. I ignore people who are selfish by nature and those who become selfish get the deaf ear from me as well. TATA.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi Saph, I have been keeping busy, therefore, I was absent from the scene. It is true that when people have better means, then tend to change and they become selfish and you just cannot love 'selfish' people. Have a great day!
• Philippines
5 Jan 11
in my experience at home, there are two kinds of people in general. selfless and selfish and i think my dad is perfect example of a selfish person. he doesnt like to spend on his family he keeps his money all to himself. he doesnt like the idea of helping other people hes got a crab mentality. on the otherhand, my mom is like a living saint. she is an example of selfless person. shes generous and considerate to everyone. she is religious and has strong belief in God. I think there are still some good people left but most people nowadays always take advantage and have evil motives and personal interests. Some are pretentious and likes using other people.
@dpk262006 (41601)
• Delhi, India
6 Jan 11
Hi sweetmary! So you have experienced both types of people one who are 'selfish' and one who are 'selfless'. You see, if both partners are 'selfish', then it gets difficult to get along, therefore, I believe, that your mother is 'selfless' and she sets and example and I would like you to follow you, your mother's footsteps. Thanks for sharing.