I wish I could.

It sounds like you are in a tough situation with this guy. But if there are no feelings for him now, they probably won't grow. Or you could mistake his reliability and friendship for love later down the road and end up loving him but not in love with him. And using him as a ride at 3 in the morning isn't acceptable from someone who is probably in love with you when you have no feelings back. The poor guy was probably thinking you wanted him there, not that you just wanted his car. If you still want to keep him as a good friend, you should tell him you have no relationship interest. Or he will still be trying to win your heart. Does he have a girlfriend? If he doesn't and isn't looking for one, its a sign he's waiting for you. Or if he does and blows off his girl to help you, same thing goes. I had a friend, a best friend, who told me for years he liked men. After moving away and not talking to him for about 5 years, he confessed to someone he was secretly in love with me. I felt kinda bad because I never saw him that way and never knew he was even interested. I would use him for things, rides, money, he paid for my cell phone half the time. And if I would have known he liked me I wouldn't have done any of it. It makes me feel bad to know I got him to drop me off at my boyfriends house, or to dance and party with other people than him. So I can relate, even though i didn't know it at the time.

hi thatgirl13 no b ut I had a stalker who I had taken care of as a nurses aide who almost killed me when I could not love him. He was an okay person before he became obsessed with making me love him; I went out just once with him and it was a terrible idea. He brought out a wedding ring and engagement ring and proposed. I tried to be gentle but he was furious. He yelled if you won't marry me,I will see you don not marry any one,. He tried to strangle me right there in that restaurant but two big waiters pulled him off me. He was arrested and his dad bought him off and sent him to live with an aunt in New Hampshire.i heard later he was arrested for attempted murder of another girl who refused to date him in New Hampshire.Love is or is not,one cannot make oneself love a man.,

That is the mystery of love. You can't just force yourself to fall in love with someone you don't have feelings with in the first place other than just plain friendship. And the worse counterpart of that is that loving the person who won't love you back. Isn't it ironic? Oh well! To be honest with you, I don't think a guy can genuinely be there for you all the time that you need them unless he has this great feelings for you. Friends can be there for you but to a certain point. But if he exerted too much effort, like picking you up in the wee hours of the morning, then it's a clear indication that he really does have strong feelings for you. It's just sad that you don't feel the way way too.

Yes, I have a friend like yours. He's always there whenever I need him, and always ready to help. But I can't love him because he is already married. You know, opportunities like these don't always come. Maybe you should give it a try and see if it will work out. You'll never know if you don't find out for yourself.

Okay, this is what I called forcing one's self to love a good man... If you don't love him as lover then don't, don't feel bad about it. You are the one that will actually decide on that, if you will give him a chance or not, if there's no really a little bit something that you can feel in your heart about that guy, then finish it one's and for all, make no issue about it and continue being friend with him okay. =)

I will cut to the chase. It is always better for the man to be more in love with you than you with him. But, don't abuse his affections because they can quickly turn on you. Ask yourself what there is about him that holds you back? Is it the way he wears his hair or dresses. If it is something superficial, a makeover can be given. Also, ask yourself if he shows up with a girlfriend will you be jealous? I was in a similar situation years ago. So, don't eliminate him just because you don't feel that spark right now. Good men are hard to find.

Love is something that just happens you can't make it happen.I have many close friends that I love as friends but that is it.I do not want to be their lovers I just want to be friends.You will find love when you least exspect it.Have a great day.

No, I have never been in that situation. I am on the opposite side. I have a friend who I love for more than a friend and he doesn't feel the same way. We dated once and he got called to active military duty during Desert Storm and so we decided to call that quits,but he never wanted to get back to a dating relationship after that and would never tell me why. It sucks!

Hi thatgirl, Yes, I have a guy friend who has been my friend for over 30 yrs. He's a great guy. We'd do anything for each other. Other people have tried to push us to be together but I just can't go there. For whatever reason, I just can't look at him in that way.

Hiya TG, Either way it´s nice to have a Friend like that who will help you out no matter what. I would not worry too much about it just enjoy your friendship and let it go that way. Could be that he will be a good lifelong friend and we surely all need at least one of them in our lives they are like a treasure Box to go to when times get tough. He will always be there for you by the sound of it. Really nice that I have a Friend sort of like that he is a bit older than me and he has always been there and we are oceans away from each other at the same time but he is always just a phone call away.xxx

A long time ago, when I was still very young, I was in the same situation as your friend. I was in love with a girl in the group that I hanged out. Unfortunately she didn't feel the same way. She did came back to me after a few years, but then it was too late as I've moved on. I guess it's just a matter of timing. And if it's not meant to be, then you can't really do anything about it.

There is a saying that says we do not choose who we fall in love with. And I do believe in this saying. I fell in love when I was a junior in high school with a guy who was my complete opposite, does all the little things that I hate, but yet I still fell in love. It's a great thing that I did because he treats me so well and is a great guy in general. If it is meant to be, then you will fall in love with him. Love needs time to grow like a plant. It needs time to grow from a stalk to a beautiful flower. Your relationship could be this situation.

I have been the guy in this situation. I know what it's like to have feelings for someone and the other does not feel the same toward me. It is a painful feeling. I could never just be friends with that person, or at least until the strong feeling left. I would need time away from them. Then maybe I could just be friends. I know things happen like that. But who knows, maybe one day you will realize that it is him that you love and care for and he will be like, I don't feel the same anymore. Who knows.

Either yes or no. It cannot be half yes and half no. You situation is like this. If u like you say yes and get married. otherwise forget about him. Do not have contacts with him. -- I don't know how much u like this comment. But clarity in mind of what we want and what we do not want will help in many places.

That is an awkward situation. I had a classmate in college who liked me a lot and he tells it to the world. Like even our teachers know. It was annoying at first but he was my friend. And he was just being real. He makes these attempts to impress me which were total FAILs. I just couldn't really love him like he loved me but we remained friends and I made it clear to him that I wasn't really planning on having a boyfriend and I wasn't waiting for one either. He understood and waited. But nothing really happened. We just graduated and went on separate paths. Now, after 5 years. I still don't have a boyfriend but I'm happy with my life and when I saw his facebook page, I see he's already got himself a girlfriend and it seems like he loves her a lot. I'm happy for him and I didn't regret my decision. Contrary to that, I believe you can teach the heart. But even so, you have all the right to make whatever decision you want. Just make sure you don't regret it. If you think he's just a friend then stick with it and don't let him expect. So he could also move on with his life.

That is always a hard position to be in. Inevitably one person gets hurt. That happened to me once. I really thought we were meant to be together forever but he only considered me to be his very best friend. It took me awhile to get over it because of my feelings for him. We hardly speak anymore.

One year is a long time to know if you have that chemistry that could bind you for life. But this friendship cannot last as it will hinder you from looking for your true love. It is better that you distance yourself from him gradually.

If your mind does not accept this guy. I think it is no point forcing him into your life. You can just tell him politely his limitation and what your friendship level should start and end. If he is not ready for that, tell him to quit your life for damn good!

I did have a friend like this many years ago. My parents loved him and he had a good head on his shoulders but it was just not there. Unfortunately you cannot just make yourself...

Yes there are friends u wish to love but you can't. And this shows that there is a different between friendship and lovers