" I mosttly just read discussions without commenting. blah blah: says a mylotter

@Hatley (164743)
Garden Grove, California
June 25, 2011 5:06pm CST
That triggered my discussion. If all of us felt like that and we all just came here to get entertained then what happens to our discussions? Do enough others not feel that way and will respond? What if a majority beganto be like that? Wou ld mylot survive like it does? I do not know why this has really upset me as I know we have a lot of people here who do respond. But what does this say to newcomers who are in hopes so of us at least will respond to their discussions? Do some get sick of not getting responses and just quit? Your take fellow myloters. I know none of us have to do anything here but still I feel we need not bypass so many good discussions.
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• United States
25 Jun 11
I enter all the discussions I do regardless if they are a new comer and or veteran. If it interests me and or I can certainly apply some quality content I will enter it regardless of who it is and or if they will comment or not. I too learned early on that by responding to others discussions is/was a way to be remembered. Therefore, when I do start my few and far in between discussions I do get loads of responses. Anyways yes I do enjoy entering new comers discussions as I feel I have learned a great deal here and very much enjoy helping show the way to as many as I can.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi hardworkinggurl you have helped some many newcomers its just great. love you for it. I still will respond if I am interested enough in the discussion as I remember how I felt as a newbie but now I get a ton of responses usually and I think some of its because I responded to a lot of my mylot friends and other my lotters too. I guess I just love to write and respond if I can add something intelligent or help in some way.some discussions the person just needs to talk to someone and feel less alone and boy I do understand that.I respond to all new or old as it makes no difference,we are all my lotters.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
I agree with both of you here. I respond to things that interest me, especially if I think that I can help or add something useful to the conversation. It does not matter whether it is a new user, a more experienced myLotter or if I have ever interacted with them before, although sometimes I will put things on discussions of friends that I would not put on a discussion by a user that I am not very familiar with, because I do not want to offend anybody.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi purplealabaster I think we all do that as I feel if I write" sorry I do not know how to help you but hope someone does help you soon " I am not furthering the discussion at all. in fact mylot admins would probably delete them if they see those kind of responses.
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@ravisivan (14055)
• India
25 Jun 11
Madam: It depends on the mood of all of us. somedays we feel like commenting on all discussions and on a few days only on a few discussions. It depends on some issues in the house or in the office. But I am concerned about one thing. viz. people do not decide on the discussions even after a lapse of weeks. Instead if we decide that it should be decided after 7 days or so then things may be more interesting. It is because I would have answered nearly 1100+ discussions and can u believe I have had only 15 best responses. It means people have not decided on quite a good number of issues.
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@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
i agree with you on that line because I have not decided on the discussions that i started because i'm confused they are all good and i could not decide whose response is the best. is there a way that readers can choose the best response? I think i have to submit it to the readers for them to choose.
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• United States
25 Jun 11
I just answered this, but I lost it, so I will respond again. I think I saw this discussion you are talking about.. I remember something about reading but not responding. What good is it to the poster if people read but don't respond? The OP can't earn anything if he/she cannot respond to a comment? This site could not survive if no one responded to discussions and only read them. We all want others to value what is on our minds. We are sharing parts of our lives with each other, and the least people could do is to give us all the time to read the discussions and then comment back... at least then we know who read what we had to say. I think all of us want to be valued, do we not?
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@13tyates (1611)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I sure want to be valued! If not I have no reason to be here!
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
pointless questions you have summed up perfectly what I was trying to say. I felt well gee I did not know I was writing just so you could read this and say "I do not respond to discussions". boy you sure do not care a whit then for my discussion at all.'yes we all want to be valued. thats why we make discussions and respond to others discussions.If I have really enjoyed a discussion that has touched me in some way or helped me sometimes I will say this is a really great discussion. people should copy this and put it on their wall.I do not do that to all but to a few that are outstanding.
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• United States
25 Jun 11
I would not find any good reason to spend my time reading when I could also help someone. I don't have a problem with people reading my posts and moving on. But,it would get boring real quick if this was to become the norm. I like mylot and responding is very much a part of mylot. Or they really should not be here. What is the real purpose of doing that.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi gifts me too as that is exactly the way I feel as when I help someone I feel like I have helped myself a little. I would though that most people would at least say well I disagree or this is my opinion so that I would not feel like what I wrote had no value but I should not complain as I have been getting plenty of responses.Yes if that were the norm it would get very boring here I also like mylot. I just resented 'that persons suggesting in a way she was only here to be entertained as thats not my reaons for being here at all.Some times some of my own discussions have less entertainment value but mostly are a rant against something. but I see a lot of us give in to rants occasionally. I try not to do that often though
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Well, if all they do is read, then they really won't get paid, will they??? Then they'll probably go and tell everyone what a scam this site is..Well duh, they are not going to pay anyone for reading, that's stupid..
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi carm that was what sort of pissed me off as if we all did that nobody would win and sound the whole thing would fold up and die like some other sites have done. She seemed to think that was okay to think like that so maybe she is not here to make any money at all just get entertained.It irritated me to think some just come here only to read our stuff,why bother signing up as reading can be found in a ny library. lol. I think it is stupid.
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@GardenGerty (96670)
• Marion, Kansas
26 Jun 11
There is a site I am on, and you can earn, not very well, by just viewing and reading stuff. I know quite a few people are on both, so maybe she is just confused. I had a friend say she is mostly reading and rating today, so she is helping others even if not helping herself.
• United States
26 Jun 11
Well you won't see me just reading..lol It isn't very smart, Hatley, but like G.G. said, I guess there are sites where one can just read and if she thinks that is what this site is about, she'll soon see it is not..
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• Canada
25 Jun 11
I think newcomers deserve responses, even if they haven't read the guidelines and still ask questions. No one should be ridiculed for asking questions, nor should they be insulted/put down just because they don't read the rules. It's not fair to anyone.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jun 11
hi kris i do so agree. they are new and us older ones should show them the ropes as best we can.If everyone felt like that oneposter and just read and never commented a lot of newcomers would get so upset they' might just leave. we were all new atone time and I imagine like me they felt hurt because they had wo rked hard to make a discussion and only got one response. I know I complained and an older member here clue me in to keep making response sto others so they would see my usen mane and feel that I was a good responder; tjem they would start to look for my discussions and respond to me. So I took her advice and was soon getting a lot of responses.Also I learnd if I would keep up on the co mments back to the responses I got people would also respond and comment more to me.. But I know most all newbies that stay the course first had the times when nobody seemed to care about their discussios.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jun 11
ohoh typo alert one poster at one not atone worked not wo rked clued not clue responses not response s darn forgot to preview sorry about that.
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• Canada
25 Jun 11
I still create discussions that get no responses, and to this day, it is a disappointment, so it's not just new users who would feel this way. It shouldn't bother me since I've been here a long time, but it does. But I guess that's part of the game here, not everyone wants to respond to my discussions. But new users should have responses, it would help them feel welcome, and encourage them to participate more than they would.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
I don't think this is a reason to get upset with anyone, since the reality is that more than enough people participate on this website in order to generate discussion. Of course if everyone did do this then MyLot wouldn't be able to survive because there would be no discussions to even come and read. I think if the person has something to say then they can respond. It's better to have someone not respond to something if they don't have anything much to contribute, rather than contribute just for the sake of saying something. If someone isn't really dedicated and interested in a topic then forcing their self to respond probably won't generate much interesting responses. If someone really is interested in a topic then I think that is more of a motivator to contribute and it will more likely push them to respond. I understand what you're saying about this sending the wrong message to newbies, but at the same time I'm sure they can use their judgement and see how many other people actually do respond to discussions. I guess some people just aren't into responding, and I personally can respect that because no one should feel compelled to participate.
• United States
26 Jun 11
There are times when I will read a discussion and not know how to answer it, especially if it is a really personal type discussion. I do not want to say the wrong thing and hurt anyone's feelings or create a misunderstanding, so I will not say anything at all, especially if I do not know the person that well. It is not necessarily that I do not want to respond, but I feel that not saying anything is better than saying the wrong thing in these type situations.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
You right PA, though I have a lot of life experiences and can relate to a great many discussions here solely based on my own experiences, at times I prefer not to enter some because I can be at a loss for words and that placing something perhaps generic will be construed as non-caring therefore it at times for me it is best I do not respond.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi hardworkinggurl and purple and Chastized you all make some really valid points. of course we are all free to do as we wish in posting here or not posting. I was just making a point that it felt weird to think some rarely respond but just make discussions once in a great while. Nobody is forcing us to do any thing but I just felt that if you take time to really read a discussion I feel you should take time to respond., I am saying if you read the darned thing then you were interested as you would not s pend time on something that you did not feel you could even related to.so then why not make a response even if only to share your feeling about the topic. at my age I am more apt to dare to try to help someone in a touchy situation only because I have experienced a lot in my own long life.lol lol
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@jujunme (2395)
• United States
26 Jun 11
Hi Hatley:In all fairness to the person who posted the discussion you mention here,i don't think he/she merely reads the discussions and NEVER responds to any.I can't see why anyone would come here just for that purpose. There have been times when i may be interested in a topic but don't feel i can contribute much,or someone has already given a similar comment to one i might have given and so,i will just read the responses without leaving a comment,but, i certainly don't do this on a regular basis. Also, i really don't care if it's a newbie or veteran, if i'm interested in their topic and feel i can contribute to the discussion i will certainly leave my comment and think most of us do this as well.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi jujunme maybe not but the idea of my working hard to make a discussi9on merely to entertain a bunch of lookie lous does not make me feel very appreciated; I know none of us respond to every discussion we see but if you are interested enough to read the whole thing I cannot see why you would not respond as you would not have been interested had it not been something you could relate to. I realize she must respond to some of them but her attitude made me wonder if there are a lot of people who do not come here to enjoy mylotting but just to entertain themselves and leave. As for feeling I cannot contribute I sometimes I go ahead and plunge in and find the poster got some real help from what I did say.I do not favor any age but I do always go to my friends first as I do owe them something for being so kind to me and responding to me so much. I like to go to new discussions too and try and help out a new user.Oh I am sure most of us do and I was not implying otherwise really.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
I do an bunch of responding when I am on here, but I read far more than I respond. As Jujume has said, sometimes I read things and do not feel that I can add anything to the discussion, so I don't. That does not mean that I wasn't interested in what other people had to say, though. Sometimes I learn from these discussions, even if I do not participate in them and earn a cent or two, and I do not consider myself a "lookie lou". I read books, too, and I don't get paid for them nor do I participate in them, but I would not read them if I wasn't interested in what they were saying.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi purple I know you do and I do too but the thing with me is I have such a huge advantage over the rest as I have so muuch free timel. I now am feeling a bit odd as the user whom wrote the discussion that triggered this just contactedme too. I do not want people to take pot shots at her here as she is also one of mylot friends. I do not'want to hurt her at all. just wanted to explore the idea of how many people just read and never comment. I know she does comment after all and that'm makes me feel good too. Not everyone in fact not most have so much leisure' time as I do.
@vandana7 (62499)
• India
26 Jun 11
Oh I but I do at times Hatley...when the system or network is giving too much problem. Then I end up on dad's laptop, and I am not comfortable typing on that. Even my tasks, I manually write and make papa type them out.. but reading discussions at such time is fun. The laptop is terrible. I press one thing, and it types something else. I cant be that soft touch..lol
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 11
Hi vandana7, it seems that the laptop and network give you quite some trouble eh... I can share with you my laptops if you live somewhere nearby
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi I am s ort of glad I have my old trusty desktop computer for now. I also do not respond to all discu ssiojs I read as some I 'cannot add anything to to but I do tr y my best to respond to as many of my mylot friends as I can. but right now I am busy commenting back to my friends responses to my discssion.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 11
It's true that we wish to help and push someone but just can't write anything may be I'm out of inspiration sometimes on account of my getting older brain. Nice to know that you desktop still serves its purpose so well
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@rameshchow (5284)
• India
10 Jul 11
Few people are having enthusiasm to make the discussion very interesting. They can give very quick reply. They also want a nice comment from us. That time we can give our level best. But, it is so rare. Dedication is must to do this.
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jul 11
hi rameshchow yes we do need enthusiasm to make out discussions interesting to others. and its just being fair for us to comment back when our friends have taken time to respond to our own discussions. I try to keeup with my friends discussions as much as I humanly can but sometimes I get bogged down as there are so many.today I am playing catch up an commenting back on my own discussions here. lol
• India
14 Jul 11
really you have great patience that you have been giving comment to each response. We are inspiring from you madam. We want to reach your position, but it will take so much time... hahahaha and yes, we can, bcoz we are still young.. any advice?
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jul 11
hi rameshchow just keep on being yourself and you will soon have bigger numbers too. I am glad I am an inspiration lol.I have a lot of time thats why I have got such big numbers, you are still young and ypu will also make bigger number too.just keep on trucking. lol
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
12 Jul 11
hi hatley. i feel a bit guilty reading this discussion. it's because i do this reading discussions from email and not commenting on them. and most of the time, i really do not read some. it's kinda opposite of what i was months ago and years back. i was so concentrated or should we say "serious enough" starting and responding and commenting. i am not so sure what caused me to change. but i am not saying goodbye or something. i am still here and will try to get back to that old track.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jul 11
hi neildc oh my word you have had your hands full the last few years with your little son so its no wonder you did not have time or maybe patinece to spend a lot of time here. zayzay came first of co urse, I am so glad he's now a healthy happy busy little boy.You will get back here eventually so do not fret yourself over it. family must always come first. lol lol
@Nadinest1 (2040)
• Canada
29 Jun 11
Right now I have just over 300 unanswered mylot discussions.....I pick and choose which ones I answer. If it is a topic I know about or am interested in I reply. otherwise, I don't. I have 299 or so other discussion to read and maybe reply to anyway.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Jul 11
hi Nadine I am in the same position between the days I missed because of my accident and the quarantine of my roommate and now computer trouble I am behind both ways the discussions of my friends and my own discussions that I am trying to catch up on this last evening. my roomie is now asking when am I going to bed.damn. its only 8;45 and I do not go to bed til 10;00 i do wish on the last day of the month she would lighten up a bit. I am not her child to be ordered around like that. she is 81 I am 84 going on 85 in November of this year.
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@gdesjardin (1938)
• United States
27 Jun 11
Hi Hatley! Long time no see...I have just recently got back on MyLot. As far as discussions go, if I can add content, and it is something I know about I will respond. Of course, if I don't know anything about the subject, then I don't respond. When I do respond, I don't care if the person is a veteran or a newbie...a discussion is a discussion in my eyes. I know if people look at my number after my name they probably think I am fairly new here but in reality I have been on MyLot for a few years now. I do know when I am really busy with kid stuff or when I am working seasonally I don't manage to get on here at all, of if I do then I might be very selective and only respond to my MyLot "friends" but it is because of time issues not just to read discussion without commenting. I wonder why someone would just read the discussions. A discussion is not a discussion without feedback...right?
@ElicBxn (60763)
• United States
27 Jun 11
I don't see that, but I have been deleting a few people who never respond to one of MY discussions because I've been so far behind... I even did a mass delete and am getting behind again already!
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Jul 11
hi elicbxn I am so behind its already nine pm here and i promised roomie to go to bed at ten. she drives me nuts at times;oh my mylot friends list I have to delete a lot who never respond ever as why take up space.i let te whole list get out of hand. well tomorrow anothe day but alas not on this pay period. everything I have done tonight takes forever to load which slows me down a lot too.
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@ElicBxn (60763)
• United States
1 Jul 11
I haven't deleted friends, mostly because that would come after selecting best responses and I'm way behind on that too! but I do delete discussions - that's what I meant...
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jul 11
oh yes me too I had 700 discussions after a week without getting email so had to do a huge delete as no way was I going to be avle toldol all 700 ,I have over a thousand friends and I never ever meant to do that either. I have to start deleting those on my myfriends list that have not been here in months I canwait three months but six or seven sounds to me like they are not returning so must delete.
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@13tyates (1611)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I as a Mylotter know the more I post the more others will post. (Well I thought that's how it was supposed to work until I read this discussion.) I do understand some people do not have the time to respond to all discussions as they are very busy but I say at least respond to a few every day if you can. I know I try to respond as much as I can, but sometimes I do not get to all of the discussions made every day. I sure try though. Maybe more and more people are busy, but I would still never post out right I just want to read but do not want to respond. That makes no sense and is in no way how Mylot is intended to work in my opinion.
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• United States
25 Jun 11
So many people complain that they don't earn very much, but then they don't want to do the work to earn.. it takes more than reading to earn here... we don't get anything for reading.. you type you earn and I type I earn. That's what keeps mylot in business... if we all just quit typing.. there wouldn't even be a mylot.
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@13tyates (1611)
• United States
25 Jun 11
You hit how it works on a point. I mean like you said reading is only half the equation here. You have to have the seconds part of the equation for it to work, which is WRITING. It annoys me sometimes to but I don't know that you will ever have a site that does not have people like that.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi 13 and pointless questions . I know that in my gut but for awhile it did annoy me too.what is the point if one signs up here but is not active, I realize a lot of users,most probably have a job and family and fit my lot in when they can. So they respond to what interest them and that is great. we all do the best we can here. yes pointless you are so right a lot of people come here not wanting to lift a finger hardly and do not make much because they did not do much then they call mylot a scam.I do not know of any site here that will pay you for just signing up You type and post you get paid,if I do it I get paid. I never had any kind of a job or site where I got paid for being there. lol lol lol So some of us will keep responding and Mylot will keep being her great self.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
26 Jun 11
Of course, mylot would be worse and no one would get any answers to their questions. Even if the subject is a little difficult , it would best to just say that it is a bit hard or difficult to answer rather then making the one who responded, feel as if the other person did not care. True it is supposed to be fun here, but I never knew anyone who just stood like a clam when someone told them something - telemarketers being the exception.
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Jul 11
hi suspenseful e it would be a mess for sure.I am so glad that most of us do try to be more active here and some of us with more time can be of more help here too. oh telemarketers and someone tried to g et me to take a survey here I was shaking from low blood sugar then this idiot wants me to take a half hour survey about glucose glucometers . I had to finally hang up and care for myself. rude maybe but he called me I sure did not call him and it was time for me to be downstairs at our dinner tables. I am now on a do not call list thats helped me a lot.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
1 Jul 11
I cannot do but comment. And I do have to straighten people out on what I really meant or fill them in on details, or whatever. Oh my do not call finally worked. I hope they make that hacker who ruined everything write everything in long hand with a pencil that needs sharpening all the time and they give him a dull knife. I mean I did get a call started on my cell phone and saw the wonderful words Call Blocked! He did try to call again from his Alberta number, or maybe using his home phone, but I knew the number and did not answer. I also got asks for a survey but just said no and hung up right away.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Jul 11
hey suspenseful I got suckered into a survey that was about diabetes and I was trying t o tell them she would have to wait as allof a sudden I was so shaky and knew I was going low . just then my son came in grabbed the receiver and told the lady she wou ld have to call back in an hour as his mom was almost passed out. needless to say the woman did not have the gall to call back and I was so glad. from then on I always say no I do not do su rveys. that do not call though is the best thing going to stop telemarketers really.yes once it starts working its really so great.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
26 Jun 11
A discussion is a give and take, a conversation. If someone is not willing to have a conversation with me, however brief, I quit responding to their "discussions". There are a couple of exceptions--one who can't access a computer often, another who is very busy but still engaged here, one who has mobility problems, etc...those I will respond to because I know they read and enjoy the responses and they also respond to my discussions at times. But those who just start a discussion then never reply to any of the comments I cross off my list. I still keep them as friends to see if they'll become more engaged but sadly, most of them do not. I really need to go through and cull those from my "friends" list.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
It is never too late to learn, though, because I know of one user that never used to comment back to the responders on any of his discussions, and started a lot of discussions. After two years of some of us trying to get through to him that he should respond back and interact with people on his discussions, he has finally realized what we have been saying all along and is responding all over the place now and having fun doing it.
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@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
26 Jun 11
Purplealabaster, that's why I do keep them active for quite awhile--I remember one very fascinating myLotter that never commented on their own discussions because they were so insecure in their English mastery but they finally conceded that practice makes perfect. After that, I saw some comments from them. I will give someone every chance I can unless they insist on posting vapid discussions devoid of serious content. Even then I'll give them a few months. I think everyone has something important to say if we can just coax it out of them.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
I agree with you. The thing that disappoints me the most sometimes is when someone starts a really good, informative and/or interesting discussion topic and gets a lot of responses from people that obviously want to discuss the topic, but the original poster of the discussion never comes back to interact with any of the users. I can understand the language barrier and being insecure about English, although that is not supposed to be a factor. In the cases I am talking about, though, that is not the issue. Sometimes I will just respond to as many people as I can in the discussion (not that I don't do that anyway), because I feel that it really is a potentially great discussion topic if somebody was there to discuss it with the responders. Sometimes the original poster of the discussion will realize that everybody is having a good time discussing and actually come back and join in. When this happens it makes me very happy.
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@fwidman (11517)
• United States
26 Jun 11
It was that way when I first came here. People read the discussions they wanted and often did not leave a reply, just went on to the next one. There always will be people that read and say little or nothing at all. The only ones they truly hurt are themselves as they are missing a lot of fun by having an actual discussion
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• United States
26 Jun 11
When I read and do not respond I do not feel that I am hurting myself, especially if I have learned something from the topic. I just might not know enough about it myself to respond to it with anything of importance to say, so I think it is better to just not say anything at those times. Still, I am pretty active on here, so I think that reading certain things without contributing to the conversation is not all that bad as I obviously do not do it on every discussion.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
fwidmanand purple the owner of the discussion that triggered this is a friend and i just want to reiterate I did not make this discussion to hurt nor malign her in anyway. she does participate at times so she is not just bypassing everything. I have bypassed those i cannot make an intelligent answer to. but I try to respond to as many of mylot friends as I can.So I just want to be s ure nobody is going tg turn my discussion into a vend etta against my friedn.
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• United States
30 Jun 11
Hatley, I do not think that anyone interpreted your discussion in that way nor do I think that any of the responders (or at least not the ones that I have read) meant anything negative against anyone else. We all have our own way of doing things, and I think this discussion has allowed us to express how we each do our own thing ... it shows the similarities and differences within us.
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@MsTickle (24991)
• Australia
6 Jul 11
Hi Hatley dear...I saw a discussion yesterday in the digest and I thought I could have a shot at answering and when I went to the discussion it was over 6 pages long and every single response was of the same opinion. Everyone used their own words to give the same response to the question the poster asked. How could I respond as well, when I had the same opinion as every one else and could not add anything further to the discussion? Isn't that why we are supposed to read what the other responders have said so we are not adding the same thing? That's what it says in the Guidelines and I understood that guideline to mean that we are not to repeat what others have replied. Other than that, I respond to discussions that are relevant to me and most discussions are not. I do not respond and make stuff up or to patronise the OP. I agree that the site would fall down if no-one responded to anything but that will never happen. Because we are all different, we come from different countries and cultures and age groups and so on, we cannot respond to all discussions from all the people (or even all our friends) all the time. That's how I see things anyway.
@MsTickle (24991)
• Australia
14 Jul 11
Darling Patsie, you constantly amaze me with the huge amount of effort you put into myLot. You set a wonderful example for all of us from the jaded old veterans like myself to the enthusiastic newbies who are joining all the time. I wish I could do half as much as you do. Hugs to you dear one.
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jul 11
hi mstickle as usual you see things pretty clearly.yes hopefully there will always be some of us dogged enough to respond endlessly and I too do not respond to discussions that I cannot understand, or are about topics that leave me cold like cricket and foot ball and soccer
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jul 11
hi mstickle thanks so much for the nice compliment as we all like to be appreciated. I do try my best. I have expected my son to come all afternoon but evidently something has held him up. he is going to' put the rest of the software in my computer and then I will have all of my new Windows XP I am so excited as I have had 2000 for 11 years so now I am going modern.yipee.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
I do know that responding is important to this site, because our activity helps to keep the site running. However, I also read a lot and do not necessarily comment on everything that I read. I do think that I am active enough and comment enough that the time that I take to read, even when I do not respond, does not hurt anybody including myself nor do I feel that it is a waste of time. The only time that I do feel that it is a waste is when I find a ton of repeat topics that I don't want to respond to, and they are pushing the other topics to the "bottom of the pile" so to speak.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
Very true. I agree. I hate it when I read topics that have been made previously. Sometimes a quick search before you create a topic can help save a lot of people from getting their comments deleted. I tend to comment more on topics that deal with people's personal experiences because those are usually unique topics that haven't been discussed before, or deal with slightly different topics from similar discussions that have been started previously.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
I agree with both your points here, Chastized. I think that a simple search would help to eliminate many repeat topics not to mention that we are supposed to search before creating a discussion anyway. I also think that responding to personal experience discussions is much safer, because unless someone has plagiarized another person's discussion no two people have had exactly the same life experiences - they may have had many similar experiences but even identical twins have some different experiences in life.
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@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 11
hi purple and Chastized I agree with you both. I some times skip those discussions about sports that I know nothing about but if I am really interested enough to read all of a discussion then I will respond to it.' I know purple is very active here and Chastized your are new to me but Ii see you are already at 402 so you have been busy too. People like you here are what makes mylot a fun place to be. I just got a bit ticked to think some people come here mostly just to read our discussions. for me if the discussion is another of the zillion how do I make money on the net and mylot without having to work at it blah blah blah I go right past. I have never in all my adult life found any worthwhile thing to do that does not require a bit of effort.
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