Please just DON'T respond to my discussions
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
United States
August 1, 2011 9:14am CST
An odd thing to say isn't it? After all the more people that respond the more I LEARN and also EARN. We all can use those earnings, especially me for my own reasons.
Well I have a reason as to why to ask this. You may even want to say it yourself, but hopefully not to me. There's a member here, new, and from another country then my own. I understand it's probably a language barrier for the most part, but at the same time I'm not sure. I've reported them, was not going to but saw they had responded to me saying the exact same thing. At first glance it seems like they haven't even read what I discussed, and I believe that to be true.
THAT is what I don't like.
THAT is why I say just don't RESPOND.
A LOT of us are here for the extra money
A LOT of us started out being here for the
extra money but now are just here for the friendships.
A LOT of us are just here to be here on MyLot.
Okay, that's fine... I AM here for the money, for the good and HELPFUL discussions, and to give you all a piece of my mind (you wanna meet out back? *pounds fists together)
However, I just don't like to see a response that gives me NOTHING to respond back to, be off subject by all means, but atleast show me you've read the discussion and don't say something completely off the wall like "I am glad for you"... You're glad for me for what? I could have just said I got beaten up, and you're GLAD I did? Yeah you didn't read the discussion.
That's my rant, I know it's a waste, people will still respond to my discussion having not read, or having made no sense whatsoever, whatever.
Do you hate this too?
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20 responses
@drasnian (548)
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1 Aug 11
I do know exactly how you feel, I think for the majority of discussions I've posted, there's been at least one response to each that is totally irrelevant to the topic. The worst is when someone has obviously only read the title/first sentence, and gone off on something totally different. I posted a discussion asking people for whether they thought we were better having a budget wedding, or a more expensive one later in life when we can afford it (we're both students now) and I got several responses back that said things like "Don't get married because you'll have kids straight away" and "you're stupid if you want to get married at 20". It just makes me want to shout at people "If you'd read the discussion you'd have seen we're obviously not getting married NOW, it's going to be at least a few years" and "Getting married means you forget how to use contraception?! I don't think so!"
I'm afraid you're probably exactly right though, people will still comment on this having not read your point :( Sorry for my rant, it's just I agree with you very strongly - if you have nothing worthwhile/relevant to say, go elsewhere!
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Oh that just makes me so irritated! When I started discussions about wedding and stuff I actually got people who were happy for me, understood, and gave great advice. Only few were so mean about it. It's really none of their business anyway, every is different. History shows that people got married at a younger age and had childrn at a younger age. Oh well let's not get off on that rant or I'll be talking forever.
No worries about going off in a rant though, I completely understand the need to blow off some steam. I come here to get advice, knowing full well there's a handful of people who will give me ill responses, but what gets me is "if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all" seems people have forgotten this and just want to make the few cents they can.
NOPE sorry, If I'm in a mood I'm the type of person who will report you if you insulted me flat out, of course I go within guidlelines...
Sorry going off on a rant myself.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
When you read the discussion often times you find you can have a good long discussions, I mean like we're doing here. That's what most people seem to miss out on, but whatever, that's why I like the report button.
We spent $1500 on ours, and we DIY'd and had a theme too!
@drasnian (548)
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1 Aug 11
Haha no worries, like you said sometimes you just need to blow off some steam. Yeah, I got some really helpful responses, some ideas for how to compromise between budget and fantasy etc etc, but at the same time, it irritates me that every time I start a discussion I'm just resigned to the fact that at least one person will give a rubbish response (whether from not reading the discussion or just being offensive). I understand people want to earn a few cents, but they'd earn them just as easily from putting something nice as they do for putting something rude!
I totally agree that sometimes people just need reporting, that's what the features there for after all.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
They aren't ALWAYS paid though, as people like me come on through and go "nu uh that made no sense, mylot take your vote on it". I don't always do this, I probably did it more in the past then I do now.
I use it for earnings, luckily I have a job now so this will be a "side" thing, but i'm hoping mylot will help me pay for "entertainment" so you bet I'm going to be earning as much as I can ehre.
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@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
1 Aug 11
Congrats for your job.
I also have a good offline job but you know i have been so much used to MYLOT as when i am not on job i do MYLOTTING.But definitely never thought of earnings on MYLOT,its FUN for which i do it.It was in the starting that whenever i used to log in to MYLOT i used to check earnings but now rarely i do that.
I also have a good offline job but you know i have been so much used to MYLOT as when i am not on job i do MYLOTTING.But definitely never thought of earnings on MYLOT,its FUN for which i do it.It was in the starting that whenever i used to log in to MYLOT i used to check earnings but now rarely i do that.2 people like this
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Here's a fun fact about me, I started mylot hoping I could make good money with it and be able to not work. Did that for mine and my husband's sake as we neither one had a job at the time. Of course mylot doesn't give us the money we need... but it's good.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
8 Aug 11
I'm with you Lakota. I would never say that to anyone. I would rather point out that they need to read the discussion and maybe the guidelines too. After all, even if someone responds in that way, I still get the chance to comment and thereby earn...if they don't respond, I can't comment and it's my comments that earn me my money. Their responses earn them money.
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I know exacty what you mean. You know the saying 'if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all?' it's kind of like that. But it should be 'if you have nothing to say on the topic, don't say it at all'
The worst is when a person responds to the discussion with 'I don't know anything about ______' then why bother responding at alL? For the money?
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I am guilty of that though, but I try to give my input nonetheless. I mean to say that sometimes I'll research it, sometimes I'll BS it. Sometimes I'll say "I don't know but I'm helping you get this topic re-exposed" especially if it's been a week or so with no responses.
I try to be helpful 
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I had a conversation that I started about entertainment for kids that was NOT a dvd or something in the car. The first three responses were...get a portable DVD player. I understand not wanting to respond to those comments. and it is frustrating, especially when you want to create quality responses.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Yeah, I love how people just don't seem to read, or listen. Even when yout put things in all caps, they don't always get it. It's annoying.
I know there's times I want a discussion to go far, and all I get are bad responses! :(
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@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I understand. i stay more vested in the conversations that I start than conversations I just respond too. The conversations that i thought would actually take off have fizzled lately, and the ones i really did not expect to go far have been very productive.
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@NoWayRo (1061)
• Romania
1 Aug 11
I didn't read your discussion, not even the title which said "don't respond", but I'm glad for you anyway 
Yes, it's annoying, not just for the person who started the discussion, but also for the readers. There are some discussions that are genuinely interesting, and I want to see what everybody had to say, and right in the middle, there are two or three answers that make no sense and bring no contribution. That's when I stop reading; and it's a shame, but my patience and my time are limited.
I'd suggest that you don't answer to that person, or answer with just an emoticon; for a reader like me, when a veteran member doesn't answer, it means it's not worth reading.
One thing I've learned while trying to make money online is this: if your content has no value, you're not going to make any money. But I guess a lot of other people still have this lesson to learn.
Yes, it's annoying, not just for the person who started the discussion, but also for the readers. There are some discussions that are genuinely interesting, and I want to see what everybody had to say, and right in the middle, there are two or three answers that make no sense and bring no contribution. That's when I stop reading; and it's a shame, but my patience and my time are limited.
I'd suggest that you don't answer to that person, or answer with just an emoticon; for a reader like me, when a veteran member doesn't answer, it means it's not worth reading.
One thing I've learned while trying to make money online is this: if your content has no value, you're not going to make any money. But I guess a lot of other people still have this lesson to learn. 2 people like this
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Oh yeah I know how you feel about that. THough there are only a handful that I find interesting enough to read other's responses (mylot wants us to do this regardless but no one ever does) I don't like it when I see someone whose the odd one out and says something either completely off the wall or that is rude.
You're right, a good indication is the veterans of mylot but we're also mostly more picky anyway as we've seen it and discussed it all before...
Yeah, content does have a lot to do with it, make it interesting (like I did mine, didn't my title grab your attention?) or go home.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Oh when it's something of importance to me it really irritates me. Of course they can't always know that it's that important to me but I think most people can tell when a discussion is important to another user here.
@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Aug 11
What I dislike is when I get a response I don't understand. Grammar is very weak and it just doesn't make sense. Oh, I am here for the money but I am not really thinking that completely when I am writing my responses. And I do try to make my responses something that will lead to a good response back.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
there are times I don't think about mine too indepth, there are times when I go back and say "wow my grammar made me make no sense at all!" I've noticed I do this after reading a discussion from a foreigner, no offense to them, there second language is english after all.
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@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Aug 11
Yes, I try very hard to remember it is their second language. Can't help it if I am getting too old to guess.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Aug 11
I hate to say it, I get angry when they don't understand me. It is their second language, and if I were to speak their language I'd hope they'd be easy with me... but I just can't seem to get over that annoyance sometimes.
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@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
2 Aug 11
I see that quite a bit where people get off topic and do not respond to anything close to the topic. What I do is that I respond to the person and if I know they are going through a hard time I will put as a side item.... how are you feeling and that I am thinking about them....
I read all the discussions you post and if I have any advice or want to say someting about the topic I will....
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Aug 11
You know I go off and start babbling about something different as well. Sometimes I completely forget to get to the topic at hand. I hate when I do that because I know it comes off that I hadn't read the response. I read quite a few of yours, but I've not seen them as much lately now that I am back here and mylotting.
@allknowing (130064)
• India
2 Aug 11
Atleast you will not misunderstand and create a rant about the topic, response or comment you receive as was done by a user here. Least a user could do is ask for clarification.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
When some responders answers that way, i would really ask them to clarify. Sometimes , they would answer too confusingly , as if , i am talking west and he is talking east. So, i would really let them explain what they are really trying to point out.
Sometimes i would add the emoticon of the confused smiley. That's for them to decipher also. 
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Aug 11
Yes, but sometimes they just don't seem to read the discussion at all, that is what I am getting at here. I know sometimes I come off as seeming like I hadn't read the discussion, but I do read it, just sometimes go off east when they're talking west! 
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Hello there! I just want to share that in my case, I joined mylot because I like it here. I can't go out much and because I tend to my mom's internet shop business, I am always online. I like writing in my journal before to write my thoughts and angst. I also thought of starting a blog since I was always online but I can't seem to collect my thoughts. Its a plus that we earn here while we participate in discussions and share our mind.
I believe I gained friends here. I feel their sincerity in answering in my posts but also to others discussions. They took extra time reading and answering and through this, I had come to know them personally. Please don't get me wrong. I think you are "burned out", tired or bored phase in mylotting. Anyway, I am hoping that they are sincere in their advices. Anyone may not know it, but their responses means a lot. Just like me. I need words of encouragement sometimes and I do get it here.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Aug 11
Mylot is a great alternative to a blog, as I also can't seem to find the right niche. However, I am not burned out as you might think. Quite the opposite as I hadn't been here in a long time, I am getting back into mylot. I am just annoyed at users who don't read my discussions at all.
@cupcakes_n_starrs (305)
• United States
1 Aug 11
That's really nice of her. You should send a gift basket.... Just kidding! I read your post.
I have had some responses where I have been like what the crap! Why did you even post that. Mainly on other peoples posts. They probably have a quota for posts and are just trying to make it. It's about quality not quantity. You think they would get this. Well it is a little about quantity. Anyway it is annoying and should be dealt with. Those kind of people are junking up threads and ruining it for the rest of us.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
Oh it's about quantity, but this isn't a real job, I can understand needing the money but you have to try to stay on topic, or atleast talk about the topic. I have accidentally gone way off where I didn't even address the discussion starters issue but I did read it.
I think I can tell those who do the same as me, and so I don't mind it. I just don't like to see those who talk about fish recipes when I say I'm allergic to it (I'm not btw, just an example). That's like saying you read my title but not my discussion, ya know?
@flowerfest08 (1677)
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2 Aug 11
of course not nice if they respond to your discussion that not related to the topic, but be considerate also to those mylotters that are not really fluent in english, because as we know people all over the world use mylot, and not all of them are good in English. so as long that what they're saying is somehow related then maybe that's already acceptable.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Aug 11
I do think about those who are not fluent in english, and I give them a break, but then sometimes there are some who just respond with one sentence, and the reason i made this discussion was because of that "one sentence copied and pasted" response. They'd done it in two of my discussions, making me feel like that's all they'd been doing. Though i didn't check their profile.
@GardenGerty (157559)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I seldom start discussions, but if someone did that, or when someone has done that, I have reported them, it is the right thing to do. Unfortunately I have seen some discussions where even the long time members have not read and understood the discussion, even those from the same country. I know that some people must feel that it is a way to not translate and understand everything that is discussed. They could instead ask for an explanation, and that would earn for them and give you something to respond to.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I TOTALLY agree!
(here I stop and hit post response)
Actually, I have a friend who would respond to my discussions about science fiction with "I don't like science fiction" and that prompted me to do a discussion ABOUT not bothering to respond to my discussions if you weren't going to add anything to it.
It actually worked!
However, this person was a long time member and probably knew I was directing this towards her, as this person doing this to you, I can only hope the best...
Actually, I have a friend who would respond to my discussions about science fiction with "I don't like science fiction" and that prompted me to do a discussion ABOUT not bothering to respond to my discussions if you weren't going to add anything to it.
It actually worked!
However, this person was a long time member and probably knew I was directing this towards her, as this person doing this to you, I can only hope the best...1 person likes this
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Aug 11
I have done these types of discussions before myself, in fact I may have done a dicussion just like this one here in the past. I am glad she got the hint, sometimes it's easier then being direct. I despise confrontation myself.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
24 Aug 11
It was my understanding that without three lines of dialog in an answer that it didn't count towards your earnings anyway! Do you know if this is still true?
What frustrates me is getting an email that someone has started a discussion and there is absolutely nothing that you can do to respond. They post a discussion that simply doesn't make sense...many times just one sentence.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Aug 11
you said the more responses the more we make let me make this clearer still responses DO NOT MAKE YOU ANYMONEY, THEY MAKE US
]RESPONDERS MONEY AS IT WAS OUR WORK, OUR TYPING. bUT IF THE
DISCUSSION MAKER COMMENTS BACK TO OUR RESPONSES HE DOES MAKE
MONEY FROM HIS DISCUSSION BUT FROM THE COMMENTS HE TYPED.Clear now?
okay I dislike responses that show the responder never read one work of my discussion, and responded to my title. I may make a lead in title to draw your attention like one I made a few years back "Beware of ghosties and ghoulies, and things that go bump in the night" a quote from an old saying, nothing more. but my discussion was only about the odd noises we hear when we know we are alone in our house at night while loved one is working. It was not about spirts or goblins or other stuff just how our imagination can make an odd sound that would not even bother us otherwise into some horrible intruder but half the people who responded talked about ghosts and goblins and ghost busters , not at all about being alone in a house and imagining ordinary sounds into something evil. they did not read any of my discussion at all as the responses had nothing to do with the being alone in a house late at night and the ordinary sounds turning into something scary.
also people if you do not understand something for G sakes ask, simple as that just ask me I will explain a nd I do not bite.lol ha ha ha
also people if you do not understand something for G sakes ask, simple as that just ask me I will explain a nd I do not bite.lol ha ha ha
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
1 Aug 11
Hello.
I got some respondents like that who respond but do not exactly know what they were responding to. They just yaking things that are totally irrelevant to the posted topic.
And do I hate it? Yes, I hate it.It pisses me off, actually. Why? Because I made an effort to make a topic that though not too interesting but at least not boring enough and complicated to comprehend, then, all I ever get from this sort of respondents are comments that have no sense at all...
Don't fret, dear. You are not the only one who had experienced this. I'm pretty sure that there are other lotters who are 'victims' of these I'm-here- for-the-money-only members.:-)
Good thing there are still lotters who are true and responsible members.Lotters worth of your time and your company.
I got some respondents like that who respond but do not exactly know what they were responding to. They just yaking things that are totally irrelevant to the posted topic.
And do I hate it? Yes, I hate it.It pisses me off, actually. Why? Because I made an effort to make a topic that though not too interesting but at least not boring enough and complicated to comprehend, then, all I ever get from this sort of respondents are comments that have no sense at all...
Don't fret, dear. You are not the only one who had experienced this. I'm pretty sure that there are other lotters who are 'victims' of these I'm-here- for-the-money-only members.:-)
Good thing there are still lotters who are true and responsible members.Lotters worth of your time and your company. 1 person likes this
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Aug 11
Thankfully, I haven't encountered whoever that person is. It would be annoying to see an inappropriate response to you discussion. Specially if he or she is not reading the post, and is just trying to cheat the system.
I haven't raise a discussion in a while. Maybe that's why I haven't seen who this person is.
