Do you lie

@savypat (20246)
United States
September 30, 2011 12:34pm CST
Well I just read a blog and the subject was if it's not the truth then it's a lie. If this is true then I would guess we all lie. It would mean that anytime you answered a question and tried to be nice, polite, or diplimatc by not telling the whole truth, you must be telling a lie. Can you think of how you would be able to always tell the truth? The only way I can think to do this is to keep my mouth shut unless I could tell a truth that would not hurt any one. I have no problem with facts, but what about those things that are personal. The one women get all the time is "How do you like my dress?" The truth maybe, I don't it looks terrible. But kindness would soften this into a lie. " Well could we add a little scarf?" Can you guess how many friends you'd keep with the stark truth?
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@marguicha (97111)
• Chile
1 Oct 11
Maybe waht you are calling "stark truth" is nothing but being rude. You cannot tell the mother of a just born baby that you think the baby is ugly. You pick out something to tell, such as "look a his eyes! or "he´s so cute! (the word cute means anything. Now, like you, if someone asks me for facts, I try to explain. Politely, if I can. So it seems that I´m a lier
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@tedkur (21)
• Indonesia
1 Oct 11
everybody lie. that means i'm included. sometimes we lie to protect our pride, to protect someone else feeling, etc. of course lying is not good but sometimes it's better than the truth. so lie if you really really have to.
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@airasheila (5459)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
A pleasant day Savypat, As far as I know, there are two types of lie - white and black. However, both of them are still a lie. Wherein we conceal some truth behind it. And ask for me, I am one of those many people who also lie. But, it is a part of life. Sometimes, the more we dont want to do it, the more time we are facing it.
1 Oct 11
in my own opinion anybody has made a lie even in their past life..and i guess we don't have the authority to question why? because in one point or another everybody is guilty of doing this....others do it for a better cause and some intend to do this as their defense mechanism to their emptiness...some do this for a reason that they does not want to hurt those person that they love...
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@00fear (3203)
• United States
1 Oct 11
I think I can tell a lie if I have to. Meaning, I wouldn't say the truth if it hurts the person either. I know some people who would lie straight out. They would tell the truth no matter what. What I don't know is if they are really trying to be hurtful or they really don't think before responding.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
1 Oct 11
I don’t intentionally lie but I do ‘soften’ the truth at times because I fear hurting others. It would be tough to tell the truth at all times and keep one’s friends! I think that sometimes, when folks ask questions such as, “Do I look fat in this?” they don’t want to hear the truth because, let’s face most of us would know by looking in the mirror how we look. It is not a black and white issue and I believe in such things as “white lies”, it is all about the intentions I think.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
30 Sep 11
Hi savypat, Not very many I'm afraid. We often have to soften the blow as you say, otherwise it would be best to say nothing and that just isn't always possible. People who just say if it's not the truth it's a lie haven't really given things much thought. Blessings.
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@dragon54u (31615)
• United States
30 Sep 11
I don't lie to my friends and family but I will soften the truth with strangers or acquaintances--like you said, can we add a scarf? If my friend wants to know if the dress looks good I'll tell her it puts ten years and 20 pounds on her if that's the truth. That's why she asked, because she knows I'll tell the truth. But I will be diplomatic to those I don't know well. I won't lie to children, ever, but I'll temper the truth with a suggestion to improve. They appreciate that because they're not old enough to value deception.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 11
I am no saint. I lied before but only to a certain degree and not a habitual liar. I sometimes fabricate my words to get others attention. Once I get my message across I'll make it loud and clear that my earlier statement was only a flash in the pan and should not be taken as bible truth.
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@GardenGerty (100322)
• United States
6 Oct 11
Very few people can handle large doses of the truth. It can really kill a friendship or other relationship. Not even good on the job either.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
8 Oct 11
This is so true, it's always best to check with someone if the truth is painful. Never jamm it down their throats.
@inertia4 (27688)
• United States
4 Oct 11
I cannot sugar coat something to not hurt anyones feelings. I am and always be blunt. And if I do not know I will just come out and say I don'r know. lying will get you nowhere fast but in trouble. When my girl friend asks if she looks good in an outfit she picked out, I am always honest with her. If it does not look good I will tell her, if she does look good I will tell het that also. I like honesty and truthfulness.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 Oct 11
I will admit that there are a lot of times that I will use white lies in my life so that I don't hurt other people. I will never tell someone that I think that they look terrible because I don't want to hurt their feelings. In addition to that, I'm a very empathetic person and for that reason I will point out the bright side of things that are happening to people instead of letting them dwell on the bad, which I think could also be interpreted to be a lie in a certain sense.
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@bagarad (12287)
• Paso Robles, California
2 Oct 11
Luckily, people rarely ask my opinion on their clothes, hair, etc. If they do, how I answer would depend upon the situation. If we were in store shopping and they asked my opinion before they bought the dress, I'd be tactfully honest and say something like, "The color is becoming on you, but _________." Then maybe they would not make the mistake of buying a dress that's wrong for them. If they already own the dress, I'd try to find something positive to say that's true if they ask what I think. "It's unique" or "The color matches your eyes." or some such thing. Of course, if they ask "Does this make me look fat?" there isn't much wiggle room for that. I mght say, "You have dresses which flatter your figure more." It depends upon the relationship. Maybe I'd just say I'm not really up on fashion and I'm the wrong person to ask about clothes. Why would a friend put a friend in this situation?
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• India
1 Oct 11
Well a very intresting discussion you have started. And iam sure everyone's opinion must be intresting. When it comes to revel the truth, we always turn our back and most of the times lie comes from our mouth. But when we are on the top of the world and everything seems fine, we take the truth with us and eventually that doesn't work at that time. So let's take the example of your discussion. When a friend asked you about her dress even thought if it doesn't suit her you have to say its beautiful cause that's the human nature you cannot hurt directly someone's feelings. On the other side you can directly revel the truth that's not working you would had add some stuffs. Speaking the truth is a big talent and should be said with proper explanations, yes at times keeping mouth shut is the best thing instead of hurting. So concluding i would like to say that say the truth only when its needed don't say lie if you want to if your temptated then better shut your mouth and be silent.
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