How come most older guys don't care about what they wear?

@gicolet (1702)
United States
October 13, 2011 11:50am CST
My husband has a lot of nice clothes but he is more comfortable wearing casual clothes. Sometimes we go out and have dinner with families and he's the only one wearing shorts and t-shirt. I can't help to match with his casual outfit sometimes. Here at home I see him choosing to wear t-shirts with holes and stains on them. He kind of look like a hobo. lol....I'm like why are you wearing that? It's comfortable he goes. I see a lot of younger men dress up okay. So is this just a habit among older men? Cause I see my older brother wearing t-shirts with holes in them too. My former boss was the same. His wife used to ask him to wear something nicer or tuck his shirt in his pants. My brother-in-law is the same...it's like he doesn't care what other people say. Good for them but i'm just curious to know why wear something like that when they have nicer clothes to wear?? Not only that...my husband usually get out of the house without bothering to comb or brush his hair. He looks like he just got out of bed...and i think he really just did. haha
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@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
14 Oct 11
Im not sure but i believe something happens inside their brains once they are married for awhile. When i first met my ex he was dressed nicely. When we would go out he would dress nice. I mean smelling good with calonge and all. After we were married a few years he became like the males you described. He had so many nice clothes but only wore a few all the time. I actually got sick of seeing those same old rags in the laundry. As well as on him. Maybe what wives need to do is every now and then loose a article of clothes that "get ruined" in the laundry.
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@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
i think it is about the nature of the job. some men are vain, and that is more a problem to me than me who loves to wear shirt with holes.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
14 Oct 11
glad you corrected the typo right away. hahaha thanks.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
that has to be men not me ha ha
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
14 Oct 11
As an older guy, I have to say we are not all like that. I don't go out in shorts and a t-shirt. I do wear jeans but I were a regular nice sport shirt(I don't mean a polo style shirt) as opposed to a dress shirt. I dress that way even to just go out to the supermarket, etc. I have old clothes that I may wear around the house but I change to go out.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
14 Oct 11
Good for you! I didn't say every older guy though. I said most of them but good for you. I wish my husband makes more effort to dress up appropriately around. Thanks!
@allknowing (130064)
• India
14 Oct 11
I can't agree with you more. Even the choice of colours are so dull and boring. I have seen it happening with most men around me and it saddens me to see those depressing sights.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
14 Oct 11
I know. Whenever I try to ask my husband to change his clothes he's like "why i don't ask you what to wear"...agh! But he sometimes give in cause I tell him that I don't know how to match what he's wearing. lol
13 Oct 11
I love seeing men in nice clothes but it seems they don't put in any effort once they have found their mate!
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
13 Oct 11
That's another possibility-The hard work is over..time to relax!
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
14 Oct 11
LOL i think that is very true :D
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
My theory is that younger men are more careful with how they look than older men because they need to be presentable. This is usually the period when they will be looking for a date or a career. These are the areas where appearance is a big deal. However, as they find a spouse and settle down and become more stable in their career, they also tend to slack off. Getting older means more responsibilities, and because of that, they will have more things to worry about besides their look. Not all older guys are like that though. Some guys I know put great importance on the looks despite their old age.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
14 Oct 11
I've thought about that too and that just makes a lot of sense. Thanks :)
@urbandekay (18278)
14 Oct 11
Nice all the best urban
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
13 Oct 11
For some,it could depend on their work environment..if they're wearing a suit all week at work,the freedom of a t-shirt and shorts on their off time might be something to enjoy..
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
I have also observe same with my father and other people around me. As they get older they don't seem to care what they wear when they are at home and when there is an occasion, they still not care how they looks. Or maybe it depends on how they look at things after retiring from their work/job and wearing job suits for half a century...will they get tired of? (maybe) have a good day
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
14 Oct 11
That makes sense! Thank you for your response.
@TenzhoLee (193)
• Malaysia
14 Oct 11
meh, what to do, that is a natural habit of men. I am like that too. While my mother keeps nagging about my clothing.
@Pachkov (250)
• Bulgaria
13 Oct 11
I definitely do not agree with you. Firstly it depends on the person, whether he takes care for himself or he is lost somewhere that even he doesn't know where he is. I've seen older people that dress well even better then half of the young one so I do not think they do not care what they wear ! I think we must always care what we wear and how we look, that way you catch the eyes of others and they could be even jealous.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
14 Oct 11
I didn't mean to sound like I was generalizing all older men but most (as I've stated on the title of my topic) of the older men I see are like that.
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
My dad is the exact opposite of your husband and your older brother. My dad has been vain since forever. My mom is the simpler one among my parents. I guess it has something to do with their personality. Some people just don't care about their looks. They have other much more important things to attend to. When your husband was younger, he had probably "forced" himself to look presentable because like what others have said here, that was required to find a date or a job. As he gets older, he starts to reprioritize things. Maybe he got too comfortable with you or his colleagues. Perhaps he thinks looks is too trivial. It's nice to see our loved ones dressed up. But I think your man is already confident with himself and doesn't feel the need to please others - a trait that is quite admirable to me.