Wouldn't it be nice to get on?

@Anne18 (11036)
October 24, 2011 5:05pm CST
One in 20 Britons has moved house because they can't stand their neighbours. A study of 2,000 home owners found that one in five had been involved in a serious row with the folks next door over the past year. Has this ever happened to any of you my friends on mylot? We haven't always seen eye to eye with some of our neighbours but we seem to jog along and make the best of a bad job if we don't agree on things. One big thing which we shall always agree to disagree is the parking in our road, but we have never ever really fallen out. You hear of some really bad stories reported in the paper, if this hasn't happened to you perhaps you have read a story in your local paper that you would like to share with us on mylot. (Off to bed in a bit so will look forward to a very good read tomorrow what with all the wonderful time changes all over the world here in mylot) Anne18
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@celticeagle (120516)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Oct 11
I live in a apartment complex. Over the nearly dozen years we have lived here we have had afew weird happenings. First with partiers upstairs and had to call the police afew times. Then we moved into another apartment and the lady next door was being beaten by her boyfriend and I called the police on that. We haven't had any weird ones lately thank goodness.
@Anne18 (11036)
25 Oct 11
Fingers, toes and everything else crossed that you stay clear of any more weird ones for a long time to come
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@celticeagle (120516)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Oct 11
Here's hoping....
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@Anne18 (11036)
26 Oct 11
............. and hoping
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@ravisivan (14053)
• India
25 Oct 11
Problems with neighbours -- it depends on what extent neighbours take advantage. Problems come in parking. There is no parking space. We all keep our vehicles outside. Along with that people from other side of the road or area also come and park. Tolerance is the key for success. Jealousy is to be avoided.
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@Anne18 (11036)
25 Oct 11
Tolerance is something many people need to either learn or go back and re learn
@ravisivan (14053)
• India
25 Oct 11
Excellent. I could feel your presence before me when you wrote this. great. Today diwali is being celebrated all over India. We are enjoying taking sweets, savouries and are wearing new dresses.
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@Anne18 (11036)
26 Oct 11
You all look lovely in your new dresses and don't forget to share all those lovley sweets with us on mylot!!!LOL
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
24 Oct 11
No I never moved because of the neighbours although I did not had the greatest neighbours in the past. In the end they moved for one reason or an other. I don't have really contact with the neighbours I have now so they are not really a bother to me. We just say hi or accept eachothers post if one of us is not home. That's it and enough for me.
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@Anne18 (11036)
24 Oct 11
Thats good, we don't live in our neighbours pockets either, have never been like that. Am a bit more friendly now with one set of neighbours as the children have got older because our children play with there children and all the children come in and out of our house and the neighbours house. I know we wouldn't really be friends if we didn't have any children.
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@ravisivan (14053)
• India
25 Oct 11
yes. this is another trend seen nowadays. People having kids move together. They do not mingle with people not having kids. It is like birds of the same feather flock together.
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@Anne18 (11036)
26 Oct 11
Thats so true as I knowI woudn't choose the mother next door to be a friend of mine if she didn't have children, not that there is anything wrong with her as there isn't just not my choice, but the children do get on nicely most of the time
@GardenGerty (104315)
• United States
25 Oct 11
I had neighbors across a back fence and alley I did not get on with. None of us moved. I had a crazy criminal rent the house next door to me, and I did move, partly out of real fear of him and partly because I was ready to move and I was able to get into a house I was in love with. I was already planning to move anyway.
@Anne18 (11036)
25 Oct 11
So pleased that you are living somewhere where you love to live now Gerty. It must have been so awful for you and scary. You need to be able to be safe in your own home.
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@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
Now i'm having a bad experience with neighbors. They are too loud, too insensitive and don't care much about the other people around them. I don't have plans to move though. I still have patience and if i don't i'll just have to do something about it and not move. It's really sad sometimes to have annoying neighbors. I always want to have good relationship with everybody but sometimes some people are just too hard to get along with.
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@Anne18 (11036)
24 Oct 11
So sorry that you are having problems with your neighbours, hopefully you can vent on here about it to help you feel better. Hope it gets sorted soon, but people aren't always very good at thinking, I feel for you my friend
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@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
26 Oct 11
wow, that's not very good... I have to say that I've not been thrilled with my neighbors a few times, but I shrived to make THEM move not me! So far... pretty good... Most of the bad ones were renters anyway...
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@Anne18 (11036)
26 Oct 11
You should not have to move because of your neighbours but sometimes it is the only way to get peace. At least if the people are renters the landlord etc can move them out if there is too much trouble etc.
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@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
26 Oct 11
we had one set of renters that were really bad, we complained enough that when their lease was up, they were not renewed...
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@Anne18 (11036)
27 Oct 11
That was very good news for you
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
26 Oct 11
When we just moved in to our house, which was about 6 years ago, the neighbors to the left knocked on our doors a couple of times complaining that the kids were noisy. I guess they couldn't stand us because they moved afte a year or so. Now our neighbors to the righ also knocked a couple of times because the kids are noisy. But she's always so nice about it, and even a little embarassed telling us. Nowadays, we get along very well because we try not to make too much noise, and I've helped her out shoveling her driveway last winter.
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@Anne18 (11036)
26 Oct 11
Children can be noisy, ours can be fairly nosiy, next doors are nosiy as well which helps, and the lady next door is deaf andI know if she wasn't deaf she just wouldn't really care that much as she has had four children all grown up now so has been there, got the t shirt etc
@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
2 Nov 11
I don't care about noisy kids, so long as they aren't bouncing their balls against the house. When the neighbors moved into the corner house, one of the older brothers threw a little stuffed thing into my back yard and the dog disemboweled it. I gave the ragged outside back and told the kid that if anything stuffed got into my back yard the dog would eat it and have never had another thing in the yard. I guess I might mind if I had my windows open more, but in Texas there is really only a few times in the year it isn't either too cold or WAY too hot to do it!
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@Anne18 (11036)
8 Nov 11
our children aren't allowed to play ball in our garden, the carpark out the back of our garden or in the street. Its too dangerous and far too many cars around to get hit etc. Balls should be played with in the correct place regardless of how much fuss the children make
• United States
8 Nov 11
i have neighbors from hell right now. they are the only thing i hate about my house but i wouldnt move because of them
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@Anne18 (11036)
8 Nov 11
Sorry about your neighbours, glad that you like your house
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• United States
26 Oct 11
People do it often in the U.S., but they also move for many reasons other than that.
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@Anne18 (11036)
26 Oct 11
Thats correct as well, we moved house so we could buy our house as we were renting and also we needed a bigger house and the people we rented from wouldn't let us rent a bigger house from them.
@Vrilya (128)
25 Oct 11
I think a lot of problems people have today are because they hav'nt taken time to get to know their neighbours, we can talk to someone on the other side of the world through social networking but don't talk to the people next door. There is also the fact that we are not really meant to live in megacities all crammed in together with no living space to chill out in, the constant and relentless stimulation from other peoples' noise and interactions, can be very stressful and lead to aggressive behaviour.....
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@Anne18 (11036)
25 Oct 11
People are so very busy these days and everyone seems to work such long hours they just come home and go into there houses etc. Its not how it used to be is it?
@narnia007 (1051)
• India
25 Oct 11
Such a kind of thing happened to me with one of the guys in my hostel.We had a small misunderstaning and from that day on,I would ignore him completely.He belongs in my batch in college,yet we both barely remember one such known persons are near by.We look to each other as two strangers see each other.I din't go to the extent of moving away from my hostel or changing my room.
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@Anne18 (11036)
25 Oct 11
Thank you so very much for sharing your story with us. Glad that it didn't get too nasty or ugly for you and your ex friend
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
25 Oct 11
We should never make enemies with our neighbours. They are but people who are closest to us next to our families. When there are problems in our homes, the fastest help we can get is from our neighbours before the arrival of our family who maybe miles away from us. I always have good relationships with my neighbours and any misunderstandings are settled immediately.
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@Anne18 (11036)
25 Oct 11
Hi there, so pleased that you can get along with your neighbours. Although we do tend to keep ourselfs to ourselfs we do know that if we had a problem then we could call on our neighbours and they would help us out if needed
@telmesh (1793)
27 Oct 11
I've had some really bad neighbors but always insisted they would not make me move. I now have great neighbors because the others have moved. I allow people to be what they are and the only thing I find unbearable is noise after 11pm. I've been a night shift worker and have accepted noise during daylight hours with maybe just a mention at a later time.
@Anne18 (11036)
2 Nov 11
Yes we all have to try and get along and think of others
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@telmesh (1793)
4 Feb 12
Just running through some past postings during a quiet time here on Mylot and found this best response, thanks for that Anne. Don't know if your aware but when your not posting all seems to go really quiet, perhaps it's just your the trigger in the friends circle I find myself in. Hope you weren't too cold last night as it was really cold here.
@koperty3 (1877)
25 Oct 11
I live in huge house, which was divided on several flats.My previous neighbours were I think from India. Don't get me wrong I'm not a racist. Far from it but when they start cooking in the morning a;; staircase was stank of garlic, curry. There was no air to breath. Finally my neighbour from downstairs got enough and he complained to landlord and they had to move but not only because of cooking smells. There were really really loud.
@Anne18 (11036)
25 Oct 11
Hope that you have all neighbours that don't cause any problems and aren't TOO LOUD!!! LOL Loud neighbours are not nice
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
1 Apr 12
havent got any problems with my neighbors...maybe because im not an outgoing person the only thing i do is to work from morning till 5pm then home after work and in weekends i bring my kids for a biking or go shopping in a mall...
@drannhh (15247)
• United States
11 Mar 12
My late hubby and I had a very serious misunderstanding with the downstairs neighbor once over all the noise he was making, but we found a way to convince him that he should move out instead of us. That was a long time ago.