How much do you watch and or let your kids watch..

United States
November 3, 2011 1:36pm CST
My sister in law and I have come to a stalemate in our beliefs of what is appropriate amount of times to watch TV. She has a TV in every bedroom, both cars, living room, Den and Kitchen. She (now we are or where both teachers) feels that TV is fine to have on at all times. The children always have the TV on and fall asleep while watching it. My Sister in law and my Brother in law also do this. They often want to watch different shows so watch in different rooms. I am the opposite. We have one TV in the living room. It is not allowed on until 5 p.m. The kids are allowed to watch only an hour a day and can play video games for a half hour a day. We do not have anything in the bedrooms or the cars. We feel it is a privilege not a right. We do not use it as a baby sitter. On a side note our children are very well behaved, their children are not in fact there is a lawsuit against them for actions done by the 6 year old at a birthday party.
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@shaggin (32515)
• United States
4 Nov 11
I dont really like my kids watching to much tv. We dont have cable or anything so they can only watch the dvds that we have. When my daughter was little I only allowed 1 hour of television a day. With my son and my daughter older now the rules have changed and I allow them to watch more. I NEVER watch my movies in front of them I wait until they go to bed. I had borrowed a movie called Remember me from the library and it was due back yesterday so I had to watch it. I let my daughter play on the computer but my son wanted to watch it with me. It had a lot of swear words. I wont be doing that again. I should have just returned it and not watched it. I dont like things that are bad influences like that.
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@AmbiePam (46864)
• United States
5 Nov 11
Good for you! I had a three year old I babysat say the 'f' word in front of me once. I told his mother and she was horrified. They don't curse, I know this. But they watch movies with cursing, and this is where their three year old picked up that word. Why some parents don't realize how susceptible kids are I'm not sure.
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• United States
5 Nov 11
Yes there is so much on the TV not to learn but I make it a point to say things like that is not appropriate language so they learn it is wrong, at least with the older ones and now here and there with the 6 year old because now as pre-teens my big girls are hearing those words from their friends at dance and what not and they need to know it is not good word to use when they hear them.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
i think, it is gonna be better to limit our time for watching television. to much watching television is bad behaviour. i know, sometime it give some of entertainment for us, also information. but, many bad thing that we got from tv. it give bad influences to our kids brain. in my home, kid can watch television if have get permit from parents. an maximum 1 hour. for me only 3 hour maximum.
• United States
5 Nov 11
Yes mine need permission for what they watch too. Somethings are just not appropriate for kids or even me!
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
6 Nov 11
yes you are right. keep in the best way. cheeers.
@SIMPLYD (76419)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
I admire you for being having that conviction about watching TV , specially for the kids. As we know, TV is a temptation for the children , specially when they are studying. Watching TV, would not enable them to study well and prepare those assignments. Thus, they have poor grades in school. And i believe too, that watching TV together is a wonderful way of bonding for the family. Having TVs for each room, would make the house so lonely, because everyone is in their own room watching their preferred shows, and the children are unsupervised as to whether they are studying or just watching TV.
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• United States
5 Nov 11
Yes there is a lack of communication even between the adults.
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
3 Nov 11
Oh my.....something a six year old did? Yikes! I always tell my own kids that if children are allowed to watch tv or play video games all the time when are they going to learn how to use their imaginations? Will we lose our artists etc. if everything is done for them? I hope not!
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• United States
5 Nov 11
Yes the loss of imagination in our time is so sad and I beleive why even our movies are so often remakes, new ideas just aren't happening. We have journals that my kids and I write in every night before bed. They have 20 minutes of writing time. It can be poems, stories, continued stories or ideas to do later. My oldest usually has sketches for art work she would like to do later. My youngest has an ongoing story about a crab who lives in a fish bowl and is the pet of a fairy. This also helps with their handwriting something else I think is being lost in the world of computers and phones.
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
3 Nov 11
I don't set a certain time on how much tv my kids watch but they actually don't watch much. We have a tv in our living room, one in the bonus room and one in my bedroom. I refuse to let the kids have a tv in their bedrooms. They maybe watch an hour of tv especially now that they are in school. Over the summer they watch a little more but they'd rather be playing something or playing outside. I couldn't imagine having a tv everywhere that your sister in law does. I think that is going a little far.
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• United States
5 Nov 11
yes during the summer we watch more especially on yucky rainy days. When we where displaced from our home by flooding in September we didn't have a TV for a month and we really didn't miss it. My husband did but me and the kids just did other things. They don't ask for the TV most days unless it is nasty out or there is something specific they want to watch.
@Hatley (163722)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Nov 11
hi opinionatedlady. thats why we call it the boob tub e as you sit long enought and watch enough garbage you will regess and have to really think just to remember your own name. I have a few favorite programs which I watch when I get a chance in the activity room otherwise I am up here mylotting in stead. much more fun and more educational than boob tubing various sit coms.I am elderly and I assure you my adult son is not much of a tv watcher but is a computer fanatic and youtuber too.I dislike the idea of not ever doing any thing but watching television all day and night,m it makes boobs out of us. up with computers and down with the boob tubes.
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• United States
5 Nov 11
For the sake of our eyes I try to limit the computers to..lol but we are on all day for schooling and work so we need time away from it.
• Canada
3 Nov 11
TV is known as the "idiot box" in my house. One does not use their brain much when mindlessly watching TV and so I believe the amount of TV watched should be limited. I feel that both of you have gone to the extreme ends of the spectrum. Too much TV is bad because it stops us from participating in healthy family pursuits and when watched late at night can be the reason for insomnia and hyper active children who wont go to bed. On the other hand, it can often be used as a learning and social experience. Being too rigid by allowing it only to be switched on after five, might limit you to what you can watch, since many children's programs are aired at "reasonable hours" in the afternoon when children might be watching. In the end, I think everything in moderation is fine. The question then, is not how much, but rather what is moderation. Perhaps the husband and wife should decide based on sound principles that fit with their own personal lifestyles. Your sisters kids are out of hand not only due to TV, but due to a general lack of disciple as is evident by the excessive reliance on TV in their home.
• United States
5 Nov 11
They have no discipline. They believe the word "no" undermines the children's self worth! Just crap. I home school my kids they are on the computer for 4-6 hours a day in front of a screen. This is why we do not allow TV until after 5. They need that 2 or 3 hours away from a screen during the day and a break from learning. I mean today is Saturday and they where up watching Jeff Corwin, not a big deal as they will not be in front of the computer all day today. That said an hour or so a day is more then enough they can learn plenty else where. Not to mention my older ones don't want to watch learning show they want to watch pre-teen show, ok just as you said though moderation.
4 Nov 11
hi:) yeah I agree with you. me and my brother were only allowed to watch TV maximum of 2 hrs a day Monday-Friday, then maximum of 4 hrs on weekend. but I don't really watch TV that much because I prefer listening to music more or mylotting.
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• United States
5 Nov 11
Good for you! I too would rather have on music.
@hvedra (1623)
4 Nov 11
Well we don't have kids but I can say that watching other people's kids that those with limited screen time are better behaved and seem a lot happier in themselves than those who are glued to "entertainment" constantly. We don't have a TV either but sometimes watch a DVD or something on line. I prefer to read or do something else. I love talking books because I can listen to the book and do crafts at the same time. I also think it's a sad reflection on relationships if everyone in a household is watching a different screen. Even gathering around one screen and watching something together is better than that! At least if you all watch something you know what your kids are watching and you can critique anything that you find objectionable. "You know those models in the advert are airbrushed and we shouldn't try to look like that because it isn't real". "That is a mean and nasty way to behave towards other people." and use it as a conversation starter about life. I also get bewildered why some people have kids and then don't seem to want to spend any time involved with them. I know folks who snap at their kids if they disturb them whilst watching something or gaming - and then wonder why the kid thinks it's own gaming and entertainment is more important than school, family, community etc.
• United States
5 Nov 11
Yes I agree kids without a lot of TV seem much calmer and tend not to need as much adult attention, meaning they are happy to go off and play with out an adult and with other children. My nephews are in constant "Mom, Dad, Mom, Dad" while they are talking with people or doing anything. I think perhaps because the TV takes up so much of their limited one on one time. One of my Nephews has CP so to afford the bills both parents must work, that and they buy everything. SO they do not spend a lot of time home with the kids to begin with. Another reason for their bad behaviour I beleive. Not that parents shouldn't work just that times is needed with the kids when they are not working.
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@AmbiePam (46864)
• United States
5 Nov 11
People can argue all they want on whether too much TV is harmful for children, but they'll never convince me it's okay to let kids watch television and play video games constantly. We didn't have video games when we were kids, but we did have a TV, and my sister and I were allowed to watch TV an hour after school, plus one program each that we got to choose that came on during the week (mine was usually Full House). And like your kids, my sister and I were well behaved. I'm not bragging on some incredible thing because I think all kids SHOULD have manners. And you would not have found better mannered children than my sister and me.
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• United States
5 Nov 11
Rude and obnoxious behaviour is actually a pet peeve of mine. I don't care about self expression, that can be done with out being disrespectful and rude. In fact it means more and is taken into consideration better when done in a proper fashion. I think also letting kids watch TV and do anything all the time leaves them feeling as though it is owed to them and not something to look forward to. It should be a treat not a right.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
4 Nov 11
I believe that younger children do need to have their television viewing monitored more closely. Leaving children to their devices is not helping them. They need guidance even in their entertainment.
• United States
5 Nov 11
Yes, there is so much crazy things on the tv.
@celticeagle (115442)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Nov 11
I have a tv in my bedroom and there is one downstairs in the living room. My grandson watchs tv after dinner. He enjoys How It Is Made and Phineas and Ferb. Both are good programs. We have cable and I watch the History channel, Bravo, OWN, Travel, BIO, Lifetime, Family, TCM, and AMC.
• United States
6 Nov 11
We don't have most of those channels. My kids are very into cooking so food network is on a large percentage of the time they watch the TV. Cupcake wars is a favorite... The little one usually has Discovery or Nat-Geo on as long as it is on sharks or ocean anything. Other wise she doesn't really sit in front of the TV nothing else really holds her interest. She would rather sit at the table making up "books" and drawing pictures to go with them. Now my husband on the other hand I catch watching Phineas and Ferb! He watches the TV the most in the house. I maybe don't because we where pretty poor when I was little and we didn't even have a TV until I was 10/11, and no cable until I was at the end of High School. Just not a habit I grew up to have. Oh and the oldest watches anything on Tattoos. I have to be careful what she watches about them as some of the language on those shows isn't OK for a 12 year old but she has dreams of being a Tattoo artist.
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@celticeagle (115442)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Nov 11
We didn't have cable when I was young either. Not until I was in my late twenties did cable come here. I remember how the programs were when they first started. LA Ink was pretty interesting. And NY INK was also, not as good. I saw a great documentary on tatooing history. Very interesting.
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
I will not try to defend your sister-in-law nor disagree with how each of you bring up your kids. I will just say that every family has its culture. The way my parents brought me and my sisters up is very different from the way I am bringing my family up. My mother was a teacher and she managed the family the same way a strict teacher manages a class. I am also a teacher and for me I handle my family the same way a fun teacher handles her class. Whenever my mother sees my household, she'll rant. However, I believe that the system I use works for my family. The system my mother used also worked for us back then because I and my sisters grew up quite fine.
• United States
6 Nov 11
Unfortunately their way is not working. Their marriage is falling apart and their kids are wild to say the least. I don't mean boys will be boys wild I mean cops get called, they get kicked out of restaurants, and the oldest ( 7 by the way) is on his third school as he has been expelled from the others and she is a teacher! It is very sad, and surprising. Before children you would never have thought they would raise their kids this way. She is a strict teacher and he being a military guy is usually very regimented. That said people can live how ever they want I just was wondering what the general consensus is on the whole TV thing would be. Curiosity about how others live. I guess I am nosy.. bad trait