Reaching your breaking point

@lilybug (21182)
United States
December 1, 2011 5:14am CST
I have been stressed out about a lot of things lately, but these past 2 weeks have really pushed me to my breaking point on certain things. I finally snapped last night. I have been sitting here stressing over a situation and I finally snapped and I cannot deal with the situation any more. I was trying to figure out how to deal with it without getting too out of control, but the situation just sort of escalated. Have you reached your breaking point on anything lately? How do you deal with stress so that you don't snap?
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@katsmeow1213 (28845)
• United States
2 Dec 11
Hmm.. I'm curious for some details, LOL. Though I suppose it was bound to happen. Situations like that always tend to end badly, from my experience. Can't expect peace to last forever. I'm glad you have a back up plan. I don't think I've reached a breaking point yet.. but I can feel it coming. There's just too much going on right now, too much on my mind. I didn't realize how stressed out I was, but it hit me pretty hard recently and I really just want to not think anymore. The problem is, there's not much I can do to alleviate the stress, and that's pretty much the part that is stressing me out. And it's not really one thing, it's a bunch of little things adding up. Nothing really terrible of course. I think it's just something that I'll get used to in time.. or else I might hit a breaking point and make some really bad choices and mess a lot of things up.. but as long as I think clearly and rationally that won't happen.
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
3 Dec 11
In a nut shell, the kids babysitter is a complete idiot! I have been completely annoyed with her for some time, but didn't really know what to do since she lived here. She left Lily in the house by herself to take my parents dog for a walk and Lily went outside in nothing but her underwear in 40 degree weather trying to find her and the neighbor called DFS on me. I had to sit through a caseworker coming to the house and asking my kids all sorts of questions and then she was sitting here in the house the days following like she didn't do anything wrong.
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• United States
3 Dec 11
Oh no.. not good! Certainly can't be trusted if she's going to do things like that. When did this happen?
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
4 Dec 11
About a week and a half ago.
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@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
2 Dec 11
This year has seriously been one of my horrible ones. I am so fed up of all the sh*t going around i just can't take it. I have reached my breaking point but all i do is cry and cry more. I don't know how to stop. I don't know how normal feels like anymore. This overwhelming year, i wish it would end soon and I hope no one ever has bad and confusing year like I did ever again, including me.
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@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 11
My dear, it sounds as if you may be suffering from a little depression. You do need to seek assistance to help you through this rough period. Especially fo you are not sleeping properly. get some help and good luck. I do hope that things will change and improve in your life. Life is a gift - I have to keep reminding myself of that Many blessings
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• South Korea
3 Dec 11
Hey thanks a lot I might be a little depressed but with the help of my friends and family I think I am getting better.. Thanks a lot for your concerns I hope you have a wonderful life ahead!
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
3 Dec 11
I really hope things get better for you. I have had it pretty rough lately and the stress was really getting to me. Certain home situations were really not helping things any. Things are starting to look up for me right now though and I really hope that you are able to see some light through all the hard things you are going through.
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@cynthiann (18635)
• Jamaica
2 Dec 11
Oh lilybug, stressful times are hell to deal with. Sometimes we do not know which way to turn. I often write out a list of all my problems and see which ones I can solve and then leave the rest to God. I have been stressed for weeks and this morning my car just shut off at a stop light and when the light turned green all the cars were honking for me to move and I could't. But some young men came and pushed my car to the side of the road. Then I called my son to get a mechanic and my GF to take me to work. She was great and took me to the bank to get money to pay the staff etc. I had surgery whch cost about US$1500 and then the car to give problems Then what with the elections coming up just after Christmas it is all happening in my life. How do I deal with it? I often have a good cry and then set about doing my best and swallowing my awful ride and asking friends for help. I do hope that things get better for you and that you will find the answer to your problems my friend. Blessings
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
3 Dec 11
I broke down and cried like crazy the other day. Too much crap going on in one day. Unfortunately I was at work when I broke down and had to deal with co-workers hugging me like crazy. I hope your situation improves. ((hugs))
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• United States
4 Dec 11
Just take it one day at a time Cynthi.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
2 Dec 11
I know it's tough. I don't get too stressed but depressed. Which I have been alot lately and I don't know why. I think part of it is that for the first time in years I am very lonely. My daughters don't live around here and my son is so busy all the time as he works nights.....so as a result I do get a bit lonely.....not to mention I am not impressed about getting older....it really bites the big one! Hopefully you will find a solution....I wish you all the best at finding a way to releave your stress and get the situation behind you!
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
3 Dec 11
Thanks. With Christmas time coming you should have a grandkid you could steal for a few days. That might help with the lonely.
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@Iemon1 (123)
• Singapore
1 Dec 11
Hello there. I have not reached my breaking point yet. There are several ways I deal with stress. One way i do so is by listening to music. This have been one of the best solution I have ever found. It really does help. I'm sure this would help most people to de-stress. Another way, is to read a book. However this doesn't really work for all as some people just have no interests in any books.
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
2 Dec 11
Music might work. I think I would be too distracted to pay attention to a book though.
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@nezavisima (7419)
• Bulgaria
7 Dec 11
stress that it is every day in our lives. I can say that stress is something negative and horrible thing. because of our stress comes disease and prolbemi. I also recently got a lot of stress and know how to relax relax with friends and my children. when they get home from kindergarten, I enjoy their games, so relax and try to think positive that it will not stress. thank you very much for this discussion. nice day!
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@thaMARKER (3096)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
yes, last year.. for a couple of times after so how many years of keeping my life on the low. last year i kind of decided to try something new. i thought it would be just fine and just for fun. but it got complicated and things went out of control. i cried and cried most of the time but i keep it to myself. but there really are times that i cant, i feel like shouting, throwing everything nearby (which i really did hehehe).. that was soooo not me. it got me sad when i thought about it after how many months, when i got better. but now that im super better, i thought im thankful that it happened. never thought i can do it because i'm old enough to control things, balance my life..
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@menzis00 (273)
1 Dec 11
There was a part before two months or so, when just a lot of bad things happened to me in two weeks and I just couldn't find a good spot in my life.. But I kept hanging in there and soon everything started to get better, I didn't let my spirit down and kept going my way, I was under a lot of stress, but then I started dealing with my problems one at a time, and when all was over, I just went out with my friends and got drunk to wash out all the bad things that happened to me.. When I'm stressed a lot, I just try to do as many things as possible, so I keep my mind occupied with other things, so I don't think about stuff that bothers me and keeps me stressed. Maybe you should try that too. Good luck and I wish that you cheer up and that you get rid of all the stress and problems that bother you :)
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
2 Dec 11
These last few weeks have been rough for me. I have had way more go wrong than has gone right. The thing that was stressing me out the most is now no longer an issue, so I am hoping that I can start to feel better about things again.
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@menzis00 (273)
2 Dec 11
Don't worry, everything will get better soon, you just have to be patient, it will pay you back 100 times more. Look things on the positive side- you have MyLotters that are here to cheer you up, that's not such a bad thing is it? You see, not everything in life is black, you just have to find a way to look at the world. I find mostly only good stuff in my life and those bad stuff I just try to leave behind me, so my life is actually pretty good.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
2 Dec 11
Breaking points make me nervous. I wonder all the time what it is and what it would mean if I reached it. I have those times when I am fed up and make a rash change but so far, I haven't broke. I usually try to do things to relax but more than that...my actions are calculated. I play out the choices I have in my head and choose the way I will respond or react depending on what benefit I want from it. Keep in mind that my scenarios are not all sweet with wonderful outcomes. I am just well prepared for them. There are always times when we can't control what is happening around us but the one thing you do have control of is yourself and what you do about the things going on around you. Take care and good luck
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
3 Dec 11
It is hard when the thing that is stressing you out the most is under your roof. Problem solved though.....Problem is now GONE!!
@reejuh (33)
1 Dec 11
Get up and have fun at least once in a while. Never dwell on things that you know can break you. There is so much to enjoy in life!
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
3 Dec 11
I am a very negative person always finding the negative in a situation. I am sure that does not help my stress level at all.
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@Gram13000 (443)
• United States
1 Dec 11
I am curious how did you snap? I have never snapped before in my live. I have beat the crap out of some people and im not proud of that but I wouldnt call that snapping thats just self defense. I try not to stress anything, if life gets too stressful try to simplify things if something your doing adds stress try not to do it. Eliminate anything stressful I dont associate with people who try to stress me out I cut them off.
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
2 Dec 11
I did not snap to the point of violence. I just got fed up and snapped verbally and ended up kicking someone out of my house.
@KrauseHome (33259)
• United States
9 Dec 11
Sometimes I think we just continue to go thru things and go thru things and it seems like there is no end. You just continue to stay strong, and try to not let it bother you until one day you just got to let go. With everything I have been going thru Medical wise, and many times Financially I have found myself in the same boat as well. It is hard, and after this I usually feel better, try to relax some, and Pray a little bit more believing God for something good to eventually come my way.
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1 Dec 11
Well, that depends from the level of stress. If I'm gonna snap, everybody can predict and feel that coming, first thing I do is to remove myself physically immediately from society that surround me, I don't want to escalate in front other people because it is to embarrassing later. you don't need anybody accept yourself then, take a long long walk, you can smoke something if you want and after some time you will feel better. you need to learn to control yourself and environment, learn how to avoid stupid people or situations.
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
3 Dec 11
One of my old co-workers suggested that I "smoke one" the other day. He said it would really help me feel better. Not something I have ever done, so I don't know how much it would help me.
@Hatley (157878)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Dec 11
hi lilybug I am a diabetic and stress causes my blood sugar to go sky high so I have my magic invisible stress proof bubble around me and'stress just bounces off of it. my diabetes nurse educator taught me this in guided imagery and it does work as we all have stress but we can choose how we handle it and not let it stress us out at all. music is also very good too, specially soft classic music.
• China
2 Dec 11
As far as I can remember,what you said hasn't ever happened to me.I don't know what knotty problem you came across.Don't you let the matter drop for some time to get your mind off that?For something sometimes the more you think of,the more annoying you feel.