Have you ever had to fake your Family Tree?

Made up family tree - making up names on the family tree
@bounce58 (17387)
Canada
December 12, 2011 6:10pm CST
My 11 year old son has some family-tree-homework to do, so this past weekend, he was asking names of my relatives. I didn't really want to tell him that most of the people on my side, I don't really know, so I made up names that he could put in his tree. I felt a little bit guilty about lying, but I thought it would be better to let him know when he's old enough. How about you? Have you ever had to make up names for your family tree? Would you go to the extent of making up names? Are there relatives on your side that you would rather not associate with? And not have their names on your family tree?
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
13 Dec 11
Yep, I faked a family tree while I was in school. I was supposed to do some sort of report about where my family came from. Well, nobody knew anything about my father, and my mother didn't share much about her side of the family aside from her own parents. So, I made up some lie about how my great grandparents came down from MooseJaw, Saskatchuan (probably spelled that wrong, sorry).
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
13 Dec 11
You see even as a child you had big dreams. You didn't even put down a word that you could spell correctly sorry Kat but I find this so funny and I am not really sure why. I can't stop laughing. You will achieve everything you want in life because you thought big even as a child.
• United States
13 Dec 11
Cynthi.. I'm sure I spelled the word right back then because I looked it up in an atlas.. and my foster mom helped me "create" my family tree. Bounce.. it's hard to say, especially with boys. My oldest son has a different father from the rest of the kids.. and I was always expecting him to some day start asking questions. He knows he has a different father, but that's about all he knows. He is 14 now and still hasn't asked any questions. I think boys just don't seem to care.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
13 Dec 11
I think he's just smart! He's just not asking until you're ready to explain it.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
13 Dec 11
No Bounce - I have never had to do this either for myself or for my children. I have quite an extensive genealogy together with photos and letters well over 100 years old. Many photographs from the 1850's. My side is Irish blood and my husband's side is Portuguese Jew and black with a dash of white added in. Interesting as my husband's cousins' complexion ranged from white to black and all shades in between. there are some relatives on my husband's side that I do not associate with as I do not particularly like them but my children get on well with their cousins and this is good.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
15 Dec 11
I seem to remember a discussion of yours about genealogy sometime back. That you did spend time looking into it. It must be nice to get that all figured out. You're one of the lucky ones. Thanks cynthiann.
• United States
13 Dec 11
sadly I don't know many of the names on my family tree. My mom was 40 when she had me , my dad 42. I know of cousins but not enough about my grandparents Or great grandparents. I lost my dad when I was 12 and My mom in 2005 . so unless I have a seance I will never know. Thankfully I won't have any kids to " lie " to. And I have honorary brother and sister, and a birth sister. I guess she may know all the names but I really am not interested.Oh Well.
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• United States
15 Dec 11
I am loved by all my family members , blood and honorary alike.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
15 Dec 11
That's great!
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
14 Dec 11
To be honest, I don't really think it's important to know all of them up to the nth degree. They could be strangers anyway for all we know. It's only important if you have a homework to complete such us in our case. As long as you have the family you know, and loves you, then I guess it's enough. Thanks sarah!
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@GreenMoo (11834)
13 Dec 11
I´m not sure I´d have actually made names up. I´d have been more likely to tell my son either that I didn´t know, or that there were people in the family who I didn´t really know much about. I think 11 is old enough to know about family, even if there are difficulties. There´s no need to go into specifics, but I find it´s easier to tell the truth than to try and explain why I made something up, which can often turn something into a bigger deal than it ever started out being! As families spread out, I bet there are a lot of parents who can´t fill in a complete family tree.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
14 Dec 11
I'm sure you're right! I'm sure the truth would have been better. And I'm sure that I would be paying for this lie sometime in the future. I just thought it was easier that time. Anyway, I'll cross my fingers until then. Thanks.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
hello, When I was a kid i also put names that I dont really know because my nannie is the one who helps me building my family tree. So, she is also having a hard time. I knew that she is just inventing names because my parents is not around for everyday because of work. And besides my teacher dont know it at all.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
13 Dec 11
First off, it's great that you had a nanny growing up. Your parents must have been well off! But I know what you mean, about just making up names. Your nanny surely could just come up with names, and your teacher wouldn't know the difference. Thanks.
@kmeeks (49)
• United States
13 Dec 11
I think everyone can relate to not wanting to have a few people on their family tree. I personally don't like people that try to stir up trouble and of course I have a family member that likes to do just that. But, family is family, even if we don't claim them. ^.^
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
13 Dec 11
Oh yeah! Everybody has somebody like that, that we'd rather not be associated with. Even if it's family. Thanks for the response. And welcome to myLot!
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
21 Dec 11
The names are pretty meaningless if you don't know the people. I would prefer to be honest than to lie. You don't have to explain anything at this stAge, justput the names up there. My first husband, the father of my children is on the diagram of our family tree. He was a (expletive deleted) but no-one ever refers to him. The grandchildren are growing up now but in the general way of things they are not interested in our family's "who's who" - that seems normal to me.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
21 Dec 11
I think that's why I put up made-up names there, because they coulr really be 'meaningless'. Unless of course my son would start asking about these people, then that's when I would be lying. Thanks MsTickle!
@shaggin (71663)
• United States
13 Dec 11
LOL well so far my daughter hasnt had to do this but I am pretty sure that I could help her do a family tree and not have any problem at all... but if I did get stuck and couldnt think of my childrens great grandparents names I could ask their grandparents. I think if I didnt know I wouldnt bother to lie I would just write only the names of those that I know and the child can say that no one knows the rest of the family history.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
15 Dec 11
That's good! The direct and honest approach! Not sure what the teachers could do if you or your daughter couldn't write anything, but at least you don't have to lie about it. Thanks.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
15 Dec 11
I haven't had any communication with my family for many years. I have been on my own a very long time. I did reunite with my grandmother on my mom's side but she only lived 5 years after we reunited. I can go back a bit on my tree but not to the extent that I would like. I think we all have a need sometimes to know where we come from. As far as the project goes...I haven't had to do that but I did have to do a little digging for my daughter's...just to have something besides a stick
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
16 Dec 11
It would be great if that stick was part of a branch! I guess in a way, knowing is a bit reassuring. You could learn a lot about yourself by just knowing the kind of people that are in your family tree. Unfortunately, we can't all trace back our roots. Thanks Jen!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Dec 11
For my own personal family tree, I've never had to make up any of the names because of the fact that both of my parents came from close families and I was actually lucky enough to have met all of my grandparents except for one (my dad's father passed away 11 years before I was born) and two of my great-grandparents. Now, when it is time to make a family tree for my children, there will be information on it that isn't really true because my husband has never met his biological father and only recently learned that he does have a sister that shares the same biological father (also his cousin that he has always been close to).
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
16 Dec 11
Even though it would be a one-sided tree (if you choose not to make up names), it would still be great for your kids to look back at a family history. And maybe learn something from it. Thanks! And hope you have a great Christmas!
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
13 Dec 11
I did a huge family tree project while in College. I was lucky that most of the work was already done for me on my mom's dad's side going back to when the first of my ancestors came over from Germany in the 1850's. My dad's side I did not go back as far on. I went back to when my mom's mom's family moved to the state that we live in (1876). I liked reading all of that information, and would like to do more with my dad's side of the family.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
14 Dec 11
I guess you're one of the lucky few that really have a family history to go back to. Or you have relatives that took the time to learn all this. I get it that it could be interesting if we also had complete details. Then we don't have to make up names for a silly homework. Thanks.
• United States
13 Dec 11
Unfortunately my family tree isn't that intensive or big, my family is pretty small so remembering the people hasn't been to much of an issue for me, which is especially beneficial since I am not particularly good with remembering names . My kids are still a bit young and have yet to bring those type of projects home, but I am pretty sure that sooner or later I will probably be in a similar situation as you. But seriously speaking, you should be honest and let him know sooner than later about making up those names, I know he is probably still to young to understand, but soon the curiousity will rise.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
15 Dec 11
Yes, I should have been more honest. And I'm sure that one of these days, this 'little' lie would find itself way back, and bite me in the butt. I dread that day. Thanks for the response.
@wadabski (761)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
Well not really. I am proud of my roots and I have not come through a situation requiring me to lie about my roots. I don't really keep track of my family tree like some do. I just know I have a cousin from here and there and that's about it. Little white lies would not hurt unless it might have a lot of consequences at the end.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
15 Dec 11
I don't really see the necessity for it, unless of course it was a homework as in my case. So, if you're secure about distant family members then good on you! And good that you don't have to lie about it. Thanks.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
13 Dec 11
I haven't made any family tree. So making a fake one is not necessary too But in case I would be asked to make one in the future, when I have kids that will ask me... I might make up names too. I am not so familiar with names of other relatives on one side of the family. So I think just to make the homework done, I will also come up with names
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
14 Dec 11
when push comes to shove, we can really just make up names. Specially if it's just for a homework where the teacher grading it wouldn't know any better. Just make sure you'll be consistent! When you have more than one kid, and both will pass through the same teacher! Thanks for the response.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
It's better to keep a soft and hard copy of it. If it's possible have one framed