Going to get back in church
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
United States
January 20, 2012 4:31pm CST
I really miss my church. I miss the pastor and the people there. They are very loving. My son in law asked me how they could help me feel better since I have this altered speech problem. I said that I would like to get back in church and be around people. I don't want to be isolated because this problem isolates me enough. It's almost like waking up one morning and an alien took over your power of speech. It's just easier to say nothing than to struggle trying to be understood.
I believe this problem will go away. My church is not one where they do healing services but the pastor does ask if anyone needs prayer he welcomes anyone to come forward to get prayed for. I feel that God will resolve this over time.
Would you just be quiet and stay isolated or would you reach out to people even though you might get embarrassed that everyone will be aware of your problem once you open your mouth to speak with them?
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
20 Jan 12
By all means, reach out. If your church (or your pastor) will pray for you, let them!
I am shy when it comes to things like that, but I think I would take myself in hand and make myself go and make myself go forward for prayer. I think that would make one feel better about everything.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
That's it. I agree with you.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
That is what I am thinking too. Right now, only the immediate family knows what is going on with me. I stay to myself now out of embarrassment. Even when I could talk, I had periods during a conversation where I would go blank and couldn’t talk, or my facial muscles and tongue would suddenly go limp and I couldn’t talk… so now I’m a babbling idiot… thank God my reading and writing haven’t gone bonkers too.
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
21 Jan 12
You will feel better all round just being around people who support you. I have had experience with illness that could be quite isolating, but, the more you isolate yourself, the more difficult it is to eventually want to get out.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I agree with you. I want to get out. It will be great to get back to church.
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@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I applaud you. If more people would take the time to get back to God and church maybe we could get out of this situation this country is end. We have thumbed our nose toward God so much he is now punishing us to bring us back into compliance with his wishes for us. And it was even foretold so we should have seen it and not been so stiff necked
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I have really missed going to church and being around real flesh and blood people who care for me. Even if I don’t know them all, they are still my brothers and sisters in the Lord. I’m going tomorrow and I’m so happy.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Jan 12
i would like to be able to get out and do things again. but the last few times have been just to hard on me. i either get out of breath or am just to tired to walk in and out to the car again. i sure hope i can get myself in a better state soon. i just want to recouperate. then i think i will be fine
thats all you need to. to be around people that understand and will help you feel better.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
That’s what I think too… it might help me to be around people again.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I hope you can get to feeling better too. I also get out of breath easily… I have to use oxygen sometimes due to shortness of breath.
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@vandana7 (98986)
• India
21 Jan 12
I am basically a recluse. I like staying alone. I have no issues with being alone. In fact, I am socially uncomfortable. This may be because I was in hostels, and when I returned to home, the so called normal home was not there. So lack of confidence in such places is what I experience. But would debility make me hesitant. I think it would.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 12
hi again being alone is the pits and in church you should be with friends who love and support you, in that atmosphere you might even
be able to speak better too and nobody
would be making you feel
embarrassed. I think that fear may have something to do with your
inability to speak normally as fear will clinch your throat and oral muscles a lot.
would be making you feel
embarrassed. I think that fear may have something to do with your
inability to speak normally as fear will clinch your throat and oral muscles a lot.@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I understand. I'm that way if I am around a crowd that I don't know. When I am with people I know and am acquainted with I am not uncomfortable. I'm alone secluded in my room more than 350 days a year, so I really long to get out sometimes to see other people than just immediate family.
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
Sounds like a good idea. I think it's very important to be a part of a community where people will be supportive of you, because if you're in a good environment like that then you'll be able to gain your confidence. I think more and more people now adays are aware of disabilities and can be more accepting and accomodating. I am disabled myself and I get help when I need it by support staff in various places.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Thnks so much. I believe it will help.
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@GLOBALSHEEN (1005)
• India
21 Jan 12
Going to the church and be around those loving people is a good idea. But to see GOD's hand in your life just go to a lonely place and ask Jesus to come inside your heart and tried to speak to Him. You will start hearing His voice. That will be another best experience you may have.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Jesus is in my heart. I’m a saved individual. I do know prayer works, and there are lots of people praying for me and with me. I plan to go forward in church tomorrow and ask the pastor to lay hands on me and pray for my healing. I have all the faith in the world that this will help me. I am not going to worry if I still can’t talk after prayer, because I know my healing is coming. Thank you.. I do speak to God in my prayer closet, alone. Sometimes my spirit prays when I don’t know how or what to pray.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
21 Jan 12
Hell no! I would want to be around people, if I wasn't around people I would just be punishing myself. Just being in church is healing as it is. It is the house of God, you get to see people even if you can talk, you are filled with joy listening to the hymns and enjoying the sermon and the ambiance.
You friends will hug you and that is soothing. If I was there I would hug you too, and rub your back and help you to feel better even if it is only a tiny bit.
At home hon utube whatever kind of music you like and listen to it. If its more hymns that is great but it is something else that is great too. Just take life on day at a time, one minute at a time and do anything that will give you stress.
Okay that is my therapy session for the day and I said I would never do that again lol. Not trying to be controlling or bossy here. These are just suggestions, of course you will do what you feel is best for you.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Haaa! This is one therapy session I will gladly appreciate… I agree with you. This is such a good thing to get back into going to church. I’ve missed it so much. I do enjoy the music and the choir. I won’t be singing in the choir… I get tense and get a conversion reaction… the music on new songs look German to me and I can’t read them… so I quit choir. But I sing from the congregation though. I’m so excited and full of life right now that I AM going to church in the morning AND I’m going to start going to the women’s meetings on Wednesday nights. When S’s mom goes I’ll ask her to pick me up.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
24 Jan 12
Hi Pose,
That’s very true. I really enjoyed Sunday. I’m going Wednesday night also.. we have service then. I’m also going to do walking at the church and exercise because we have a health center in the church that is free to seniors and just $27 a month to everyone else.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 12
oh PointlessQuestons I think going back to your church where you
miss the pastor and the people is a great idea. I know you
might want to sequester yourself because of your speech problem but anyone who gives you a bad time over that are ignorant people and
not worth your worries at all.Do not be afraid as if those in church frown on you then they are not good Christians but I think really everyone will be rooting for you myself and prayers do work. I am sending my prayers to God to help you recover from your speech
problems as they can be resolved you know. peace blessings
they can be resolved you know. peace blessings1 person likes this
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Hi Hatley,
Well guess what!? I can talk now as well as I can write. I’m BACK! I’m almost 100 percent myself again. The whole world, just about has been praying for me. My friends here at Mylot, my friends at Facebook, and my personal friends and their prayer groups have been praying. I also made a decision to retire from ghostwriting, and it was when I made that decision all the stress went away from me. I know it was a mixture of the prayers and my decision to retire. I’ll still write occasionally for myself, but not professionally as a ghostwriter.
Now about church… my daughter is going to help put me together tomorrow… she will help me pick out my clothes .. maybe find me something of hers that is too big for her. I’m looking forward to going. I know God healed me. I know conversion disorders will go away as quickly as they manifest… but since everyone has been praying .. it is today that I am back to normal… so I know prayer worked.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
22 Jan 12
Jesus told us to love one another. By all means, go back to church. It might be easier if someone could go with you the first few times who could explain your problem. Maybe it would be helpful if you talk with the elders ahead of time. Be sure to carry paper and pencil so t hat you can write down what you intended to say when you think you've been misunderstood.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
22 Jan 12
I can speak now... God has already brought about the healing. I still have occasional bits of stuttering, but it's mostly gone. It's been about a week that I've had this and now I am free!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
21 Jan 12
The hardest state to be in is to be in a battle alone. You will definitely need the support of people especially those from the church, where you are sure that you will not be led down the wrong path, of temporary joys and superficial happiness to ease your pain.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I'm looking forward to going. My adopted mom is happy too.
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
24 Jan 12
Sister i have opened mylot after a long gap, as i have health issues due to diabetes neuropathy, neither i nor hubby can walk properly, we have pain and burning sensation in soles of feet..
we are lucky our sons and only daughter take full care of us, every friday they take us to the famous Samleswari temple in our city, we definitely feel rejuvenated lol
We are praying for you, you will get cured soon
God bless you sister
Happy posting, cheers.
Kalyani
Happy posting, cheers.
Kalyani
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
24 Jan 12
Hi Kalyni,
I’m so sorry you and the professor go through so much with your health. I’m praying for you also. I know the pain and health issues associated with diabetes. My mom passed away with it in 1991.
I’m doing much better. I still have some times when I revert back to not being able to speak and also stammering. I guess it is something I will have to live with now. I can deal with it as long as I know I have no serious condition like a stroke.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
20 Jan 12
It depends on the nature of problem and intensity of problem/issues we face. If the problem is acute then most of us will ask any one we come across. If we have money, and are aged not old, have people with us then we will resort to asking for help only from a few seeking shyness in our mind.
Prayer helps. Prayer will bring good results in the long run.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I elieve in prayer for sure. Thanks for commenting.
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@AmbiePam (85700)
• United States
23 Jan 12
Most churches are filled with understanding people. I have felt isolated before as well and it's dangerous for us to get to feeling that way. Because our depression can just spiral from there, you know? I hope you do get back into church. I know when I go I feel so much better than when I do not. I need to be around people more than I currently am.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
23 Jan 12
The church I am a member of has so much to offer people. There are 4 church services to choose from on Sunday. I went upstairs and saw the health center. I'm joining that. There is also an indoor track around the perimeter of our new addition. We also have a gym and several machines.
