Curvy women are 'real' women. Agree or disagree?

Real woman - This is a 'real' woman to me. Someone who takes pride in their health.
Australia
March 17, 2012 5:24pm CST
I will start this by saying I am slim. I follow a vegan diet and try to stay active (although I definitely need to exercise more) which keeps me slim and healthy. While I agree that starving or drastic dieting to be skinny is unnatural and unhealthy, I also can not stand the saying 'real women have curves'. I understand that some women are naturally curvy but also healthy but what annoys me is overweight women justifying their size by saying that they are 'real'. Real to me is a woman who eats healthily, exercises and takes care of her body; not one who sits on the couch eating junk food, pushing herself closer and closer to the brink of developing diabetes and other health conditions. Just because I am slim it does NOT mean I'm not a real woman!! What does everyone else think?
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@GreenMoo (11842)
18 Mar 12
I've never had a curve in my life, and last time I checked I was very real!
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@NailTech (6890)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Well, basically I have been both, slim and sort of chubby. I have heard that term before too and it just makes them feel comfortable is all and more at peace with themselves I'd imagine. Real women do not only have curves, we all come i different shapes and sizes. You can really generalize the fact whose real or not with this assumption, I see where you're coming from. I have been just as hurt by remarks like that before as well. What if a slim woman said us thin women are the only "real" women, that would hurt the "curvier" woman. This statement is false.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
17 Mar 12
I am not slim, I am techniquely considered morbidly obese, so are 2 of my roommates. However, none of us consider ourselves justified because "real women have curves" - we consider ourselves fat. However, when a teenage boy is ONLY looking at stick women, it makes you worried because a lot of times that conceals a latent bi-sexuality, probably masked by the fact that he's so afraid of being a homosexual, even to the point of being homophobic, that he can't admit it to himself. And when you try to get him to look at a woman who needs more than a training bra, he says she's fat. THAT's when you say "real women have curves." I have NEVER met an obese woman justifying her weight by that excuse. Not that I haven't heard a LOT of excuses, mind you, but not that one... So, I think you should make sure that the women saying that really are obese, and not just carrying a little extra weight... Oh, and I'm not diabetic, in fact, I run low blood sugar rather than high most of the time, nor do I sit on the couch eating junk food (actually I sit behind the computer and drink Crystal Light or, very occasionally, a diet soda. Yeah, I might eat something, but if I do, its because I can tell the blood sugar is getting low, and sometimes its cookies, but just as often its tomato juice or a piece of fruit. Part of why I'm obese is because I hurt my feet 20 years ago, fractured my heels, and its really hard to heal those things when you still have to walk...
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
18 Mar 12
I'm not bashing the skinny girl, but he was calling a BELLY DANCER FAT! Yes, the waitress was pretty, but she had the body of a tweeney, honest to God she didn't have a curve ANYWHERE! She had pimples on her chest, she'd've had to stuffed tissues in her training bra to have anything show - she could've passed for a teenage boy if she had dressed that way... So, you've had a few run ins with women that deceive themselves, that's NO reason to say all fat women feel this way.
@loonys (418)
17 Mar 12
I'm not that slim but everyone says I am. I want to be skinny. I get angry when I see some woman who are very fat(really). To my surprise their husbands really love them and do everything.
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• Australia
17 Mar 12
loonys, maybe it is just your body shape. As long as you're healthy and fit, don't worry about trying to be skinny. You should embrace what you have (as long as it's healthy!) and carry yourself with confidence!
@merge8 (73)
• Canada
20 Jun 12
i know my comment here will probably piss some people off but yeah a real woman is soposto be thin, thin in a sense that they dont have a gut sticking out. im not saying they should all be a specific pant size but they should be i guess put as a certain % body fat for a health woman. unfortunately today there is alot of obesity going on and people coping with that just try and change the ideal woman size to very large, correct me if im wrong but would an ideal woman be fit able to do stuff. curves doesn't mean rolls Coffeeshot just keep doing what your doing stay slim and fit and let the others tell you your not real because there jealous that you have a wicked body figure cheers
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@Mayuko (1272)
• United States
17 Jun 12
I’m fat and I absolutely HATE that saying. For one thing, there is a difference between “curvy” and “fat”. As I said, I’m fat, but I’m not curvy. I don’t really have much of an hourglass figure -- which is what curvy meant before people started using the word as a nice way of saying overweight. And it is very plausible for a woman to be slim, but still technically curvy, so that defeats the purpose of the phrase. Also, it’s insulting to women who have a slim, skinny, or athletic body. Whether they make an effort to maintain their body size or not, they are just as “real” as overweight women. It just sounds like a pathetic way of trying to make themselves feel better, but they need to realize that that makes them sound ignorant and rude. I’m sure if slim women went around saying “Real women don’t have flab” it’d be a big problem.
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• Canada
27 Mar 12
A real woman is someone who is either born a biological female, or someone who had the necessary hormo es and surgery to become female.
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@dazzledlady (1624)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
I am not slim and I am more of the on the chubby side closer to being fat. hahaha!. Anyways I think the line " curvy women are real women" is just a statement to make the people whom we consider not an ideal model figure feel better. It isn't literal. We all know that there seems to be a big difference if you are not slim, if you do not have that perfect figure to show off. It's a line you say that you accepted your body, that you are real. For others, the line maybe attacking those who go to starvation, reconstructive surgery to achieve their sexy figure. That is why they say curvy woman are real because they are what you see nothing more, nothing less. Whatever the reason maybe, it is better to not be bother with this statement. If it does not apply to you that is good. Just be comfortable of who you are of what your body type is. It is real as it gets. As for the man's view, I wouldn't know but maybe it is just preference. Some like woman with flesh or what we call voluptuous, others the fashion model type.
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@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
I am skinny. I also hate seeing fat women, but in other hand I don't judge them much. There are some that suffering from disease that made them fat. But well fat or skinny women are real women lol.
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
18 Mar 12
I am morbidly obese. I have eating issues. This is why I am the size I am. I try to eat right but after a day or two I get bored or something happens to make me eat all the wrong foods. When it come to my weight I am a mess.Trying to lose some weight and all that stuff is not easy! I have this problem all my life! I would not be in this situation if i had better parents,been nutured better,if I had not grown up in Hicksville,USA,didn't have drepression problems and low self confidence. Getting older does not help either. I can't change in a night! I have tried therapy,worked for other problems,not the weight. It is an ongoing battle I might not ever get over! You don't like the term Real Woman have Curves" and I don't like people who think they have all the answers to weight problems which you seem to have! Put yourself into my shoes and I think you would change your luck on weight problems!
@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
18 Mar 12
Real women are those that feel like women, no matter what their body type. A "real" woman is so because inside there are a woman's feelings and longings. It's what's inside that counts. As far as curves go, I know some overweight women who use that excuse. As long as you are healthy and not fat it should not matter if you have curves or not. I'm not curvy, I'm fat. I'm not "heavy" or "big" or "Plus-sized"--it's denigrating for people to use those euphemisms, as if I'm not strong enough to admit what I am at the moment. However, I do wish they'd do me the courtesy of not judging me a lazy pig and assume that I'm working on it in the interest of health, which I am. It's hard to lose weight when your back won't let you stand or walk for more than a few minutes without excruciating pain. So don't judge a book by the cover! But we are our own worst critics and if we feel we fall short because we're fat some of us will resort to the curvy rationale. Many thin women want to be curvier and many normal or overweight women would be happy to look like a stick. We're just never satisfied with what we have, it's human nature.
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@fannitia (2170)
• Bulgaria
17 Mar 12
"Real women have curves"? I think that this is just a stupid saying. It would be also stupid to say that "real women are skinny". The reality is what you are. And those "ready-to-wear" images of the ideal lady that change through the ages are so useless. But too many women still make efforts to fill those criteria.
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• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
2 Mar 16
Real Women : Women who exist. That's my definition. Any one who says some women aren't real is a moron.
• India
28 Jun 12
A woman should not be judged by how she looks to be a “real woman”. Other people may consider a sexy curvy looking woman real woman but only superficially. For some people a real woman is someone who has virtues like compassion, faithfulness and loyalty. She is caring and strong. Again I will emphasize that the real woman depends on the perspective at the person judging her.
@jsae29 (1122)
• Philippines
25 Jun 12
In opinion, we cannot define a woman by her figure. A real woman can be slim, curvy or fat. A real woman accepts her very being and for what she really is.
@soulist (2987)
• United States
12 Apr 12
I completely agree that curvy women are real women. I think the women we see in magazines and things aren't real because they are touched up and made to look more beautiful. I seen something the other day saying Marilyn Monroe was I think a size 8 or something like that and she was considered a bombshell, so how did it come to that women need to be a size 0 to be beautiful. I love the fact that I am healthy and at a great weight for myself.
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
18 Mar 12
Hmmm??? I thought all women have curves especially the ones with that hourglass figure. It's a bit tough to do that and be overweight. All people look their best when they are Fit. Finally, I find the most attractive part of a woman are her eyes.
@prinzcy (5058)
• Malaysia
18 Mar 12
First of all, I am not slim but slightly obese. Secondly, I am a real woman, I am totally certain of that. So 'real woman have curves'? When I first heard of the saying, what come across my mind was a woman with curves on expected places at top and bottom. What didn't across my mind was whether she is too skinny nor too fat. Why on Earth someone mistaken the saying as being fat? Maybe she's confident with her body, that's why she said 'real woman have curves', just like her. However, one thing for certain, being fat nor skinny doesn't make you less of a woman.
@Runite (307)
• United States
18 Mar 12
Curvy women aren't 'real' women but hot ones.