Missing friends

@GardenGerty (99269)
United States
May 20, 2012 2:40pm CST
Every now and then a friend on MyLot will go missing. Sometimes for a day, sometimes for more than a day. I could name several, but I just talked to our oldest member, as she has been missing a week. Hatley says to let everyone know her health is fine, but her computer has sadly bitten the dust. It had a short circuit and melted a lot of the little parts inside. It will not even power on. She does not know if her son will rebuild it, or if she will need to get a new (used) one. She misses us a lot, was hoping someone would call so she could tell us her health is fine so we would not worry. She is very bored. I may have to write her a letter or send her a card. I intend to often, but sometimes put it off. My computer had a problem last night, or rather my modem, probably. I gave up and went to bed, but I had already been away from home for a day and a half and I really was missing my online connections. My son helped me with it this afternoon. I think as we get a bit older we really rely on our children. I guess this discussion could be about how we feel when we cannot get online for various reasons. I feel really lost, and bored, because I count on the interaction here as much as I do with people who live nearby.
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@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
31 May 12
Yes, I think we all have friends on here who we miss when we do not always see them around. I sometimes wish I lived closer when I hear people here having Computer problems so I could figure out a way to help them out. But I know when something happens and I am not around here for a couple of days if I have not posted anything people would miss me as much I would miss this site for sure.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
6 Jun 12
I am not sure if people ever get a chance to miss me very much. I come on here a little almost every day. Yes, I do wonder about you when I am not hearing from you.
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@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
7 Jun 12
Yes there are people here like me who miss you when you are not posting here. There is a lot going on right now with my health that is not good. Just waiting to see what happens tomorrow to help them decode what to do next.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
2 Jul 12
I also think there are lots of people like me miss you GardenGerty and I used to see lots of replies of you on various discussions.
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@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
6 Jun 12
I know that I'm 3 weeks late with this response, and I haven't looked at my recent notifications (as I am still trying to catch up), but I hope that Hatley is fine. And I hope that she's up and running/on-line. I have been missing from myLot for a few days/weeks now. I can't believe how busy I have been with work. Often, I would have it open in the background, but I never really have the chance to respond or comment on anything. I think I would still be busy for another couple of weeks, and then maybe I could get on here more regularly.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
6 Jun 12
I have not gotten back to Hatley by phone yet. No she does not have her computer repaired. My activity will be a little limited here as I am out of state, waiting on a grandbaby to be born. I will be sending her a letter or two and I believe others here have also written to her. I hope they post if they do.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jul 12
hi gardengerty and bounce it took three weekends for my son to rebuild it as he now has a full time job, thank God, so then I come back and mylot has problems lol almost funny but those horrible storms were not funny I did get finally to have the last two days of quadruple earnings. before I could get on here and I could read all the lovely discussions, but post? no not at all.from that Friday eve til tues day before the fourth I could only get on and read I could not post responses or comments or even a discussion,it was really frustrating. so I went downstairs and played bingo with my friends, won six times but there were no prizes so we were just playing for fun. but even that got boring.So am glad to be back and active again.
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
9 Jul 12
I think that is so nice of you to write her a note! That shoes that you really do muss your regular friends here on Mylot and see tham as genuine friends. It must be nice to have a friend like you that really missed you when you are MIA for a while. Its such a sweet thing. Its hard to have real friends especially as you get older. It seems sometimes that you are lost at times and alone when your friends dispear.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
10 Jul 12
Thanks, ladygator. Yes, Hatley is a good friend, and she would do the same for me, I am sure.
• United States
20 May 12
It is hard when you make something part of your routine for so long, and then feel like you are missing something when you aren't able to get on it. Sometimes this happens to me the moment I really need the internet to do homework, or look something up, it suddenly loses connection.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
20 May 12
I had gotten on for a little over an hour last night, checking on some sites and trying to get the daily stuff done on my earning sites. I had chosen not to take my computer with me when I went out of town, as I decided I was rude when I should have been visiting. I did feel totally lost, and I also missed some points on an earning site because I could not get it all done.
• China
22 May 12
No wonder I have seen nothing of Hatley lately. I have been concerned about her diabetes.Now I rest assured .Thank you for telling me this.It seems that she have to scrapped her computer this time. I remember something went wrong with her mouse last time.Her son later replaced it with a new one.She is so active here on Mylot. I can well imagine how upset she is now.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
22 May 12
I will write her a letter to help keep her entertained, but there is really nothing that will help this other than a computer replacement or repair.
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• China
23 May 12
Judging by what you said about her computer,I think it is difficult to repair.Maybe she ends up buying a new one.I wonder how much an ordinary computer costs.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
23 May 12
Her son might build her one from components, he has that skill. Or they may buy a refurbished one. I live several thousand miles away from her, so I do not know prices where she lives.I know most prices there are higher. I know a place where I could get one for around $200.
• United States
23 May 12
I know what you mean, GG, about feeling lost without being able to contact our friends. I will need to ask her for her phone number. I was so worried I made a discussion asking about her. I didn't see your discussion. Owlwings gave me the link to this discussion and that's how I came to learn about Aunt Hatley. I love her so much and don't want anything to happen to her.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
23 May 12
The way I understand it, she does not have a personal phone number. She had to come down to the end of the hall when I called her, and she sounded a bit out of breath. I can give you the number I called. How would you ask her for her number if she is not online to ask?
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• United States
25 May 12
I'll message her when she gets back online to see if she has a cell phone or something. I'll just be glad when she gets back online again. I wouldn't want to make her walk to the phone, so I guess I'll pass for now on that number. Thanks for offering. If I change my mind I'll message you or email you. Thanks!
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jul 12
hi pointlessQuestions and Garden Gerty july 9th I have a personal phone in my room but the people at the front desk evidently do not have my number. but I can pmessage you guys with it,I don't think the admins lets us put phone numbers in our responses.someone did that recently and had it deleted here.I lucked out with AT and T in that they have a special senior plan and it never costs me over 7 or 8 dollars a month which is so good for me,. wow.
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@owlwings (39226)
• Cambridge, England
21 May 12
Thank you so much for taking the trouble to get in touch with Hatley. I'm sure that when you speak to her again, you will pass on all our good wishes and commiserations! Hatley is one of those remarkable people with a young and lively mind in an aged body (well, all of us are ageing - we can't escape that!). I can imagine how frustrating it must be sometimes for her to live where she does (though she rarely complains) and I know that the Internet - and MyLot in particular - is her lifeline. If I felt it would be of any use, I'd gladly donate a dollar or two from my MyLot earnings to a 'Get Hatley Online Sooner Than Yesterday' (GHOSTY) fund!
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
22 May 12
There are others who are willing as well. I just do not know how to go about doing it.
@JohnRok1 (2051)
22 May 12
Can Alice help us?
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jul 12
hi owlwings July 9th does anyone know what happened to'hardworking gurl., I have sent pms but they were never answered. she was so active and such a good friend too,.I am myself so glad to have my rebuilt computer and new to me led monitor used of course but I am now busy mylotting since most of the glitches are fixed. I could add three friends tonight that I could not for three or four days.good to be back on my lot as I missed every one so much.
@AmbiePam (49079)
• United States
20 May 12
I'm behind in my discussions, so I just recently got to some of Hatley's discussions. So I didn't realize she had been gone so long because I didn't notice how old they were.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
20 May 12
I had just really noticed that she had not responded to my last discussion, and so I would have checked last night, but my connection went down for some strange reason. It could have been the thunderstorms. Did you get any of that rain and wind? It was not really bad here.
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@AmbiePam (49079)
• United States
20 May 12
The wind came first, then the thunderstorm settled in last night. However, while Norman got some rain, we mostly got thunder and lightning. Other parts of Oklahoma got a lot more drenched. I'm just glad it cooled off.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
21 May 12
I frequently unplug my laptop when the thunder starts. I still work on it, just unplug it.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
22 May 12
it has been a while i havent been online and i have missed a lot of news from friends. i hope hatley gets a new computer. i have old friends, too that i miss seeing, to name a few: menace730, richnai and mipen2006. ann
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
22 May 12
We have missed you as well. I hope that nothing is seriously wrong to have kept you from participating. I miss Webieishere Grandpa Bob as well, but I know how to contact him outside of the Lot.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jul 12
hi has either of you heard anything from richnai or hardworkinggurl really miss them and spark of insanity too see her on facebook at times.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
21 Jul 12
hi ms. gerty and ms. hatley, i was just busy with work lately that i come home very late and have to go very early. i wish these people we miss suddenly surprises all of us and come back to mylot. ann
@bunnybon7 (36489)
• Holiday, Florida
22 May 12
omg, i did start to miss her but i just figured it was because she just wasnt making any discussions. yes we do rely on our kids a lot. but,its getting to where i only have 1 out of 5 to rely on and sometimes he isnt wanting to do for me either. im really thinking about moving away again. anyway, i sure hope she gets a new pc.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
22 May 12
I thought your son needed you there to help pay for the house. Yes, I hope that Hatley is back online really soon.
@bunnybon7 (36489)
• Holiday, Florida
22 May 12
well with recent turn of events my daughter is also paying rent and it helps so much, it seems im just another renter now at times. my son dont really want her to get mad and move out as he is saving money now more then ever. yesterday we my daughter and i got into another big arguement and he just stayed out of it. and of course it was over C. its like im not head lady in the house again. so yes ive been considering moving
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
23 May 12
That would be sad, and I think he would lose out in the long run. She is likely to take off if she takes a notion to and leave him with no help at all. Of course it would give you more peace in your own home to be on your own.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jul 12
hi gardengerty myson was here last night trying to put some finishing touches on my rebuilt computer. It has a generic audio visual driver that should not work on Vista but it works fine but the driver he wanted to install turned out to be conflicting with Windows Vista professional and he would start up my computer it would load then wham it would turn off and no matter what advice from Microsoft he tried he had the same problem so by then we were starting to see the funny side, my son said looking at me" oh gee now that was really helpful" as again my computer turned itself off. so naturally the only thing left to do was uninstall the driver so that he did and we both laughed to think the driver that was not supposed to work,worked fine, but the one recommended did not, windows vista refused it so now he said he would get me a new audio card next weekend. I am so glad he knew how to build me a new computer. lol.
@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
10 Jul 12
We were all so glad to have you back and very sympathetic with your situation. We got a taste of the same kind of frustration when the site was down. It is good you guys can laugh at things when they go wrong. It sure beats letting your blood pressure go up.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
19 Jul 12
I also agree with GardenGerty that everyone in myLot is happy that Hatley is back and I think it is always great to see guys like GardenGerty and Hatley in myLot.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
30 May 12
HI GG, Always nice to see u on here. Glad hatley is doing good. Am very sorry about her computer. I know she really misses it. Hope all is well w/u.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Hi, AntiqueLady, I am releived to be seeing you at least a little more often on here now. Take care of yourself.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
7 Jun 12
Thanks, dear. Goona' try to do better. Is your baby here yet?
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
25 May 12
My interaction with people is done about 95% through myLot. How pathetic am I? lol. I know I spend way too much time online as I have many other things to occupy my time. I really don't understand why my computer gets top priority. I allow myself to be here for hours but other work I love to do like my jewellery making and art work and sewing and even just my chores or gardening all take a back seat. I think I'm weird that way but I'm sure I'm not alone.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
26 May 12
We are just alike. I have a ton of things I should be doing besides this.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 May 12
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@megamatt (14331)
• United States
22 May 12
I think that is really just the nature of the Internet right in general on any website. Not just myLot mind you but pretty much every website that one could imagine right on the Internet. People tend to slide right off of the grid for a while, disappearing right into the night. There are times where life does really happen. And these people might pop up in a couple of days, maybe a couple of months, the thing about these bad things is that they cannot really warn you about anything. Therefore, there are just going to be many times where we just see people everyday, see their user names. Then one day, they don't seem to be showing up but we really notice after a number of days. Perhaps life just got busy or perhaps something happened.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
22 May 12
I have friends like that as well and have no contact information. I am fortunate to be able to find Hatley at this time and check in with her. At one point she was homeless and was missing for nine months, and no one could contact her. Then as you say, she popped right back up.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jul 12
I just learned that Darkwing who started here when I did hasdied of cancer. I really had missed her and wondered what had happened'to her she was really a very friendly mylotter. Yes I am seemingly stuck here in Gold Crest while my son is now working he had to take a job paying almost half of what he made when he was laid'off but he told me "mom a job now is a job as I am sick of being out of work" so hes happy and its okay.His boss seems to really like him too so thats good also.sort of sad that when I came here my son assured me mom yu will only be here for a shortr while til I can get a good job and afford to rent another apartment. he stillcannot afford that yet. but we are glad he is wo rking. my best friend's son is out of work now f or a year and he had a good job editing trailors for upcoming movies in Burbank so even the movie industry has c ut back
@rkennedee (333)
21 May 12
That's just the way things are although it's sad we need to face it. People come and go. some are remembered some are not.
@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
22 May 12
Oh, she will be back. I can just about guarantee it.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Jul 12
hi rkennedee and GardenGerty like Arnold I am back and happy to be my lotting and actually able to get my posts to post now.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
20 May 12
SO glad HAtley if ok. as to putershate it when something goes wrong I get very upset and I work on my own call cable company when I have to I have done ever y thing oso many times I sometimes forget how it was done as it might have been five years ago and then pops up again grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I am on my 6th puter in 12 years last 2 didnt last long am hoping this one last till when ever but some of my other are in use as lent them outand they are still working lolol about 2 really got shot one was a Dell was headake from day one
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
21 May 12
I like my laptop, and it is a Dell. I have been fortunate, my desktops last forever, I cannot kill them. I am on my second laptop. The other one would still be going but it got damaged by lightening. I feel very fortunate.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
21 May 12
Thats wonderful I dont kno w what happens to mine last one got a bad virus a friend worked on it butit just got worse and that virus tried to ocme back but didnt but I got this one now so will see how long it lasts lololol
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
20 May 12
I thought it was quiet around here. Glad she is ok. I have been having to go to the site because I am not getting any notificaions. Well, not any. I actually got ONE yesterday early on and it was just one of those from Mylot to let us know that a discussion I had commented on had been deleted. Cool, huh?
@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
21 May 12
I always check my spam folder anyway. I have hit the not spam too. I have tried signing in and out of Mylot too. I just wish it would hurry up and get fixed. I don't like doing it manually. Takes more time. And I find myself reading others comments and it takes too much time. I haven't written any articles and I really need to get on it. Ugh!
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
28 May 12
I'm glad to hear Ms.Hatley is well. I hate that she isn't connected..I can imagine how bored she must be. My issues have not been those that have kept me from getting connected. It did start out that way..I had to get another computer but I have been so busy. I long to visit and miss everyone terribly. I have been more active in the past couple of days than I have in over a month. I have been trying to catch up but it is hard.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
28 May 12
I do not think you can ever truly catch up. I did more reading than responding yesterday. You have a busy busy life.
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• United States
23 May 12
I have plenty to do without the internet, but I really do miss it when I don't have it. It's a pain to dig out a phone book to look for a certain type of business--and be limited to the range it covers. It's annoying not to be able to check in with friends who aren't nearby; sure, I could call, but they are likely at work or asleep when I want to contact them--not a problem when emailing. It's difficult to get the range of news offline that is possible with just a few keystrokes online. There are just so many things that I do online that don't have an easy offline equivalent. This is driven home every time I have limited or no internet for any period of time. After a few hours, I start getting a bit antsy about the lack of internet. I think that many of us no longer really know how to function without internet. Sure, we can go without it for much of the day, but only as long as we know that we have access to it. The moment that we lose that access, it becomes an issue.
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@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
26 May 12
Tell me about it, I have had router problems the last three days.
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@jricky1 (6809)
• China
23 May 12
Hopefully mylotters are all fine.I could also name out some of them and i do really impressed and feel them so kind.So i hope they could come back very soon and i have to say i come here every single day and my computer just had something wrong but i repaired very soon and come back. Happy mylotting and good day,mylotters.
@GardenGerty (99269)
• United States
23 May 12
Having a computer that needs repair does slow down what you can do online. I am glad yours is repaired and you can participate again.