Is there someone in your life that you can share everything with?

@dorannmwin (36611)
United States
August 8, 2012 10:31pm CST
I ask this question because I really don't have a person in my life that I am able to share everything with. Instead, I have several people that are very important in my life that I am able to share a lot of things with. However, there are some things that I am not able to share with each of these people. The first important person in my life is my husband. I can share almost everything in my life with him, but when it comes to times that we aren't really getting along, I certainly can't just talk to him to have someone to talk to about what we are going through. I have my best friend who is also our roommate and there is very little that I am not able to share with her. However, being that she is friends with both Tom and myself there are times that I don't want to talk to her about our problems because even though I trust her, I fear that she might run back to my husband and tell him about my complaints when all I really wanted to do was just vent. This made me wonder, is there anyone out there that has just one person that they are able to talk about everything in their lives with. I'd love to hear about those people that you are able to share most of your life with.
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@factorial (984)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
I have someone in my life whom I can share everything with. She is not my wife. She is my real friend. I don't share everything with my wife because most of the time, after sharing some problems, we end up quarreling.
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@LittleMel (14062)
• Canada
10 Aug 12
yes I have such people as friends I never tell their husbands and family the things they tell me and they never tell mine the things I tell them I can talk to husband about a lot of things, but we share different beliefs that often he ignores me when I want to talk about things he call 'bogus' so for these things I talk to friends that share same interests/beliefs because if I insist with husband, he'll be pissed off also to these friends I share my life stories and they share theirs
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
11 Aug 12
Now I do have to say that my husband and I do share the same beliefs in our lives which is something that I am very thankful for. However, there are still things that I am not comfortable sharing with him.
@LittleMel (14062)
• Canada
12 Aug 12
yep. that's the only thing I can't talk to him about my friends and I share the same beliefs, makes it easier to share and understand where we come from
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
13 Aug 12
It is great that you are able to have friends that share your set of beliefs that you are able to talk to.
@dawnald (83811)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Aug 12
Tony Tony Tony.....
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I take it that would be a yes?
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@dawnald (83811)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Aug 12
yes yes yes
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
11 Aug 12
lol lol lol
@Paper_Doll (2379)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
My husband is always against me having communication with my ex boyfriend. But because this ex bf of mine has become someone whom I can share everything with and not to mention that I can borrow money from him anytime LOL, he became one of the best friends I ever had. There are things that I cannot talk to my parents but I can ask or tell him and the same thing when it comes to my husband. Too bad because my husband must be the closest person to me. One thing that I really like about our friendship is that whatever I say or ask him, he answers straight to the point, honestly and without fear and hesitations. He does not care if I would be offended or not. He would tell me if I am wrong or I am just making excuses. Although I would say that I am not, he would make me realize that I am. He seem to know me more than myself and I really appreciate him for that. Maybe because we have been together through a lot of bad times during those times. Well, we're still youngsters during those times so we really do not know much about how we should take care of our relationship so I end up cheating on him LOL. Also, what makes him the very person I can share most of everything with is because he never forgets to ask or say hello. So there are times that even though I do not want to talk about something, I always end up telling him about it. I don't know but he always knew if I am dealing with some problems every time. I always felt that I can't hide something from him.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
And addition to that, he is not a psychologist or something but he would definitely know when I am lying.
@violann (437)
• United States
9 Aug 12
I agree with your husband Paper_Doll, you really shouldn't be communicating with your ex the way you do. You should be talking with your husband, not your ex, it could only lead to trouble. When you get into disagreements and get angry then back away from each other till you cool down and then discuss the matter after you are level headed, you shouldn't be running off to someone else.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
Honestly, my ex is one of those people that I am able to talk to about a lot of things that are going on in my life. I know that there are times that Tom is jealous of the relationship that he and I have, but I can't have it. We lost contact with each other for nearly nine years and having him back in my life has been a great thing for me.
@iamJB7 (123)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
when I'm in trouble, no one's there for me. My family we're miles apart since I have to leave them for my work. Since I'm into this place, with no family and friends around there's no one that I can share my problems with. But being alone makes me closer to God. He is the only person whom I've shared my problems and all that's heavy in my heart. When I'm alone, I just meditate and talk to God and ask for some signs. Then I always ask him for a help. He really answered to prayers to those who prayed heartily.
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
God is the best companion someone will have all his life.. :) You're right for choosing and enjoying His company... We can be friends here if you want! :) Take care!
@iamJB7 (123)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
yeah..it would be my pleasure! god bless!
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
God is the one person in our lives that we are able to depend on no matter what. However, I do think that even knowing that God is there for us is of very little comfort to a person when they really just need to talk to someone and get feedback.
@seemared (771)
13 Aug 12
After my husband I have his friend with whom I had already shared everything including my bed, so he is the next guy or person whom I can share and trust on any matter..My husband works off he town and when I was fed up living alone I had to move with this guy of his and it was quite cool. I mean it was another relationship with his knowledge but on a positive thought he was the next person with whom I could share my bad and good thoughts..it worked and still does under cover in the ark with not much knowing about it.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
14 Aug 12
This relationship sounds like an odd relationship, but it is good to hear that it is something that your husband does approve of. I don't think that my husband would be comfortable with that kind of a relationship at all.
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@seemared (771)
28 Aug 12
Not much would, only a few and rare ones I guess..
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
9 Aug 12
Hi, Very nice topic my friend!I am glad to know you have more than one person with whom you can share different things in life. I share everything with my boyfriend who is also my best friend. We met in college few years ago and have been fast friends from the very beginning. Earlier to that, I had a best friend, my classmate who left the country to pursue studies abroad and she is settled abroad now. We are not very much in touch now but we still do chat when we get the time. I share everything, all my concerns, anxieties, happiness, joys, sadness, frustration with my boyfriend. I cannot say everything to my parents but I can confide in him. I find it a great release when I have something bothering me and I share it with him; then I feel relaxed. I feel blessed to have a best friend in the person I am in love with. Hope we can continue to share this close bond forever.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
You are very lucky that your boyfriend is also your best friend. I think that when a relationship is like yours is you are destined to have a lot of happiness in your life.
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
10 Aug 12
Thanks a lot for saying that.
@bounce58 (17549)
• Canada
30 Aug 12
I think that the people who do have someone to share everything with are very lucky. Although I have a lot of close friends, and even a few family around, I couldn't really share everything with any of them. There are even a few things that I don't dare say aloud! I think that's why myLot is such a good avenue to share a few things. We could pour out everything but skipping a few specifics.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
31 Aug 12
That is one of the things that I really do think is the most valuable about mylot. There are a few things that I couldn't speak aloud and yet when I am here, I feel like I can say those things and there isn't anyone that will judge me too harshly about those things.
@much2say (17865)
• United States
13 Aug 12
I'd have to say the person I can share the most with is my husband. When we were just friends in our early adult lives, we were able to talk just about anything - and I think that's why our bond has always been so strong - because we've always been able to openly communicate. About most things, that is. I have always wanted a "girlfriend" in which I could share everything with - afterall, females should understand female issues, right? I've had female best friends (of the time), but I can't say I've ever really been able to confide in any of them 100%. It's very, very rare that I find people who are good listeners period. I consider myself a great listener and I find it's not reciprocated when I need an ear. I've found that I could confide in men friends more - but the problem was they'd get mixed signals about me "sharing" with them - that didn't mean I was attracted to them. As someone else was saying, I do love that I can come to myLot and just say what I want. If I want to vent, I can do that. Perhaps myLot is not a "someone", but it is a place comprised of folks who are willing to listen.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
14 Aug 12
It would seem natural that a female would have a female best friend. However, I have to admit with the exception of the best friend that I referred to, I really don't have any other female friends. The reason that I don't tend to have a lot of female friends is because of the fact that it seems to me that when you have a lot of female friends, there is too much drama in your life.
@fantabulus (4006)
• India
13 Aug 12
No not any single person in my life with we can share my all things. In my life also some important people are there but I not share everything with anyone.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
14 Aug 12
I actually think that it is not normal to have only one person that you are able to share absolutely everything with.
@jugsjugs (13038)
10 Aug 12
Well, I will say that in the past I had to learn the hard way of who I can trust as well as who I found I should not have even trusted.Even a friend that I had known years betrayed me, by texting my husband, as well as chatting on the internet to him, trying to get with him.I only got to hear about it through back tracking on his internet.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
11 Aug 12
Now I don't believe that my friend that I'm able to trust with almost anything would stoop to that level. However, I do think that it would be possible that she might accidentally say something to my husband that I didn't want repeated to him because of the fact that she is friends with him as well.
@jillhill (37358)
• United States
9 Aug 12
Truthfully I have several...my younger sister is top on the list...both my daughters I can also talk to about anything. My son is right up there too...except then he thinks he needs to give me advice even when that is something I am not looking for!
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I do think that the fact that a lot of people want to give advice when that is not something that you are looking for is one of the reasons that it is difficult to find people in our lives that we are able to just talk to.
• United States
9 Aug 12
My boyfriend is always the number one person I go to who I can share anything and everything with. He always listens and he tries to make me feel better or give some advice. His advice isn't always that great, but I give him props for trying. I also have two other people who I'm close with that I can tell almost everything to. They're both women so they can both listen and give pretty good advice. I'm lucky to have these 3 people to share things with and I'm even luckier to have my boyfriend. He listens to whatever I have to share and he even tries to listen when we're mad at each. He's always the first person I turn to whenever I need to talk to someone and we can literally tell each other everything.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
You are very lucky that you are able to have that kind of a relationship with your boyfriend. I'm honestly not able to share everything with my husband. The reason for that is because of the fact that before I met him I was betrayed very badly by one of my exes. This resulted in my building huge barriers around myself that are only now coming down after almost eleven years in my relationship.
@bunnybon7 (22620)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Aug 12
over the years there has been many. but as soon as i find out they have betrayed something with me, or they judge me when all i want is to vent, i no longer trust to discuss it with them anything that is. i used to be able to talk with my daughter here about anything and everything and not have to worry about her judgeing me or passing it on, but here lately, ive found out she has passed some things on to her bf, plus, shes always on the defensive over him even if hes not the subject she brings him into it some how and ends up we are argueing. this man has torn my whole relationship with my daughter to shreds. sorry. i got carried away there. i can some times talk to my cousin and hes agreeable and makes me feel better about things as he loves my daughter like his child. but, he is in a different state and its long distance charges plus, he works still and dont always have a lot of time.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I honestly have to say that betrayal is one of the things that I am the most afraid of. There have been a lot of times in my life that I've been betrayed and it was betrayal that has made me become the person that I am today.
@marguicha (39628)
• Chile
9 Aug 12
I have a special friend with whom I share more than what I share with my sister. But I don`t think that I have ever shared everything wiyh one person, not even with my husband. And there are some things that I just don`t share with anyone.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I do think that every person does have some things that the are not able to share with anyone. I really don't know why this is, but it is something that I believe is the truth.
@debbygirl (214)
• Philippines
9 Aug 12
hi! there are only two person i can really tell everything. As in everything. It's my friend teddy (shes a girl too) and my husband of course. I love telling them both everything because they listen then at the end they'll tell me if i did wrong or not. I do the same to them. :)
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I do share almost everything with my best friend and my husband as well. However, I do hesitate at times with my best friend because though I really don't believe that she would ever do anything to hurt me, I've been betrayed in the past. In addition to that, she knows so much about the earlier times of my life that she could honestly cause a lot of problems between my husband and myself if she ever really wanted to.
@ARIES1973 (8752)
• Legaspi, Philippines
9 Aug 12
I wish I also have a friend whom I could share some secrets but to no avail. Anyway, I share everything with my husband. Although there are things that I don't want tell him because I don't want to bother him that much on certain situations, I just keep within myself because I haven't found the right person yet. And lately, I've learned to share these things with myLot friends.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
Through the last year or so I've been through a lot in my life and I honestly don't know if I would have been able to get through some of those struggles if it wasn't for the fact that I do feel like I can share everything with the wonderful people that are my friends on here.
• United States
9 Aug 12
Believe it or not i have tow people in my life that I can share everything with. both of them are on mylot as well. I can also come here and talk to everyone here. I feel you should be able to talk to your best friend and she not run to your husband. she should not cross that line no matter what you said to her.
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
10 Aug 12
I really don't think that she would run to him, but there is always that fear that stays in the back of my mind because of the fact that there have been so many people that have betrayed me in the past.