Are you an addict?

@dorannmwin (36698)
United States
September 23, 2012 11:45pm CST
The first step to recovery is admitting that you have a problem. However, I tend to believe that all human beings are addicted to something, be it a substance, an activity or something else. For me, I know that I'm addicted to nicotine (been trying to quit smoking for years, but it isn't working), caffeine and even mylot. A therapist recently told a friend of mine that an addict to any substance or activity is not able to make positive accomplishments in their life without help. Aside from my addiction to nicotine, there are none of my addictions that I have the desire to recover from and I don't believe that they are keeping me from making positive changes in my life. How about you, fellow mylotters, is there something that you are addicted to? If you have addictions, are they something that you feel is hindering your life in a negative way? Do you believe that an addict (to anything) is never able to accomplish anything in their life without help?
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@Hatley (164354)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 12
hi dorannmwin I am only addicted to coffee which they now say can prevent diabetes and mylot. my addiction to my lot has made me the leader in rank here of all 246 thousand 87 mylotters. so it has not stopped me here anyway.and in a study on older women they found the women who drank four to five cups a day were 90 percent less likely to become senile or to get Alzheimer disease than the group of women who only drank one or two cups of coffee in a day.so I still drink my coffee.
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@ravisivan (14053)
• India
25 Sep 12
Hatley aunty: We cannot drink your coffee. We have to make one for us and drink !! yes. coffee is good. but even that can be restricted to small glasses - three or four time a day. aunty, you know how to manage it. Long live aunty,.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Sep 12
My mother is a person that is addicted to coffee as well. For me, I like to drink coffee occasionally, but I have found that coffee is not one of those things that I cannot live without.
@missjahn (4577)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
hello there ms. dorann i love coffee too but i guess that is not i can call total addiction. i want different tastes everytime i got to drink it. well, i prefer to have instant coffee mixes than buying it outside over coffee shops for you they are too expensive. :0) best wishes :)
@luvandpower (2049)
• United States
24 Sep 12
I disagree with that statement. Just because you fail to be motivated in one area does not mean you will not be motivated in another. That's like saying if you can't change the tire on your car you can't change the oil either! If there is no real desire to quit whatever the activity is then it won't be stopped. People will always make "cheaphax" ways to stop doing something. Such as nicotine patches, putting fingernail polish on your fingernails so you don't bite them, and etc. But overall, you WILL still do that activity.
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@ravisivan (14053)
• India
24 Sep 12
Getting over smoking, drinking is not an easy thing. It takes a lot of efforts. But mylot addiction, blog addiction-- i get over by taking up other works or entertainment. Plus include some more time for sleeping also.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
Well, I think that there are some addictions that are easier to break and I think that there are other addictions that are nearly impossible to break. However, I think tat ravisivan is correct too because in my experience I've found that one of the ways to break one addiction is by substituting something else.
• United States
24 Sep 12
I am an addict in recovery. I have been clean and sober for over 8 years now. The theory is, that you have an addictive personality or you don't. The first step is a B.... In my case, yes, for a time, my addiction kept me from making healthy choices, but I know there are those that still function. I am addicted to life now. I have learned to love myself and I have a great time. And, yes, I have been told that we are all addicted to something, But in contrast, as addicts, we are some of the smartest people around. Besides internet lack of coffee in my house could be an ugly moment...:)I will never give up Coffee! I still continue to thrive, I recently got my business license and did a lot of things this year simply to live outside the box, and challenge myself to get a life and do something for myself. Keeping busy, keeps me out of trouble, so I should be good till at least 2015 with stuff to do. :)
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I am a person that has an addictive personality, I knew that this was going to be the case genetically from the time that I learned about addictive personalities when I was in school. Thus, I've tried to steer clear on any addiction that could cause me to harm other people. But instead, I've found myself to be addicted to the internet and also to caffiene and nicotine as well.
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• United States
25 Sep 12
I like you knew this, but thought I was bigger than all that, that I could quit anytime I wanted. I did not start using till I was 31, but soon realized it was not as easy as all that to just up and quit. I have worked hard to put my life back to normal, I thought during my addiction that I wanted to stop being a grown up for just a little while, always being that ultra responsible person all the time. Funny how now, I look forward to doing just that. :)
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Sep 12
There are times that I would like to quit being a grown up for a while, but when I want that, I choose to just spend some time with my friends away from the children and that cures my urge.
@missjahn (4577)
• Philippines
25 Sep 12
hi there... as it said, two heads are better than one. although having a partner to overcome a shortcomings or like what you are addicted to on now would be a great help, but self motivation plays a great role to overcome this kind of instance. another one i oppose myself to is that, what is the relation of being an addict to nicotine in attaining or achieving a certain goal in life. i guess there is no relevance for that. that thing is one of your weaknesses but it has nothing to do in terms of your perseverance because this virtue is one factor to be successful in life. thanks for sharing ;)
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@ravisivan (14053)
• India
25 Sep 12
missjahn: addiction to nictoine -- smoking is a real problem. A chain smoker cannot resist taking smoking continuously. For that he may even steal or tell lies. It is a weakness but difficult to get over. What happened? Again your rating is going down? Could you get some idea as to who is pulling your reputation down purposely? good day
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Sep 12
I do think that anything that we face in our lives is better dealt with if we are not alone in things. This doesn't mean, however, that I think that you always have to have a therapist to be your partner.
@missjahn (4577)
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
hello again ms. dorann :) i guess that addiction is too serious because it required therapist already. that would be good for sure to help you figure that kind of problem and would suggest ways professionally to you on what to do. maybe it would be of great help for those who struggles in addiction like this. best wishes :)
@dawnald (84142)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Sep 12
Addicted to goofing off? Would much rather play poppit, watch TV, read or whatever than take care of business.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I believe that might be called procrastination, but I know exactly what you mean here.
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@Hatley (164354)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 12
hi dawn and dorannmwin i just realized I was addicted to using y meryns card,jcpenny card and worst Sears Card and not paying them off each month till I got in way over my head,so joined a company that helped me to get jcpennys and mervyns to cut down the interest so i could get them paid off and I did but /Sears would not budge on their interest and finally after a year of paying forty dollaras a month and never getting the interest paid off I quit and finally it was outlawed as I had offered to pay two thirds of the bill from the money I got at retirement but they still refused.so I let it go til it was out lawed then tore up all credit cards and only have a debit card.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Sep 12
My husband and I realized that we were addicted to credit three years ago this month. Well, we entered in a plan much like what you were talking about Hatley, and I'm proud to say that our credit card problem will be taken care of completely in March of next year, at the latest.
24 Sep 12
No I'am not simple because sometimes I've play in Internet Cafe.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I'm not exactly sure what you mean here. Playing on the computer can be considered to be an addiction if you spend all of your time doing it or if it does keep you from accomplishing other things that you need to do with your life.
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@adhyz82 (36262)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 12
Noveda, what is the real definition addicted in your own term??
• Philippines
24 Sep 12
well i'm not addicted to any substance rather than caffeine. I can consume 3 - 4 cups a day. I can say that it did not hinder any positive changes in my life because it had help me to become more alert and awake the whole day through. And i believe that being addict to caffeine can't stop me from accomplishing anything in life.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I too don't believe that an addiction to caffeine can keep you from accomplishing those things which you wish to accomplish in your life. There has never been an addiction that I've had in my life that has kept me from reaching the goals that I have set for myself.
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@adhyz82 (36262)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 12
@bianca : had you ever tried to reduce your caffeine comsumption maybe, until 2 cup of coffee in one day??
@marguicha (112632)
• Chile
24 Sep 12
I am afraid that I tend to have all kinds of addictions. It´s in my nature. I am addicted to mylot, of course. But I smoked for 50 years and I only quit because I did my math and saw that I either smoked or went on vacation. It costed me a lot to quit and after almost 5 years I still say I´m a smoker who is not smoking. I did not quit smoking for health reasons although my oncologist lightly told me after my first scan that I also had enphysema. I told her then to worry about the lynphoma and we´d talk about the rest later on. I don´t think that my addictions have done much harm to my life. I live happy and some of my addictions are quite interesting
@marguicha (112632)
• Chile
29 Sep 12
I think that smoking lately has been a sort of scape goat. While it is true that it impairs our health, so do a lot of things. And I think more people are killed by other means than by smoking. I did not quit smoking for health reasons, but for money reasons. Last year, when I had a big scan for my lymphoma, the doctor jokinly told me I also had an enphysema. I`m sure it`s not big because it is not bothering me. I told her to worry about cancer and to leave my enphysema alone, until we cleared the most important problem. And as you say, noone is going to be killed because you are under the influence
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
24 Sep 12
at times i am certainly for sure and i love to get addicted to that,but if i feel its waste,i will ignore it entirely
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
There are some things that I see that other people are addicted to, and all I can think is why? Though I will admit that I do have an addictive personality, there are so many addictions that I just don't understand at all.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Like you I have an addiction to smoking....but then I am also addicted to paper! Yup my friends and I joke about it. I love paper....the kind you use for stamping and scrapping.....I am also addicted to those crafts. Living alone the addiction doesn't hurt anyone...and I make money doing it. I have a room full of craft supplies that would probably make some people wonder what the heck is wrong with me....but I LOVE PAPER!
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I love digital paper and embellishments, so I can see what you mean, instead for me having a room that is full of crafting supplies, I have two large external hard drives that are attached to my computer that are stuffed full of digital scrapbooking supplies.
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@ravisivan (14053)
• India
24 Sep 12
I am addicted to mylot, my blogs , watching movies, dramas. I balance these and spend a day with these apart from playing with grand son and doing some household work.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
For me, during the week the vast majority of my time is spent on the computer. That is because of the fact that I am pretty much at home by myself during the day. However, in the evening and during the weekends I do balance it out by spending a lot of time with my family and friends.
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• United States
24 Sep 12
I know it is hard to kick a bad habit, but I commend those who do kick them. I do not see my lot as an addiction because you get to meet new people and help each other out. I know that my one addiction is caffeine, but I need it to keep drinking it if I need to stay up. My other addiction is buying craft items and if I keep on buying stuff I may be able to open my own JoAnns or Michaels. I am not giving up on my crafting because it helps me relax and gives me a chance to do something on my own without Randy. As much as I love my Randy sometimes I need to have a hobby that I can enjoy on my own.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I agree with you that as a member of a couple we do need to have something in our lives that is our own. For me it is digital scrapbooking (yet another ode to my addiction to the computer). But for me, digital scrapbooking really is my happy place.
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
24 Sep 12
When I am strressed my body craves food - high fat content food and chocolate. Really ridiculous and I am craving chocolate so much these days and have given in the craving numerous times because of my stress over the health of my two elder sisters. I do not want to regain the weight I lost for surgery but it has begun to creep back on This is the only thing that I can be said to be addicted to.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
I don't really know that I would say that this is an addiction as opposed to your eating being a coping mechanism. When I was younger I did use food as a way of dealing with all of the stress that I was going through in my life.
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@veejay19 (3591)
• India
24 Sep 12
I am extremely fortunate that i have never had any addiction to anything in my entire life and that goes for even now. Addiction comes out of desire which leads to attachment. It needs very strong will power and a steely determination to get out of any type of addiction.Perseverance and infinite patience are needed to overcome addiction. If you have these qualities then you will never get addicted to anything.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
Addiction is also something that is genetic. I grew up knowing that both of my parents and most of my adult relatives had addictions and thus as I learned about addictive personalities and the genetic link to it, I knew that I would probably be a person that would develop some addictions in my life. However, I would consider most of the addictions that I have in my life to be addictions that are not all that damaging.
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@bagarad (13336)
• Paso Robles, California
24 Sep 12
I don't know if my problems are addictions or just lack of motivation to tackle some really nasty jobs I should be doing. Example, i might be addicted to the Internet with the excuse that it's a source of income -- even when I'm not working on income producing activities. I can consider some social networking promotion of my writing or political activism because it's kinder to myself than calling my online time stalling or avoiding other things than might be more profitable. I am rather addicted to Gather, and I know if I go there, it will be hard to stop interacting, so I only go there about every month or two. Today I'm recovering from a fall I had yesterday and concentration on serious work or research or writing is impossible, so I'm allowing myself more time at myLot. I need to sleep, but went to bed early last night and still wasn't asleep by 2 AM, in spite of taking Vicodin for the pain from the fall and a sleeping pill. I know I need to be more tired before trying to sleep tonight, so I don't feel guilty about myLot and Facebook. I think I am a bit addicted to Kirkland's Dark Chocolate Almond Cherry Clusters. This addiction may keep me from continuing to lose weight. It's the only sweet I allow myself, however. I have 2-4 pieces a day. My body seems to crave it. Do I need help? I can't stay off the Internet because it is my only source of income. If I weren't on it, I'd probably find other ways to stall, such as reading a novel. The real problem is not addiction but procrastination. (Oh dear! The coyotes are very active outside right now. I always hate that because I wonder what they are attacking.)
@ravisivan (14053)
• India
24 Sep 12
To get over such addictions the best option will be to like house hold work --like cleaning, gardening, dusting etc. Addiction to chocolates --fine as long as blood sugar problem is not there. I have seen elderly people eating ice cream, chocolates in costco in large numbers. perhaps you are one among them. enjoy.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Sep 12
Procrastination is definitely a problem that I've had to deal with a lot in my life as well. Yes, I have to say that I really am the queen of finding ways that I can stall from doing unpleasant tasks.
• United States
25 Sep 12
PROCRASTINATION, oh man I think thats my biggest addiction. Boy you hit it on the nail!
@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Oct 12
hi dear dorannmwin, thats quite a strong statement to make......soooo first of all I am addicted to caffeine and I am addicted to books and reading. When I wont drink coffee for a day or two and not read anything you will know I am sick. has happened now as I caught a cold and bronchitis so 4 days no coffee and too much brain fog for readint. awful for me. I have accomplished a lot in my life without help. So although I am an addict to coffee and reading I dont agree that an addict cant accomplish anything without help for sure.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
10 Oct 12
I don't really agree with the statement either. I really think that is one of the reasons that the statement stuck out to me so much. I believe that if I have determination that there is nothing in my life that I can't do.
• Lippstadt, Germany
13 Oct 12
I wouldnt go so far as to say as I have determination there is nothing in my life I cant do. Like cause I am born premature, fine motorics were and are a problem for me and I know I will not be too successful with tasks involving it. But at least I am willing to try several times till I give up and thats good enough for me then.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
16 Oct 12
Very good point here. I think that there are some things that none of us are able to do. However, I don't really think of those things that I can't do as being something that I would like to be able to do.
@allknowing (78810)
• India
29 Sep 12
I am addicted to procrastination specially those chores that can wait but sometimes it goes beyond redemption. I have tried my best to attend to things then and there but have not succeeded! If everything had a deadline I suppose things would be different!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
2 Oct 12
When I was younger I was a person that was very guilty of procrastination. However, if was something that I was able to overcome after I had it come back to bite me in the behind a few times.
@allknowing (78810)
• India
2 Oct 12
@adhyz82 (36262)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 12
iam internet addicted, coffee addicted and mylot addicted i don`t know the solution maybe i only change it to give me more good impact for me
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
16 Oct 12
I honestly don't think that any of the addictions that you have are addictions that are really going to have an adverse effect on your life. In fact, when it comes to being addicted to the internet, I do think it is a good thing if you are able to use it in such a way that you can make money.
• Philippines
29 Sep 12
hi doran, I am freaking addict when it comes to food well this is a basic pleasure we should have I mean I can go somewhere just to try to eat that kind of food if I can. I am an occasionally drinker and rarely smoke, I believe that you can only escape from your addiction if you are more than 100 percent willing to give it up happy mylotting
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
2 Oct 12
I think that not only do you have to be willing to give it up completely, I also think that you have to abstain from being around people that have the same addiction that you had once had.