Bullying again
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
Shingle Springs, California
January 30, 2013 12:06pm CST
So I got an e-mail from the ex.
Cary has "group" on Tuesdays. It's a service provided by "your tax dollars" for kids with autism to help teach them social skills. Usually the ex or his mom takes Cary since I work during those hours.
The ex's e-mail said that Cary had said something in group about a kid who was bullying him in school. Wanted me to call the therapist and get the story first hand.
So I did three things.
1. I talked to Cary. He told me nobody was bullying him at school, but I kind of got the impression he might have been playing dumb with me.
2. I talked to his grandma, and she told me basically what the ex's e-mail said. That the therapist had mentioned Cary said something about a bully at school.
3. I called and left a message for the therapist.
So now I'm just waiting to hear back from her. We shall see if this is a current situation, a past situation, or something totally different that got lost in the translation from one person to the next.
Cary's grandma was worried that if I said something to Cary that he wouldn't feel comfortable talking about such things in group. Hope I didn't blow it by talking to him. But she does tend to misunderstand things, and to blow them out of proportion, so maybe that's all this is.
Playing the waiting game until the therapist calls, and then I'll know what steps to take next.
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10 responses
@sarahworksathome (53)
• United States
30 Jan 13
Has he had bullying problems in the past?
My daughter is being bullied and has had problems in the past and she 'doesn't want to get them in trouble' and thinks these kids are her friends. *facepalm*
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Jan 13
Not really bad, but he did have a "friend" who took advantage of him. Like getting him to trade a more valuable Pokemon card for one that wasn't valuable, or borrowing something and not wanting to return it.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 Jan 13
my girls all went through that with their "friends" from time to time. They are all really kind and thoughtful even as children and while that is a quality that is very admirable, it does make them vulnerable to those that would take advantage of them.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
I hope that there wasn't a real issue with it and that Cary might have just used the word unknowingly. But if Cary did experience it, no time to waste to talk on the school principal about it.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Feb 13
For all I know he was talking about something that happened years ago.
@celticeagle (160797)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Jan 13
I hate waiting. It is good that Cary has this class. Hope the bullying isn't something serious. Funny sometimes how serious some adults take things that kids say. Cary could have gotten used to the bullying too and not taking it as seriously.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Jan 13
He seems pretty normal and happy for the most part, so I doubt it's anything major...
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Jan 13
I think that you have covered all the bases and the wisest thing to do is what you are doing.Waiting to hear what is happening from the horse's mouth, so to speak. Bullying is terrible though and so many kids suffer and some in silence. I do hope that she does not keep you waiting too long as it is worrying.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Jan 13
She was out this morning, and she probably had sessions this afternoon, so I'm hoping for a call closer to 5:00.
@vandana7 (99282)
• India
31 Jan 13
I am fine with you talking to Cary...though I am not fine with why he didnt tell you. I mean, if somebody was bullying me, and here...help was at hand, why shouldnt I tell, unless I am feeling threatened in some ways. And you sure have a lot of patience...I am a bundle of nerves...this would have been enough to drive me out of my wits.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Jan 13
I'm not sure yet that there's a problem. Grandma tends to overreact.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
30 Jan 13
Hope it's nothing. Wouldn't he tell you if it were something.. or would he be afraid of repercussions? My oldest has stopped telling me when he gets picked on because I make a huge stink about it at the school and the last time got all his teachers involved to watch for it.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 Jan 13
My son always went to school kind of silent. I never felt that comfortable with it, asked him daily how it was etc as he came home. Then he left to his room doing his things in silence. One day after I asked he said: it was fine and even fun. That was the alarm for me. Later on worser things happened (blue spots etc). He was never that talkative. As I asked him later (after he left that school) he said: I just don't want to make you feel sad and cry. I told him that it's better to be sad together, cry together as when I find out later about it and I have to cry about him. I think by now he understands what I mean. He is telling me way more (and if he doesn't his younger sister is!). I hope for your son he just talked about a bully but not about him being bullied. Good your ex did report it and you took action on it. It just happens worldwide way too much.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Jan 13
yeah, hopefully it's much ado about nothing. Still waiting for the therapist's call...
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
30 Jan 13
Its great that you are going to get to the bottom of it.. before it gets worse.. you never know how bad it can get.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Jan 13
My daughter's friend had a bullying problem. Two former friends who just started picking on her. My daughter made a stand, and good for her. From what she told us, they were being really awful.
