Truth or Lies

I would tell her partner that I knew what he was doing and that he needed to stop or to come clean. But NO, I wouldn't tell her. You can't win in a situation like that.

I like to mind my own business so I wouldn't tell.

Well, too bad if I was the best friend. What I would do is simply confront the cheating partner. Since I know s/he is cheating, I would simply tell the cheater to come clean to my friend, stop his/her infidelity or I would definitely tell my friend myself. For me, if you treasured your friendship, you automatically want to protect their feelings from getting hurt or humiliated.

I would be more likely to tell the spouse that I knew he was cheating and he'd better either clean up his act or confess all to the wife. That's where I would start, at least.

that's a danged if ya do, danged if'n ya don't kinda scenario. if ya say somethin' to yer friend, most times they'll not believe ya. if'n ya say somethin' to the cheatin' party, they get all bent outta shape. if'n ya keep quiet 'n it comes out later, yer in 'nother pickle. i don't do well this 'secrets' such's this. that skirtin' 'round by either party, when i've absolute proof 'f such, sends me to seek justice. which usually winds up badly...'s those kinda thingies do anyhow.

Years ago, I had been out with a friend and we went out for breakfast at a popular restaurant. I saw the boyfriend of one of my best friend's with his ex-wife (I didn't know who she was at the time, the girl I was with told me who it was) and they were both so stinking drunk that they could hardly stand up. My friend advised me not to tell my friend, Renee. And I never did, until she told me one day that they were splitting up. Well, don't you know they ended up getting back together. Our friendship suffered because of that.

Oh boy.. that's terrible. If it was a more than once thing.. Like a habitual, i would tell.. Even if it was semi habitual..

Oh absolutely. I'd tell her that her partner was a cheating scumbag.

My husband was in this situation. When I first met him I was dating another guy. That guy was cheating on me, and my husband knew it. Actually everyone knew it except for me. When it later came out I asked my husband why he didn't tell me, and he said because he knew I wouldn't believe him. Because everyone knew he had a big crush on me, so it would have looked like he was telling me that in order to get me to break up with my boyfriend and date him. So he didn't tell me, he kept it to himself, and I forgave him because I knew it was true, I wouldn't have believed him.

I would get her spouse to deal with it. I would tell her spouse to make a decision, and not keep the affair a secret. If the spouse still loves her, then he has to stop the affair. If not, tell her frankly, and prepare for divorce.

I would not interfere with it. There are many ways how this could turn out and it is a thing between spouses.

Nope. I will not interfere. It is their life, their personal matter and I have no interest to play God to anybody. The relationship between a couple is quite complicated thing - you never know what secrets they have between them. Things may surface out in time and if I am confronted, I will have absolutely no issues in admitting the facts. Yes, I knew it and did not tell you because I did not wish to torment you or your personal life.

That's tough, it depends, is there concrete proof about the husband's infidelity? It depends on that. Some would rather stay out of situations like that.

I'll tell her.I don't want my friend to be hurt