My Husband Is Back!

United States
January 20, 2016 6:19pm CST
I was sitting here today minding my own business, when who should stroll in but my long-lost husband ( @Valkerion ). He says that he was away building his career, so that he can better provide for the kids and I. It has been a long time since I have heard from him, so I am not so sure that his motives were that pure, but I guess that I will give him the benefit of the doubt. So, have you reconnected with anyone lately? Do you get excited when you hear from old friends? Do you wonder where your spouse could be when he (or she) disappears for years at a time? Do you think that I am crazy and wonder what I am talking about? Please have fun and discuss amongst yourselves until I get back and can respond to you. I think that I might be gone for a while as we have a lot of lost time to make up for.
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36 responses
@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
I don't know you well enough to tell if you are serious or not, but I'm guessing 'not'.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
If you knew me at all, you would know for sure it is "not" ... well at least sort-of not! He is a really good friend from here that I lost touch with a while back. I actually do not remember how it started that we said we were married, but it took on a life of its own. Then we started having kids (on here, of course), and then all of a sudden he disappeared from the site. We talked a bit after he left here, but then we lost touch altogether. It was wonderful hearing from him again, and I hope he is back to stay for a while. Have you ever lost touch with anyone, especially online, and then had them show up after a couple years?
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• United States
21 Jan 16
@jaboUK Yes, I do like to have fun, and when in doubt, it is generally safe to assume that I am joking/playing. I have actually lost touch with a few friends over the years (not online). I have been pleasantly surprised when they have called me out of the blue or I have bumped into them while I was out. We just picked up again like we had been talking the whole time.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
@purplealabaster Thanks for explaining, but you do see how I wasn't sure, as I didn't know your history? From what I have seen of you I do know that you like a bit of fun. I've only been online for a couple of years (never used a computer at all before that), so no, I've not lost touch with anyone like that online.
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@jstory07 (134443)
• Roseburg, Oregon
21 Jan 16
My husband never even disappears for a whole day. He is retired now so he will hang around.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
@Mike197602 I was wondering the same thing!
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• United States
21 Jan 16
@jstory07 My parents are the same way. Every once in a while my dad will disappear, but my mom knows that she can usually find him hiding in his workshop ... that is if she really wanted to find him.
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
good thing or bad thing?
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@topffer (42156)
• France
21 Jan 16
It looks like you have a perfect husband. He would be even more perfect if he was sending you a warning every 2 or 3 years, to tell that he is coming back to give some news.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
@topffer That does sound like one of those messed-up things that I would get myself into, doesn't it?
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• United States
21 Jan 16
I know, right! I mean would it have killed him to pick up the phone and let me know that he had changed continents even?
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@topffer (42156)
• France
21 Jan 16
@purplealabaster Your fault : you have chosen to marry the only myLot's member who does not like to write.
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@rebelann (111222)
• El Paso, Texas
21 Jan 16
Well, kids, have fun and pleeze do what I don't anymore
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• United States
21 Jan 16
I'm back for a minute. Apparently it has been so long that I wore him out and he had to take a nap!
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• United States
21 Jan 16
@rebelann At his age, I would think that he would be practicing all the time, even if he had to practice with himself.
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@rebelann (111222)
• El Paso, Texas
21 Jan 16
Well that can't be good @purplealabaster get him a plate of oysters or something ... maybe he's just out of practice
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@sofssu (23662)
21 Jan 16
LOL I was wondering what you were talking about.. Catch up.. I have lost one friend I have had here.. I haven't seen her around for a while.. @texan tornado is the one i am talking about.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
TT ( @TexanTornado ) has not been around since before Christmas. I miss her, too, and DE and I were also wondering where she has disappeared to. At least I know that she is not holed up with my husband somewhere, especially since my sister and my husband being together would be all sorts of wrong!
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Jan 16
I am missing her too
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
Yes I think you're crazy but that's one of your lesser issues
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• United States
21 Jan 16
And you think I have other issues as well?! You had better pass me some of whatever you are drinking after that remark.
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@Mike197602 (15487)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
@purplealabaster got a taxi to the shop for some gin Haven't mentioned your webcam work to anyone yet
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• United States
21 Jan 16
@Mike197602 I was actually thinking about you while I was in the shower (it seemed appropriate at the time given your avatar), and I was thinking that it was a good thing the "webcam incident" hadn't come up lately.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 16
he he im a widow lady for a lo ng time so what wo uld i know? my best friend had to call me on the hall phone as mine was off the hook and she co uld not get through to me
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• United States
21 Jan 16
Does that mean that you are "off the hook"? Yes, I do realize that was a corny pun, but I am in one of those moods at the moment.
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@much2say (53953)
• Los Angeles, California
21 Jan 16
I knew you had "sisters" here, but now I see that your "husband" is back - I think I've just about met your whole family here on myLot! Oh yah, I had a "cousin" and we used to call each other "Coz" at the other site - but he got PO'd at the site and didn't come back. It's been a while, maybe half a year, but we finally reconnected here. And it seems he's disappeared again! I'm glad you posted because our myLot paths haven't crossed in a long while . . . I missed you! I can't imagine Hubby disappearing like that. We'd probably agree that more than likely I would be the one disappearing first - ha ha! Well happy reunion!
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• United States
21 Jan 16
I have missed you as well! Our paths probably haven't crossed, because I haven't been here much except for this past weekend. I was absent a lot before Christmas, and then I wasn't here at all for a couple weeks over the Christmas and New Year break. If my husband offline disappeared like that, then I would be unstoppable until I found him. It is more difficult to find online husbands, though, especially when they live on a different continent.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
@much2say There are always certain people that I look for online be it going to their discussions, checking out their profile page or looking for them in the comment section of other discussions. You are one of the ones that I always look for in the comments, because that is where I tend to see you the most.
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@much2say (53953)
• Los Angeles, California
21 Jan 16
@purplealabaster I can imagine how hard it is finding online husbands - disappearing for years is such a long wait. I suppose there is a more understanding of the difficulties of online marriages It's just been busy all around - life never stops! I've been here, but not consistently - and I can't always get to everyone here with my limited time. Oh but it is certainly nice to see your purple presence again!
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Jan 16
I dont go out anywhere Maybe I should try finding someone who can take me away I am missing at least 4 mylotters - A Girlfriend, A Sister, A Brother and A Dearheart. I wished I had some way to locate them
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• United States
21 Jan 16
Alright, I know who your Dearheart is, but who is the sister, brother and girlfriend ... especially the girlfriend.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Jan 16
@purplealabaster My real Dearheart is Saphrina. Sister is one by the name pergammano. Brother is frajil and Girlfriend - Hardworkinggurl. The dear friends - writersedge and sid are no more with us on the planet. I do miss them a lot too. I have a list of MyLot friends whom I miss and each day, I pray for their safety and well being. That is all I can do at my end...
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@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
21 Jan 16
@thesids I remember the late professor too... His wife used to be on old myLot too, is she still here?
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@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
21 Jan 16
He's baaack... Don't scare him off and he might just disappeared again!
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
21 Jan 16
Seems to me that she was not particularly down in the dumps during the years that he was away and that she found plenty of other things to do
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• United States
21 Jan 16
I will try not to scare him off, because I really would hate it if he disappeared again. He promised that he would come back home to me tonight, so we shall see.
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@valkerion (1827)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 16
She is one scary hippie !
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
22 Jan 16
I spoke to both your husbands on a thread far back in time today, PA. I was curious when you got married the second time on myLot and why you got married the second time. I've never left any site without trying to find a way to stay in touch with those I had come to care about... I still email many of them from both Bubbs and WA. They still get in touch with me.
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• United States
22 Jan 16
I did not get married a second time on myLot. I was only married on here once, and as far as I know, I am still married to that person ... that is what he said the other day anyway.
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• India
22 Jan 16
I don't have your email
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• India
22 Jan 16
@purplealabaster whatever you said now - is it in reality or on mylot
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@DianneN (247079)
• United States
21 Jan 16
I had to read the comments to understand what the heck you were talking about. So relieved! Lol!
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• United States
21 Jan 16
LOL - I am glad that you took the time to read the comments! I like to do that from time to time ... make people wonder and hopefully get them to read through the comments and responses. Hopefully they will find other places where they can interact, which gets people more involved and not only increases the fun and conversation but also increases the earnings.
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@DianneN (247079)
• United States
21 Jan 16
@purplealabaster Smart and funny girl!!!!
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@Auntylou (4264)
• Oxford, England
21 Jan 16
What a strange thing to happen out of the blue. Hope he has and will succeed in looking after you all
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• United States
21 Jan 16
He is actually my myLot husband, which is not a legally binding agreement unless we are on here. There are a bunch of us that have been on this site for years. It is like one big family, so over the years some of us have married, divorced, had kids, etc. It is all just fun and games, but we really start to know each other so well that it feels like family. He is one of the ones that I have talked with when we were not on myLot, but we lost touch a couple years back. It is wonderful hearing from him again.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
@Auntylou Yes, it can really be a lot of fun on here, especially when you take the time to get to know people. Why bother with just watching soap operas when you can be in one ... and get PAID at the same time!
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@Auntylou (4264)
• Oxford, England
21 Jan 16
@purplealabaster Oh what a scream ! A family soap ! I wondered why you gave his myLot name1
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• United States
21 Jan 16
Thanks for the laugh I hope the two of you had a lot of fun catching up and discussing. :)
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• United States
21 Jan 16
I am glad that I could make you laugh! Yes, we had a great time catching up both on the boards and in PMs. It really does feel like a long-lost member of my family has come home again. Have you ever lost touch with a friend and then reconnected with him or her after an extended period of time?
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• United States
26 Jan 16
@purplealabaster I am glad you were able to catch up. I have lost track of many old friends some I have been lucky to reconnect with but others I haven't spoke to in a long time.
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• United States
26 Jan 16
@purplealabaster I am glad you were able to catch up. I have lost track of many old friends some I have been lucky to reconnect with but others I haven't spoke to in a long time.
@gr8nana6 (6614)
• Conyers, Georgia
21 Jan 16
Have fun and do anything I wouldn't do lol.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
Thank you. I am not sure what you wouldn't do, but I have a very good imagination, so I think we are good with that!
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
OH my word at first I thought you were serious. I would have said dump him if it had been real life but as it is your mylot life sometimes real life over rides mylot!
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• United States
21 Jan 16
Unfortunately it is true that real life often overrides myLot life. It is also sad but true that many times myLot life is more fun than real life. Oh my goodness, if it had been real life, though, you would not have had to tell me to dump his sorry butt, because he wouldn't have a butt left to dump after I had gotten through with him.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 16
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• Eugene, Oregon
21 Jan 16
Funny story and you had me wondering until I read the exchange with @jabo.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
Yes, it really is fun to be on here and see all the different relationships and how they start, grow, change and interact. We become part of each other's lives and help each other through the bad times and cheer each other on through the good times.
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@Scindhia (1906)
• India
21 Jan 16
A husband disappearing once is bad enough, but such a husband returning?? I can't even begin to imagine.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
The worst part about it is that it is not the first time that he has disappeared like that on me. Fortunately, we are just cyber-married on myLot, so I think that is more easily forgiven than being married offline. If my offline husband did that to me ... well, let's just not even go there.
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@valkerion (1827)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 16
@Scindhia hey :(((
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@Scindhia (1906)
• India
21 Jan 16
@purplealabaster cyber husband,is it?? I love your last line.. ha ha ha
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• United States
21 Jan 16
Your husband was gone for years???
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• United States
21 Jan 16
Well yes, but fortunately it was my myLot husband and not my real world husband.
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• United States
22 Jan 16
@missjessicadawn It is someone that I have known for a lot of years on here. Through our interactions over the years, we somehow became "married" on here. He left the site a few years ago. I could still contact him through e-mail, but then I lost his e-mail address. A mutual friend contacted him and got him to come back and play on here the other day.
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• United States
22 Jan 16
@purplealabaster I'm lost....lol
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@JennyDza (40)
• India
21 Jan 16
I hope his motives were pure. Even if he was building his career for his family, he should have discussed it with his family first. I don't think its right on his part to just leave without informing his family and friends.
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• United States
21 Jan 16
I would agree with you if it was an offline romance and love affair. However, we were married on myLot, so I think that gives him a little more leeway on the matter. When you have been on this site for as many years as I have (over seven years now), you start thinking of people as family rather than just online friends. I am not sure how or when exactly it happened, but somewhere along the line Val and I got married on here, and then he disappeared for a few years. I used to be able to contact him via e-mail, but I lost his contact information a while back, so I haven't talked with him in too long. It was wonderful hearing from him again after so much time!
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