Trouble on the board..

United States
August 16, 2017 7:21pm CST
As some of you may remember, a few months ago I was elected onto the Band Booster board to help our school's Marching Band program. Our last board had a bunch of problems and had alienated most of the parents, and those of us elected to the new board had so many plans to try to make things better again.. But we're already having a slew of problems, primarily with our president. She's trying to do everything herself and not share the load with the rest of us. She has a ton of ideas, and doesn't like when anyone shoots down her ideas. She also isn't the type to listen to someone else's ideas, she'll shoot them down before you even finish getting them out of your mouth. We have our band home show coming up, and this is a big undertaking for us. We have to gather volunteers to help us at the show, to run the concession stands and help park the busses and spectator's cars, to sell tickets and programs, to gather donations of baked goods and raffle baskets... My job was to gather those volunteers and decide where they're going to work. The president has decided to help me with this job.. and her idea of helping is basically taking it over for me. She didn't ask me if I wanted or needed the help, she just took it over. She's made a few decisions about where to put people that I don't agree with because I had other plans for those positions. In addition to that she's handling and organizing just about everything else as well. We have a big trip to NY City in October and she's handling organizing all of that too.. She won't delegate any jobs, and now she's taking over the few jobs any of the rest of us have. I sent her an e-mail tonight telling her that since she's already handling so much, she is welcome to allow me to handle the volunteers all on my own because I know she's so busy (what I really wanted to say was "Back the heck off!!"). I had to go visit one of the other boosters tonight to vent to her and tell her how I felt just to make sure I wasn't being petty, but she assured me she's been feeling the same way. Looks like we're going to have to have a heart to heart with our new president.. BTW- I've decided I will definitely be giving this job up once my term is over. Not so much because I don't enjoy it, but mostly because my kids are no longer happy in Marching Band and they will probably not participate again next year, so I will not want to be giving my time to a program my kids aren't involved in.. especially when they're involved in other things where I could donate my time to such as soccer and theater. Sorry for venting, but thanks for listening! Hope you're all having a great week! I suppose I should give an update as to how my new job is going... look for that post coming soon!
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@DianneN (59059)
• United States
17 Aug
I know how much you love working in volunteer positions to help support your childrens' interests, but this doesn't sound rewarding or much fun with a megalomaniac like this president! Just do your best until they are done with band this year.
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• United States
19 Aug
There's problems in every group.. isn't there?
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@DianneN (59059)
• United States
19 Aug
@katsmeow1213 Oh, yes! Pretty much. I've been on many boards, clubs, and charities, serving as an elected officer, too. Some were perfectly run groups. A couple had some lunatics on board. Such is life.
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• United States
19 Aug
@DianneN Well I think we got things figured out. She did finish that job for me, and either didn't get my e-mail, or pretended like she didn't. She ended up giving me a list of other jobs to do instead.
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@JudyEv (100393)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Aug
That is such a shame. It is a very difficult situation to deal with. If only people would cooperate and not go interfering and trying to take over.
• United States
26 Aug
Yeah well.. some people are just the type to like to take over, aren't they? I'm past it now, but it sure was ticking me off at the time.
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@JudyEv (100393)
• Bunbury, Australia
27 Aug
@katsmeow1213 It would tick me off too. As we've got older we now tend to just walk away from issues like this (where we can) rather than keep pushing against the tide. We don't need it - and we're not supporting our kids' interests which makes a difference too.
• United States
27 Aug
@JudyEv Well I can't walk away, but I won't be doing it again next year that's forsure. It takes up a lot of time that could be better spent elsewhere, and it's not worth the stress. Plus I'm not sure my kids will do band next year anyway.
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@Juliaacv (23050)
• Canada
17 Aug
Ewww, that sounds like a thankless position. I don't blame you for giving it up when your term finishes.
• United States
17 Aug
I enjoy it for the most part. I think if we had a president more willing to work with people it would be better. But I'm really leaving because of my kids. They have no desire to do band next year. They play soccer and are involved in theater and a bunch of other things.. so I'd rather spend my time watching their soccer games and plays than going to board meetings twice a month!
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@Juliaacv (23050)
• Canada
17 Aug
@katsmeow1213 That's the draw back, you initially get involved to help your children, and then it takes time away from them, and we only have such a limited amount of time as it is......
• United States
19 Aug
@Juliaacv true.. and my children are miserable with band this year.. It's just not as much fun as it used to be. So looks like we'll all be getting out of it.
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@much2say (35391)
• United States
20 Aug
It's just like having the basketball player who hogs up the ball all the time . . . it's supposed to be a team sport! Some people feel the need to control the entire game . I would do the same as you and only participate in the activities that my kids are in . . . there's only X amount of time and energy that we have. Ah yes, I had wondered how your new job was going!
• United States
22 Aug
I still haven't posted about that yet, have I? Ugh, I've been so busy between the hours I work, the band and board stuff, the twins started varsity soccer (and my son made captain as a 10th grader!!).. whenever I have free time I'm playing a game on my phone so I haven't been on Mylot much. I'll try to update soon! I get out early the next 3 days so I should have a little time in there somewhere.
• Philippines
17 Aug
Well, you can resign and have some one else handle it specially if it's affecting the kids.
• United States
19 Aug
I won't resign. I will see my term through to the end but I won't run again!
@GardenGerty (90955)
• Marion, Kansas
7 Sep
This is always a great place to vent. Not sure I can help with her behavior, but I can sure listen and so can others.
@Shellyann36 (8619)
• United States
29 Aug
I feel your pain. I was with the JROTC boosters for several years through 2 of my older boys. Most of the time we were fortunate to have a good crew that jumped in and helped each other out. The last year that I volunteered I had my fill of the organization and let it go without any problems. I served as secretary, VP and President in that order. It is time for everyone to have a heart to heart with the President of your booster organization!
@Hatley (159223)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Aug
IL have known people like that and I found it b est not to wo rk with then at all ever. I opaed out of a group because the president did it all even after she had given each of s a job she horned i and and I g uit right there and then
@Courtlynn (50392)
• United States
17 Aug
Wow, definitely seems like you need to talk to her