How do you deal with somebody who is negative all the time?

@Happy2BeMe (74744)
Canada
May 20, 2018 4:01pm CST
Having faced death almost a year ago I don't get a negative attitude. Life is so precious and I have a very low tolerance to people who don't appreciate life. I believe in living life to the fullest and not looking back. I have very low tolerance for people who always complain. I am not the person I once was. It is difficult at times because I have changed so much in a year.
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@amadeo (65694)
• United States
20 May
I just ignored it.Safe this way.No argument etc.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
20 May
I agree, I don't have the time to argue.
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@amadeo (65694)
• United States
20 May
@Happy2BeMe there you go.Do not do it
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@Icydoll (19275)
• India
20 May
We should ignore negative people my dear friend..or else they will make us negative minded.
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• Kochi, India
21 May
Exactly.
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@Icydoll (19275)
• India
21 May
@divyamanojkumar yeah it is
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@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
20 May
I have dealt with such a person, a relative by marriage, for 49 years and only recently learned how to deal with her. Most negative people are that way because they don't know how to express themselves. Become a sounding board for them and teach them to express themselves! For instance, she was complaining about her neighbor--she's so stuck up, she doesn't talk much and barely says hello. So I said back--your feelings are hurt because she's reclusive and you'd like her to be friendlier. To which she said yes, she never thought of it that way before, maybe she's shy. Before that we would snipe back and forth, me taking offense at her criticizing her neighbor and her feelings being hurt because I defended the neighbor. So instead, I repeated what she said but in a different way and discovered that she didn't mean to criticize but could not describe her own feelings. Am I making sense? We have a whole new relationship, one that I enjoy, for the first time in decades. And she is learning to express herself more clearlyl and is not arguing as much with people.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
Yes makes perfect sense. Glad you were able to work it out.
@Corbin5 (106128)
• United States
20 May
You will most likely encounter lots of people who are negative. To behave as we want them to, they would have had to have gone through the same, and that is not realistic. I believing that lowering your standards for others would help. Just answer with "yes," "no," "hmmm," or "I see," and they will soon tire of being negative in front of you.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
20 May
Thanks I will have to work on that. I was probably the same way this time last year.
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• United States
20 May
I know many that complain about every little ache and pain. They say that their lives suck. Well, I won't tolerate it. One of my client's, who was wheelchair bound, reliant on others to bathe her, get her meals, dress her, get her in and out of bed, and change her soiled briefs, was one that never complained. Everyday she woke feeling blessed to be able to live another day. When it rained, she embraced the rain, when it snowed she did the same. When the sun shined she would wheel herself to the sunniest window and bask in the sunshine. She was a blessing to me. Others could learn from her and I share her story with those who complain. Don't know if they take anything away from it, but I tell them to embrace life. It is a gift.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
20 May
Omg I get it..everyday and every moment is precious.
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• United States
20 May
@Happy2BeMe I am looking out at the rain as I type this. It is making all of the greenery look more lush. Lovely.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
20 May
@ElusiveButterfly so try...I treasure all those moments
@LadyDuck (157088)
• Switzerland
21 May
I have less and less tolerance to people who complain all the time. We all have our problems, there is no reason to annoy the others. I now try to avoid them.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
You are so right.
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• Cuddalore, India
20 May
I don't care about them and simply ignore.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
That is good
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@nela13 (6876)
• Portugal
21 May
There are a lot of negative persons, some are always complaining about their health, how miserable their lives are and so on. Right now I try to avoid those persons as they end IP putting me down too.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
22 May
I find I am the same way. It has a negative affect on me and i dont need that
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@nela13 (6876)
• Portugal
22 May
@Happy2BeMe we already have to deal with our own problems, we don't need others to put some more over our shoulders.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
22 May
@nela13 that is so true
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@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
21 May
yes, i think at my age now, I have met almost all kind of people. and a nega is one of them. I just treat them like fart, *excuse me for my term* . I compared them to such because truly I will know their presence but eventually they will just vanished.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
That is a good way to describe them
• Thailand
22 May
@Happy2BeMe i can't beat and definitely I don't like to join them.. so i better ignore them.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
22 May
@Mavic123456 that is good
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
21 May
I am the same .. I disconnected from everyone who brings negative energy to my vicinity ..
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
They can be stressful to listen to
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@epiffanie (10466)
• Australia
22 May
@Happy2BeMe Yes.. they cause anxiety ..
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@Tina30219 (34155)
• Onaway, Michigan
21 May
I say ignore all those negative people and not worry about them one bit and just worry about yourself.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
Thanks I agree
@Tina30219 (34155)
• Onaway, Michigan
22 May
@Happy2BeMe Your welcome
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@Tampa_girl7 (25678)
• United States
23 May
I try to stay away from negativity.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
23 May
I am the same way
@DianneN (77983)
• United States
23 May
I've rid myself of oddballs and copycats years ago. I surround myself with people who are happy, upbeat, non complainers, and not negative. Those are burdensome and boring. No need and no room in my life for them.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
23 May
That is great. I feel the same way.
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• United States
22 May
See the problem with the negative people they haven’t had to deal with anything like you have. Negativity drives me crazy also.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
22 May
You are right. Life and events have a way of changing us.
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• New Baltimore, Michigan
21 May
At first, I always try to spread a little of my positive energy onto them. If they resist (which they usually do) - I walk.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
That is the best way to handle situations like that
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• United States
21 May
Keep your distance, keep the love, but decrease the amount of time you spend with them. It's harder to do with family members, but it is important to surround yourself with positive people.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
I agree
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@betlynfrnds (1382)
• United States
21 May
I really like and appreciate your positive attitude. Thank you for sharing it. I sincerely hope that you get well and stay well. Just like you, I have not time or tolerance for negative, complaining people. I have to stay as far away from them as possible. That's not to say that I won't be around to give support and a listening ear. People need to be there for each other, it's what we should all do. However, when it comes to being negative and staying negative, no way can I tolerate that. I know of an individual who had to have a tooth pulled a few years back. [b][/b]One tooth. It was boo hoo hiss, feel sorry for me, woa is me - cry, cry, cry. Two of my cats had to have dental surgery - one had his back teeth removed and the other little baby had two surgeries and now has has not teeth at all. Both kitties are as happy, healthy and appreciative of life as can be. What a pleasure it is to be around that kind of enthusiasm. One of the many statements that I make to whoever may be in earshot is this: And now you wonder why I love my pets so much!
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
I love my pets too. They bring me so much joy.
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@Shiva49 (12973)
• Singapore
21 May
A life-changing experience changes our outlook on life. Some are like a wet blanket for no reason - siva
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
Very true
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@tso1960 (239)
• United States
21 May
I try to find the good in everyone, but it is hard when someone is negative all the time. I just smile and figure that everything will work out the way God planned it.
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
I agree
@snowy22315 (47111)
• United States
21 May
It is hard for some people to see the positive side of life. Pointing out the good sides might help..but as someone who defintely has their negative moments..they will find something wrong with that too! There is probably not much you can do really..other than choose not to be around them, or to say you prefer positivity. I have a friend who is always telling me horror stories from the news..I just tell him I don't want to hear it..but then I am not always diplomatic..
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@Happy2BeMe (74744)
• Canada
21 May
We all have moments where we complain but something but some people just dwell only and see no positivity in anything.
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